I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.

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Anonymous wrote:What's your DCUM pet peeves? In other words, what type of posts bring out your snarkiness the most?

Do you care if you realize you've made someone upset or do you revel in the power or something else?

WOHM/SAHM gets some of my nastiest responses. Also people who are clueless about their kids (like the person asking how to educate her 15 month old because a genius aunt might look down on her). People who are status-conscious.

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Anonymous wrote:What's your DCUM pet peeves? In other words, what type of posts bring out your snarkiness the most?

Do you care if you realize you've made someone upset or do you revel in the power or something else?

WOHM/SAHM gets some of my nastiest responses. Also people who are clueless about their kids (like the person asking how to educate her 15 month old because a genius aunt might look down on her). People who are status-conscious.

Sorry, forgot your second questions. If someone is genuinely upset, I will feel bad, but they usually argue back.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you name an opinion that most people here would find outrageous?

Not really sure what you're getting at.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you have so much pent up anger in need of a channel?

I don't know. I genuinely am a pretty relaxed, happy person. My vehemence on here surprises me at times, honestly.

It is good that you use DCUM as your outlet instead of at home, at work, etc.

I am the same way on forums. I can be a fucking asshole and not care on here. IRL, i'm always smiling and have nothing but nice things to say (and mean)

Me too, exactly. I'm genuinely nice in person. Most people who know me would say I'm super friendly.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever feel regret after you've posted something mean-spirited or snarky?

if the person is nice in response, yes.

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Anonymous wrote:

WOHM/SAHM gets some of my nastiest responses.

Why?

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Anonymous wrote:OP What's your favorite come back line/phrase that you use? Da Fuq, Unclench, Trashy, Ghetto, Bitch Bye, etc?

I don't use those much. I've said "meh" occasionally if someone's bragging unnecessarily, or done an eye roll.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever slipped and responded IRL in a way you might have lashed out on DCUM, particularly if a particular subject caused a trigger?

Similarly, have you ever used DCUM memes when IRL conversations? Such as referring to "Larla?"

No to both - I'm pretty honest with some of these opinions with DH etc, but in general I temper them.

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Anonymous wrote:

WOHM/SAHM gets some of my nastiest responses.

Why?

if I get into it here it'll just turn the thread into one of those, so I won't, but suffice it to say I feel strongly about equal household partnerships.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it truth hurts mean or just mean mean?

I think the former, but the way I say it can be nasty, especially if the person is contentious.

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Anonymous wrote:

WOHM/SAHM gets some of my nastiest responses.

Why?

if I get into it here it'll just turn the thread into one of those, so I won't, but suffice it to say I feel strongly about equal household partnerships.

Agree. And I understand you not wanting to change the topic here.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think you need more honest outlets IRL to express yourself?

http://www.brainpickings.org/2015/01/02/sherwin-nuland-what-everybody-needs/

"When you recognize that pain — and response to pain — is a universal thing, it helps explain so many things about others, just as it explains so much about yourself. It teaches you forbearance. It teaches you a moderation in your responses to other people’s behavior. It teaches you a sort of understanding. It essentially tells you what everybody needs. You know what everybody needs? You want to put it in a single word?

Everybody needs to be understood.

And out of that comes every form of love.

If someone truly feels that you understand them, an awful lot of neurotic behavior just disappears — disappears on your part, disappears on their part. So if you’re talking about what motivates this world to continue existing as a community, you’ve got to talk about love… And my argument is it comes out of your biology because on some level we understand all of this. We put it into religious forms. It’s almost like an excuse to deny our biology. We put it into pithy, sententious aphorisms, but it’s really coming out of our deepest physiological nature."

I'm not sure. I have close friends that I'll share a lot of these opinions with, as well as DH. I'm pretty conflict-averse IRL so I think people who know me would be shocked at some of the things I say on here.

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Have you ever read a topic on DCUM and felt you knew who the person was. Like truly believed that is a friend of yours?

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever read a topic on DCUM and felt you knew who the person was. Like truly believed that is a friend of yours?

No. I'd be horrified if I'd accidentally argued with a friend on here.

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Rewind 25 years.

Where were you, what were you doing, and where did you think you'd be in 2015?