I feel bad that my child is not gifted

[Anonymous]

Good god get a grip. Truly hope this is rage bait

[Anonymous]

I know many many traditionally successful people who went to all the best schools and are unhappy and maladjusted with miserable lives. It’s not some guarantee of a great life.

[Anonymous]

My kids didn't read until 8, and now one of them is winning math competitions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it, OP. We all have our moments when we lose perspective and struggle. But reading late does not necessarily mean your child is not intelligent.

I can think of several of my childhood peers who were considered slow and did not do well in school, yet are now successful in their field of work. It's a matter of finding the right field. You need to open your mind to non-academic possibilities for your child. Only if your mind is open will you be able to help your child find his path. Instead of laying awake worrying, make an effort to help your child develop his unique talents. That is the way forward.

OP here. DH is successful and earns close to 7 figures. I stayed home and now do some consulting work so that I could focus on the children. I just feel like such a failure. I have tried so hard to enrich him. I put so much effort into a balanced schedule of studying, sports, music, etc. We do play dates, educational outings, journals, have a million books and go to the library all the time. I don't think there is anything more I can do.

Everybody does this. This is called parenting. Get some perspective.

[Anonymous]

OP’s kid should be around 16 by now. How’s he doing?

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine writing a kid off like that so young. My husband has dyslexia ans struggled to learn to read as a kid. He ended up graduating top of his class in engineering and has a PhD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder where OP and her 16 year old are now…

Me too. I'm nostalgic for the 2010s.

[Anonymous]

Wow old thread. But I thought I’d chime in. My kids weren’t especially early to read. They definitely weren’t weren’t chapter books in K, more like 2-3rd grade before they could read most material fluently. But my high school freshman is in AP calc and AP Eng already. My slightly younger child is on same trajectory.

[Anonymous]

The reading comp of many people on this thread is low as they seem entirely unaware of the year of the OP post.

Anyhow, I was slow to read. Not very strong at it in first grade at least. Think I became average by second or third grade. Eventually above average (comprehension) by high school.

Now I’m a law firm partner who…does a lot of reading. I’m actually still a slow reader but it hasn’t held me back much. And my other strengths are far more important.

I know law firm partner isn’t that impressive but I make a lot of money and am considered v successful in my field which requires a lot of reading.

Just saying…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kindergarten son cannot yet read and he is almost 6yo. DH and I are ivy league educated and have always been at the top of our class. We have many friends with very bright children and I've come to realize my child is average. I know this is not the end of the world but I feel sad tonight. I love him so much and don't want him to know my disappointment.

I feel sad this child has you for a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kindergarten son cannot yet read and he is almost 6yo. DH and I are ivy league educated and have always been at the top of our class. We have many friends with very bright children and I've come to realize my child is average. I know this is not the end of the world but I feel sad tonight. I love him so much and don't want him to know my disappointment.

it's more of a reflection on Ivy League than your child. Just because you got in does not mean you were gifted, lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kindergarten son cannot yet read and he is almost 6yo. DH and I are ivy league educated and have always been at the top of our class. We have many friends with very bright children and I've come to realize my child is average. I know this is not the end of the world but I feel sad tonight. I love him so much and don't want him to know my disappointment.

If go by “success” in school, my CEO wasn’t even the average kid- he’s the first to tell you he was (and would still be) below, but somehow don’t think anyone feels bad for him with his beautiful family, private jet, multiple houses and multi-million dollar salary, foundations, amazing charities and charity work…..