Can we analyze jennifer lopez?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The DailyMail says she’s waiting to dump the divorce news on a Friday or possibly pair the news with an announcement about her career. They also say she wants to line up another man before announcing the divorce. If that’s true, she’s still the same J Lo who can’t be single for a minute. She should spend some time focusing on her kids and herself.

He’ll give her the honors of filing first . I think she’s guilting him for the breakup and how this might ruin her career again and he’s drinking due to that pain/guilt.

He does love her but he loves his career more . If her movie and album was well receieved, he would not have a problem with her.

He can’t stand that his reputation might take a hit . He yearns to be taken seriously by the industry and always has despite his vices. She never was

Not my read on things at all. I think the relationship just fizzled out. He cannot handle the reality of marriage and compromise and boringness. And she thought this was some epic love affair (which, to be fair, he probably led her on with initially when it was new and exciting for him) so she followed her typical MO of uprooting hers and her kids lives for love. Ick.

So, she should be punished and raked over the coals for naively believing in love, but he shouldn’t for reneging on his vows and doing far more damaging things to his kids like day drinking, blaming their mom for his drinking, and sleeping with their nanny ?

Punished? Is anyone getting punished? They’re both ridiculous.

She will be punished because it’s her fourth divorce and she went on about how Ben was the one and she finally found love.

Ben never gets punished even though he’s the one that checks out of every marriage and relationship. Gwyneth Paltrow was dead on when she said Ben is great in the beginning but after a while starts to get anxious and unhappy in a relationship and it’s more to do with him than anything the woman is doing

[Anonymous]

Ben Affleck has issues.
You just feel bad for her. However narcissistic you think she is. You can't change a man so don't waste your time. If he wants to change, he will but no other person can change a man. Men look for what is now. They don't look at the potential. Women tend to look for the man's potential. That means you want to change that person. Isn't going to work out like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ben Affleck has issues.
You just feel bad for her. However narcissistic you think she is. You can't change a man so don't waste your time. If he wants to change, he will but no other person can change a man. Men look for what is now. They don't look at the potential. Women tend to look for the man's potential. That means you want to change that person. Isn't going to work out like that.

Why did he seek her out in the first place?

He wanted to bail on Garner sooner but he had kids with her so he says he felt “trapped” in the marriage .

He should’ve been a bachelor like Leonardo DiCaprio.

He sounds like he was sent to the gallows every time he talks about the past marital /family life. He made it sound like jail. Now he seems to love his kids now that they’re older and can interact with him, but he made the younger years with Garner seem
Like this unbearable grind.

Last I checked he wasn’t on the table pushing out three kids and serving their every whim for years.

He is just an Ahole. I don’t think any relationship will make him happy. He wants to be in Vegas and just have cheap thrills for life. He doesn’t want the commitment of marriage to one person

[Anonymous]

If I were J Lo, I would just make a burn book anti Ben album- a sequel. Breakup albums tend to perform better for women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were J Lo, I would just make a burn book anti Ben album- a sequel. Breakup albums tend to perform better for women

This is the best advice. She missed her chance the first breakup and needs to go full Shakira on him now. Drop a thinly-veiled diss track with a Ben lookalike in the music video and then deny the song’s about him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ben Affleck has issues.
You just feel bad for her. However narcissistic you think she is. You can't change a man so don't waste your time. If he wants to change, he will but no other person can change a man. Men look for what is now. They don't look at the potential. Women tend to look for the man's potential. That means you want to change that person. Isn't going to work out like that.

Why did he seek her out in the first place?

He wanted to bail on Garner sooner but he had kids with her so he says he felt “trapped” in the marriage .

He should’ve been a bachelor like Leonardo DiCaprio.

He sounds like he was sent to the gallows every time he talks about the past marital /family life. He made it sound like jail. Now he seems to love his kids now that they’re older and can interact with him, but he made the younger years with Garner seem
Like this unbearable grind.

Last I checked he wasn’t on the table pushing out three kids and serving their every whim for years.

He is just an Ahole. I don’t think any relationship will make him happy. He wants to be in Vegas and just have cheap thrills for life. He doesn’t want the commitment of marriage to one person

+1. Total insensitive dbag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ben Affleck has issues.
You just feel bad for her. However narcissistic you think she is. You can't change a man so don't waste your time. If he wants to change, he will but no other person can change a man. Men look for what is now. They don't look at the potential. Women tend to look for the man's potential. That means you want to change that person. Isn't going to work out like that.

Why did he seek her out in the first place?

He wanted to bail on Garner sooner but he had kids with her so he says he felt “trapped” in the marriage .

He should’ve been a bachelor like Leonardo DiCaprio.

He sounds like he was sent to the gallows every time he talks about the past marital /family life. He made it sound like jail. Now he seems to love his kids now that they’re older and can interact with him, but he made the younger years with Garner seem
Like this unbearable grind.

Last I checked he wasn’t on the table pushing out three kids and serving their every whim for years.

He is just an Ahole. I don’t think any relationship will make him happy. He wants to be in Vegas and just have cheap thrills for life. He doesn’t want the commitment of marriage to one person

+1. Total insensitive dbag.

It’s all about him. Mother , ex, and potential ex all circling the wagon to make sure he doesn’t fall off one.

Addicts always blame others. He blamed Garner for his alcoholism .

My guess is he took on lots of his dads demons. His dad bailed on marriage ans family and decided gambling and drinking was more worthwhile .

His dad was apparently a brilliant playwright and descendant of poet William Faulkner but with that intellectualism apparently comes from a lineage of substance abuse and depression. His paternal grandmother died of suicide from gunshot wound just like Britney Spears paternal grandmother. His paternal uncle was also an alcoholic just like his father (very similar to Britney’s family) . The uncle also died by suicide gunshot wound . He also has a paternal aunt that suffered from heroin addiction .

I hate to be mean here but maybe J Los Latin godmother psychic was on to something when she said she and Ben shouldn’t marry or have kids .

J Lo should realize she’s the prize not him. It doesn’t matter that he won two Oscars. She should stop believing what people say about her lack of talent or worth in Hwood. I don’t think we will ever see another movie star turned pop star as big as her or another big Latin star like her or one from the Bronx . She won’t get her flowers till she’s dead but if you ask me, she has a far superior standing than most in Hwood because she’s still making top movies even if they’re on Netflix at age 50+ Most actresses aren’t relevant at 50+ and most popstars don’t perform at the Super Bowl at 50. Michael died at that same age preparing to perform . It’s not easy. She makes it look easy because she has the discipline

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ben Affleck has issues.
You just feel bad for her. However narcissistic you think she is. You can't change a man so don't waste your time. If he wants to change, he will but no other person can change a man. Men look for what is now. They don't look at the potential. Women tend to look for the man's potential. That means you want to change that person. Isn't going to work out like that.

Why did he seek her out in the first place?

He wanted to bail on Garner sooner but he had kids with her so he says he felt “trapped” in the marriage .

He should’ve been a bachelor like Leonardo DiCaprio.

He sounds like he was sent to the gallows every time he talks about the past marital /family life. He made it sound like jail. Now he seems to love his kids now that they’re older and can interact with him, but he made the younger years with Garner seem
Like this unbearable grind.

Last I checked he wasn’t on the table pushing out three kids and serving their every whim for years.

He is just an Ahole. I don’t think any relationship will make him happy. He wants to be in Vegas and just have cheap thrills for life. He doesn’t want the commitment of marriage to one person

+1. Total insensitive dbag.

It’s all about him. Mother , ex, and potential ex all circling the wagon to make sure he doesn’t fall off one.

Addicts always blame others. He blamed Garner for his alcoholism .

My guess is he took on lots of his dads demons. His dad bailed on marriage ans family and decided gambling and drinking was more worthwhile .

His dad was apparently a brilliant playwright and descendant of poet William Faulkner but with that intellectualism apparently comes from a lineage of substance abuse and depression. His paternal grandmother died of suicide from gunshot wound just like Britney Spears paternal grandmother. His paternal uncle was also an alcoholic just like his father (very similar to Britney’s family) . The uncle also died by suicide gunshot wound . He also has a paternal aunt that suffered from heroin addiction .

I hate to be mean here but maybe J Los Latin godmother psychic was on to something when she said she and Ben shouldn’t marry or have kids .

J Lo should realize she’s the prize not him. It doesn’t matter that he won two Oscars. She should stop believing what people say about her lack of talent or worth in Hwood. I don’t think we will ever see another movie star turned pop star as big as her or another big Latin star like her or one from the Bronx . She won’t get her flowers till she’s dead but if you ask me, she has a far superior standing than most in Hwood because she’s still making top movies even if they’re on Netflix at age 50+ Most actresses aren’t relevant at 50+ and most popstars don’t perform at the Super Bowl at 50. Michael died at that same age preparing to perform . It’s not easy. She makes it look easy because she has the discipline

A woman who's.been married and.divorced 4 times, broke off an engagement to ARod before quickly marrying Ben Affleck, and began her succession of men with Puff Diddy Daddy is not "a prize." Experienced, yes.

[Anonymous]

Oh this thread is still not done? Almost as painful to read as to wait for the divorce announcement. Get it over with already!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The DailyMail says she’s waiting to dump the divorce news on a Friday or possibly pair the news with an announcement about her career. They also say she wants to line up another man before announcing the divorce. If that’s true, she’s still the same J Lo who can’t be single for a minute. She should spend some time focusing on her kids and herself.

He’ll give her the honors of filing first . I think she’s guilting him for the breakup and how this might ruin her career again and he’s drinking due to that pain/guilt.

He does love her but he loves his career more . If her movie and album was well receieved, he would not have a problem with her.

He can’t stand that his reputation might take a hit . He yearns to be taken seriously by the industry and always has despite his vices. She never was

I doubt they love each other. This was a stupid marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The DailyMail says she’s waiting to dump the divorce news on a Friday or possibly pair the news with an announcement about her career. They also say she wants to line up another man before announcing the divorce. If that’s true, she’s still the same J Lo who can’t be single for a minute. She should spend some time focusing on her kids and herself.

He’ll give her the honors of filing first . I think she’s guilting him for the breakup and how this might ruin her career again and he’s drinking due to that pain/guilt.

He does love her but he loves his career more . If her movie and album was well receieved, he would not have a problem with her.

He can’t stand that his reputation might take a hit . He yearns to be taken seriously by the industry and always has despite his vices. She never was

I doubt they love each other. This was a stupid marriage.

But it was the greatest love story never told, right?

[Anonymous]

I don't know how people love to bag on Jennifer (who yes, appears to be a rude person who makes repeated bad relationship choices) more than Ben, who seems to be almost literally propped up and pupeteered by Jennifer Garner and the other women in his life for whatever positive decisions he makes.

[Anonymous]

Ben is an alcoholic in recovery. Relationships are not easy with someone in recovery.

JLo has a very strong work ethic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ben is an alcoholic in recovery. Relationships are not easy with someone in recovery.

JLo has a very strong work ethic.

I have never seen as much stigmatization of alcoholism as I've seen on DCUM. It's as if some of you don't think an alcoholic can get on with his/her life without dragging that label around like a ball and chain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know how people love to bag on Jennifer (who yes, appears to be a rude person who makes repeated bad relationship choices) more than Ben, who seems to be almost literally propped up and pupeteered by Jennifer Garner and the other women in his life for whatever positive decisions he makes.

+1

Jennifer Garner also needs to untangle herself from this man. It seems like she just lives to prop him up or catch him when he falls. And he said some crappy things about their marriage after the divorce.