This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't the buyers not pay until the cookies are delivered?

Correct. Unless her DH effed that up too.

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Sorry, OP, but your DH did a lousy job and blames you for the failure. That is clinical passive aggression. The worst part is that he is showing your daughter that a half-assed job is good enough. I suggest you visit the people who ordered the type of cookies that remain to find out if they received their entire order.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't the buyers not pay until the cookies are delivered?

Correct. Unless her DH effed that up too.

Sometimes, we have nice scouts that do not require pre-payment. However, those scouts and their parents do have to pay before they take possession of the cookies. They are fronting the money for you and if you choose not to pay for the cookies after they come in, then the parents are the ones that keep the "leftovers" that they paid for.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.

What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?

You NEVER collect money up front for GS cookies. If you do you're not following the procedures. If no money is collected up front, there's no need to stress. There may be some disappointed customers but they're not out any money. If you are worried about paying for the cookies, post a FB message and see if you have any takers. Or your daughter can go door to door with cookies in hand to sell the extras.

I'm a GS Troop Leader and that is 100% incorrect. The Council takes the money out of the troop account BEFORE cookies are delivered. So unless your troop has the extra cash to float all the orders, you MUST collect the money upfront. Some familiies agree to float the cash for the people ordering -- I personally do that for my co-workers, because it is easier to collect the money when I deliver to them. But I do not expect every family to personally float the cookies orders on their own bank account, so we instruct people to collect money up front. That is the recommended GS procedure.

OP, I can't believe people are blaming you. Your husband really messed up. I would go over the sheet with my daughter and see if there's any way to figure out who did not get their cookies delivered -- maybe she forgot to do a whole section of the development? (Based on what's left over, you might be able to piece it together.) And then I would hold onto the extras for a bit to see if anyone finds you to ask about their cookies.

I'm in a similar situation with my husband stealing cookies out of other people's orders to eat. I'm going to be really pissed if we end up short when I have to deliver them, but I think I ordered enough extra to account for that.

In GSCNC, which is Fairfax County, money is not collected from customers in advance, nor does the Council collect from troops in advance.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.

What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?

You NEVER collect money up front for GS cookies. If you do you're not following the procedures. If no money is collected up front, there's no need to stress. There may be some disappointed customers but they're not out any money. If you are worried about paying for the cookies, post a FB message and see if you have any takers. Or your daughter can go door to door with cookies in hand to sell the extras.

I'm a GS Troop Leader and that is 100% incorrect. The Council takes the money out of the troop account BEFORE cookies are delivered. So unless your troop has the extra cash to float all the orders, you MUST collect the money upfront. Some familiies agree to float the cash for the people ordering -- I personally do that for my co-workers, because it is easier to collect the money when I deliver to them. But I do not expect every family to personally float the cookies orders on their own bank account, so we instruct people to collect money up front. That is the recommended GS procedure.

OP, I can't believe people are blaming you. Your husband really messed up. I would go over the sheet with my daughter and see if there's any way to figure out who did not get their cookies delivered -- maybe she forgot to do a whole section of the development? (Based on what's left over, you might be able to piece it together.) And then I would hold onto the extras for a bit to see if anyone finds you to ask about their cookies.

I'm in a similar situation with my husband stealing cookies out of other people's orders to eat. I'm going to be really pissed if we end up short when I have to deliver them, but I think I ordered enough extra to account for that.

In GSCNC, which is Fairfax County, money is not collected from customers in advance, nor does the Council collect from troops in advance.

You are clearly new to this thread. OP has clarified, multiple times, that her troop DID collect money in advance, as instructed by her troop leader.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreee, you sound awful. This also means that the people who bought them did not keep track of what they ordered. Sounds like DH bulk ordered (perhaps tonreach a quota) and then went around selling off what he already ordered. Especially considering that all along he knew they were going to be leftovers. m

Certainly not the end of the world. But if you want to keep acting like he is the only one with the issues, go ahead

OP you are just awful.

A friend's daughter is a Girl Scout, and they are only allowed to order full cases, no partial ones. So she always has "leftovers". I just bought 5 boxes of leftover Thin Mints from her.

Stay out of it OP.

Incorrect. Cookies are purchased in cases at the troop level, not the girl level.

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How is this thread still going?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I know things like this can be annoying, but try to have some compassion towards your husband. I'm fairly organized, but could see myself messing up girl scout cookies or other door-to-door sales. Try to focus on the interaction that came out of it- your husband shouldn't have blown up at you and, if your reaction initially was similar to your original post, you should have been more patient with the mistake.

I would send an email to the Cookie Mom giving her a heads up that there was a snafu, cc your husband, and, in the email, say that they need to work it out. That way your husband can get aggravated at the Cookie Mom if necessary.

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Um, fuck no. Cookie mom here and this is NOT my problem. You sign for cookies, you pay for cookies. They can't be returned.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.

What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?

You NEVER collect money up front for GS cookies. If you do you're not following the procedures. If no money is collected up front, there's no need to stress. There may be some disappointed customers but they're not out any money. If you are worried about paying for the cookies, post a FB message and see if you have any takers. Or your daughter can go door to door with cookies in hand to sell the extras.

I'm a GS Troop Leader and that is 100% incorrect. The Council takes the money out of the troop account BEFORE cookies are delivered. So unless your troop has the extra cash to float all the orders, you MUST collect the money upfront. Some familiies agree to float the cash for the people ordering -- I personally do that for my co-workers, because it is easier to collect the money when I deliver to them. But I do not expect every family to personally float the cookies orders on their own bank account, so we instruct people to collect money up front. That is the recommended GS procedure.

OP, I can't believe people are blaming you. Your husband really messed up. I would go over the sheet with my daughter and see if there's any way to figure out who did not get their cookies delivered -- maybe she forgot to do a whole section of the development? (Based on what's left over, you might be able to piece it together.) And then I would hold onto the extras for a bit to see if anyone finds you to ask about their cookies.

I'm in a similar situation with my husband stealing cookies out of other people's orders to eat. I'm going to be really pissed if we end up short when I have to deliver them, but I think I ordered enough extra to account for that.

In GSCNC, which is Fairfax County, money is not collected from customers in advance, nor does the Council collect from troops in advance.

You are clearly new to this thread. OP has clarified, multiple times, that her troop DID collect money in advance, as instructed by her troop leader.

Yes, and her troop violated policy big time.

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Anonymous wrote:I recently had issue with my daughters cookie orders and me and my wife had a discrepancies over the cookies that I sold at my job not once did it turned into an issue I just we both offered to pay the difference and try a way to handle better the next time. really not worth arguing with my wife over a few dollars and we BOTH understand that.

How many of your friends paid for cookies but didn't receive any? Are they mad? Did you reimburse them for the money you took from them? If everyone received their orders, and the money was just a little off in the end, THIS ISN'T THE SAME PROBLEM. OP's neighbors were robbed if they didn't get the cookies the paid for. How many of your coworkers did you steal from?

We reorder the cookies and just took the loss. I'm thinking my kids took a some to eat and didn't ask. That's my thought of what happened. My wife may think I just screwed up the order but never really pushed issue. She said she thought I made a counting error I disagreed. She said she'll pay the difference. I told her I do it because it my error
even thought I didn't think it was. $28 no big deal not worth arguing over.

Oh, you admitted your error and corrected the issue? THEN THIS IS NOT THE SAME PROBLEM.

I didn't admit to being wrong I just wanted to fix the issue, again in my mind my kids ate the cookies. I'm not taking responsibility we both just wanted to rectify the issue. She volunterred to pay for lost cookies even if it wasn't her issue.

This isn't the same at all...you rectified the situation (at your own expense). And you were in a position to do so because you were organized enough to realize that some people didn't get what they had ordered. OP's DH has done neither of those things...so basically OP now lives in a building (?) or neighborhood where they've short-changed a bunch of people their cookies. And odds are they are going to silently assume OP is the irresponsible one, not DH, cuz that's life.

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OP, ignore the bashers. You are right. My DH is like this too - a high achiever at work and usually conscientious about things that concern him or people he wants to impress (which is work superiors and basically all strangers), but half-asses everything else because he just doesn't care. Hence, I do not outsource any tasks for me and the kids anymore. There's no point; I would just have to redo everything anyway. This way there's much less friction.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreee, you sound awful. This also means that the people who bought them did not keep track of what they ordered. Sounds like DH bulk ordered (perhaps tonreach a quota) and then went around selling off what he already ordered. Especially considering that all along he knew they were going to be leftovers. m

Certainly not the end of the world. But if you want to keep acting like he is the only one with the issues, go ahead

OP you are just awful.

A friend's daughter is a Girl Scout, and they are only allowed to order full cases, no partial ones. So she always has "leftovers". I just bought 5 boxes of leftover Thin Mints from her.

Stay out of it OP.

Incorrect. Cookies are purchased in cases at the troop level, not the girl level.

Not this troop! Again, my friend has to purchase full cases. Not sure why that is so hard for you to understand. She is given the opportunity to sell them when the girls have a booth somewhere, and always ends up selling the extra, but she is not allowed to receive partial cases. Maybe that is a violation of GS policy, but it is what it is.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know why I'm laughing at this.

I'm trying to imagine what a marriage must be like where you just got bat shit crazy on your husband for screwing up the delivery of cookies.

I don't think I've ever yelled at my husband (except maybe in labor).

+1. I yell at my husband all the time but not for stupid crap like this. DCUM is putting way too much thought into cookie delivery. It's for the Girl Scouts- no one expects the orders to turn out perfectly. They're kids and it's a fundraiser. It's not a crisis if someone screws up a cookie order. And it certainly doesn't reflect badly on the family. Jeez!

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Anonymous wrote:Would the nasty people in this thread really be okay with shelling out $20 for cookies and never receiving them? Yes- it's af fundraiser. Would you order from the same girl again next year? I honestly wouldn't remember that she forgot my cookies & if I did, I wouldn't hold a grudge against her, so sure. And what is this teach the 7-year-old? That's it's okay if someone pays for something and doesn't receive it? I'm not sure most 7 y/o would pick up on the situation unless they heard their mom berating their dad about it. [i/quote]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know why I'm laughing at this.

I'm trying to imagine what a marriage must be like where you just got bat shit crazy on your husband for screwing up the delivery of cookies.

I don't think I've ever yelled at my husband (except maybe in labor).

+1. I yell at my husband all the time but not for stupid crap like this. DCUM is putting way too much thought into cookie delivery. It's for the Girl Scouts- no one expects the orders to turn out perfectly. They're kids and it's a fundraiser. It's not a crisis if someone screws up a cookie order. And it certainly doesn't reflect badly on the family. Jeez!

+1,000,000!!! I ordered cookies from a coworker weeks ago. If I didn't get the cookies, even if I prepaid which I didn't, I really wouldn't care. It's a fundraiser. I really don't need the cookies. I can't imagine making such a big deal out of this if it was my DH.