Student Behavior - Starting to Fall Apart?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question, why do we expect public schools to handle behavior problems? Where are the parents? I'd argue that if parents were truly parenting we would have far fewer problems in school. Of course there would the occasional problem student, or students who a disability that hinders regulation, or the occasional flight and visits to the principals office. BUT the problem today isn't this it's all this and MORE because parents aren't parenting in this country. I can't speak to outside of the country. But here parents refuse to look inward and make changes. Instead they want to blame anyone else- teachers, coaches, friends, social media, video games, etc. I'm sympathetic to the fact that parenting today is a lot harder than ever before BUT that doesn't absolve parents of the responsibility.

Talk to your kids about behavior from a young age. Model good respectful behavior. Get involved in the school in small or big ways. Ask about their homework and check in periodically with the teacher. Just set it in your phone calendar like you would any important meeting. Bad behavior doesn't just come from nowhere, there is usually a cause and effect. If parents make time for their kids and check in and connect, it would go a long way, I think.

Seriously? Yes, of course, better parenting is important. But, if teachers have NO tools to control kids, things happen.

[Anonymous]

I know two seasoned FCPS ES teachers (different schools) who’ll be resigning at the end of this school year. Combined 40 years experience and each cite the poor behavior and constant disrespect without consequences that is the reason for their departures.

I left (was in a support role) for similar reasons a few years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know two seasoned FCPS ES teachers (different schools) who’ll be resigning at the end of this school year. Combined 40 years experience and each cite the poor behavior and constant disrespect without consequences that is the reason for their departures.

I left (was in a support role) for similar reasons a few years ago.

+1, I left in 2022 and it seems like, from previous co-workers, behaviors continue to decline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question, why do we expect public schools to handle behavior problems? Where are the parents? I'd argue that if parents were truly parenting we would have far fewer problems in school. Of course there would the occasional problem student, or students who a disability that hinders regulation, or the occasional flight and visits to the principals office. BUT the problem today isn't this it's all this and MORE because parents aren't parenting in this country. I can't speak to outside of the country. But here parents refuse to look inward and make changes. Instead they want to blame anyone else- teachers, coaches, friends, social media, video games, etc. I'm sympathetic to the fact that parenting today is a lot harder than ever before BUT that doesn't absolve parents of the responsibility.

Talk to your kids about behavior from a young age. Model good respectful behavior. Get involved in the school in small or big ways. Ask about their homework and check in periodically with the teacher. Just set it in your phone calendar like you would any important meeting. Bad behavior doesn't just come from nowhere, there is usually a cause and effect. If parents make time for their kids and check in and connect, it would go a long way, I think.

Seriously? Yes, of course, better parenting is important. But, if teachers have NO tools to control kids, things happen.

It's also not just the parenting at home, but also the parents attitude/relationship towards the school/teacher. If it's primarily adversarial, the kid is gonna internalize that and see their misbehavior or disrespect as legitimized by their parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Whoever the op of this thread is:

- it’s been three years and behavior is poor and getting worse every year.

FCPS is asleep at the wheel.

It's not an FCPS issue. My cousin is an elementary school teacher in Florida. She's ready to quit because of how poorly behaved the kids have become, and how awful the parents are.

+1. Very few public school districts have a good handle on behavior anymore.

This all goes directly back to the “Dear Colleagues” letter during the Obama administration.

No it doesn't. That didn't help, but NCLB was the major catalyst.