This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your dh have a disorder like adhd or dyslexia?

I don't know. That is a good question. Anything is possible I suppose. B/c, honestly, when things like this happen to us in our lives, and they do seem to happen with more regularity than I would have thought possible, I am often left wondering, "HOW could this HAPPEN?" I just don't get it.

And as I said, he is competent at work, so??? (?) I just don't know. . .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - let him handle the fall out - you let him run with this. Let him finish it.

Thanks.

Yeah.

That is the only thing I can think of too.

Still, it makes me feel embarrassed, for him, for my daughter, for us.

Why is everything so darn difficult?

Some people are just not good at life. Sorry you married one of those people.

Thanks yeah. This is pretty much it, I feel like. :*( He is competent at work but that is about it. :*(

Is this new behavior? Get him checked out. If it is not, well you married and had kids with him, so that is all on you. No sympathy here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust me, no one is going to judge you for this, Holy overreaction. Your follow up posts only go to prove that he is not the only one with issues.

Weeeelllllll... Not so sure about that. I ordered GS cookies from a mom at my kids' school. I only like two flavors; TWO. I ordered three boxes and ended up with the three flavors that I DETEST. I said, "mom. I think I received the wrong cookies. I can leave the boxes with [daughter] and she can bring the ones I ordered." Mom, "I'm sorry but I don't have anymore cookies left!"

Me:

I was so annoyed that I never ordered from her again. HTF do you mess up a GS cookie order?? Right, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your post title makes no sense.

So your husband didn't keep track of cookie deliveries with the order? Um, ok. Does he not understand how to match up a customer's order with the boxes?

First, did you verify the order with the cookie mom when you got the cookies? You should've bc you had to sign off to verify that yor daughter did collectively sell 30 boxes of TM, 20 boxes of samoas, etc.

Didyour husband get mixed up with boxes donated to the charity?

There seems to be more to this than your post reveals. Are you sure you're not leaving out any important details?

I know it does not make sense. That is what I was trying to tell my DH. When he totally blew up at me as he always does when I question something like this.

Yes, I verified the order with the cookie mom when I got the cookies. She and I went over it and over it and checked and counted and rechecked and recounted, and then I signed off.

He could not have gotten the boxes mixed up with boxes donated to the charity b/c the cookie mom did not even give those to us. She keeps them for the day when the girls deliver them to the homeless shelter (their selected charity0>

That is it. That is really it. Then I get an email from him saying, "Here are the leftovers."

That's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your dh have a disorder like adhd or dyslexia?

Well, obviously. ADHD screams out here, but let's not talk about it because it's not an excuse - an adult should know just how much he or she is capable of taking on with that disorder. Both DH and I have ADHD, as does our son, and we know exactly how far we can go without messing up. No selling cookies for us, on top of everything else

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does your dh have a disorder like adhd or dyslexia?

I don't know. That is a good question. Anything is possible I suppose. B/c, honestly, when things like this happen to us in our lives, and they do seem to happen with more regularity than I would have thought possible, I am often left wondering, "HOW could this HAPPEN?" I just don't get it.

And as I said, he is competent at work, so??? (?) I just don't know. . .

Probably unhappy at home. People tend to put in less effort and work into something they do not necessarily care about. Do you think you could convince him to see a therapist with you?

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.

What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?

You NEVER collect money up front for GS cookies. If you do you're not following the procedures. If no money is collected up front, there's no need to stress. There may be some disappointed customers but they're not out any money. If you are worried about paying for the cookies, post a FB message and see if you have any takers. Or your daughter can go door to door with cookies in hand to sell the extras.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't the buyers not pay until the cookies are delivered?

No, we collected the $$ upfront. That is what our troop told us to do. I know other troops seem to do it differently.

I thought, ahead of time, "Oh, that'll make it so much easier." Ugh.

huh? Where are you posting from that this is what your cookie mom told you? Are you sure? Parents should've signed of on paperwork that outlines all the info...are you sure you understood it right?

Signed,
troop cookie mom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow people here really like to blame posters for everything in the universe. What possible connection could there be between alleged micromanaging and nagging on OP's part and this girlscout cookie fuckup which she did did not play a part in?

Obviously, unless your DH or DD ordered extras (is that possible? Or did you do the ordering?), he and your daughter both screwed up here. I would not let your daughter off the hook as the whole point of girl scout cookie sales is to teach girls responsibility. Did she/they write down who ordered what and who they delivered them to? [b]If not, if the sales were all to neighbors, can you have your DD send an email to a neighborhood list serve explaining the situation so people who didn't get their cookies can let her know?
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If not, I don't know what you can do about it at this point other than explain calmly to your DD (within hearing of your DH) that she needs to keep better track next time. Nobody who ordered from a girl scout and then didn't get the cookies will order from her again next year!

Thanks, PP. This is a possibly good idea. We do have a neighborhood list serve. Maybe DH can send an email out to that.

Of course, he is not ON the list serve b/c he says it is stupid and has never signed up for it. I am the only one actually on the list serve.

I am wondering more and more about this ADHD thing. I literally handle ALL details like this in our lives. ALL. He goes to work, and well, that's it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't the buyers not pay until the cookies are delivered?

No, we collected the $$ upfront. That is what our troop told us to do. I know other troops seem to do it differently.

I thought, ahead of time, "Oh, that'll make it so much easier." Ugh.

huh? Where are you posting from that this is what your cookie mom told you? Are you sure? Parents should've signed of on paperwork that outlines all the info...are you sure you understood it right?

Signed,
troop cookie mom

I'm posting from Fairfax County. We also had to turn in the cookie $$ when we arrived to get our cookies from our cookie mom.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like what a friend of mine would do!

Do the rounds and make sales and be disappointed with the total. So he'd order a ton more to make DD look good and if he couldn't sell or give away the additional - LEFTOVERS!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like what a friend of mine would do!

Do the rounds and make sales and be disappointed with the total. So he'd order a ton more to make DD look good and if he couldn't sell or give away the additional - LEFTOVERS!

I wish, but as I said, I am the one who went to the cookie mom's house to pick up the order and she and I checked and checked and rechecked and rechecked and then I signed off on the sheet. So I know there were no extras when I picked them up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Trust me, no one is going to judge you for this, Holy overreaction. Your follow up posts only go to prove that he is not the only one with issues.

Weeeelllllll... Not so sure about that. I ordered GS cookies from a mom at my kids' school. I only like two flavors; TWO. I ordered three boxes and ended up with the three flavors that I DETEST. I said, "mom. I think I received the wrong cookies. I can leave the boxes with [daughter] and she can bring the ones I ordered." Mom, "I'm sorry but I don't have anymore cookies left!"

Me:

I was so annoyed that I never ordered from her again. HTF do you mess up a GS cookie order?? Right, OP?

OP back.

Yes. Seriously. This is what I am thinking too. I mean, it is GS cookies. It is meant for 2nd graders like my DD to do.

[Anonymous]

Cookie Monster!!

[Anonymous]

1. I'm sorry your troop cookie manager told you to collect $ up front. That goes against council policy, thought there's no way you would have known that. This is EXACTLY why. So shame on her/him.

2. When you signed for the cookies you received from the cookie parent, you also assumed financial responsibility for # cookies x $4/box. Do you have the correct amount of money, or are you also "short" money.

For example, if you signed for 100 boxes, do you have 20 boxes left over, yet you have $400? Then it should be easy to point out to DH that he f---ed up.

However, if you signed for 100 boxes, have 20 boxes left over, but have $320 in cookie money, then weirdly, you do have "leftover" boxes.

Cookie parents often let other parents check out more boxes than they pre-ordered to get rid of troop extras. The troop is required to order them by the CASE. If your troop wants 24 boxes of Thin Mints, they order 2 cases. If your troop wants 25 boxes of Thin Mints, they order 3 cases, and the troop is responsible for selling those other 11 boxes.

Signed,
Troop Leader and wife of Cookie Dad

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I'm sorry posters are jumping all over you. This was obviously the straw that broke the camels' back. I'm sure there is a lot of backstory you haven't shared for the sake of brevity. You have other, bigger problems i your marriage than GS cookies, but I understand that cookie season can be very stressful.

And you would be SHOCKED at how much adults can totally f--- up cookies. Stunned.