Broke off an affair. Going through depression

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are amusing to a point, but mostly just tiresome. You sound like a horrible and immature life partner, and I hope your wife wises up.
In this thread you make it abundantly clear that you feel your only screw-up was getting caught. Any other claim to feeling you were in the wrong rings hollow.
Sounds more like you expect your wife to understand your disappointment with losing your affair partner and coddle you while you pine away on the couch.
ew.

Pretty spot on. I regret getting caught more than anything

Sounds like you don’t feel like there’s any reason why anyone would care about you. Do you care about yourself?

[Anonymous]

So let me get this straight you’re lying on the couch being a depressed jerk and letting your wife stare at you knowing that you miss your AP?!

Please just leave she’d be better off without you.

[Anonymous]

OP, you would be better off staying away from DCUM. It’s a walk of shame you don’t need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP were a woman, there would be pages of posts castigating her husband for not doing enough in the marriage. Given that OP is a man, he is the one castigated for the affair.

DCUM never fails.

Lol no. Not me anyway. Have you missed posts where the OP is a woman and has cheated? Commenters are not sympathetic and none of them has been as remotely condemnation-worthy as a guy who admits to only being sorry for being caught and unable to get off his sofa and resentful of the AP for “being fixated on her children.”

[Anonymous]

OP is clearly a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are amusing to a point, but mostly just tiresome. You sound like a horrible and immature life partner, and I hope your wife wises up.
In this thread you make it abundantly clear that you feel your only screw-up was getting caught. Any other claim to feeling you were in the wrong rings hollow.
Sounds more like you expect your wife to understand your disappointment with losing your affair partner and coddle you while you pine away on the couch.
ew.

Pretty spot on. I regret getting caught more than anything

OP, what do you bring to the table for anyone in this? You are a crap friend, a crap husband, you mope on the couch. What did you have to offer to the woman, or to anyone, in this equation? My best guess is you are depressed, the texting affair was a way to address your depression, and the fact that it ended has made you more depressed. You need to treat your depression, not avoid it by having an affair.

PP, you are a good, compassionate person.

Lol - look what I was responding to (see bold). My post could have been a lot worse!

I agree with the PP that says that OP is a troll though. I think we’ve all been had lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If OP were a woman, there would be pages of posts castigating her husband for not doing enough in the marriage. Given that OP is a man, he is the one castigated for the affair.

DCUM never fails.

Lol no. Not me anyway. Have you missed posts where the OP is a woman and has cheated? Commenters are not sympathetic and none of them has been as remotely condemnation-worthy as a guy who admits to only being sorry for being caught and unable to get off his sofa and resentful of the AP for “being fixated on her children.”

His point is he’s not getting enough attention. We are giving him attention. That’s what he wants. Even negative attention is better than none.

If his wife is smart she will just ignore him, and so will the AP. He needs to stop creating issues and blow ups because he is needy and figure out how to be in a mutually rewarding relationship.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe we are 13 pages in and OP has never, not once, expressed any remorse for hurting his DW, his AP’s husband (who was supposedly a friend, but clearly OP does not know the meaning of that word), and even the AP (certainly her family). I can’t even get over how pathetic OP is or what makes someone so selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we are 13 pages in and OP has never, not once, expressed any remorse for hurting his DW, his AP’s husband (who was supposedly a friend, but clearly OP does not know the meaning of that word), and even the AP (certainly her family). I can’t even get over how pathetic OP is or what makes someone so selfish.

He is immature. Think of this person as a child and it will all make a lot more sense.

[Anonymous]

^^ Woe is me. Could you pass me some chips and the remote? Also fix some dinner for me before you head back to work. I’ll just be here trying to get some validation via the ole smart phone. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are amusing to a point, but mostly just tiresome. You sound like a horrible and immature life partner, and I hope your wife wises up.
In this thread you make it abundantly clear that you feel your only screw-up was getting caught. Any other claim to feeling you were in the wrong rings hollow.
Sounds more like you expect your wife to understand your disappointment with losing your affair partner and coddle you while you pine away on the couch.
ew.

Pretty spot on. I regret getting caught more than anything

OP, what do you bring to the table for anyone in this? You are a crap friend, a crap husband, you mope on the couch. What did you have to offer to the woman, or to anyone, in this equation? My best guess is you are depressed, the texting affair was a way to address your depression, and the fact that it ended has made you more depressed. You need to treat your depression, not avoid it by having an affair.

PP, you are a good, compassionate person.

Lol - look what I was responding to (see bold). My post could have been a lot worse!

I agree with the PP that says that OP is a troll though. I think we’ve all been had lol. [/quote

Why do trolls almost never admit they're trolls? I really can't tell and I wish I knew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are amusing to a point, but mostly just tiresome. You sound like a horrible and immature life partner, and I hope your wife wises up.
In this thread you make it abundantly clear that you feel your only screw-up was getting caught. Any other claim to feeling you were in the wrong rings hollow.
Sounds more like you expect your wife to understand your disappointment with losing your affair partner and coddle you while you pine away on the couch.
ew.

Pretty spot on. I regret getting caught more than anything

OP, what do you bring to the table for anyone in this? You are a crap friend, a crap husband, you mope on the couch. What did you have to offer to the woman, or to anyone, in this equation? My best guess is you are depressed, the texting affair was a way to address your depression, and the fact that it ended has made you more depressed. You need to treat your depression, not avoid it by having an affair.

PP, you are a good, compassionate person.

Lol - look what I was responding to (see bold). My post could have been a lot worse!

I agree with the PP that says that OP is a troll though. I think we’ve all been had lol.

I was being completely sincere when I said you are a good person. I told the OP he’s tiresome and I hope his wife leaves him. You suggested he get help for depression. Your response was as compassionate as it could be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we are 13 pages in and OP has never, not once, expressed any remorse for hurting his DW, his AP’s husband (who was supposedly a friend, but clearly OP does not know the meaning of that word), and even the AP (certainly her family). I can’t even get over how pathetic OP is or what makes someone so selfish.

This is why he should divorce. He does not love his wife. He may not feel remorse...that means...get a divorce!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he is depressed he didn’t get to have sex with her. I mean you keep this up for a while suddenly you find yourself in bed. The OP though seems to have been more interested in validation. Like he was missing a lot from life and she gave him something extra. This is really a sad human being

I'm the PP who asked OP what closure looks like to him. I didn't get an answer but my guess was "closure" meant "sex." OP can't handle the fact that he never got to have sex with his AP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are amusing to a point, but mostly just tiresome. You sound like a horrible and immature life partner, and I hope your wife wises up.
In this thread you make it abundantly clear that you feel your only screw-up was getting caught. Any other claim to feeling you were in the wrong rings hollow.
Sounds more like you expect your wife to understand your disappointment with losing your affair partner and coddle you while you pine away on the couch.
ew.

Pretty spot on. I regret getting caught more than anything

OP, what do you bring to the table for anyone in this? You are a crap friend, a crap husband, you mope on the couch. What did you have to offer to the woman, or to anyone, in this equation? My best guess is you are depressed, the texting affair was a way to address your depression, and the fact that it ended has made you more depressed. You need to treat your depression, not avoid it by having an affair.

PP, you are a good, compassionate person.

Lol - look what I was responding to (see bold). My post could have been a lot worse!

I agree with the PP that says that OP is a troll though. I think we’ve all been had lol.

I was being completely sincere when I said you are a good person. I told the OP he’s tiresome and I hope his wife leaves him. You suggested he get help for depression. Your response was as compassionate as it could be.

Sorry my mistake!

Yes, OP should either get help for depression, being pathologically lazy, or being a troll. Godspeed OP.