Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, Did you grow up modest income or poor? I am not saying this in a derogatory fashion.
Wonder if you're on to something. I have a former friend who grew up poor but had a scholarship to an elite private high school so she was surrounded by the uber wealthy. She was so bitter and felt like she deserved things more than others. She was completely incapable of having joy for others successes or things in their life. Instead she whined about why that couldn't be her and how they already had W, X, Y, so why should they get to have Z too?
OP here. I think I got what I needed from the thread and am ready to move on with my vacation, but wanted to reply to this because it is spot on. Yes, I grew up poor and yes, I got a scholarship to an elite school. I also had a job for a while that allowed me to live like the wealthy people I went to school with, but was soulless and added no value to the world. I ultimately chose another path that is a lot less lucrative.
As a society, we seem to be fine with the fact that corporate lawyers, bankers, tech bros, and old money people get to have experiences that are a million times better than people who add much more value to the world (nurses, teachers, nonprofit workers). I think it's wild how people (rich and poor) just accept this -- it makes no sense to me. Sure, we could say "That's just the way it is - tough", but we used to say the same about slavery, gender discrimination, LGBTQ rights, etc and clearly major changes have happened in those areas. Why not economic inequality?
Anyway, FWIW, we were able to do another foodie date night, went in with no expectations, and it was perfection. I am not brushing off all the good advice and am committing to handling disappointment much better in the future and staying more positive, with therapy if needed. I'm really grateful to everyone who took the time to offer constructive advice.
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