How to stop other travellers eat your food supplies?

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Cheap mofos

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Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

As long as we're playing this game, I know parents like you. Kids wolfing down Ho-hos and donuts and potato chips without a care in the world. Never really eating vegetables. Growing up into fat teens and adults who cry that they have a weight problem and have no clue what to do about it.

You letting your kids eat utter garbage is absolutely setting them up for a decreased quality of life and a myriad of health issues. But enjoy your Oreos as you waddle around the campsite

You’re so wrong.

There’s a difference between eating treats on vacation and eating crap 365 days a year.

We don’t get doughnuts everyday. We do get doughnuts a couple times when on vacation.

We don’t make big breakfasts everyday at home. We do make a big breakfast buffet a few times a week when vacationing with friends and family.

We rarely go out for ice cream at home (not even once a month), but we get ice cream or some other boardwalk treat a few times when on vacation.

See the difference? We lighten up a bit. The kids stay up later, too. It’s a vacation.

Your salad and water vacation sounds miserable. Truly.

Maybe if you knew how to actually make a salad, it wouldn't be miserable for you to make it. Maybe if you werent used to eating soda, drinking water wouldn't seem like a punishment. Maybe if you knew how to make healthy versions of things (it's not that hard, your kids wouldn't be whining for donuts)

I do the "big breakfast buffet" thing too, but it's healthy stuff, not Hostess cupcakes laid out. And anyone who wants to disparage people for that can enjoy their bad health. I will eat my "health food" which is delicious and also nourishing. YOU can enjoy your diabetes. But it's sad to do that to kids

Wowza...you are really projecting.

FTR, I don’t serve hostess cupcakes for breakfast (I don’t believe anyone does). And I don’t drink soda or serve it to my kids. They do enjoy a Shirley Temple or craft root beer when the social event dictates a proper drink.

I eat salad regularly. But when I’m at the beach, I’m eating crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers, etc.

I eat veggies regularly...including on vacation. But I prefer to enjoy local food when traveling. I love conch fritters and mudslides when I’m vacationing in the Caribbean. I love pasta and pizza in Italy. I can eat my weight in cheese and chocolate in France. I’ve been known to find the best local bakery for fresh bread and pastries. While your family eats salad at the resort, my family is eating at some local hole in the wall/off the beaten path restaurant or shack with the locals. I love that my kids prefer the private coves where locals swim than the crowded resorts or touristy beaches. I suspect we burn more calories running around the island or city than resort squatters do.

LOL... and so what would make you think "crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers" would fall into the unhealthy category? Do you know NOTHING about nutrition? Or you just wanted to argue about nothing?

The fact is, different people have different standards for nutrition. You can load your kids up with whatever unhealthy food you want (since that was the POINT of this whole thing- you seem to be veering far off topic into reminiscences of vacations past- snap out of it!) and I will feed my kids nourishing, healthy food. You can set your kids up for a lifetime of eating chicken fingers and fries if you want, my kids will learn to eat greens and healthy proteins and smoothies. You do you, I'll do me. That's the point, capiche? But don't you dare try to shame me for eating healthy "crap"- we'll see what pays off in the long run! Eat as many french fries and pizzas as you want- and enjoy the blowing up waistline!

Will do!

I’ll pray for your children that they don’t inherit your obvious obsession with food and weight. And, I’ll pray you are able to see your future grandchildren...recognizing that your kids’ future in-laws will definitely be the preferred grandparents to vacation with and celebrate holidays. I can picture your thanksgiving feast and the dry mashed potatoes. Hint: you need to add butter, cream and salt.

PS - If you post again, I think we’ll need to give you a nickname. You wouldn’t by any chance happen to be CCCL?

And i'll pray for your kids that they don't inherit your lack of reading ability, argumentativeness, and poor diet! We'll see who's healthier in 30 years, won't we? I can picture your few holidays- with kids that never end up having families of their own because theyre too fat to find a partner!

How about we give you a name, if you post again... maybe? PRCFA?

(Spoken in a hushed voice): Um, Suzy? I think you just confirmed what everyone was thinking. Are you okay? Lashing out at strangers who are clearly just screwing around online isn’t normal. Arguing aggressively with invisible posters and saying mean things about them doesn’t make you the calm, rational person you claim to be. Now that we know how you feel about carbs, can you share where you stand on booze and pills? You might need some...or a lot.

Awww, Judy why don't you take your own advice? Now you were just "screwing around" and didn't mean any of your posts? Nice backtrack. Maybe it's time for a donut and a glass of milk and you'll calm down a little. A few carbs to mask the pain.

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Anonymous wrote: And if they ask for toast, just grab bread from their family’s stash and make it for the kids. Cereal is easy. Bring a lot, and just pool all the boxes when you get there.

Their mom already made them breakfast but when they see ours they want to eat ours. All of it. Until there is nothing left. No cereal l, no bacon, no bread, etc

Then when you cook bacon, only cook enough bacon for your family. That way there is none left for them to steal.
Keep all your dry goods in a big bin and lock it. That way they have no access.
Cook breakfast and lunch last out of the families. That way they have already eaten. And when they ask for food, redirect them to their own parents. You’ve been told this multiple times. I’m not sure why you haven’t grasped it yet.

This. Pre-portion and pack and label the food for each day. Include a little extra to give kids a sample if they ask and then its breakfast/lunch is over for the day. If kids ask for more re-direct to their parents if they say they are still hungry.

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Did not read the whole thread. Just bring some extra and share. You don’t have to plan to feed everyone. I am sure someone else will bring some breakfast food your kids will want too.

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Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

Np here. We just vacationed with a very healthy eating family and it went fine. I know it bothered them that we brought paper plates and cups. I also went and got some Krispy Kreme donuts one morning. I didn’t force it on anyone. Their family ended up eating more than we did.

We are a naturally thin family. I am always trying to fatten my kids up. They are naturally skinny plus they play sports.

I don’t get why OP is being so petty about a few foods. We bring some cereal, bread, eggs, cold cuts. So do other families. Food has never been an issue in any trip we have taken.

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I don’t get why OP is being so petty about a few foods. We bring some cereal, bread, eggs, cold cuts. So do other families. Food has never been an issue in any trip we have taken.

But, OP brought bacon. That's the problem. Who doesn't smell bacon and not want some?

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Anonymous wrote:I can't even imagine cooking bacon and not sharing. It's like you are taunting them! It's BACON for God's sake. BACON.

OP, and I mean this kindly, if you are going to sweat the small stuff like this, don't go. it won't be fun. But if you can do an Elsa and learn to let it go, you'll have a much nicer time and not feel the grudge so much. It's just food. Take plenty, figure out a bacon schedule if you want it every morning, and enjoy yourself.

+ 100 for a bacon schedule for OP.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are that broke that you literally cannot afford an extra $2 for another dozen eggs, or if you're really feeling super generous and bougie, spending a whole extra $5 on another pack of bacon, or another $1 on another loaf of bread (food is so INSANELY cheap in this country), then you shouldn't be going anywhere. You should stay home and perhaps pick up a side job as a ride share driver or delivery person, because you must really need the cash. Don't vacation- get a second job, and start working NOW!

If it’s so cheap, why can’t the other family just feed their kids more, then?

Who cares? OP asked about her behavior.

OP seems reasonable. The other parents seem mercenary at worst, clueless at best. I judge them to be the villains of this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

It’s not about money. Really!
It’s just I don’t want to bring groceries for 10 people, I just want to bring enough for our family of 3. We are already sharing dinners.

If other kids ask, just tell them that every family is having breakfast on their own. But, you have to bring some extras. You can't do that for the entire time. Also, I imagine your kids will be offered food from others as well.

Who are you people?!?! Do adults actually do this?!?!?

If you’re vacationing together and a kid enters the kitchen looking for food, you feed him...especially if you are already preparing food for yourself/your family.

I’m truly curious if you crazies are invited back after behaving like this.

+1.

And the answer is no, most of the people on this board are not invited back nor are they even invited in the first place. Most people on the board are trashy, socially inept and from a low class background, and see no issue whatsoever in asking another couple to pay back the $2.37 to cover the additional breakfast supplies. A bunch of cheapie trailer park types

You seem very familiar with this type. Guess trash recognize trash.

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I don’t think I could be friends with someone who did not offer my children some eggs or fruit.

We have a seven figure income now but we come from humble beginnings. Even though my parents were poor, they were always good hosts and offered whatever food we had. I would give up my egg to my friend’s child. Or I would get an instacart delivery or go on a grocery run. I would ask others if they wanted/needed anything.

As I have gotten older, all our friends are generous or at least fair. Some are on tighter budgets. We know a large range of people with various incomes. The more modest families are just as giving with food. I don’t know anyone like OP. I would not want to vacation with her.

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Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

As long as we're playing this game, I know parents like you. Kids wolfing down Ho-hos and donuts and potato chips without a care in the world. Never really eating vegetables. Growing up into fat teens and adults who cry that they have a weight problem and have no clue what to do about it.

You letting your kids eat utter garbage is absolutely setting them up for a decreased quality of life and a myriad of health issues. But enjoy your Oreos as you waddle around the campsite

You’re so wrong.

There’s a difference between eating treats on vacation and eating crap 365 days a year.

We don’t get doughnuts everyday. We do get doughnuts a couple times when on vacation.

We don’t make big breakfasts everyday at home. We do make a big breakfast buffet a few times a week when vacationing with friends and family.

We rarely go out for ice cream at home (not even once a month), but we get ice cream or some other boardwalk treat a few times when on vacation.

See the difference? We lighten up a bit. The kids stay up later, too. It’s a vacation.

Your salad and water vacation sounds miserable. Truly.

Maybe if you knew how to actually make a salad, it wouldn't be miserable for you to make it. Maybe if you werent used to eating soda, drinking water wouldn't seem like a punishment. Maybe if you knew how to make healthy versions of things (it's not that hard, your kids wouldn't be whining for donuts)

I do the "big breakfast buffet" thing too, but it's healthy stuff, not Hostess cupcakes laid out. And anyone who wants to disparage people for that can enjoy their bad health. I will eat my "health food" which is delicious and also nourishing. YOU can enjoy your diabetes. But it's sad to do that to kids

Wowza...you are really projecting.

FTR, I don’t serve hostess cupcakes for breakfast (I don’t believe anyone does). And I don’t drink soda or serve it to my kids. They do enjoy a Shirley Temple or craft root beer when the social event dictates a proper drink.

I eat salad regularly. But when I’m at the beach, I’m eating crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers, etc.

I eat veggies regularly...including on vacation. But I prefer to enjoy local food when traveling. I love conch fritters and mudslides when I’m vacationing in the Caribbean. I love pasta and pizza in Italy. I can eat my weight in cheese and chocolate in France. I’ve been known to find the best local bakery for fresh bread and pastries. While your family eats salad at the resort, my family is eating at some local hole in the wall/off the beaten path restaurant or shack with the locals. I love that my kids prefer the private coves where locals swim than the crowded resorts or touristy beaches. I suspect we burn more calories running around the island or city than resort squatters do.

LOL... and so what would make you think "crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers" would fall into the unhealthy category? Do you know NOTHING about nutrition? Or you just wanted to argue about nothing?

The fact is, different people have different standards for nutrition. You can load your kids up with whatever unhealthy food you want (since that was the POINT of this whole thing- you seem to be veering far off topic into reminiscences of vacations past- snap out of it!) and I will feed my kids nourishing, healthy food. You can set your kids up for a lifetime of eating chicken fingers and fries if you want, my kids will learn to eat greens and healthy proteins and smoothies. You do you, I'll do me. That's the point, capiche? But don't you dare try to shame me for eating healthy "crap"- we'll see what pays off in the long run! Eat as many french fries and pizzas as you want- and enjoy the blowing up waistline!

Will do!

I’ll pray for your children that they don’t inherit your obvious obsession with food and weight. And, I’ll pray you are able to see your future grandchildren...recognizing that your kids’ future in-laws will definitely be the preferred grandparents to vacation with and celebrate holidays. I can picture your thanksgiving feast and the dry mashed potatoes. Hint: you need to add butter, cream and salt.

PS - If you post again, I think we’ll need to give you a nickname. You wouldn’t by any chance happen to be CCCL?

And i'll pray for your kids that they don't inherit your lack of reading ability, argumentativeness, and poor diet! We'll see who's healthier in 30 years, won't we? I can picture your few holidays- with kids that never end up having families of their own because theyre too fat to find a partner!

How about we give you a name, if you post again... maybe? PRCFA?

Ok guys, let’s make a pact that we all return to DCUM in 30 years to see how this pair’s children and grandchildren turned out.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

It’s not about money. Really!
It’s just I don’t want to bring groceries for 10 people, I just want to bring enough for our family of 3. We are already sharing dinners.

If other kids ask, just tell them that every family is having breakfast on their own. But, you have to bring some extras. You can't do that for the entire time. Also, I imagine your kids will be offered food from others as well.

Who are you people?!?! Do adults actually do this?!?!?

If you’re vacationing together and a kid enters the kitchen looking for food, you feed him...especially if you are already preparing food for yourself/your family.

I’m truly curious if you crazies are invited back after behaving like this.

+1.

And the answer is no, most of the people on this board are not invited back nor are they even invited in the first place. Most people on the board are trashy, socially inept and from a low class background, and see no issue whatsoever in asking another couple to pay back the $2.37 to cover the additional breakfast supplies. A bunch of cheapie trailer park types

You seem very familiar with this type. Guess trash recognize trash.

I am. Unfortunately I have to interact with people like you whenever I drop off my dry cleaning or hire a service person, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are that broke that you literally cannot afford an extra $2 for another dozen eggs, or if you're really feeling super generous and bougie, spending a whole extra $5 on another pack of bacon, or another $1 on another loaf of bread (food is so INSANELY cheap in this country), then you shouldn't be going anywhere. You should stay home and perhaps pick up a side job as a ride share driver or delivery person, because you must really need the cash. Don't vacation- get a second job, and start working NOW!

If it’s so cheap, why can’t the other family just feed their kids more, then?

Who cares? OP asked about her behavior.

OP seems reasonable. The other parents seem mercenary at worst, clueless at best. I judge them to be the villains of this thread.

Well you seem to be in the minority here. Probably you're as rude, ill bred, greedy, and socially inept as OP.

Who are these people?!? We always have too much food and drink because everyone brings to share.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I could be friends with someone who did not offer my children some eggs or fruit.

We have a seven figure income now but we come from humble beginnings. Even though my parents were poor, they were always good hosts and offered whatever food we had. I would give up my egg to my friend’s child. Or I would get an instacart delivery or go on a grocery run. I would ask others if they wanted/needed anything.

As I have gotten older, all our friends are generous or at least fair. Some are on tighter budgets. We know a large range of people with various incomes. The more modest families are just as giving with food. I don’t know anyone like OP. I would not want to vacation with her.

Why don’t you use some of your filthy lucre to offer your own children adequate food at breakfast so they’re not scrounging from others? I’d be so embarrassed if my children weren’t sufficiently provided for that they begged food from others. Guess that’s how the rich get and stay rich.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are that broke that you literally cannot afford an extra $2 for another dozen eggs, or if you're really feeling super generous and bougie, spending a whole extra $5 on another pack of bacon, or another $1 on another loaf of bread (food is so INSANELY cheap in this country), then you shouldn't be going anywhere. You should stay home and perhaps pick up a side job as a ride share driver or delivery person, because you must really need the cash. Don't vacation- get a second job, and start working NOW!

If it’s so cheap, why can’t the other family just feed their kids more, then?

Who cares? OP asked about her behavior.

OP seems reasonable. The other parents seem mercenary at worst, clueless at best. I judge them to be the villains of this thread.

Well you seem to be in the minority here. Probably you're as rude, ill bred, greedy, and socially inept as OP.

Who are these people?!? We always have too much food and drink because everyone brings to share.

I know. In my friend group we always end up fighting over the check- that's fighting for the right to PAY the check, not fighting to try to get out of it. I couldn't be around people with zero manners like this. It's just embarrassing.