What is women’s obsession with “well-educated” men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men are obsessed with sex appeal

I suspect that you are on to something, though OP would probably be surprised to read this.

Men are more focused on looks and sex/figures (as shown by dating app research).

Women want someone smart, who can be a responsible adult (in terms of providing support for the household, as she also hopefully plans to do). But also someone who will share her interests in culture or political advocacy, rather than football and video games. Interesting conversations over candlelight dinners are more her fantasy than his.

Yeah, but after a certain age, sex appeal is a non issue. Period.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most kids in college today are dumb as rocks. Degrees mean nothing. I would tell any kid today to pick a trade school over some $200k debt that likely won’t amount to much. No I’m not anti university, but those videos of college kids who don’t even know proper math or geography is troubling.

+1000

Yes, as opposed to 75 years ago, when the only people who went to college were white, non-jew UMC men. Because they were all so smart, and it just happened they were all white, non-jew UMC men. No dummies got let into to college with that system.

I think we’re all talking about knowledge, skills, and testing in k-12 and college. Less fluff, higher standards and expectations. Kids actually got held back, didnt have to show up at taxpayer subsidized Montgomery Community College and spend 1-2 years doing remedial high school math and English.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because 90% of the (straight) men out there have such fragile egos that they can’t handle having an significant other who has a fancier degree than they do.


I didn’t go to an Ivy, but possibly a more “intimidating” school, and then I earned a few graduate degrees from very good schools.* SO SO many men out there with chips on their shoulders. Sometimes it doesn’t come out until later, sometimes it comes out within the first five minutes (and this is when the GUY asks where I went to school).

My husband still gets defensive and huffy about it about is the blue (although he hid it for a long time).

You can forestall all that man-baby nonsense if you just have it as a criteria…

*standard disclaimer for the fragile egos out there that I know people with similar degrees who are idiots, and plenty of very smart people without such degrees, as well as plenty of not so smart people without fancy degrees who make significantly more money than smart people with fancy degrees

I’ve never in my life known a man who cares about a woman’s degree(s). At all. It’s just not even remotely on the list for 99% of men. I’d suggest you do some introspection. You seem really bitter and want to blame it on your Masters degree from the Kennedy school? Go get some cats.

[Anonymous]

Because they want to marry someone who has shared experiences? Because they want to marry someone who, if their children wants a college education, will prioritize that and understand the process?

All these alleged plumbers...do you expect all your children to be plumbers? Should your daughters be plumbers too? And when one wants to apply to Princeton, then what? No alumni connections, no one to help with an internship process, just hope all the kids want to be plumbers.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a lazy filter for people who don't want to do the work in getting to know someone. Wait until you meet Ivy Leaguers who refuse to date outside the Ivies + Stanford....

I’ve slept with 33 men and they’ve all gone to Ivy Leagues (and good ones- no Cornell here). Not a troll. I must just have a type?

Where did YOU go to college? Just wondering)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they want to marry someone who has shared experiences? Because they want to marry someone who, if their children wants a college education, will prioritize that and understand the process?

All these alleged plumbers...do you expect all your children to be plumbers? Should your daughters be plumbers too? And when one wants to apply to Princeton, then what? No alumni connections, no one to help with an internship process, just hope all the kids want to be plumbers.

This. It isn't about money per se, it's about shared experiences, past, present and future.

[Anonymous]

There's something to be said about genetics.
Our relatives have 3 kids, two bio, one adopted, all adults by now, all set up with trusts but the adopted one has issues and dropped out of college. Still having trouble getting a date despite being rich.

Mone can buy a lot in this country but not all. Can't buy you love and sure can't buy intelligence. And intelligence matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's something to be said about genetics.
Our relatives have 3 kids, two bio, one adopted, all adults by now, all set up with trusts but the adopted one has issues and dropped out of college. Still having trouble getting a date despite being rich.

Mone can buy a lot in this country but not all. Can't buy you love and sure can't buy intelligence. And intelligence matters.

Which is why smart men want an equally smart woman.

[Anonymous]

Most women were taught to value education, and so look for that in a partner. As others have mentioned, a shared background and interests helps companionship. My MIL has a PhD and FIL had a blue collar profession and eventually got an Associate’s with encouragement from MIL. However now in their 60s and FIL spends his time on the crazy parts of the internet and conspiracy theories. He refused to wear a mask on a plane so didn’t travel with MIL to visit family. MIL said she wouldn’t have married him if he were like this when younger.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's something to be said about genetics.
Our relatives have 3 kids, two bio, one adopted, all adults by now, all set up with trusts but the adopted one has issues and dropped out of college. Still having trouble getting a date despite being rich.

Mone can buy a lot in this country but not all. Can't buy you love and sure can't buy intelligence. And intelligence matters.

Which is why smart men want an equally smart woman.

Goes both ways. I am adopted and more successful than my brother, who is biologically related to our parents, he inherited their mental illness.

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I bookread guut. Why no women?

[Anonymous]

OP here. For those of you calling me an “incel,“ my sex life is just fine, thank you very much. Actually, it’s *better* than it would be if there weren’t so many women holding out for “well-educated“ men. There is no reason for me to settle down in the DC dating market. Thanks, actually, for making my point for me - women’s unreasonable standards helps men and hurts themselves.

And to those saying that my “Ivy degree“ must be from Cornell, you are right (though it’s in STEM and not from the Agriculture school)! Sorry I didn’t go to Harvard, Princeton or Yale – I guess that means I’m not *really* “well-educated.”

So you hear that, single ladies? Make sure to avoid that successful owner of the construction business and even the Cornell engineer. Prince Charming is coming down from Cambridge for you any day now! And be sure to take all your dating advice from DCUM.

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*help *hurt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For those of you calling me an “incel,“ my sex life is just fine, thank you very much. Actually, it’s *better* than it would be if there weren’t so many women holding out for “well-educated“ men. There is no reason for me to settle down in the DC dating market. Thanks, actually, for making my point for me - women’s unreasonable standards helps men and hurts themselves.

And to those saying that my “Ivy degree“ must be from Cornell, you are right (though it’s in STEM and not from the Agriculture school)! Sorry I didn’t go to Harvard, Princeton or Yale – I guess that means I’m not *really* “well-educated.”

So you hear that, single ladies? Make sure to avoid that successful owner of the construction business and even the Cornell engineer. Prince Charming is coming down from Cambridge for you any day now! And be sure to take all your dating advice from DCUM.

The most incel sentence yet.

[Anonymous]

You do understand this forum does not represent all women, right? There are plenty of women out there who don't care about their partner’s level of education.

And there are women who do care because they are themselves highly educated and want to be able to relate to their partner. All the money in the world wouldn’t make a man attractive to me if he had no intellectual interests.

To each her own.