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Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I really appreciate others who have shared their stories or the ones that brought to the surface the gaslighting responses. I do believe as one of the first posters said that the mean mom attitude is more pervasive in some places more than others. I think our school does for various reasons attract social climbers. We chose the school because it was close and small. Thinking of re-evaluating.
I wish one mean mom would come out and be honest about why they are mean. I’ve read ever single response so far. Thanks for the supportive responses which have been really helpful. The ones posted by the mean moms who either blame the targets or claim they are clueless are hysterical.
I have my own friends butI just can’t fathom why someone won’t look at me. It’s so bizarre and hurtful.
It's quite possible they have $hit social skills or even social anxiety. Not that it excuses rudeness, of course. But I know a bunch of people who seem normal/socially confident but are not. They've just found their way into a group where they feel safe and comfortable so they stick exclusively with those people they already know.
The people I'm thinking about happen to be really judgmental -- of other people, yes, but also of themselves. It's probably a big part of the social anxiety -- they assume everyone else is judging them (and each other) the way they're judging themselves and others. It's a dark view of human nature and friendship, and it causes some people to stick with the crowd they know and exclude everyone else.
To state the obvious, you're so much better off without all that silliness. Assume other people have issues (we all do . . . ) and find people who are easy to be with. There are plenty out there -- you just need to keep looking.
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