Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week

[Anonymous]

I hope everyone criticizing the op are actively fighting for extended maternity leave. Do you people realize how many women go back to work at 6 weeks post-partum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The rude poster that commented my dad must be a miserable old man and no wants to be around him is messed up. We have a great relationship with my father and he is a lovely man. My siblings live far away and them flying will increase his risk. I live 2 hours away and can drive to/from without any issues. It will just be us and exposure risk is very low. I will be going straight there. He will need help with cooking, cleaning, medications, etc. Nothing too crazy and no heavy lifting or anything strenuous.

My dad has multiple high risk health issues. We are not willing to hire someone to help because we have no idea if that person is following proper protocol. He loves his caretaker and we want to keep her job. We are looking into temp workers if she needs to be out longer, but I want to properly screen them first. This was last minute and I couldn't line someone up in 2-3 days without properly screening them.

My dads place is really small. It's a one bed and a small den. There wouldn't be space to sleep on a couch for me and my husband.

My husband is a great dad and capable of caring for our son. He is an easy baby and sleeps an 8 hour stretch at night. My MiL will be available to help him and give him a break. We split everything 50/50. He did everything the first 4 weeks after birth, and I have helped prep things for him as some suggested - laundry, food, and restock supplies for baby, etc.

I'm fine giving up breastfeeding if that happens. I don't make much milk anyway and planned to stop when I go back to work at the end of the year anyway.

Well, you said in your original post that you're very nervous, and now you keep replying to people that you are confident everything will be okay and that your husband will do a great job, so.... why did you ask for advice? Why do you need to prep anything if you MIL is going to help him?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since your father only lives 2 hours away, go pick him up and bring him back to your house to stay with you for a week. No need to leave your baby for an entire week when he lives so close. This is sounding a little off. I mean this kindly OP, is it possible you are suffering from PPD and want to get away from your baby?

OP here. I’m not suffering from PPD. I love being with my baby, but one week won’t do any harm. He is in capable hands with his father. My dads house is well equipped for his issues, and ours is not. That is why we won’t have him at our place.

Honestly, this was my feeling, too. I would not have been able to leave my 8-week old baby, not even for a day, let alone a week. OP, just recognize it's a little bit unusual that you're okay doing this. And it is kind of symptom of PPD.

[Anonymous]

It's not OK to leave baby with your husband for a whole week. Your husbands needs to sleep and rest too. You are irresponsible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since your father only lives 2 hours away, go pick him up and bring him back to your house to stay with you for a week. No need to leave your baby for an entire week when he lives so close. This is sounding a little off. I mean this kindly OP, is it possible you are suffering from PPD and want to get away from your baby?

OP here. I’m not suffering from PPD. I love being with my baby, but one week won’t do any harm. He is in capable hands with his father. My dads house is well equipped for his issues, and ours is not. That is why we won’t have him at our place.

Honestly, this was my feeling, too. I would not have been able to leave my 8-week old baby, not even for a day, let alone a week. OP, just recognize it's a little bit unusual that you're okay doing this. And it is kind of symptom of PPD.

That’s you! Many people are back to work by then. I felt like a jerk because I went back to work at 12 weeks and I was excited! Babies are BORING. Now I actually really hate leaving overnight now that my kids are toddlers so I’m certainly not an absentee parent and prefer family time than girls trips for now but leaving my 8 week old in my very capable husbands hands, to help my Ill father, would have been a no brained not a sign of ppd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I doubt your father would want you leaving your newborn for a week to tend to him. There is a brand new person who needs you the most. Hire someone to help your father or have your husband help your father.

This!! A million times this!!

It’s a 2 month old baby! If we want equality ladies we have to put our money where our mouth is and let your damn husband who is already on paternity leave step and take care of the baby.

When his body is the baby's natural environment, this will make sense. Until then, in a family where her body is that natural environment, it doesn't.

Are you under the impression that OP is pregnant, and is planning on . . . I don't even know what.

In a thread full of absolute idiocy, this might be the dumbest post. Congratulations, or something.

Some of y’all are mommy martyr nightmares and it shows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not OK to leave baby with your husband for a whole week. Your husbands needs to sleep and rest too. You are irresponsible.

Wow.

Op your husband and baby will be fine. Go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should not leave an 8 week old. Your husband can go take care of your father for a week.

Why? The baby literally doesn’t know better.

This. I developed an infection when my son was a few weeks old and I was in the hospital for nearly 2 weeks. My DH took care of our son. No big deal. I FF so it was a lot less complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not OK to leave baby with your husband for a whole week. Your husbands needs to sleep and rest too. You are irresponsible.

I am a single parent and took care of my DC by myself. The first time "off" I had was when I started back to work when he was 6 months old.

[Anonymous]

OP, please ignore the loonies. Obviously, since your healthy baby has TWO parents, I think its fine if one is gone for a week. I hope your father gets well soon, you are a good daughter for helping.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since your father only lives 2 hours away, go pick him up and bring him back to your house to stay with you for a week. No need to leave your baby for an entire week when he lives so close. This is sounding a little off. I mean this kindly OP, is it possible you are suffering from PPD and want to get away from your baby?

OP here. I’m not suffering from PPD. I love being with my baby, but one week won’t do any harm. He is in capable hands with his father. My dads house is well equipped for his issues, and ours is not. That is why we won’t have him at our place.

Honestly, this was my feeling, too. I would not have been able to leave my 8-week old baby, not even for a day, let alone a week. OP, just recognize it's a little bit unusual that you're okay doing this. And it is kind of symptom of PPD.

That’s you! Many people are back to work by then. I felt like a jerk because I went back to work at 12 weeks and I was excited! Babies are BORING. Now I actually really hate leaving overnight now that my kids are toddlers so I’m certainly not an absentee parent and prefer family time than girls trips for now but leaving my 8 week old in my very capable husbands hands, to help my Ill father, would have been a no brained not a sign of ppd.

+1. Some people have a really hard time being away from their babies. Some don't. It doesn't mean you have PPD if you don't... it just means people are different.

(I'd actually be really curious if the "can't bear to be parted with my baby" mothers overlap with the "a baby needs their mother, you can't just leave them with their father" people as much as I suspect they do...)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since your father only lives 2 hours away, go pick him up and bring him back to your house to stay with you for a week. No need to leave your baby for an entire week when he lives so close. This is sounding a little off. I mean this kindly OP, is it possible you are suffering from PPD and want to get away from your baby?

OP here. I’m not suffering from PPD. I love being with my baby, but one week won’t do any harm. He is in capable hands with his father. My dads house is well equipped for his issues, and ours is not. That is why we won’t have him at our place.

Honestly, this was my feeling, too. I would not have been able to leave my 8-week old baby, not even for a day, let alone a week. OP, just recognize it's a little bit unusual that you're okay doing this. And it is kind of symptom of PPD.

I don’t think you actually know what PPD is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since your father only lives 2 hours away, go pick him up and bring him back to your house to stay with you for a week. No need to leave your baby for an entire week when he lives so close. This is sounding a little off. I mean this kindly OP, is it possible you are suffering from PPD and want to get away from your baby?

OP here. I’m not suffering from PPD. I love being with my baby, but one week won’t do any harm. He is in capable hands with his father. My dads house is well equipped for his issues, and ours is not. That is why we won’t have him at our place.

Honestly, this was my feeling, too. I would not have been able to leave my 8-week old baby, not even for a day, let alone a week. OP, just recognize it's a little bit unusual that you're okay doing this. And it is kind of symptom of PPD.

I don’t think you actually know what PPD is.

Kinda sounds like you don't either.

[Anonymous]

You all are insane. OPs baby will be fine with his father. I’m sorry many of you married a man who isn’t able to care for his own child, but most fathers are capable of being a caregiver.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op doesn’t strike me as genuinely searching for advice.

I absolutely wouldn’t do this, but it doesn’t really matter since it’s not my life or decision.

She's not looking for the kind of advice the dcum ninnies are giving her. YOU'RE GOING TO DIE AND SO WILL YOUR BABY. AND YOUR BABY WILL FORGET WHO YOU ARE AND STOP EATING ALTOGETHER.

You people are absolutely insane.

DP Many people are not saying this. Actually, the one who is "hysterical" is you because of the shouting.

OMG, do you work for Trump? Because it sounds like you could write his tweets. Honestly.