This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. You don't exactly sound like a nice person yourself. I mean, from the first sentence I could tell you were one of "those" women.

Do you also nag and micromanage? Are you big on telling him not only what to do but how to do it?

I did not tell him a thing how to do this GS cookie situation. He totally ran with it.

Here we are.

Ha. You aint slick. You totally did that on purpose.lol. you knew he would fail.

According to you OP is wrong no matter what. He messed up and refuses to 1. begin to understand he messed up. and 2. attempt to fix it. He feels like super dad for acting like a dad, she has to fix it and is left looking like a joyless harpy for the sin of being a responsible human being who can count.

No, she doesn't. Put the cookies in a box and put them up where no one can eat them by mistake. When someone complains about not getting their cookies, say "Talk to DH. He was in charge of cookies this year."

Don't even deal with it. Not OP's problem. DH did or didn't make a mistake. He is perfectly capable of solving his own mistakes. You don't have to yell or be mad. You don't have to do anything.

[Anonymous]

This whole story just doesn't sound right to me. OP, I'm dying to hear what actually happened. Did he forget to deliver to whole households, or did he short a bunch of households. Why has nobody spoken up? I start harassing my coworker in early February if she hasn't delivered my cookies! And BTW, her child is from a troop (Charles County MD) where parents are required to purchase whole cases, so if the child sells 3 cases of Thin Mints plus one box, mom has to purchase 4 cases.

[Anonymous]

I can't speak for OP's neighborhood, but when my kids sell the cub scout popcorn, the neighbors know us a little bit, but they don't know exactly where we live and they wouldn't know how to contact us if there was a problem with the order. They might silently seethe if they paid for it and didn't receive it. It costs a lot more than the cookies ($10-$60 per package).

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Anonymous wrote:I recently had issue with my daughters cookie orders and me and my wife had a discrepancies over the cookies that I sold at my job not once did it turned into an issue I just we both offered to pay the difference and try a way to handle better the next time. really not worth arguing with my wife over a few dollars and we BOTH understand that.

How many of your friends paid for cookies but didn't receive any? Are they mad? Did you reimburse them for the money you took from them? If everyone received their orders, and the money was just a little off in the end, THIS ISN'T THE SAME PROBLEM. OP's neighbors were robbed if they didn't get the cookies the paid for. How many of your coworkers did you steal from?

We reorder the cookies and just took the loss. I'm thinking my kids took a some to eat and didn't ask. That's my thought of what happened. My wife may think I just screwed up the order but never really pushed issue. She said she thought I made a counting error I disagreed. She said she'll pay the difference. I told her I do it because it my error
even thought I didn't think it was. $28 no big deal not worth arguing over.

Oh, you admitted your error and corrected the issue? THEN THIS IS NOT THE SAME PROBLEM.

I didn't admit to being wrong I just wanted to fix the issue, again in my mind my kids ate the cookies. I'm not taking responsibility we both just wanted to rectify the issue. She volunterred to pay for lost cookies even if it wasn't her issue.

[Anonymous]

Just a note to say I'm with you OP. I have a similar DH who can't seem to handle even these "easy" tasks and it is maddening how I have to do everything.

I've decided that it is just because he doesn't care enough to get it right. If it mattered to him, he would do it (as evidenced by his excellent job performance). For some reason, in his mind, tasks like this don't require his full effort and attention. I don't know if he has admitted this to himself, but I see it clearly.

But don't think he can't tell me about the youtube video he watched today or what XYZ was posted on facebook or what fantasy sports are doing ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This whole story just doesn't sound right to me. OP, I'm dying to hear what actually happened. Did he forget to deliver to whole households, or did he short a bunch of households. Why has nobody spoken up? I start harassing my coworker in early February if she hasn't delivered my cookies! And BTW, her child is from a troop (Charles County MD) where parents are required to purchase whole cases, so if the child sells 3 cases of Thin Mints plus one box, mom has to purchase 4 cases.

Not OP, but I can imagine what happened. OP brings home boxes of cookies. Dad loads them in car and sets of with DD and the list, but no plan. Decides not to deliver them in the order they are listed on the form because that would involve some backtracking and he knows the most efficient way to get this done. Doesn't have a writing instrument in the vehicle so he can't check-off the names as he goes. Sometimes DD grabs the cookies from the boxes and DH doesn't bother to double-check to make sure she's got what she needs. After the first few deliveries, it gets confusing. DD and DH are both getting tired and hungry and crabby. Okay, I think we're done, let's go home. Wow, leftovers! Told you so DW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a note to say I'm with you OP. I have a similar DH who can't seem to handle even these "easy" tasks and it is maddening how I have to do everything.

I've decided that it is just because he doesn't care enough to get it right. If it mattered to him, he would do it (as evidenced by his excellent job performance). For some reason, in his mind, tasks like this don't require his full effort and attention. I don't know if he has admitted this to himself, but I see it clearly.

But don't think he can't tell me about the youtube video he watched today or what XYZ was posted on facebook or what fantasy sports are doing ...

Do you love him less because he can't do these "easy" task.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I recently had issue with my daughters cookie orders and me and my wife had a discrepancies over the cookies that I sold at my job not once did it turned into an issue I just we both offered to pay the difference and try a way to handle better the next time. really not worth arguing with my wife over a few dollars and we BOTH understand that.

How many of your friends paid for cookies but didn't receive any? Are they mad? Did you reimburse them for the money you took from them? If everyone received their orders, and the money was just a little off in the end, THIS ISN'T THE SAME PROBLEM. OP's neighbors were robbed if they didn't get the cookies the paid for. How many of your coworkers did you steal from?

We reorder the cookies and just took the loss. I'm thinking my kids took a some to eat and didn't ask. That's my thought of what happened. My wife may think I just screwed up the order but never really pushed issue. She said she thought I made a counting error I disagreed. She said she'll pay the difference. I told her I do it because it my error
even thought I didn't think it was. $28 no big deal not worth arguing over.

Oh, you admitted your error and corrected the issue? THEN THIS IS NOT THE SAME PROBLEM.

I didn't admit to being wrong I just wanted to fix the issue, again in my mind my kids ate the cookies. I'm not taking responsibility we both just wanted to rectify the issue. She volunterred to pay for lost cookies even if it wasn't her issue.

Really, you all don't know exactly what happened to those boxes but the bottom line is you both agreed to fix the issue. That's the important thing. You didn't just get hungry one day, eat 7 boxes of cookie yourself and then just choose not to deliver your orders.

[Anonymous]

People don't speak up because they don't have your phone number or email address and they may know the general location of your house, but they're not completely sure. Who is going to ring the doorbell of a random house that may or may be the home of the girl scout and ask for two boxes of cookies?

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.

What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?

Are you facebook friends or have email addresses for your neighbors? Could you post/message to everyone, "hey girl scout cookies are in. if you haven't received your order, let me know before DH eats them."

This works.

I am not sure why people are on your back OP. It is simple. You mention and order sheet so I have to wonder what happened to it.
It the sheet had 100 boxes, you got 100 boxes, then 100 boxes should have been delivered.
Maybe your husband is the recipient for the cookies.

At this point there is not a lot you can do. If this was not a pre-pay situation then you just have to pay for the cookies yourself.
If it is a pre-pay, your husband need to figure out where the "left-overs" go.

I get your frustration. Why do some people make the simplest thing so hard?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.

What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?

If they notice a missing box of cookies, they will contact you. Chill out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just a note to say I'm with you OP. I have a similar DH who can't seem to handle even these "easy" tasks and it is maddening how I have to do everything.

I've decided that it is just because he doesn't care enough to get it right. If it mattered to him, he would do it (as evidenced by his excellent job performance). For some reason, in his mind, tasks like this don't require his full effort and attention. I don't know if he has admitted this to himself, but I see it clearly.

But don't think he can't tell me about the youtube video he watched today or what XYZ was posted on facebook or what fantasy sports are doing ...

Do you love him less because he can't do these "easy" task.

No, I don't love him less. I find it maddening, but I've mostly accepted it. If I want things done "right", I just take care of it myself or hire it out (i.e. that house maintenance item that is on his to-do list and he bought some parts, but didn't get the right ones, and its just been languishing). I no longer expend emotional energy fighting to get him to do these things, nor do I spend (much) emotional energy annoyed that he doesn't do them. I've tried the "relax and let him do it is own way and/or natural consequences will teach him next time" school of thought, but it didn't work for me. What resulted what laundry that was never done, clothes that were ruined, dishes put away in places where they couldn't be located when we needed them, etc. I got sick of dealing with the consequences, and these consequences never seemed to phase or "teach" DH.

Like OP I occasionally vent to the anonymous internet so that I can get it off my chest, but for our home life, I just don't really give into the emotional suck that this could be. DH is a wonderful person/soul, is kind and loving towards me and our children, and is the "fun" dad. I do hope to teach my son to not follow these patterns.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.

What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?

If they notice a missing box of cookies, they will contact you. Chill out.

I don't get the impression that Op and her husband sold these cookies to people that they know very well. If that was the case this would be much easier to correct. But it sounds like the Op's dh took the daughter all over the neighborhood and maybe they have customer names but no address on their order sheet, maybe they have street names but no house numbers, no names. Somehow things got very confused.

At any rate, if the Op doesn't know the people who bought the cookies it is likely that the people who bought the cookies don't know the Op either.

[Anonymous]

There are probably 150 houses in my development. I am Facebook friends with 2 of my neighbors. Some could track me down using the school directory. Others know my first name but not my last. And a few probably know which cul de sac I live on but not which house. If someone doesn't get the popcorn they ordered, they'd probably have to wait until the following year when we go door to door to find us again.

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Anonymous wrote:There are probably 150 houses in my development. I am Facebook friends with 2 of my neighbors. Some could track me down using the school directory. Others know my first name but not my last. And a few probably know which cul de sac I live on but not which house. If someone doesn't get the popcorn they ordered, they'd probably have to wait until the following year when we go door to door to find us again.

So OP make sure you send your husband again next year!