How to stop other travellers eat your food supplies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

It’s not about money. Really!
It’s just I don’t want to bring groceries for 10 people, I just want to bring enough for our family of 3. We are already sharing dinners.

If other kids ask, just tell them that every family is having breakfast on their own. But, you have to bring some extras. You can't do that for the entire time. Also, I imagine your kids will be offered food from others as well.

Who are you people?!?! Do adults actually do this?!?!?

If you’re vacationing together and a kid enters the kitchen looking for food, you feed him...especially if you are already preparing food for yourself/your family.

I’m truly curious if you crazies are invited back after behaving like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

It’s not about money. Really!
It’s just I don’t want to bring groceries for 10 people, I just want to bring enough for our family of 3. We are already sharing dinners.

If other kids ask, just tell them that every family is having breakfast on their own. But, you have to bring some extras. You can't do that for the entire time. Also, I imagine your kids will be offered food from others as well.

Who are you people?!?! Do adults actually do this?!?!?

If you’re vacationing together and a kid enters the kitchen looking for food, you feed him...especially if you are already preparing food for yourself/your family.

I’m truly curious if you crazies are invited back after behaving like this.

+1.

And the answer is no, most of the people on this board are not invited back nor are they even invited in the first place. Most people on the board are trashy, socially inept and from a low class background, and see no issue whatsoever in asking another couple to pay back the $2.37 to cover the additional breakfast supplies. A bunch of cheapie trailer park types

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

As long as we're playing this game, I know parents like you. Kids wolfing down Ho-hos and donuts and potato chips without a care in the world. Never really eating vegetables. Growing up into fat teens and adults who cry that they have a weight problem and have no clue what to do about it.

You letting your kids eat utter garbage is absolutely setting them up for a decreased quality of life and a myriad of health issues. But enjoy your Oreos as you waddle around the campsite

You’re so wrong.

There’s a difference between eating treats on vacation and eating crap 365 days a year.

We don’t get doughnuts everyday. We do get doughnuts a couple times when on vacation.

We don’t make big breakfasts everyday at home. We do make a big breakfast buffet a few times a week when vacationing with friends and family.

We rarely go out for ice cream at home (not even once a month), but we get ice cream or some other boardwalk treat a few times when on vacation.

See the difference? We lighten up a bit. The kids stay up later, too. It’s a vacation.

Your salad and water vacation sounds miserable. Truly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

As long as we're playing this game, I know parents like you. Kids wolfing down Ho-hos and donuts and potato chips without a care in the world. Never really eating vegetables. Growing up into fat teens and adults who cry that they have a weight problem and have no clue what to do about it.

You letting your kids eat utter garbage is absolutely setting them up for a decreased quality of life and a myriad of health issues. But enjoy your Oreos as you waddle around the campsite

Campsite? Lol. As if.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

As long as we're playing this game, I know parents like you. Kids wolfing down Ho-hos and donuts and potato chips without a care in the world. Never really eating vegetables. Growing up into fat teens and adults who cry that they have a weight problem and have no clue what to do about it.

You letting your kids eat utter garbage is absolutely setting them up for a decreased quality of life and a myriad of health issues. But enjoy your Oreos as you waddle around the campsite

You’re so wrong.

There’s a difference between eating treats on vacation and eating crap 365 days a year.

We don’t get doughnuts everyday. We do get doughnuts a couple times when on vacation.

We don’t make big breakfasts everyday at home. We do make a big breakfast buffet a few times a week when vacationing with friends and family.

We rarely go out for ice cream at home (not even once a month), but we get ice cream or some other boardwalk treat a few times when on vacation.

See the difference? We lighten up a bit. The kids stay up later, too. It’s a vacation.

Your salad and water vacation sounds miserable. Truly.

Maybe if you knew how to actually make a salad, it wouldn't be miserable for you to make it. Maybe if you werent used to eating soda, drinking water wouldn't seem like a punishment. Maybe if you knew how to make healthy versions of things (it's not that hard, your kids wouldn't be whining for donuts)

I do the "big breakfast buffet" thing too, but it's healthy stuff, not Hostess cupcakes laid out. And anyone who wants to disparage people for that can enjoy their bad health. I will eat my "health food" which is delicious and also nourishing. YOU can enjoy your diabetes. But it's sad to do that to kids

[Anonymous]

OMG - I haven't read all 11 pages of this thread, but I'm Italian American and my DH is from India, and we have traveled a ton with large groups and often have tons of family staying at each other's homes. Everyone pitches in buying groceries, everyone pitches in cooking, and everyone shares everything!

My Italian mother and Indian mother-in-law would keel over if they heard that someone didn't want to share their food with others - especially children!!! We always make much more than we need and feed everyone!!

Serious cultural differences here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

As long as we're playing this game, I know parents like you. Kids wolfing down Ho-hos and donuts and potato chips without a care in the world. Never really eating vegetables. Growing up into fat teens and adults who cry that they have a weight problem and have no clue what to do about it.

You letting your kids eat utter garbage is absolutely setting them up for a decreased quality of life and a myriad of health issues. But enjoy your Oreos as you waddle around the campsite

You’re so wrong.

There’s a difference between eating treats on vacation and eating crap 365 days a year.

We don’t get doughnuts everyday. We do get doughnuts a couple times when on vacation.

We don’t make big breakfasts everyday at home. We do make a big breakfast buffet a few times a week when vacationing with friends and family.

We rarely go out for ice cream at home (not even once a month), but we get ice cream or some other boardwalk treat a few times when on vacation.

See the difference? We lighten up a bit. The kids stay up later, too. It’s a vacation.

Your salad and water vacation sounds miserable. Truly.

Maybe if you knew how to actually make a salad, it wouldn't be miserable for you to make it. Maybe if you werent used to eating soda, drinking water wouldn't seem like a punishment. Maybe if you knew how to make healthy versions of things (it's not that hard, your kids wouldn't be whining for donuts)

I do the "big breakfast buffet" thing too, but it's healthy stuff, not Hostess cupcakes laid out. And anyone who wants to disparage people for that can enjoy their bad health. I will eat my "health food" which is delicious and also nourishing. YOU can enjoy your diabetes. But it's sad to do that to kids

Wowza...you are really projecting.

FTR, I don’t serve hostess cupcakes for breakfast (I don’t believe anyone does). And I don’t drink soda or serve it to my kids. They do enjoy a Shirley Temple or craft root beer when the social event dictates a proper drink.

I eat salad regularly. But when I’m at the beach, I’m eating crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers, etc.

I eat veggies regularly...including on vacation. But I prefer to enjoy local food when traveling. I love conch fritters and mudslides when I’m vacationing in the Caribbean. I love pasta and pizza in Italy. I can eat my weight in cheese and chocolate in France. I’ve been known to find the best local bakery for fresh bread and pastries. While your family eats salad at the resort, my family is eating at some local hole in the wall/off the beaten path restaurant or shack with the locals. I love that my kids prefer the private coves where locals swim than the crowded resorts or touristy beaches. I suspect we burn more calories running around the island or city than resort squatters do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG - I haven't read all 11 pages of this thread, but I'm Italian American and my DH is from India, and we have traveled a ton with large groups and often have tons of family staying at each other's homes. Everyone pitches in buying groceries, everyone pitches in cooking, and everyone shares everything!

My Italian mother and Indian mother-in-law would keel over if they heard that someone didn't want to share their food with others - especially children!!! We always make much more than we need and feed everyone!!

Serious cultural differences here!

Agreed.

This thread makes white millennials look really, really bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

As long as we're playing this game, I know parents like you. Kids wolfing down Ho-hos and donuts and potato chips without a care in the world. Never really eating vegetables. Growing up into fat teens and adults who cry that they have a weight problem and have no clue what to do about it.

You letting your kids eat utter garbage is absolutely setting them up for a decreased quality of life and a myriad of health issues. But enjoy your Oreos as you waddle around the campsite

You’re so wrong.

There’s a difference between eating treats on vacation and eating crap 365 days a year.

We don’t get doughnuts everyday. We do get doughnuts a couple times when on vacation.

We don’t make big breakfasts everyday at home. We do make a big breakfast buffet a few times a week when vacationing with friends and family.

We rarely go out for ice cream at home (not even once a month), but we get ice cream or some other boardwalk treat a few times when on vacation.

See the difference? We lighten up a bit. The kids stay up later, too. It’s a vacation.

Your salad and water vacation sounds miserable. Truly.

Maybe if you knew how to actually make a salad, it wouldn't be miserable for you to make it. Maybe if you werent used to eating soda, drinking water wouldn't seem like a punishment. Maybe if you knew how to make healthy versions of things (it's not that hard, your kids wouldn't be whining for donuts)

I do the "big breakfast buffet" thing too, but it's healthy stuff, not Hostess cupcakes laid out. And anyone who wants to disparage people for that can enjoy their bad health. I will eat my "health food" which is delicious and also nourishing. YOU can enjoy your diabetes. But it's sad to do that to kids

Wowza...you are really projecting.

FTR, I don’t serve hostess cupcakes for breakfast (I don’t believe anyone does). And I don’t drink soda or serve it to my kids. They do enjoy a Shirley Temple or craft root beer when the social event dictates a proper drink.

I eat salad regularly. But when I’m at the beach, I’m eating crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers, etc.

I eat veggies regularly...including on vacation. But I prefer to enjoy local food when traveling. I love conch fritters and mudslides when I’m vacationing in the Caribbean. I love pasta and pizza in Italy. I can eat my weight in cheese and chocolate in France. I’ve been known to find the best local bakery for fresh bread and pastries. While your family eats salad at the resort, my family is eating at some local hole in the wall/off the beaten path restaurant or shack with the locals. I love that my kids prefer the private coves where locals swim than the crowded resorts or touristy beaches. I suspect we burn more calories running around the island or city than resort squatters do.

LOL... and so what would make you think "crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers" would fall into the unhealthy category? Do you know NOTHING about nutrition? Or you just wanted to argue about nothing?

The fact is, different people have different standards for nutrition. You can load your kids up with whatever unhealthy food you want (since that was the POINT of this whole thing- you seem to be veering far off topic into reminiscences of vacations past- snap out of it!) and I will feed my kids nourishing, healthy food. You can set your kids up for a lifetime of eating chicken fingers and fries if you want, my kids will learn to eat greens and healthy proteins and smoothies. You do you, I'll do me. That's the point, capiche? But don't you dare try to shame me for eating healthy "crap"- we'll see what pays off in the long run! Eat as many french fries and pizzas as you want- and enjoy the blowing up waistline!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

As long as we're playing this game, I know parents like you. Kids wolfing down Ho-hos and donuts and potato chips without a care in the world. Never really eating vegetables. Growing up into fat teens and adults who cry that they have a weight problem and have no clue what to do about it.

You letting your kids eat utter garbage is absolutely setting them up for a decreased quality of life and a myriad of health issues. But enjoy your Oreos as you waddle around the campsite

You’re so wrong.

There’s a difference between eating treats on vacation and eating crap 365 days a year.

We don’t get doughnuts everyday. We do get doughnuts a couple times when on vacation.

We don’t make big breakfasts everyday at home. We do make a big breakfast buffet a few times a week when vacationing with friends and family.

We rarely go out for ice cream at home (not even once a month), but we get ice cream or some other boardwalk treat a few times when on vacation.

See the difference? We lighten up a bit. The kids stay up later, too. It’s a vacation.

Your salad and water vacation sounds miserable. Truly.

Maybe if you knew how to actually make a salad, it wouldn't be miserable for you to make it. Maybe if you werent used to eating soda, drinking water wouldn't seem like a punishment. Maybe if you knew how to make healthy versions of things (it's not that hard, your kids wouldn't be whining for donuts)

I do the "big breakfast buffet" thing too, but it's healthy stuff, not Hostess cupcakes laid out. And anyone who wants to disparage people for that can enjoy their bad health. I will eat my "health food" which is delicious and also nourishing. YOU can enjoy your diabetes. But it's sad to do that to kids

Wowza...you are really projecting.

FTR, I don’t serve hostess cupcakes for breakfast (I don’t believe anyone does). And I don’t drink soda or serve it to my kids. They do enjoy a Shirley Temple or craft root beer when the social event dictates a proper drink.

I eat salad regularly. But when I’m at the beach, I’m eating crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers, etc.

I eat veggies regularly...including on vacation. But I prefer to enjoy local food when traveling. I love conch fritters and mudslides when I’m vacationing in the Caribbean. I love pasta and pizza in Italy. I can eat my weight in cheese and chocolate in France. I’ve been known to find the best local bakery for fresh bread and pastries. While your family eats salad at the resort, my family is eating at some local hole in the wall/off the beaten path restaurant or shack with the locals. I love that my kids prefer the private coves where locals swim than the crowded resorts or touristy beaches. I suspect we burn more calories running around the island or city than resort squatters do.

LOL... and so what would make you think "crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers" would fall into the unhealthy category? Do you know NOTHING about nutrition? Or you just wanted to argue about nothing?

The fact is, different people have different standards for nutrition. You can load your kids up with whatever unhealthy food you want (since that was the POINT of this whole thing- you seem to be veering far off topic into reminiscences of vacations past- snap out of it!) and I will feed my kids nourishing, healthy food. You can set your kids up for a lifetime of eating chicken fingers and fries if you want, my kids will learn to eat greens and healthy proteins and smoothies. You do you, I'll do me. That's the point, capiche? But don't you dare try to shame me for eating healthy "crap"- we'll see what pays off in the long run! Eat as many french fries and pizzas as you want- and enjoy the blowing up waistline!

Will do!

I’ll pray for your children that they don’t inherit your obvious obsession with food and weight. And, I’ll pray you are able to see your future grandchildren...recognizing that your kids’ future in-laws will definitely be the preferred grandparents to vacation with and celebrate holidays. I can picture your thanksgiving feast and the dry mashed potatoes. Hint: you need to add butter, cream and salt.

PS - If you post again, I think we’ll need to give you a nickname. You wouldn’t by any chance happen to be CCCL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

As long as we're playing this game, I know parents like you. Kids wolfing down Ho-hos and donuts and potato chips without a care in the world. Never really eating vegetables. Growing up into fat teens and adults who cry that they have a weight problem and have no clue what to do about it.

You letting your kids eat utter garbage is absolutely setting them up for a decreased quality of life and a myriad of health issues. But enjoy your Oreos as you waddle around the campsite

You’re so wrong.

There’s a difference between eating treats on vacation and eating crap 365 days a year.

We don’t get doughnuts everyday. We do get doughnuts a couple times when on vacation.

We don’t make big breakfasts everyday at home. We do make a big breakfast buffet a few times a week when vacationing with friends and family.

We rarely go out for ice cream at home (not even once a month), but we get ice cream or some other boardwalk treat a few times when on vacation.

See the difference? We lighten up a bit. The kids stay up later, too. It’s a vacation.

Your salad and water vacation sounds miserable. Truly.

Maybe if you knew how to actually make a salad, it wouldn't be miserable for you to make it. Maybe if you werent used to eating soda, drinking water wouldn't seem like a punishment. Maybe if you knew how to make healthy versions of things (it's not that hard, your kids wouldn't be whining for donuts)

I do the "big breakfast buffet" thing too, but it's healthy stuff, not Hostess cupcakes laid out. And anyone who wants to disparage people for that can enjoy their bad health. I will eat my "health food" which is delicious and also nourishing. YOU can enjoy your diabetes. But it's sad to do that to kids

Wowza...you are really projecting.

FTR, I don’t serve hostess cupcakes for breakfast (I don’t believe anyone does). And I don’t drink soda or serve it to my kids. They do enjoy a Shirley Temple or craft root beer when the social event dictates a proper drink.

I eat salad regularly. But when I’m at the beach, I’m eating crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers, etc.

I eat veggies regularly...including on vacation. But I prefer to enjoy local food when traveling. I love conch fritters and mudslides when I’m vacationing in the Caribbean. I love pasta and pizza in Italy. I can eat my weight in cheese and chocolate in France. I’ve been known to find the best local bakery for fresh bread and pastries. While your family eats salad at the resort, my family is eating at some local hole in the wall/off the beaten path restaurant or shack with the locals. I love that my kids prefer the private coves where locals swim than the crowded resorts or touristy beaches. I suspect we burn more calories running around the island or city than resort squatters do.

LOL... and so what would make you think "crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers" would fall into the unhealthy category? Do you know NOTHING about nutrition? Or you just wanted to argue about nothing?

The fact is, different people have different standards for nutrition. You can load your kids up with whatever unhealthy food you want (since that was the POINT of this whole thing- you seem to be veering far off topic into reminiscences of vacations past- snap out of it!) and I will feed my kids nourishing, healthy food. You can set your kids up for a lifetime of eating chicken fingers and fries if you want, my kids will learn to eat greens and healthy proteins and smoothies. You do you, I'll do me. That's the point, capiche? But don't you dare try to shame me for eating healthy "crap"- we'll see what pays off in the long run! Eat as many french fries and pizzas as you want- and enjoy the blowing up waistline!

Will do!

I’ll pray for your children that they don’t inherit your obvious obsession with food and weight. And, I’ll pray you are able to see your future grandchildren...recognizing that your kids’ future in-laws will definitely be the preferred grandparents to vacation with and celebrate holidays. I can picture your thanksgiving feast and the dry mashed potatoes. Hint: you need to add butter, cream and salt.

PS - If you post again, I think we’ll need to give you a nickname. You wouldn’t by any chance happen to be CCCL?

And i'll pray for your kids that they don't inherit your lack of reading ability, argumentativeness, and poor diet! We'll see who's healthier in 30 years, won't we? I can picture your few holidays- with kids that never end up having families of their own because theyre too fat to find a partner!

How about we give you a name, if you post again... maybe? PRCFA?

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Anonymous wrote:It may seem like a silly question but it’s a real struggle for me.

We’re renting a large cabin/lodge in a state park for Labor weekend. There will be 3 families, total 10 people.

We agreed to alternate cooking dinners for the whole group. I explicitly said that I’m bringing breakfast and lunch food for our family only and don’t intend to to feed others for breakfast and lunch.

However, I said that too on our precious weekend together and my friend’s kids ended up eating literally all our breakfast food. Its awkward when our family is eating breakfast and the other kids ask if they can have some of it too and their mom doesn’t say anything. These are not little kids, they’re 11-13 years old.

Anyway, I’m trying to avoid the same situation. What would be an assertive way to handle it?

Put everything on writing and send reminders. Keep half of your food in your luggage.

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Anonymous wrote:Bring more food!
Sorry, but I think the awkward thing is eating in front of people without being able to offer some.

This. It would annoy me to OP, but if you know it's going to happen just bring extra of what you will eat, and share if they ask. It's the kind thing to do.

How would you feel if your friend brought some delicious food items for themselves and your 11 year old wanted to try some? Wouldn't you want/expect that your adult friend share?

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Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This.

Traveling with others is hard. You really need to know people and feel comfortable discussing these issues beforehand.

“Suzy, I’m bringing doughnuts and pop tarts for my kids and fancy cheese and wine for myself. Recognizing that your kids might want some, should we just plan a joint menu and split costs? That way, we’ll make sure we have enough food and we won’t have to deal with any tears when I refuse to share my wine and cheese with you.”

The reality is you and your friends likely have very different approaches to parenting. You might bring plenty of yummy food, while your friends bring a limited number of food their kids seemingly hate. There will be issues unless you address at the outset.

When we travel with friends and family (which we’ve done domestically and internationally), we basically adopt a team mentality. All parents pitch in to help all kids (even if they aren’t your kid); all food is fair game, so we bring plenty. We also agree that any weirdo health freak parenting nonsense won’t apply during vacation. Nobody wants to listen to your poor kid pitch a fit because you won’t let him eat ice cream or drink juice like the other kids.

I'd like to know what you weigh.

I know parents like you. I’ve seen your kids double fist chips and cookies at parties because they aren’t allowed to eat them at home. I listened to moms like you wonder why their daughters have eating disorders.

Eating some fun food while on vacation doesn’t promote obesity. Forbidding treats and making a big deal about sugar and calories absolutely promotes eating disorders and body image issues.

As long as we're playing this game, I know parents like you. Kids wolfing down Ho-hos and donuts and potato chips without a care in the world. Never really eating vegetables. Growing up into fat teens and adults who cry that they have a weight problem and have no clue what to do about it.

You letting your kids eat utter garbage is absolutely setting them up for a decreased quality of life and a myriad of health issues. But enjoy your Oreos as you waddle around the campsite

You’re so wrong.

There’s a difference between eating treats on vacation and eating crap 365 days a year.

We don’t get doughnuts everyday. We do get doughnuts a couple times when on vacation.

We don’t make big breakfasts everyday at home. We do make a big breakfast buffet a few times a week when vacationing with friends and family.

We rarely go out for ice cream at home (not even once a month), but we get ice cream or some other boardwalk treat a few times when on vacation.

See the difference? We lighten up a bit. The kids stay up later, too. It’s a vacation.

Your salad and water vacation sounds miserable. Truly.

Maybe if you knew how to actually make a salad, it wouldn't be miserable for you to make it. Maybe if you werent used to eating soda, drinking water wouldn't seem like a punishment. Maybe if you knew how to make healthy versions of things (it's not that hard, your kids wouldn't be whining for donuts)

I do the "big breakfast buffet" thing too, but it's healthy stuff, not Hostess cupcakes laid out. And anyone who wants to disparage people for that can enjoy their bad health. I will eat my "health food" which is delicious and also nourishing. YOU can enjoy your diabetes. But it's sad to do that to kids

Wowza...you are really projecting.

FTR, I don’t serve hostess cupcakes for breakfast (I don’t believe anyone does). And I don’t drink soda or serve it to my kids. They do enjoy a Shirley Temple or craft root beer when the social event dictates a proper drink.

I eat salad regularly. But when I’m at the beach, I’m eating crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers, etc.

I eat veggies regularly...including on vacation. But I prefer to enjoy local food when traveling. I love conch fritters and mudslides when I’m vacationing in the Caribbean. I love pasta and pizza in Italy. I can eat my weight in cheese and chocolate in France. I’ve been known to find the best local bakery for fresh bread and pastries. While your family eats salad at the resort, my family is eating at some local hole in the wall/off the beaten path restaurant or shack with the locals. I love that my kids prefer the private coves where locals swim than the crowded resorts or touristy beaches. I suspect we burn more calories running around the island or city than resort squatters do.

LOL... and so what would make you think "crabs, crabcakes, shrimp, burgers" would fall into the unhealthy category? Do you know NOTHING about nutrition? Or you just wanted to argue about nothing?

The fact is, different people have different standards for nutrition. You can load your kids up with whatever unhealthy food you want (since that was the POINT of this whole thing- you seem to be veering far off topic into reminiscences of vacations past- snap out of it!) and I will feed my kids nourishing, healthy food. You can set your kids up for a lifetime of eating chicken fingers and fries if you want, my kids will learn to eat greens and healthy proteins and smoothies. You do you, I'll do me. That's the point, capiche? But don't you dare try to shame me for eating healthy "crap"- we'll see what pays off in the long run! Eat as many french fries and pizzas as you want- and enjoy the blowing up waistline!

Will do!

I’ll pray for your children that they don’t inherit your obvious obsession with food and weight. And, I’ll pray you are able to see your future grandchildren...recognizing that your kids’ future in-laws will definitely be the preferred grandparents to vacation with and celebrate holidays. I can picture your thanksgiving feast and the dry mashed potatoes. Hint: you need to add butter, cream and salt.

PS - If you post again, I think we’ll need to give you a nickname. You wouldn’t by any chance happen to be CCCL?

And i'll pray for your kids that they don't inherit your lack of reading ability, argumentativeness, and poor diet! We'll see who's healthier in 30 years, won't we? I can picture your few holidays- with kids that never end up having families of their own because theyre too fat to find a partner!

How about we give you a name, if you post again... maybe? PRCFA?

(Spoken in a hushed voice): Um, Suzy? I think you just confirmed what everyone was thinking. Are you okay? Lashing out at strangers who are clearly just screwing around online isn’t normal. Arguing aggressively with invisible posters and saying mean things about them doesn’t make you the calm, rational person you claim to be. Now that we know how you feel about carbs, can you share where you stand on booze and pills? You might need some...or a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:It may seem like a silly question but it’s a real struggle for me.

We’re renting a large cabin/lodge in a state park for Labor weekend. There will be 3 families, total 10 people.

We agreed to alternate cooking dinners for the whole group. I explicitly said that I’m bringing breakfast and lunch food for our family only and don’t intend to to feed others for breakfast and lunch.

However, I said that too on our precious weekend together and my friend’s kids ended up eating literally all our breakfast food. Its awkward when our family is eating breakfast and the other kids ask if they can have some of it too and their mom doesn’t say anything. These are not little kids, they’re 11-13 years old.

Anyway, I’m trying to avoid the same situation. What would be an assertive way to handle it?

Put everything on writing and send reminders. Keep half of your food in your luggage.

“Keep half of your food in your luggage”???

WTF, people!

(In a hushed tone) “Listen up, Jack and Olivia! Mommy only brought enough organic mush for our family, so I’m keeping it hidden in my suitcase. We’ll wake just before sunrise so we can eat alone in silence in my bedroom. Don’t tell anyone where I’m keeping our food! Remember: only chumps share food!”