Ex husband and wife throwing a birthday party for our child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NO sense in being jealous because some were able to move on successfully, and made a good situation out of a bad one.

OP your daughter is 10, luckily not 2 or 3. It sounds like it's going to work out very well for you. Please update us after the party!

I will. It's on Saturday!

[Anonymous]

Good luck OP! I think you made the right decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NO sense in being jealous because some were able to move on successfully, and made a good situation out of a bad one.

OP your daughter is 10, luckily not 2 or 3. It sounds like it's going to work out very well for you. Please update us after the party!

I will. It's on Saturday!

She's the one who should be nervous, certainly ashamed at what she did to your family OP. Honestly I can't believe the nerve of these two. IMO He should have done a dinner with his daughter, let you guys have a party or have her friends for a sleep over. OP they sound like a couple of dip shits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NO sense in being jealous because some were able to move on successfully, and made a good situation out of a bad one.

OP your daughter is 10, luckily not 2 or 3. It sounds like it's going to work out very well for you. Please update us after the party!

I will. It's on Saturday!

She's the one who should be nervous, certainly ashamed at what she did to your family OP. Honestly I can't believe the nerve of these two. IMO He should have done a dinner with his daughter, let you guys have a party or have her friends for a sleep over. OP they sound like a couple of dip shits.

You would think, but neither of them are ashamed of what they did. They're happy and in love and I just need to get over it and move on like they have with theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NO sense in being jealous because some were able to move on successfully, and made a good situation out of a bad one.

OP your daughter is 10, luckily not 2 or 3. It sounds like it's going to work out very well for you. Please update us after the party!

I will. It's on Saturday!

She's the one who should be nervous, certainly ashamed at what she did to your family OP. Honestly I can't believe the nerve of these two. IMO He should have done a dinner with his daughter, let you guys have a party or have her friends for a sleep over. OP they sound like a couple of dip shits.

You would think, but neither of them are ashamed of what they did. They're happy and in love and I just need to get over it and move on like they have with theirs.

They might be. How would you know? They're not going to wear a sign that says "I was an adulterer four years ago" for the rest of their lives. If they're the type of people to invite you into their home for a birthday party, I bet there is some part of them that regrets the way things happened and wish it had gone differently.

[Anonymous]

If they regretted it, they would have apologized or something.

[Anonymous]

Good luck OP, come back and tell us how it went!!

[Anonymous]

OP here, it was a little awkward, but I survived. Outside of saying hi, my ex and I didn't speak. His wife didn't acknowledge me at all nor did his other family members with the exception of his mom. DD however enjoyed her birthday and was glad that I came.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, it was a little awkward, but I survived. Outside of saying hi, my ex and I didn't speak. His wife didn't acknowledge me at all nor did his other family members with the exception of his mom. DD however enjoyed her birthday and was glad that I came.

Thanks for the update.
Sounds a bit awkward - ex-DH didn't speak to you?
Glad you went - I'm sure your DD is happy.
I hope you have a party for her next year regardless of what they are doing.

[Anonymous]

Good for you, OP. You got through it. It was hard, but you did the right thing. It sounds awkward, but if anyone should feel badly, it's them. They wrecked your marriage and made things harder for your DD. She probably needed you there, and your presence made it feel like it was a real birthday party. If you were absent, it would have felt to her as though someone really important was missing, and that would have made it less of a celebration. It's hard being the adult in the room, but you did it, OP. Congratulate yourself.

Oh, and DH's family sounds like a mess! None of them except for his mom acknowledged you! Were they all in favor of his divorce? Geeze. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, it was a little awkward, but I survived. Outside of saying hi, my ex and I didn't speak. His wife didn't acknowledge me at all nor did his other family members with the exception of his mom. DD however enjoyed her birthday and was glad that I came.

Thanks for the update.
Sounds a bit awkward - ex-DH didn't speak to you?
Glad you went - I'm sure your DD is happy.
I hope you have a party for her next year regardless of what they are doing.

Other than saying hi, he didn't say anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good for you, OP. You got through it. It was hard, but you did the right thing. It sounds awkward, but if anyone should feel badly, it's them. They wrecked your marriage and made things harder for your DD. She probably needed you there, and your presence made it feel like it was a real birthday party. If you were absent, it would have felt to her as though someone really important was missing, and that would have made it less of a celebration. It's hard being the adult in the room, but you did it, OP. Congratulate yourself.

Oh, and DH's family sounds like a mess! None of them except for his mom acknowledged you! Were they all in favor of his divorce? Geeze. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree!!

Probably, one his cousins and his friend's wife introduced him to his current wife...after we were already married!

[Anonymous]

Good job, OP! Next time it will be easier. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, it was a little awkward, but I survived. Outside of saying hi, my ex and I didn't speak. His wife didn't acknowledge me at all nor did his other family members with the exception of his mom. DD however enjoyed her birthday and was glad that I came.

Thanks for the update.
Sounds a bit awkward - ex-DH didn't speak to you?
Glad you went - I'm sure your DD is happy.
I hope you have a party for her next year regardless of what they are doing.

Other than saying hi, he didn't say anything.

Well, he must have some understanding of what an ass he is then.
Hope things get easier for you in the future and that you have much joy in your life soon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I wouldn't be able to go and pretend to be nice. My face would betray my disgust at those two. I wouldn't give them more ammunition to talk about you after you leave. This is a bad idea.

No, she should go and be mature about it. No bringing a hot date with her, either. If she went and was cheerful and pleasant to both of them, that would actually sting them pretty good.

Regardless of the circumstances of the breakup, the OP will unavoidably have to deal with her Ex and his new wife in various offspring-related events. Might as well steel herself to deal with it now.

But the other woman living in OPs house that she and her ex husband bought right before he dropped the news? That OP picked out but never got to live in due to that whore and her cheating husband?!?

This goes beyond being the bigger person.

What a bitch that new wife is.