This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has done scout sales would understand that scouts don't order a little of this and a little of that and then hope it matches what people pre-ordered. The number of boxes received should exactly equal the number of boxes on the sheet. And the scout parent has to deliver the money before taking possession of any cookies. It's a grid, with name on each row and the exact type of cookies each person ordered (and paid for). How could anybody screw this up? I would be livid, knowing that neighbors paid for cookies that my DH was sitting there eating.

Actually, having just done scout sales, if you have preorders for 7 boxes of thin mints, you need to order a case (so 12 boxes). So it's totally possible for "left overs" - this is why people sell them at cookie booths

The "left overs" that you paid for (when you put down the deposit for the cookies) your daughter should work with the troop to sell at the cookie booth.

As for the way OP talks about her husband. Yikes.

Op says that she picked up the exact order based on the orders on her daughter's sheet. She didn't pick up extra cookies, she had the exact number of boxes to deliver.

Any extra boxes would have gone to the sidewalk sale that the troop does.

Cookie momster here. For us, in the Nation's Capital region of the GS, The TROOP does get extra cookies because we can only order full cases of cookies. Each case has 12 boxes of cookies in it. If a troop odered a total of 11 boxes of thin mints they would get a case of thin mints, so would have one box left over. Which somebody has to pay for (yes, the booth sales, or neighbors, etc. etc.). But that is troop based. No troop will end up with more than 11 extra boxes of each cookie flavor.

But each GIRL gets exactly what she ordered.

Perhaps dad ordered his own leftovers.

For the last time, dad did not do the ordering. Mom did.

So YOU (mom) didn't keep track of who ordered? You said that dad didn't keep track of who ordered.... why didn't you give him a list of who ordered? What the big deal anyway? Just look at your list of who ordered and see who got their stuff?

By the way... you sound horrible

You aren't really following along. Op's dh took their daughter out and got orders/payment from their neighbors. Op took the order sheet and payment to the Cookie Mom. The Cookie Mom gave Op the exact number of boxes ordered on the sheet. Op and the Cookie Mom verified the number of boxes. Op brought the boxes home and her dh/daughter went out to deliver them to the people on their order sheet. They returned after doing "all" of their deliveries but still had boxes leftover. If they had delivered to everyone on the sheet, there should not be extra boxes.

I don't know how Op is now supposed to know who got what. Op is not the one who did the delivery. Nor is the Op the one who took the orders and the payments for those orders.

It is possible that Op's husband fudged some of the order info for some reason and wrote down bogus names/addresses and paid for the bogus orders himself. If that's the case, I guess those cookies are his to keep but he should explain that to Op.

No we're all following along. She sounds horrible and her terrible marriage is because of her hyper critical attitude toward her husband.
We're talking $20-$40 of Girl Scout cookies here - no reason to lambast the husband. Fix it and be nice about it.

I ask this a lot - but is this post from a trailer park?

PP, you are a horrible person. You don't know the value of the girl scout cookies that her husband stole from their neighbors. However, the point is that he did steal the cookies by failing to deliver them to people who ordered and paid for them. And what's with the trailer park insult? What is that supposed to imply? That people who care about others are trashy? OP doesn't even know which neighbors received their orders. How is she supposed to deliver the undelivered cookies? Or reimburse those who paid for their orders? Maybe she should just give $20 to each and every person on the order list. Does that sound less trailer park to you? Jerk!

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Anonymous wrote:Does your dh have a disorder like adhd or dyslexia?

I don't know. That is a good question. Anything is possible I suppose. B/c, honestly, when things like this happen to us in our lives, and they do seem to happen with more regularity than I would have thought possible, I am often left wondering, "HOW could this HAPPEN?" I just don't get it.

And as I said, he is competent at work, so??? (?) I just don't know. . .

Probably unhappy at home. People tend to put in less effort and work into something they do not necessarily care about. Do you think you could convince him to see a therapist with you?

Yes, he devalues anything on the home front, anything that is not work. He puts minimal effort in therefore, and now things like this happen. And then he blows up at me and thinks I am badgering him over pesky little details which are below him.

Root of the real problem is right here folks.

OP, please make a couples counseling appointment and get both of your good selves in there.
You two are in a bad death spiral and you need to unwind it all and get re-motivated at your marriage, family, teamwork and togetherness.
Resentment is on both sides, a good counselor will get to the root of the problem so there is no anger on either side and both people want to put in the effort.

You will know where things stand after the sessions. And most counselors see right through gaslighting, so if he think the problem is his angry disappointed wifey, he will have to address his repeated role in why you are angry.

Root of the problem is DW is batshit crazy and hyper critical. Poor man and poor daughter being raised with this example. She's being sentenced to a lifetime of the same crazy critical attitude towards others which will be hard.
Good luck with your divorce. I hope DH gets plenty of custody.

Husband is an idiot who is too stupid to count to 10. You, on the other hand, probably married for money and also can't count to 10.

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I recently had issue with my daughters cookie orders and me and my wife had a discrepancies over the cookies that I sold at my job not once did it turned into an issue I just we both offered to pay the difference and try a way to handle better the next time. really not worth arguing with my wife over a few dollars and we BOTH understand that.

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Anonymous wrote:I recently had issue with my daughters cookie orders and me and my wife had a discrepancies over the cookies that I sold at my job not once did it turned into an issue I just we both offered to pay the difference and try a way to handle better the next time. really not worth arguing with my wife over a few dollars and we BOTH understand that.

How many of your friends paid for cookies but didn't receive any? Are they mad? Did you reimburse them for the money you took from them? If everyone received their orders, and the money was just a little off in the end, THIS ISN'T THE SAME PROBLEM. OP's neighbors were robbed if they didn't get the cookies the paid for. How many of your coworkers did you steal from?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. You don't exactly sound like a nice person yourself. I mean, from the first sentence I could tell you were one of "those" women.

Do you also nag and micromanage? Are you big on telling him not only what to do but how to do it?

I did not tell him a thing how to do this GS cookie situation. He totally ran with it.

Here we are.

Ha. You aint slick. You totally did that on purpose.lol. you knew he would fail.

According to you OP is wrong no matter what. He messed up and refuses to 1. begin to understand he messed up. and 2. attempt to fix it. He feels like super dad for acting like a dad, she has to fix it and is left looking like a joyless harpy for the sin of being a responsible human being who can count.

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Would the nasty people in this thread really be okay with shelling out $20 for cookies and never receiving them? Would you order from the same girl again next year? And what is this teach the 7-year-old? That's it's okay if someone pays for something and doesn't receive it?

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Anonymous wrote:I recently had issue with my daughters cookie orders and me and my wife had a discrepancies over the cookies that I sold at my job not once did it turned into an issue I just we both offered to pay the difference and try a way to handle better the next time. really not worth arguing with my wife over a few dollars and we BOTH understand that.

How many of your friends paid for cookies but didn't receive any? Are they mad? Did you reimburse them for the money you took from them? If everyone received their orders, and the money was just a little off in the end, THIS ISN'T THE SAME PROBLEM. OP's neighbors were robbed if they didn't get the cookies the paid for. How many of your coworkers did you steal from?

We reorder the cookies and just took the loss. I'm thinking my kids took a some to eat and didn't ask. That's my thought of what happened. My wife may think I just screwed up the order but never really pushed issue. She said she thought I made a counting error I disagreed. She said she'll pay the difference. I told her I do it because it my error
even thought I didn't think it was. $28 no big deal not worth arguing over.

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I was hoping this post was going to be comparing your marriage to a cookie, kinda disappointed that it's not a creative blurb on how you are traditional like the base of a Samoa, and didn't think you would ever be the daring coconut one, but stuck as a SAHM to the typical life that is the base of every Samoa aka cookie base of cleaning, cooking and carpool, while he gets to run free like the fudge oozing down the sides of the cookie and now is nestling up with that flowery vanilla shortcake from Accounting.

Anyone's marriage like a thin mint?

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Anonymous wrote:I recently had issue with my daughters cookie orders and me and my wife had a discrepancies over the cookies that I sold at my job not once did it turned into an issue I just we both offered to pay the difference and try a way to handle better the next time. really not worth arguing with my wife over a few dollars and we BOTH understand that.

How many of your friends paid for cookies but didn't receive any? Are they mad? Did you reimburse them for the money you took from them? If everyone received their orders, and the money was just a little off in the end, THIS ISN'T THE SAME PROBLEM. OP's neighbors were robbed if they didn't get the cookies the paid for. How many of your coworkers did you steal from?

We reorder the cookies and just took the loss. I'm thinking my kids took a some to eat and didn't ask. That's my thought of what happened. My wife may think I just screwed up the order but never really pushed issue. She said she thought I made a counting error I disagreed. She said she'll pay the difference. I told her I do it because it my error
even thought I didn't think it was. $28 no big deal not worth arguing over.

Oh, you admitted your error and corrected the issue? THEN THIS IS NOT THE SAME PROBLEM.

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Anonymous wrote:Would the nasty people in this thread really be okay with shelling out $20 for cookies and never receiving them? Would you order from the same girl again next year? And what is this teach the 7-year-old? That's it's okay if someone pays for something and doesn't receive it?

If someone doesn't show up with my Thin Mints I wouldn't want to be them.
I have a bottle of red and some Vanilla ice cream prepped and ready to go

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Anonymous wrote:I was hoping this post was going to be comparing your marriage to a cookie, kinda disappointed that it's not a creative blurb on how you are traditional like the base of a Samoa, and didn't think you would ever be the daring coconut one, but stuck as a SAHM to the typical life that is the base of every Samoa aka cookie base of cleaning, cooking and carpool, while he gets to run free like the fudge oozing down the sides of the cookie and now is nestling up with that flowery vanilla shortcake from Accounting.

Anyone's marriage like a thin mint?

Seek therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:I recently had issue with my daughters cookie orders and me and my wife had a discrepancies over the cookies that I sold at my job not once did it turned into an issue I just we both offered to pay the difference and try a way to handle better the next time. really not worth arguing with my wife over a few dollars and we BOTH understand that.

How many of your friends paid for cookies but didn't receive any? Are they mad? Did you reimburse them for the money you took from them? If everyone received their orders, and the money was just a little off in the end, THIS ISN'T THE SAME PROBLEM. OP's neighbors were robbed if they didn't get the cookies the paid for. How many of your coworkers did you steal from?

We reorder the cookies and just took the loss. I'm thinking my kids took a some to eat and didn't ask. That's my thought of what happened. My wife may think I just screwed up the order but never really pushed issue. She said she thought I made a counting error I disagreed. She said she'll pay the difference. I told her I do it because it my error
even thought I didn't think it was. $28 no big deal not worth arguing over.

You were off by 7 boxes of cookies and you think your kids ate them all? Unless you have 12 kids, it was more likely an error on your part.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has done scout sales would understand that scouts don't order a little of this and a little of that and then hope it matches what people pre-ordered. The number of boxes received should exactly equal the number of boxes on the sheet. And the scout parent has to deliver the money before taking possession of any cookies. It's a grid, with name on each row and the exact type of cookies each person ordered (and paid for). How could anybody screw this up? I would be livid, knowing that neighbors paid for cookies that my DH was sitting there eating.

Actually, having just done scout sales, if you have preorders for 7 boxes of thin mints, you need to order a case (so 12 boxes). So it's totally possible for "left overs" - this is why people sell them at cookie booths

The "left overs" that you paid for (when you put down the deposit for the cookies) your daughter should work with the troop to sell at the cookie booth.

As for the way OP talks about her husband. Yikes.

Op says that she picked up the exact order based on the orders on her daughter's sheet. She didn't pick up extra cookies, she had the exact number of boxes to deliver.

Any extra boxes would have gone to the sidewalk sale that the troop does.

Cookie momster here. For us, in the Nation's Capital region of the GS, The TROOP does get extra cookies because we can only order full cases of cookies. Each case has 12 boxes of cookies in it. If a troop odered a total of 11 boxes of thin mints they would get a case of thin mints, so would have one box left over. Which somebody has to pay for (yes, the booth sales, or neighbors, etc. etc.). But that is troop based. No troop will end up with more than 11 extra boxes of each cookie flavor.

But each GIRL gets exactly what she ordered.

Perhaps dad ordered his own leftovers.

For the last time, dad did not do the ordering. Mom did.

So YOU (mom) didn't keep track of who ordered? You said that dad didn't keep track of who ordered.... why didn't you give him a list of who ordered? What the big deal anyway? Just look at your list of who ordered and see who got their stuff?

By the way... you sound horrible

You aren't really following along. Op's dh took their daughter out and got orders/payment from their neighbors. Op took the order sheet and payment to the Cookie Mom. The Cookie Mom gave Op the exact number of boxes ordered on the sheet. Op and the Cookie Mom verified the number of boxes. Op brought the boxes home and her dh/daughter went out to deliver them to the people on their order sheet. They returned after doing "all" of their deliveries but still had boxes leftover. If they had delivered to everyone on the sheet, there should not be extra boxes.

I don't know how Op is now supposed to know who got what. Op is not the one who did the delivery. Nor is the Op the one who took the orders and the payments for those orders.

It is possible that Op's husband fudged some of the order info for some reason and wrote down bogus names/addresses and paid for the bogus orders himself. If that's the case, I guess those cookies are his to keep but he should explain that to Op.

No we're all following along. She sounds horrible and her terrible marriage is because of her hyper critical attitude toward her husband.
We're talking $20-$40 of Girl Scout cookies here - no reason to lambast the husband. Fix it and be nice about it.

I ask this a lot - but is this post from a trailer park?

Actually judging from the Op the guy came home with around 20 boxes of undelivered "leftovers" which he had already collected the payment for. 20 X $4/box = $80 worth of cookies that he did not deliver. That's a pretty big error. In other words, he had already taken $80 cash from multiple neighbors but then proceeded to not deliver the cookies that they ordered.

That's pretty bad. I'm not sure how the Op is supposed to "make this right". She isn't the one who made (or didn't make) the deliveries. Her husband's idea is to simply eat the orders himself....that the neighbors already paid for.

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Anonymous wrote:I was hoping this post was going to be comparing your marriage to a cookie, kinda disappointed that it's not a creative blurb on how you are traditional like the base of a Samoa, and didn't think you would ever be the daring coconut one, but stuck as a SAHM to the typical life that is the base of every Samoa aka cookie base of cleaning, cooking and carpool, while he gets to run free like the fudge oozing down the sides of the cookie and now is nestling up with that flowery vanilla shortcake from Accounting.

Anyone's marriage like a thin mint?

Seek therapy.

Sigh. Typical Do Si Do reply.

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Anonymous wrote:I recently had issue with my daughters cookie orders and me and my wife had a discrepancies over the cookies that I sold at my job not once did it turned into an issue I just we both offered to pay the difference and try a way to handle better the next time. really not worth arguing with my wife over a few dollars and we BOTH understand that.

How many of your friends paid for cookies but didn't receive any? Are they mad? Did you reimburse them for the money you took from them? If everyone received their orders, and the money was just a little off in the end, THIS ISN'T THE SAME PROBLEM. OP's neighbors were robbed if they didn't get the cookies the paid for. How many of your coworkers did you steal from?

We reorder the cookies and just took the loss. I'm thinking my kids took a some to eat and didn't ask. That's my thought of what happened. My wife may think I just screwed up the order but never really pushed issue. She said she thought I made a counting error I disagreed. She said she'll pay the difference. I told her I do it because it my error
even thought I didn't think it was. $28 no big deal not worth arguing over.

You were off by 7 boxes of cookies and you think your kids ate them all? Unless you have 12 kids, it was more likely an error on your part.

I have 4 teen kids but either way she didn't blame me. Like I said what she thought what happen could have been right. Its not about being right its about getting it right.