Gay marriage -- explain the argument that it undermines heterosexual marriage

[Anonymous]

Could you explain the reasoning behind this argument that allowing gay marriage "undermines traditional marriages." If the person next door is in a gay marriage, how does that undermine my heterosexual marriage? Surely those arguing this are not suggesting that heterosexual people are going to run away from marriage b/c they can now marry someone of the same sex. What does it mean?

[Anonymous]

I can't wait for gay divorce.

[Anonymous]

Shut up and stop trolling. You don't want an explanation, you want to start a war of words. You don't agree with people who are against gay marriage- good, move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

PP, I'm not trolling. I want to hear the reasoning behind this statement that I often hear. You, however, are quite a rude person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Surely those arguing this are not suggesting that heterosexual people are going to run away from marriage b/c they can now marry someone of the same sex. What does it mean?

I have seen Rick Santorum take this line if argument exactly. If two men can marry, he might be tempted to stray from his wife and have sex with a man.

It was in a WaPo magazine article, maybe about 5 years ago. I don't have it to hand, though.

[Anonymous]

There is a thread on this topic in Political Discussion, should you have the patience to read the whole thing.

[Anonymous]

personally I find homosexuality to be an abnormal and an unhealthy lifestyle choice, but if gay couples want certain inheritance and other benefits that come only from marriage, then I really don't care. none of my business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:personally I find homosexuality to be an abnormal and an unhealthy lifestyle choice, but if gay couples want certain inheritance and other benefits that come only from marriage, then I really don't care. none of my business.

Okay, but it is NOT a choice. People are born with their preferences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:personally I find homosexuality to be an abnormal and an unhealthy lifestyle choice, but if gay couples want certain inheritance and other benefits that come only from marriage, then I really don't care. none of my business.

Okay, but it is NOT a choice. People are born with their preferences.

I don't agree.

[Anonymous]

Their weddings are gonna be way cooler than ours!

[Anonymous]

I think the people against gay marriage are fearful that open homosexuality will influence their children. So they make negative assumptions about what they don't understand, like assuming that homosexuality is a disease or a choice. When really, it's quite natural.

http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/...722_gayanimal_2.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:personally I find homosexuality to be an abnormal and an unhealthy lifestyle choice, but if gay couples want certain inheritance and other benefits that come only from marriage, then I really don't care. none of my business.

Unhealthy lifestyle choice? Are you talking about my sex life? If so, just go ahead and say "sex life". My lifestyle is probably like most other working moms. My sex life is about as safe as you can get. STDs are least common among lesbians and our unintended pregnancy rate is pretty much 0%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:personally I find homosexuality to be an abnormal and an unhealthy lifestyle choice, but if gay couples want certain inheritance and other benefits that come only from marriage, then I really don't care. none of my business.

Okay, but it is NOT a choice. People are born with their preferences.

I don't agree.

Why in the F would anyone choose to be bullied? to be made to feel inferior? to be assaulted by haters? to live closeted for fear of "humiliating" family members?

yeah - It's a choice alright.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:personally I find homosexuality to be an abnormal and an unhealthy lifestyle choice, but if gay couples want certain inheritance and other benefits that come only from marriage, then I really don't care. none of my business.

Okay, but it is NOT a choice. People are born with their preferences.

I don't agree.

That's because you were born to prefer being straight.

Even if I were to agree with you on the religious side of it all- it is very likely what some religions would term a generational spirit that is passed down through generations. Thus, the gay individuals actually ARE born with that "demon" in their lives, if that's how you choose to view it and from birth are predisposed to be attracted to what they are attracted to.

I don't personally know anyone gay (or straight) who randomly decided one day, "hey, she's pretty. I think I'm only going to be attracted to girls from now on!" They simply are attracted to what they are attracted to- and it's a very compelling attraction that feels "right" and "natural" regardless of whether that attraction is heterosexual or homosexual. And trying to punish someone for doing what feels right/like the only natural option to them is not going to change that preference no matter what people may or may not want.

I am also curious to hear the rationale for how gay marriage undermines straight marriage- I've never understood that argument either or heard an actual explanation of the ways it affects anyone else or their lives. It's one thing to say gay marriage is wrong from a biblical standpoint, but another entirely to make the ridiculous (to me) argument that it undermines straight marriage.

[Anonymous]

Notice that no one is actually providing an answer to the original question because there aren't any logical answers to it. The only answer is "I'm a bigot." And no one wants to say that.