I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.

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OP, did you ever stop to think that your hatred of SAHMs is somewhat misogynistic? How do you feel about feminism in general? How is your relationship with your mother, since your dislike of SAHMs admittedly stems from that?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the OP who was trying to tell me that even though I'm independently wealthy (trust I only pull interest from and is plenty) that I should work? That was bizarre, I have 3 under 4.

Probably. She sounds like she has serious mental issues when it comes to SAHMs. This should just teach us all to take some of the DCUM "advice" with a big grain of salt. Especially from those who clearly have a set vendetta that will not sway when confronted with facts.

That thread had turned into the usual "you are going to be destitute when, not if, your husband divorces you".
Sorry, would be just fine

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the OP who was trying to tell me that even though I'm independently wealthy (trust I only pull interest from and is plenty) that I should work? That was bizarre, I have 3 under 4.

Probably. She sounds like she has serious mental issues when it comes to SAHMs. This should just teach us all to take some of the DCUM "advice" with a big grain of salt. Especially from those who clearly have a set vendetta that will not sway when confronted with facts.

That thread had turned into the usual "you are going to be destitute when, not if, your husband divorces you".
Sorry, would be just fine

I dont know, I often think the women who stay stuff like that are having wishful thinking. They are angry that they dont have the option to stay at home, and it provokes some kind of unexamined rage from them. I dont even think OP explained why she hates SAHMs, she didnt really give a reason other than vague mommy issues. I doubt she even realizes how inane and ludicrous she sounds- logic does not enter the equation with this one.

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That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).

Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?

I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.

That's not universally true. I'm against SAH because it was horrible for my mother and while I understand not all women are like her, the topic provokes a strong reaction due to my personal history.

Oh my goodness- you are insecure AND unable to get over your past baggage. And you think it's perfectly normal. What a mess.

Uh, that wasn't me - op

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That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).

Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?

I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.

That's not universally true. I'm against SAH because it was horrible for my mother and while I understand not all women are like her, the topic provokes a strong reaction due to my personal history.

So instead of going after the men who would want their wives to SAHM because they want them to be powerless, or explaining calmly and supportively to the SAHMs your OPINION (and yes it's an opinion, not an objective fact that SAHM is bad for all women, despite what you may think) you attack and go after them, probably making them she down further and feel even more isolated and attacked?

Hmmmm that makes a lot of sense

Again, I didn't write that. - op

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Anonymous wrote:So I read all these pages to find out OP has "mommy" issues and uses anonymously slamming, criticizing and provoking Sahms on here instead of working out her own issues

Great

Huh? Mommy issues?

I'm pretty sure it was you who said some of your "anti SAHM" stance comes from a childhood where your mother stayed home and your negative experience as a child.
Hence mommy issues

I did not. She stayed home but I had no issue with it and adored her. You're confusing me with another poster. - op

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the OP who was trying to tell me that even though I'm independently wealthy (trust I only pull interest from and is plenty) that I should work? That was bizarre, I have 3 under 4.

Probably. She sounds like she has serious mental issues when it comes to SAHMs. This should just teach us all to take some of the DCUM "advice" with a big grain of salt. Especially from those who clearly have a set vendetta that will not sway when confronted with facts.

You've posted this 12 times.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, did you ever stop to think that your hatred of SAHMs is somewhat misogynistic? How do you feel about feminism in general? How is your relationship with your mother, since your dislike of SAHMs admittedly stems from that?

She's dead but I adored her.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, did you ever stop to think that your hatred of SAHMs is somewhat misogynistic? How do you feel about feminism in general? How is your relationship with your mother, since your dislike of SAHMs admittedly stems from that?

She's dead but I adored her.

Ok cool. So anyway: did you ever stop to think that your hatred of SAHMs is somewhat misogynistic?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the OP who was trying to tell me that even though I'm independently wealthy (trust I only pull interest from and is plenty) that I should work? That was bizarre, I have 3 under 4.

Probably. She sounds like she has serious mental issues when it comes to SAHMs. This should just teach us all to take some of the DCUM "advice" with a big grain of salt. Especially from those who clearly have a set vendetta that will not sway when confronted with facts.

You've posted this 12 times.

I actually wasn't addressing you. Conversing with another poster.

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OP is the epitome of every frustrated woman I see on the street daily. They don't look happy, they don't try to hide it, they never will be happy, they will never admit it.

OP, the only person you are doing a grave disservice, and negatively influencing, is yourself.

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WOHM/SAHM gets some of my nastiest responses.

Why?

if I get into it here it'll just turn the thread into one of those, so I won't, but suffice it to say I feel strongly about equal household partnerships.

HAH!

If you COULD stay at home - you WOULD stay at home.

I could have told you that before you even admitted it.

So transparent, and you don't even realize.

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Anonymous wrote:How is your body image?

Pretty good. Normal BMI, never had eating issues. I work out a lot and though my body isn't what it was before kids, I'm happy with where I am. Just starting to realize a) the emotional benefits of exercise and b) how much truth there is to the importance of strength training.

So you have to work really hard to look mediocre?

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"I'm a coward. AMA."

agreed

Yep. Typical coward.

Because I have opinions at all? Because I don't voice them too often IRL?

You are a coward because you voice your opinions in a mean-spirited (anonymous) way. Trust me, I know. I'm the same way and I consider some of my responses cowardly. I can own it.

Ok, I can see that distinction. Not sure coward is quite the right word, but I see where you're going. - OP

Other words come to mind (like insecure b*tch) but I won't mention them here.

That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

judgmental=insecure

Psych 101

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the OP who was trying to tell me that even though I'm independently wealthy (trust I only pull interest from and is plenty) that I should work? That was bizarre, I have 3 under 4.

Probably. She sounds like she has serious mental issues when it comes to SAHMs. This should just teach us all to take some of the DCUM "advice" with a big grain of salt. Especially from those who clearly have a set vendetta that will not sway when confronted with facts.

You've posted this 12 times.

I actually wasn't addressing you. Conversing with another poster.

Yes and we were getting along very nicely