Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos

[Anonymous]

Get a grip! The grandmother made a mistake and yes the little boy is upset--not the end of the world and certainly not something that would leave an indelible mark on his life. The mother could mollify the situation by encouraging the boy to rebuild and recreate. The grandmother could help (if the boy allows). There's no need to be so melodramatic.

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Get a grip! The grandmother made a mistake and yes the little boy is upset--not the end of the world and certainly not something that would leave an indelible mark on his life. The mother could mollify the situation by encouraging the boy to rebuild and recreate. The grandmother could help (if the boy allows). There's no need to be so melodramatic.

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Narcissists will always justify asshole behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh he’s 6. No way I’m picking a fight with adults I otherwise get along with because of a 6 year old’s toy, nor am
I subjecting anyone to sorting or rebuilding. If he wants to, he can. If not, whatever.

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Unless you have some reason to believe she did it maliciously, all you have is an old lady who put away some toys and thought she was being helpful. I absolutely would not yell at her or demand she buy my kid anything. I can’t believe you treat your mothers like this.

There's something really wrong with both of you, honestly. I mean that. Unless you have had literally no experience with Lego (in which case you should stay out of the discussion), it seems like you're both as psycho as the grandma. I feel sorry for your kids.

First PP - I have experience with Legos. They are a toy - this lady didn’t take apart a real NASA space shuttle. I also have experience with families and sorry but I won’t treat my parents/ILs poorly bc my 6 yr olds feelings are hurt over a TOY. No I wouldn’t kick her out, make her apologize to a person 1/10th of her age, buy him anything, or subject her to the indentured servitude of sorting and playing with legos. No way. He has to learn that feelings get hurt and when it’s about toys, he has to sort that out and no adult is going to coddle him over it. I mean she didn’t destroy his homework or his prescription glasses?!

Toys are important to children and he worked hard putting the Legos together. His Grandma was wrong no matter what it was

Making a mistake with no malice in the process of doing something positive (cleaning) does not make her wrong in any legitimate way.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh he’s 6. No way I’m picking a fight with adults I otherwise get along with because of a 6 year old’s toy, nor am
I subjecting anyone to sorting or rebuilding. If he wants to, he can. If not, whatever.

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Unless you have some reason to believe she did it maliciously, all you have is an old lady who put away some toys and thought she was being helpful. I absolutely would not yell at her or demand she buy my kid anything. I can’t believe you treat your mothers like this.

There's something really wrong with both of you, honestly. I mean that. Unless you have had literally no experience with Lego (in which case you should stay out of the discussion), it seems like you're both as psycho as the grandma. I feel sorry for your kids.

First PP - I have experience with Legos. They are a toy - this lady didn’t take apart a real NASA space shuttle. I also have experience with families and sorry but I won’t treat my parents/ILs poorly bc my 6 yr olds feelings are hurt over a TOY. No I wouldn’t kick her out, make her apologize to a person 1/10th of her age, buy him anything, or subject her to the indentured servitude of sorting and playing with legos. No way. He has to learn that feelings get hurt and when it’s about toys, he has to sort that out and no adult is going to coddle him over it. I mean she didn’t destroy his homework or his prescription glasses?!

Toys are important to children and he worked hard putting the Legos together. His Grandma was wrong no matter what it was

Making a mistake with no malice in the process of doing something positive (cleaning) does not make her wrong in any legitimate way.

And then you apologize. That’s what any loving grandma would do. You do not scold a child for being upset. If you can’t understand this basic issue, there’s something wrong with YOU too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents are staying this week and this morning I hear my son 6 start crying(he isn’t a crier.) Before anyone woke up she decided to “clean” the playroom” and took apart all of sons LEGO sets and mixed them together. When she saw how upset he was, she scolded him for not cleaning them up. He was mostly upset about the brand new Minecraft legos that he got for Christmas that he has worked for days on. They were on a kid table, so they certainly weren’t in her way, I can’t figure out why she felt the need to take apart already put together legos. Wasn’t like it was a bunch of scattered legos on the floor.

Your mother is an idiot.

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She made an honest mistake. Two of them. When she cleaned up your Lego’s when you were a kid they were all probably random blocks. I do t remember huge special $100 sets. So she made a mistake cleaning the blocks. Then she made another mistake scolding your son because she was working from faulty knowledge that they were just old blocks laying around. Your mom should apologize. If she is a good grandma then maybe she should help your son sort. It is on you to buy a new set if you want to. Your son needs to learn that people make mistakes. And that Lego’s are really just toys.

[Anonymous]

Wow this thread!
OP your mom sounds like she has a hard time apologizing. I think sometimes old people do weird things. How is she neurologically?

I would replace the set for my child.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.

How old are your kids?

6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.

Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.

Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.

A 6-year old must leave a note in case grandma wants to tidy his room? Do you know how idiotic you sound?

Not his room. The playroom, which is for everybody. Just like if someone has claimed a final brownie, they put their name on it so everyone else knows not to eat it.

In reading this thread originally, I somehow missed this gem. Who leaves notes on brownies??

But more to the point, who makes a 6 year old leave a note?

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Anonymous wrote:My parents are staying this week and this morning I hear my son 6 start crying(he isn’t a crier.) Before anyone woke up she decided to “clean” the playroom” and took apart all of sons LEGO sets and mixed them together. When she saw how upset he was, she scolded him for not cleaning them up. He was mostly upset about the brand new Minecraft legos that he got for Christmas that he has worked for days on. They were on a kid table, so they certainly weren’t in her way, I can’t figure out why she felt the need to take apart already put together legos. Wasn’t like it was a bunch of scattered legos on the floor.

Your mother is an idiot.

She’s a mean idiot.

[Anonymous]

Awww, no! That's for the birds! It sounds like an honest mistake and I agree with the pp who said that your mom probably didn't know the effort that went into building the sets.

She seems sorry- I would just move on from it. Explain to your DS that grandma didn't know.

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Your mom has to separate out all the pieces into their respective sets. Then she’ll understand how much painstaking effort it is on the part of a SIX year old to put these together. Hand her the booklets, pour the legos on the dining room table, and tell her that’s her consequence. Other people can help, but she has to make a sincere effort before you let her off the hook.

This. Your mom sucks.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh he’s 6. No way I’m picking a fight with adults I otherwise get along with because of a 6 year old’s toy, nor am
I subjecting anyone to sorting or rebuilding. If he wants to, he can. If not, whatever.

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Unless you have some reason to believe she did it maliciously, all you have is an old lady who put away some toys and thought she was being helpful. I absolutely would not yell at her or demand she buy my kid anything. I can’t believe you treat your mothers like this.

Agree. The worst thing about the internet is that I have discovered that most people are horrible, selfish beings. Grandmas clean up. They try to help. If your kid is “devastated” by this then he has a pretty charmed life.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh he’s 6. No way I’m picking a fight with adults I otherwise get along with because of a 6 year old’s toy, nor am
I subjecting anyone to sorting or rebuilding. If he wants to, he can. If not, whatever.

+1

Unless you have some reason to believe she did it maliciously, all you have is an old lady who put away some toys and thought she was being helpful. I absolutely would not yell at her or demand she buy my kid anything. I can’t believe you treat your mothers like this.

There's something really wrong with both of you, honestly. I mean that. Unless you have had literally no experience with Lego (in which case you should stay out of the discussion), it seems like you're both as psycho as the grandma. I feel sorry for your kids.

First PP - I have experience with Legos. They are a toy - this lady didn’t take apart a real NASA space shuttle. I also have experience with families and sorry but I won’t treat my parents/ILs poorly bc my 6 yr olds feelings are hurt over a TOY. No I wouldn’t kick her out, make her apologize to a person 1/10th of her age, buy him anything, or subject her to the indentured servitude of sorting and playing with legos. No way. He has to learn that feelings get hurt and when it’s about toys, he has to sort that out and no adult is going to coddle him over it. I mean she didn’t destroy his homework or his prescription glasses?!

Toys are important to children and he worked hard putting the Legos together. His Grandma was wrong no matter what it was

Making a mistake with no malice in the process of doing something positive (cleaning) does not make her wrong in any legitimate way.

Scolding a child who was upset at her mistake does make her wrong. Refusing to apologize face-to-face does make her wrong. Refusing to admit her mistake does make her wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She made an honest mistake. Two of them. When she cleaned up your Lego’s when you were a kid they were all probably random blocks. I do t remember huge special $100 sets. So she made a mistake cleaning the blocks. Then she made another mistake scolding your son because she was working from faulty knowledge that they were just old blocks laying around. Your mom should apologize. If she is a good grandma then maybe she should help your son sort. It is on you to buy a new set if you want to. Your son needs to learn that people make mistakes. And that Lego’s are really just toys.

Bull pucky. I had the castle with the hill baseplate. My sister had the pirate ship. My brother got something with another raised baseplate (tan), although I don’t remember exactly what it was. All in the 1990s. My uncle had a huge Star Wars collection, 1980s. The biggest difference is that the big sets usually came with a base plate, and now they don’t.

She took apart multiple sets and mixed them together. It’s likely several hundred dollars to buy them again. I vote for grandma sorting the pieces.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.

How old are your kids?

6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.

Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.

Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.

A 6-year old must leave a note in case grandma wants to tidy his room? Do you know how idiotic you sound?

Not his room. The playroom, which is for everybody. Just like if someone has claimed a final brownie, they put their name on it so everyone else knows not to eat it.

In reading this thread originally, I somehow missed this gem. Who leaves notes on brownies??

But more to the point, who makes a 6 year old leave a note?

This was such a bizarre point. Living with her would be a nightmare, especially with all those notes around the house.