Tell me about redshirting your late summer/fall birthday son before Kindergarten

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

If parents are holding their kids back a year or two and then the expectation is younger kids are less mature because they are comparing younger kids to much older kids it absolutely impacts others. Your immature child needs help, not held back. You need help to understand young kids should not be mature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are at well known private school in DC. My DD is redshirted with an end of August birthday (sept 1st cutoff). She is doing great academically both on grade level tests (ERB) and on age adjusted tests (WISC)… she is basically in the 90th-99th percentile in everything. That said, the reason I redshirted was because she was and still is emotionally immature and was not as self confident in her abilities as most/all her class mates. She had trouble making friends, fit in, etc. She is just growing slower than her peers even from a physical development point of view which was not obvious in PK.
Redshirting was great for her and at the time was recommended by teachers and the school psychologist. She is never the oldest in the class, but she is usually top 5 (out of 20 kids). She has friends and is thriving. I am so glad I was able to hold her back.

Privates want the kids held back, it’s easier for them and scores are better. All children are emotionally immature. You did a disservice if she was scoring in the plus 90 percentile and causing a delay in her abilities. Why would you want to stunt her?

What? No, she was immature compared to her classmates. The psychologist is a professional and so are the teachers. We were applying out and had ti decide PK or K so the school/teachers we were at had no interest in keeping my DD one extra year. You are really over reaching here. You are speaking about things and children you know nothing about about. You are mean and trying to bully other parents in making the same choice you made. I am not causing any delay. My DD speaks several languages and reads fluently in 2. You have no idea about my child, our school, or anything else.

The one overreaching is yourself. You brag about her intellect but have her at level below her abilities. You want to be validated and you are the bully and mean to force disparities onto other people who responsibly have their children appropriately placed.
Now go stick the pacifier in her mouth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

If parents are holding their kids back a year or two and then the expectation is younger kids are less mature because they are comparing younger kids to much older kids it absolutely impacts others. Your immature child needs help, not held back. You need help to understand young kids should not be mature.

This is absolutely correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

Another ignorant with a subpar education. Mine took the Vineland and his adaptive behavior score was 8 instead of 50.

Yes, because that’s what the rest of redshirters are doing.

You are ignorant with a subpar education to assume that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are at well known private school in DC. My DD is redshirted with an end of August birthday (sept 1st cutoff). She is doing great academically both on grade level tests (ERB) and on age adjusted tests (WISC)… she is basically in the 90th-99th percentile in everything. That said, the reason I redshirted was because she was and still is emotionally immature and was not as self confident in her abilities as most/all her class mates. She had trouble making friends, fit in, etc. She is just growing slower than her peers even from a physical development point of view which was not obvious in PK.
Redshirting was great for her and at the time was recommended by teachers and the school psychologist. She is never the oldest in the class, but she is usually top 5 (out of 20 kids). She has friends and is thriving. I am so glad I was able to hold her back.

Privates want the kids held back, it’s easier for them and scores are better. All children are emotionally immature. You did a disservice if she was scoring in the plus 90 percentile and causing a delay in her abilities. Why would you want to stunt her?

What? No, she was immature compared to her classmates. The psychologist is a professional and so are the teachers. We were applying out and had ti decide PK or K so the school/teachers we were at had no interest in keeping my DD one extra year. You are really over reaching here. You are speaking about things and children you know nothing about about. You are mean and trying to bully other parents in making the same choice you made. I am not causing any delay. My DD speaks several languages and reads fluently in 2. You have no idea about my child, our school, or anything else.

The one overreaching is yourself. You brag about her intellect but have her at level below her abilities. You want to be validated and you are the bully and mean to force disparities onto other people who responsibly have their children appropriately placed.
Now go stick the pacifier in her mouth.

What you said makes no sense. I am describe my daughter and our decision. How am I over reaching? How am I the bully? And how do I “force” disparities? The youngest person in my DD’s class has a June birthday so she is 9.5 months younger than DD. What disparity are you talking About?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are at well known private school in DC. My DD is redshirted with an end of August birthday (sept 1st cutoff). She is doing great academically both on grade level tests (ERB) and on age adjusted tests (WISC)… she is basically in the 90th-99th percentile in everything. That said, the reason I redshirted was because she was and still is emotionally immature and was not as self confident in her abilities as most/all her class mates. She had trouble making friends, fit in, etc. She is just growing slower than her peers even from a physical development point of view which was not obvious in PK.
Redshirting was great for her and at the time was recommended by teachers and the school psychologist. She is never the oldest in the class, but she is usually top 5 (out of 20 kids). She has friends and is thriving. I am so glad I was able to hold her back.

Privates want the kids held back, it’s easier for them and scores are better. All children are emotionally immature. You did a disservice if she was scoring in the plus 90 percentile and causing a delay in her abilities. Why would you want to stunt her?

What? No, she was immature compared to her classmates. The psychologist is a professional and so are the teachers. We were applying out and had ti decide PK or K so the school/teachers we were at had no interest in keeping my DD one extra year. You are really over reaching here. You are speaking about things and children you know nothing about about. You are mean and trying to bully other parents in making the same choice you made. I am not causing any delay. My DD speaks several languages and reads fluently in 2. You have no idea about my child, our school, or anything else.

The one overreaching is yourself. You brag about her intellect but have her at level below her abilities. You want to be validated and you are the bully and mean to force disparities onto other people who responsibly have their children appropriately placed.
Now go stick the pacifier in her mouth.

What you said makes no sense. I am describe my daughter and our decision. How am I over reaching? How am I the bully? And how do I “force” disparities? The youngest person in my DD’s class has a June birthday so she is 9.5 months younger than DD. What disparity are you talking About?

Did you mean that it’s you who is emotionally immature?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

If parents are holding their kids back a year or two and then the expectation is younger kids are less mature because they are comparing younger kids to much older kids it absolutely impacts others. Your immature child needs help, not held back. You need help to understand young kids should not be mature.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are at well known private school in DC. My DD is redshirted with an end of August birthday (sept 1st cutoff). She is doing great academically both on grade level tests (ERB) and on age adjusted tests (WISC)… she is basically in the 90th-99th percentile in everything. That said, the reason I redshirted was because she was and still is emotionally immature and was not as self confident in her abilities as most/all her class mates. She had trouble making friends, fit in, etc. She is just growing slower than her peers even from a physical development point of view which was not obvious in PK.
Redshirting was great for her and at the time was recommended by teachers and the school psychologist. She is never the oldest in the class, but she is usually top 5 (out of 20 kids). She has friends and is thriving. I am so glad I was able to hold her back.

Privates want the kids held back, it’s easier for them and scores are better. All children are emotionally immature. You did a disservice if she was scoring in the plus 90 percentile and causing a delay in her abilities. Why would you want to stunt her?

What? No, she was immature compared to her classmates. The psychologist is a professional and so are the teachers. We were applying out and had ti decide PK or K so the school/teachers we were at had no interest in keeping my DD one extra year. You are really over reaching here. You are speaking about things and children you know nothing about about. You are mean and trying to bully other parents in making the same choice you made. I am not causing any delay. My DD speaks several languages and reads fluently in 2. You have no idea about my child, our school, or anything else.

The one overreaching is yourself. You brag about her intellect but have her at level below her abilities. You want to be validated and you are the bully and mean to force disparities onto other people who responsibly have their children appropriately placed.
Now go stick the pacifier in her mouth.

What you said makes no sense. I am describe my daughter and our decision. How am I over reaching? How am I the bully? And how do I “force” disparities? The youngest person in my DD’s class has a June birthday so she is 9.5 months younger than DD. What disparity are you talking About?

Did you mean that it’s you who is emotionally immature?

No, but you keep not answering questions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are at well known private school in DC. My DD is redshirted with an end of August birthday (sept 1st cutoff). She is doing great academically both on grade level tests (ERB) and on age adjusted tests (WISC)… she is basically in the 90th-99th percentile in everything. That said, the reason I redshirted was because she was and still is emotionally immature and was not as self confident in her abilities as most/all her class mates. She had trouble making friends, fit in, etc. She is just growing slower than her peers even from a physical development point of view which was not obvious in PK.
Redshirting was great for her and at the time was recommended by teachers and the school psychologist. She is never the oldest in the class, but she is usually top 5 (out of 20 kids). She has friends and is thriving. I am so glad I was able to hold her back.

Privates want the kids held back, it’s easier for them and scores are better. All children are emotionally immature. You did a disservice if she was scoring in the plus 90 percentile and causing a delay in her abilities. Why would you want to stunt her?

What? No, she was immature compared to her classmates. The psychologist is a professional and so are the teachers. We were applying out and had ti decide PK or K so the school/teachers we were at had no interest in keeping my DD one extra year. You are really over reaching here. You are speaking about things and children you know nothing about about. You are mean and trying to bully other parents in making the same choice you made. I am not causing any delay. My DD speaks several languages and reads fluently in 2. You have no idea about my child, our school, or anything else.

The one overreaching is yourself. You brag about her intellect but have her at level below her abilities. You want to be validated and you are the bully and mean to force disparities onto other people who responsibly have their children appropriately placed.
Now go stick the pacifier in her mouth.

What you said makes no sense. I am describe my daughter and our decision. How am I over reaching? How am I the bully? And how do I “force” disparities? The youngest person in my DD’s class has a June birthday so she is 9.5 months younger than DD. What disparity are you talking About?

Did you mean that it’s you who is emotionally immature?

No, but you keep not answering questions

Because it doesn’t give you an advantage to say you are “emotionally immature.”
By the way, your questions aren’t deserving of an answer. You simply want to be validated. Not gonna happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are at well known private school in DC. My DD is redshirted with an end of August birthday (sept 1st cutoff). She is doing great academically both on grade level tests (ERB) and on age adjusted tests (WISC)… she is basically in the 90th-99th percentile in everything. That said, the reason I redshirted was because she was and still is emotionally immature and was not as self confident in her abilities as most/all her class mates. She had trouble making friends, fit in, etc. She is just growing slower than her peers even from a physical development point of view which was not obvious in PK.
Redshirting was great for her and at the time was recommended by teachers and the school psychologist. She is never the oldest in the class, but she is usually top 5 (out of 20 kids). She has friends and is thriving. I am so glad I was able to hold her back.

Privates want the kids held back, it’s easier for them and scores are better. All children are emotionally immature. You did a disservice if she was scoring in the plus 90 percentile and causing a delay in her abilities. Why would you want to stunt her?

What? No, she was immature compared to her classmates. The psychologist is a professional and so are the teachers. We were applying out and had ti decide PK or K so the school/teachers we were at had no interest in keeping my DD one extra year. You are really over reaching here. You are speaking about things and children you know nothing about about. You are mean and trying to bully other parents in making the same choice you made. I am not causing any delay. My DD speaks several languages and reads fluently in 2. You have no idea about my child, our school, or anything else.

The one overreaching is yourself. You brag about her intellect but have her at level below her abilities. You want to be validated and you are the bully and mean to force disparities onto other people who responsibly have their children appropriately placed.
Now go stick the pacifier in her mouth.

What you said makes no sense. I am describe my daughter and our decision. How am I over reaching? How am I the bully? And how do I “force” disparities? The youngest person in my DD’s class has a June birthday so she is 9.5 months younger than DD. What disparity are you talking About?

Did you mean that it’s you who is emotionally immature?

No, but you keep not answering questions

Because it doesn’t give you an advantage to say you are “emotionally immature.”
By the way, your questions aren’t deserving of an answer. You simply want to be validated. Not gonna happen.

They aren’t my questions. Logic isn’t your strong suit, eh? Those where YOUR statements and I was asking for explanation. Here are my questions again (I hope the list makes it easier for you to understand):

1) How am I over reaching?
2) How am I the bully?
3) And how do I “force” disparities? The youngest person in my DD’s class has a June birthday so she is 9.5 months younger than DD. What disparity are you talking About?

[Anonymous]

Younger kids are immature and need help or are just immature? Waiting a year makes them more mature. That’s the help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

Another ignorant with a subpar education. Mine took the Vineland and his adaptive behavior score was 8 instead of 50.

Yes, because that’s what the rest of redshirters are doing.

You are ignorant with a subpar education to assume that.

Are you posting from the fields of Iowa? In DC area, everyone who sends their kids to private or a top public school tests for everything. All private schools require testing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

If parents are holding their kids back a year or two and then the expectation is younger kids are less mature because they are comparing younger kids to much older kids it absolutely impacts others. Your immature child needs help, not held back. You need help to understand young kids should not be mature.

Incorrect. There's no "help" available to make a kid mature faster. Young kids should be at the maturity age of their peers, so yes, there are standards.

[Anonymous]

Ah ha, now it comes out. Anti-red shirters aren’t in the least concerned with what’s best for the redshirted kids. They’re concerned about their non-summer kids who are no longer looking good next to the summer birthday kids. They’re just afraid of the stiffening of the (gag) “competition”. Because they want their non-summer birthday kids to be able to win kindergarten.

This post was about what is best for late summer or fall birthday kids, and I think you have your answer, OP.

In all fairness, though, the individual child and especially the environment matters a lot. Find out what is common in the particular school your child will be attending, and start from there. And completely ignore all these public school parents who are going nuts, because their insecurities have absolutely nothing to do with your son’s education. And they assuredly don’t have his best interest at heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah ha, now it comes out. Anti-red shirters aren’t in the least concerned with what’s best for the redshirted kids. They’re concerned about their non-summer kids who are no longer looking good next to the summer birthday kids. They’re just afraid of the stiffening of the (gag) “competition”. Because they want their non-summer birthday kids to be able to win kindergarten.

This post was about what is best for late summer or fall birthday kids, and I think you have your answer, OP.

In all fairness, though, the individual child and especially the environment matters a lot. Find out what is common in the particular school your child will be attending, and start from there. And completely ignore all these public school parents who are going nuts, because their insecurities have absolutely nothing to do with your son’s education. And they assuredly don’t have his best interest at heart.

Of course that’s true. They think redshirted kids are getting a leg up so they invent tales about stigma, or special needs, but the obvious truth is that they feel threatened.