YES, a thousand times, yes. Let this stuff go. The more you look for it, the more you see it. |
Exactly. We will roll our eyes, do what you say so we don't have to hear your sing-song voice saying loudly passive aggressive things, and the children on the playground will behave in line with how you want them to behave to maximize your own child's enjoyment of the equipment. And you will somehow think you are the one teaching your kid how to roll with the punches and be a good member of the group. |
...says the parent who doesn’t give a sh!t when their kid hits other kids on the playground. |
Definitely not. Don't be ridiculous. I am capable of giving my kid firm, direct boundaries when necessary (unlike the sing-song voice passive aggressive moms who talk about "in our family we don't hit! maybe other families are different!"). |
It’s so fun to read everyone’s internal monologue of what everyone else is doing wrong. |
manhandling your kids is not evidence of good parenting |
what's this in response to |
Ok so if you are giving your kid “firm, direct boundaries” then this obviously isn’t aimed at you. However, if your kid hits my kid and my kid moves to hit back, I will immediately stop my kid and say (no sing-song involved) that just because someone else hits does not mean they (my kid) may also hit and perhaps the other kid has different rules. Where’s the problem? |
Definitely not. Don't be ridiculous. I am capable of giving my kid firm, direct boundaries when necessary (unlike the sing-song voice passive aggressive moms who talk about "in our family we don't hit! maybe other families are different!"). Ok so if you are giving your kid “firm, direct boundaries” then this obviously isn’t aimed at you. However, if your kid hits my kid and my kid moves to hit back, I will immediately stop my kid and say (no sing-song involved) that just because someone else hits does not mean they (my kid) may also hit and perhaps the other kid has different rules. Where’s the problem? I'm also wondering what the problem with explaining that other kids have different rules is. My kids often ask why other kids are doing things that I have asked them not to and the explanation is: "Different parents have different rules." |
Because you know good and well no family has rules that allow hitting. the "perhaps the other kid has different rules" is passive aggressive x1000. The parents probably didn't see. Stop being That Mom. |
Ok so if you are giving your kid “firm, direct boundaries” then this obviously isn’t aimed at you. However, if your kid hits my kid and my kid moves to hit back, I will immediately stop my kid and say (no sing-song involved) that just because someone else hits does not mean they (my kid) may also hit and perhaps the other kid has different rules. Where’s the problem? I'm also wondering what the problem with explaining that other kids have different rules is. My kids often ask why other kids are doing things that I have asked them not to and the explanation is: "Different parents have different rules." "different rules" is for things like eating only at the table and wearing shoes in the house, playing in mud puddles and procedures for taking turns. NOT hitting and you know it. |
I used to feel this way because it’s how I was raised. Then one day my DD and I were pushed around the playground by a couple of boys who ended up throwing things at her. I completely lost my cool and yelled at them (making them cry, ha). I thought it over when I got home a realized “it’s okay for others to hit because that’s there family rules, but you can’t hit back” wasn’t something I wanted to teach my daughter. Neither was passive aggressiveness. Both of those have held women back from speaking their minds and standing up for themselves. I also don’t want her to NOT defend herself if I’m not around and someone has really bad intentions because she’s learned it’s okay for others to hurt her Now I have no problem reprimanding other kids, or I’ll tell them to go find their parent, or I’ll tell a parent to please watch their kid because he’s hitting. I’m sure it pisses some parents off but my job is to raise my own kid, not to make sure their kid never has hurt feelings. |
I'm also wondering what the problem with explaining that other kids have different rules is. My kids often ask why other kids are doing things that I have asked them not to and the explanation is: "Different parents have different rules." "different rules" is for things like eating only at the table and wearing shoes in the house, playing in mud puddles and procedures for taking turns. NOT hitting and you know it. There are a ton of parents who don’t seem care if their kid hits other children. Usually the sing-song voice is from the hitting kid’s parent, barely looking up from their phone and certainly not coming over to do anything about it saying oh sweetie, hands aren’t for hitting. |
If another kid hits my kid, and their parent isn’t doing anything, I will say something to the kid. Hitting is assault and as an adult you go to jail for it. It’s not really an optional thing to allow children to hit. |
Yes! Thank you! This is exactly how I parent, and I find that most other parents (moms especially) do not want so much as a little hair on their precious child’s head to be mussed. Not exactly realistic, and not exactly the way to build resilient kids. |