I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T

[Anonymous]

My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Look people-don’t be stupid. #boymom is used to keep our sanity in a world where moms of boys deal with constant pressure to make their boys “behave”, “reign it in”, or whatever. Things like personal hygiene, table manners, indoor voices, are just not as easy to teach to boys as it is to the *majority* of little girls, of course there are exceptions. But you just don’t need to exercise little girls like you need little boys.

I have mom friends with just boys and we literally text each other things like, “hey-I’m heading to the park to run the boys, want to join?”

“RUN the boys”

#boymom

Here's why it is so hard to relate to a #BOYMOM versus a mom of boys.

You cannot offer any form of commisseration, identification, sympathy/empathy, or relating to them without them completely dismissing you and trying to diminish you because YOU JUST CAN'T because you're a mother to girls. So you can't know.

So even if your girl is hoarse from shouting, a skinned knee from tree-climbing, covered in dirt and holding up a random animal tooth for inspection, as my oldest girl was today, you just. can't. possibly. because #BOYMOM.

So go ahead, #boymom. I'll stop trying to connect with you or relate to you, or encouraging my kids to play with yours. And then I'll be a snobby, standoffish #girlmom, and you'll continue to be so "unseen."

This is so mental.

Completely. She’s nuts!

Well done, ladies. "I don't agree with someone, and can't see her perspective, so she's CRAZY!" No mysoginistic man could have played it any better. Very mature. Why post counter-points and ask questions when you can simply go from discussion to "She Crazy"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so mental.

This whole thread is insane

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Look people-don’t be stupid. #boymom is used to keep our sanity in a world where moms of boys deal with constant pressure to make their boys “behave”, “reign it in”, or whatever. Things like personal hygiene, table manners, indoor voices, are just not as easy to teach to boys as it is to the *majority* of little girls, of course there are exceptions. But you just don’t need to exercise little girls like you need little boys.

I have mom friends with just boys and we literally text each other things like, “hey-I’m heading to the park to run the boys, want to join?”

“RUN the boys”

#boymom

Here's why it is so hard to relate to a #BOYMOM versus a mom of boys.

You cannot offer any form of commisseration, identification, sympathy/empathy, or relating to them without them completely dismissing you and trying to diminish you because YOU JUST CAN'T because you're a mother to girls. So you can't know.

So even if your girl is hoarse from shouting, a skinned knee from tree-climbing, covered in dirt and holding up a random animal tooth for inspection, as my oldest girl was today, you just. can't. possibly. because #BOYMOM.

So go ahead, #boymom. I'll stop trying to connect with you or relate to you, or encouraging my kids to play with yours. And then I'll be a snobby, standoffish #girlmom, and you'll continue to be so "unseen."

This is so mental.

Completely. She’s nuts!

Well done, ladies. "I don't agree with someone, and can't see her perspective, so she's CRAZY!" No mysoginistic man could have played it any better. Very mature. Why post counter-points and ask questions when you can simply go from discussion to "She Crazy"?

I can see both sides of the #boymom and other side discussion. But the PP is mental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look people-don’t be stupid. #boymom is used to keep our sanity in a world where moms of boys deal with constant pressure to make their boys “behave”, “reign it in”, or whatever. Things like personal hygiene, table manners, indoor voices, are just not as easy to teach to boys as it is to the *majority* of little girls, of course there are exceptions. But you just don’t need to exercise little girls like you need little boys.

I have mom friends with just boys and we literally text each other things like, “hey-I’m heading to the park to run the boys, want to join?”

“RUN the boys”

#boymom

Here's why it is so hard to relate to a #BOYMOM versus a mom of boys.

You cannot offer any form of commisseration, identification, sympathy/empathy, or relating to them without them completely dismissing you and trying to diminish you because YOU JUST CAN'T because you're a mother to girls. So you can't know.

So even if your girl is hoarse from shouting, a skinned knee from tree-climbing, covered in dirt and holding up a random animal tooth for inspection, as my oldest girl was today, you just. can't. possibly. because #BOYMOM.

So go ahead, #boymom. I'll stop trying to connect with you or relate to you, or encouraging my kids to play with yours. And then I'll be a snobby, standoffish #girlmom, and you'll continue to be so "unseen."

This is so mental.

Completely. She’s nuts!

Well done, ladies. "I don't agree with someone, and can't see her perspective, so she's CRAZY!" No mysoginistic man could have played it any better. Very mature. Why post counter-points and ask questions when you can simply go from discussion to "She Crazy"?

I think (based on the random capitalization and weird punctuation, you are the same poster. It’s not that I don’t see your perspective. It’s your rant was...mental.

[Anonymous]

Ah, growing up in the good ol' days, when some neighborhood families had a mix of boys and girls, some had only boys, some had only girls, and some had only children. And everyone played and got along and hung out, or not, and there was no need for group therapy or Causes over what kind of family you had.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Look people-don’t be stupid. #boymom is used to keep our sanity in a world where moms of boys deal with constant pressure to make their boys “behave”, “reign it in”, or whatever. Things like personal hygiene, table manners, indoor voices, are just not as easy to teach to boys as it is to the *majority* of little girls, of course there are exceptions. But you just don’t need to exercise little girls like you need little boys.

I have mom friends with just boys and we literally text each other things like, “hey-I’m heading to the park to run the boys, want to join?”

“RUN the boys”

#boymom

Here's why it is so hard to relate to a #BOYMOM versus a mom of boys.

You cannot offer any form of commisseration, identification, sympathy/empathy, or relating to them without them completely dismissing you and trying to diminish you because YOU JUST CAN'T because you're a mother to girls. So you can't know.

So even if your girl is hoarse from shouting, a skinned knee from tree-climbing, covered in dirt and holding up a random animal tooth for inspection, as my oldest girl was today, you just. can't. possibly. because #BOYMOM.

So go ahead, #boymom. I'll stop trying to connect with you or relate to you, or encouraging my kids to play with yours. And then I'll be a snobby, standoffish #girlmom, and you'll continue to be so "unseen."

This is so mental.

Completely. She’s nuts!

Well done, ladies. "I don't agree with someone, and can't see her perspective, so she's CRAZY!" No mysoginistic man could have played it any better. Very mature. Why post counter-points and ask questions when you can simply go from discussion to "She Crazy"?

I can see both sides of the #boymom and other side discussion. But the PP is mental.

How is she mental? Or crazy or whatever? She’s highlighting a difference that is present in raising boys vs girls. I love the idea that there aren’t gender norms too, I bought my boys dolls and play kitchens, and you know what? They just wanted to push the trucks around.

For some reason moms of girls have a really hard time conceding that raising boys is different.
Obviously there’s something moms of boys perceive as different or harder, otherwise #boymom wouldn’t exist.

I don’t think it’s because moms of boys are jealous and dying for a girl. That’s a crazy leap of logic! I’d even call it “mental”. “My friend is doing IVF for a girl, so the boymoms out there need this hashtag?” What?! Obviously it’s because moms of boys feel the need to be acknowledged in some way!

I will also share this: my 10 year old hosted a playdate today with 3 boys and 2 girls. I kicked them outside because it was so nice. Girls climbed trees, rode the zip line, played with the dog. Boys did the same. Boys also threw pine cones and huge piles of dried leaves at each other, raced around with sticks playing war, and finally settled down to play “obstacle broom ball”. Girls watched from
the treehouse, occasionally saying “pathetic” and “gross” about their rough play.

That attitude & judgement about rowdy boy play comes from somewhere...probably their mothers.

So maybe the #boymom phenomena is in response to the crap and judgement put out there by society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look people-don’t be stupid. #boymom is used to keep our sanity in a world where moms of boys deal with constant pressure to make their boys “behave”, “reign it in”, or whatever. Things like personal hygiene, table manners, indoor voices, are just not as easy to teach to boys as it is to the *majority* of little girls, of course there are exceptions. But you just don’t need to exercise little girls like you need little boys.

I have mom friends with just boys and we literally text each other things like, “hey-I’m heading to the park to run the boys, want to join?”

“RUN the boys”

#boymom

Here's why it is so hard to relate to a #BOYMOM versus a mom of boys.

You cannot offer any form of commisseration, identification, sympathy/empathy, or relating to them without them completely dismissing you and trying to diminish you because YOU JUST CAN'T because you're a mother to girls. So you can't know.

So even if your girl is hoarse from shouting, a skinned knee from tree-climbing, covered in dirt and holding up a random animal tooth for inspection, as my oldest girl was today, you just. can't. possibly. because #BOYMOM.

So go ahead, #boymom. I'll stop trying to connect with you or relate to you, or encouraging my kids to play with yours. And then I'll be a snobby, standoffish #girlmom, and you'll continue to be so "unseen."

This is so mental.

Completely. She’s nuts!

Well done, ladies. "I don't agree with someone, and can't see her perspective, so she's CRAZY!" No mysoginistic man could have played it any better. Very mature. Why post counter-points and ask questions when you can simply go from discussion to "She Crazy"?

I can see both sides of the #boymom and other side discussion. But the PP is mental.

How is she mental? Or crazy or whatever? She’s highlighting a difference that is present in raising boys vs girls. I love the idea that there aren’t gender norms too, I bought my boys dolls and play kitchens, and you know what? They just wanted to push the trucks around.

For some reason moms of girls have a really hard time conceding that raising boys is different.
Obviously there’s something moms of boys perceive as different or harder, otherwise #boymom wouldn’t exist.

I don’t think it’s because moms of boys are jealous and dying for a girl. That’s a crazy leap of logic! I’d even call it “mental”. “My friend is doing IVF for a girl, so the boymoms out there need this hashtag?” What?! Obviously it’s because moms of boys feel the need to be acknowledged in some way!

I will also share this: my 10 year old hosted a playdate today with 3 boys and 2 girls. I kicked them outside because it was so nice. Girls climbed trees, rode the zip line, played with the dog. Boys did the same. Boys also threw pine cones and huge piles of dried leaves at each other, raced around with sticks playing war, and finally settled down to play “obstacle broom ball”. Girls watched from
the treehouse, occasionally saying “pathetic” and “gross” about their rough play.

That attitude & judgement about rowdy boy play comes from somewhere...probably their mothers.

So maybe the #boymom phenomena is in response to the crap and judgement put out there by society.

You are so judgemental it’s unreal.

[Anonymous]

How do ' boy moms' know raising boys is different than girls if they don't have one?
I have both and my girl is far far more out spoken and high energy than my son. He is chill, laid back and doesn't need to be taken out for a run. They both love to play in the dirt, with dolls, with cars, with tea sets.
It is the child that matters, not their gender. There is no one size fits all kid or mom.
I honestly believe 'boy moms' characterize their boys and label them creating a self fulfilling prophecy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yeah, girls are so mean, right? Mean, mean, mean girls. I mean, thank goodness you won't have to worry about your middle school boy or high school boy like, raping someone with a broom or something...

Oh, WAIT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

Hi, crazy PP!