I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why. I'm not insecure, though I've been accused of that on here when I've made a contentious comment. I'm genuinely happy - despite the everyday annoyances that we all have, obviously - with my marriage, my career, my kids, my financials, my educational/intellectual background and my appearance. So why do I do it? I think it may be because I'm such a people-pleaser in real life that I relish the opportunity to get out some latent opinions anonymously; ie, I can say things that aren't "PC" (though none of my comments are racist/classist/etc - that's not my bag - just snarky for the most part).

Sounds like your life pretty much sucks. That doesn't sound happy at all.

[Anonymous]

Can you name an opinion that most people here would find outrageous?

[Anonymous]

Do you ever feel regret after you've posted something mean-spirited or snarky?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you have so much pent up anger in need of a channel?

I don't know. I genuinely am a pretty relaxed, happy person. My vehemence on here surprises me at times, honestly.

It is good that you use DCUM as your outlet instead of at home, at work, etc.

I am the same way on forums. I can be a fucking asshole and not care on here. IRL, i'm always smiling and have nothing but nice things to say (and mean)

[Anonymous]

Why do you need to try and make other people feel bad about themselves instead of just simply stating a differing opinion without it being personal?

[Anonymous]

OP What's your favorite come back line/phrase that you use? Da Fuq, Unclench, Trashy, Ghetto, Bitch Bye, etc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why. I'm not insecure, though I've been accused of that on here when I've made a contentious comment. I'm genuinely happy - despite the everyday annoyances that we all have, obviously - with my marriage, my career, my kids, my financials, my educational/intellectual background and my appearance. So why do I do it? I think it may be because I'm such a people-pleaser in real life that I relish the opportunity to get out some latent opinions anonymously; ie, I can say things that aren't "PC" (though none of my comments are racist/classist/etc - that's not my bag - just snarky for the most part).

Sounds like your life pretty much sucks. That doesn't sound happy at all.

Because of everyday annoyances? Or because you wouldn't want to live her life?

[Anonymous]

Have you thought about giving up this bad habit, and maybe putting positive energy into the world instead?

[Anonymous]

What is something you've done that you won't tell people in real life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why. I'm not insecure, though I've been accused of that on here when I've made a contentious comment. I'm genuinely happy - despite the everyday annoyances that we all have, obviously - with my marriage, my career, my kids, my financials, my educational/intellectual background and my appearance. So why do I do it? I think it may be because I'm such a people-pleaser in real life that I relish the opportunity to get out some latent opinions anonymously; ie, I can say things that aren't "PC" (though none of my comments are racist/classist/etc - that's not my bag - just snarky for the most part).

Sounds like your life pretty much sucks. That doesn't sound happy at all.

reading comprehension fail

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to try and make other people feel bad about themselves instead of just simply stating a differing opinion without it being personal?

Please. Is there anyone on DCUM who simply states their opinion? Haven't seen it yet.

[Anonymous]

OP, the title of your post should have been:

"I'm a coward. AMA."

[Anonymous]

Is it truth hurts mean or just mean mean?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever slipped and responded IRL in a way you might have lashed out on DCUM, particularly if a particular subject caused a trigger?

Similarly, have you ever used DCUM memes when IRL conversations? Such as referring to "Larla?"

[Anonymous]

Do you think you need more honest outlets IRL to express yourself?

http://www.brainpickings.org/2015/01/02/sherwin-nuland-what-everybody-needs/

"When you recognize that pain — and response to pain — is a universal thing, it helps explain so many things about others, just as it explains so much about yourself. It teaches you forbearance. It teaches you a moderation in your responses to other people’s behavior. It teaches you a sort of understanding. It essentially tells you what everybody needs. You know what everybody needs? You want to put it in a single word?

Everybody needs to be understood.

And out of that comes every form of love.

If someone truly feels that you understand them, an awful lot of neurotic behavior just disappears — disappears on your part, disappears on their part. So if you’re talking about what motivates this world to continue existing as a community, you’ve got to talk about love… And my argument is it comes out of your biology because on some level we understand all of this. We put it into religious forms. It’s almost like an excuse to deny our biology. We put it into pithy, sententious aphorisms, but it’s really coming out of our deepest physiological nature."