Recent suicides at Langley HS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There certainly are lots of pressures on the kids at Langley but I don't find it much different at other top high schools in the area. Depression is a disease and at its heart it is an irrational sadness that cannot be so simply explained. Suicide does not happen because a kid can't do LEAP. These boys were not bullied- in fact they were well liked. I do not think you will find a simple reason why this happened. You will probably never know why it happened.

Thank you for this voice of reason. It is simply arrogant for others to decide they know the reason these tragedies happened. The only people who know are the boys themselves and possibly their families. Depression is an insidious disease and there is often no simple, pat explanation. Everyone immediately assumed they were bullied, or hadn't gotten into a college, or were doing drugs. Not one of us knows for sure and we probably never will. Those of you bashing Langley because of your own personal experiences have no right to project that onto other kids.

I don't believe you know who these students may have shared their honest feeling with, or not. Their biofamilies may know some truths, but not nessasarily everything. Don't kid yourself.

[Anonymous]

This is sad anywhere, anytime, anyhow. We all look and desire answers. The sad thing is, there is probably not an answer.

[Anonymous]

Why say something like that. Do you know something no one else knows? If not don't make a comment like that.

[Anonymous]

19:09 was for 18:55. You are correct 19:08

[Anonymous]

Stress does not equal depression. Depression does not equal stress. Lots of high schoolers are "so stressed"; few suffer clinical depression.
Rest in peace TS. (The other boy's family has begged us not to talk about him or his situation so I won't).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is sad anywhere, anytime, anyhow. We all look and desire answers. The sad thing is, there is probably not an answer.

I agree how sad this is. However, I think there is an answer to this madness. But indeed it's not an answer we want to deal with, or even acknowledge. These students were suffering from pain and loneliness, and had no one to turn to for help. At least not the way they saw it.

I don't believe we should sweep this under the rug (as a community), and 'get on' with our lives. The families obviously need to do what they need to do, but so does everyone else. We should feel compelled to learn what might be happening here, and make some changes. Business as usual will result in more consequences. If we don't heed to this wake-up call, there will be more heartache, not less. Let's not allow these lives to be lost in vein. There are still many more HS students who need support, and I don't mean more meds thrown at them. These kids are too smart for that. They want the issues addressed. We need to reach out and listen to what's going on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why say something like that. Do you know something no one else knows? If not don't make a comment like that.

+1

Stop the speculating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear parents of dcurbanmom.com,
I am a 17 year old who attends Yorktown High school. Some may claim that because of my age I am immature and therefore not capable
of realizing what is and what isn't appropriate in reaction to different circumstances. It's sad that despite this generalization (that is definitely sometimes
true), I am able to recognize that the things that some of you are posting are completely insensitive and ignorant, and should never be posted on social
media despite the great perk of being able to post anonymously.
The tragedy that has ensued at Langley High school should NOT be taken as an opportunity to rant about the one-sided opinions that you have about Langley. No offense, but no one really cares about the hatred you have for a school, one that you, yourself, never even attended! Really, what does your daughter's or son's personal story have to do with anything?
It's quite amusing to me, that while some of you are utilizing this horrific event as support for your hatred for Langley, your kids are using it as an opportunity to create an even stronger, resilient, high school community. Maybe you should learn from them.
Please, have respect. Do not make up rumors. Do not point fingers. Do not use this tragedy as evidence to support your many arguments.
Most of you, like myself, do not know these boys. You do not know what they stood for. You do not know what they looked like. You do not know the things that they battled on a daily basis. I would bet that some of you do not even know their first names.
Please stop making teenagers like myself embarrassed that there are adults in my community that do not know how to compose themselves online.
There are two families, dozens of friends, and hundreds of classmates that are mourning the loss of two young boys. Please, be sympathetic to that.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. I cannot believe that some of you are actually parents. If you were, you would realize that speculating about the tragic deaths of two
boys that you do not even though is HIGHLY innapropriate, disrespectful, and insensitive. If you wish to share your opinion on suicide in high schol or the nature of the Langley community, do it elsewhere. Do not include the cases of these two boys that you do not even know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear parents of dcurbanmom.com,
I am a 17 year old who attends Yorktown High school. Some may claim that because of my age I am immature and therefore not capable
of realizing what is and what isn't appropriate in reaction to different circumstances. It's sad that despite this generalization (that is definitely sometimes
true), I am able to recognize that the things that some of you are posting are completely insensitive and ignorant, and should never be posted on social
media despite the great perk of being able to post anonymously.
The tragedy that has ensued at Langley High school should NOT be taken as an opportunity to rant about the one-sided opinions that you have about Langley. No offense, but no one really cares about the hatred you have for a school, one that you, yourself, never even attended! Really, what does your daughter's or son's personal story have to do with anything?
It's quite amusing to me, that while some of you are utilizing this horrific event as support for your hatred for Langley, your kids are using it as an opportunity to create an even stronger, resilient, high school community. Maybe you should learn from them.
Please, have respect. Do not make up rumors. Do not point fingers. Do not use this tragedy as evidence to support your many arguments.
Most of you, like myself, do not know these boys. You do not know what they stood for. You do not know what they looked like. You do not know the things that they battled on a daily basis. I would bet that some of you do not even know their first names.
Please stop making teenagers like myself embarrassed that there are adults in my community that do not know how to compose themselves online.
There are two families, dozens of friends, and hundreds of classmates that are mourning the loss of two young boys. Please, be sympathetic to that.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. I cannot believe that some of you are actually parents. If you were, you would realize that speculating about the tragic deaths of two
boys that you do not even though is HIGHLY innapropriate, disrespectful, and insensitive. If you wish to share your opinion on suicide in high schol or the nature of the Langley community, do it elsewhere. Do not include the cases of these two boys that you do not even know.

Where do you think we are, somewhere OTHER than an anonymous public message board? I'm not saying that gives people license to be offensive or insensitive but adults can talk about all manner of things, including suicide. We don't need to stick to prayers for the Langley community, we can have a discussion that may include speculation.

I know I'm coming off as insensitive but it's getting tiring that people keep trying to censor this thread unless it begins and ends with tears and R.I.P.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear parents of dcurbanmom.com,
I am a 17 year old who attends Yorktown High school. Some may claim that because of my age I am immature and therefore not capable
of realizing what is and what isn't appropriate in reaction to different circumstances. It's sad that despite this generalization (that is definitely sometimes
true), I am able to recognize that the things that some of you are posting are completely insensitive and ignorant, and should never be posted on social
media despite the great perk of being able to post anonymously.
The tragedy that has ensued at Langley High school should NOT be taken as an opportunity to rant about the one-sided opinions that you have about Langley. No offense, but no one really cares about the hatred you have for a school, one that you, yourself, never even attended! Really, what does your daughter's or son's personal story have to do with anything?
It's quite amusing to me, that while some of you are utilizing this horrific event as support for your hatred for Langley, your kids are using it as an opportunity to create an even stronger, resilient, high school community. Maybe you should learn from them.
Please, have respect. Do not make up rumors. Do not point fingers. Do not use this tragedy as evidence to support your many arguments.
Most of you, like myself, do not know these boys. You do not know what they stood for. You do not know what they looked like. You do not know the things that they battled on a daily basis. I would bet that some of you do not even know their first names.
Please stop making teenagers like myself embarrassed that there are adults in my community that do not know how to compose themselves online.
There are two families, dozens of friends, and hundreds of classmates that are mourning the loss of two young boys. Please, be sympathetic to that.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. I cannot believe that some of you are actually parents. If you were, you would realize that speculating about the tragic deaths of two
boys that you do not even though is HIGHLY innapropriate, disrespectful, and insensitive. If you wish to share your opinion on suicide in high schol or the nature of the Langley community, do it elsewhere. Do not include the cases of these two boys that you do not even know.

+1000. Some of the posts here are horrid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear parents of dcurbanmom.com,
I am a 17 year old who attends Yorktown High school. Some may claim that because of my age I am immature and therefore not capable
of realizing what is and what isn't appropriate in reaction to different circumstances. It's sad that despite this generalization (that is definitely sometimes
true), I am able to recognize that the things that some of you are posting are completely insensitive and ignorant, and should never be posted on social
media despite the great perk of being able to post anonymously.
The tragedy that has ensued at Langley High school should NOT be taken as an opportunity to rant about the one-sided opinions that you have about Langley. No offense, but no one really cares about the hatred you have for a school, one that you, yourself, never even attended! Really, what does your daughter's or son's personal story have to do with anything?
It's quite amusing to me, that while some of you are utilizing this horrific event as support for your hatred for Langley, your kids are using it as an opportunity to create an even stronger, resilient, high school community. Maybe you should learn from them.
Please, have respect. Do not make up rumors. Do not point fingers. Do not use this tragedy as evidence to support your many arguments.
Most of you, like myself, do not know these boys. You do not know what they stood for. You do not know what they looked like. You do not know the things that they battled on a daily basis. I would bet that some of you do not even know their first names.
Please stop making teenagers like myself embarrassed that there are adults in my community that do not know how to compose themselves online.
There are two families, dozens of friends, and hundreds of classmates that are mourning the loss of two young boys. Please, be sympathetic to that.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. I cannot believe that some of you are actually parents. If you were, you would realize that speculating about the tragic deaths of two
boys that you do not even though is HIGHLY innapropriate, disrespectful, and insensitive. If you wish to share your opinion on suicide in high schol or the nature of the Langley community, do it elsewhere. Do not include the cases of these two boys that you do not even know.

+1000. Some of the posts here are horrid.

Agreed. The few posts from the teenagers are more sensible that many of the presumably adult posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear parents of dcurbanmom.com,
I am a 17 year old who attends Yorktown High school. Some may claim that because of my age I am immature and therefore not capable
of realizing what is and what isn't appropriate in reaction to different circumstances. It's sad that despite this generalization (that is definitely sometimes
true), I am able to recognize that the things that some of you are posting are completely insensitive and ignorant, and should never be posted on social
media despite the great perk of being able to post anonymously.
The tragedy that has ensued at Langley High school should NOT be taken as an opportunity to rant about the one-sided opinions that you have about Langley. No offense, but no one really cares about the hatred you have for a school, one that you, yourself, never even attended! Really, what does your daughter's or son's personal story have to do with anything?
It's quite amusing to me, that while some of you are utilizing this horrific event as support for your hatred for Langley, your kids are using it as an opportunity to create an even stronger, resilient, high school community. Maybe you should learn from them.
Please, have respect. Do not make up rumors. Do not point fingers. Do not use this tragedy as evidence to support your many arguments.
Most of you, like myself, do not know these boys. You do not know what they stood for. You do not know what they looked like. You do not know the things that they battled on a daily basis. I would bet that some of you do not even know their first names.
Please stop making teenagers like myself embarrassed that there are adults in my community that do not know how to compose themselves online.
There are two families, dozens of friends, and hundreds of classmates that are mourning the loss of two young boys. Please, be sympathetic to that.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. I cannot believe that some of you are actually parents. If you were, you would realize that speculating about the tragic deaths of two
boys that you do not even though is HIGHLY innapropriate, disrespectful, and insensitive. If you wish to share your opinion on suicide in high schol or the nature of the Langley community, do it elsewhere. Do not include the cases of these two boys that you do not even know.

+1000. Some of the posts here are horrid.

Agreed. The few posts from the teenagers are more sensible that many of the presumably adult posts.

I could not agree more. Maybe we should all attempt to listen to our OWN children more, and speculate less about others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear parents of dcurbanmom.com,
I am a 17 year old who attends Yorktown High school. Some may claim that because of my age I am immature and therefore not capable
of realizing what is and what isn't appropriate in reaction to different circumstances. It's sad that despite this generalization (that is definitely sometimes
true), I am able to recognize that the things that some of you are posting are completely insensitive and ignorant, and should never be posted on social
media despite the great perk of being able to post anonymously.
The tragedy that has ensued at Langley High school should NOT be taken as an opportunity to rant about the one-sided opinions that you have about Langley. No offense, but no one really cares about the hatred you have for a school, one that you, yourself, never even attended! Really, what does your daughter's or son's personal story have to do with anything?
It's quite amusing to me, that while some of you are utilizing this horrific event as support for your hatred for Langley, your kids are using it as an opportunity to create an even stronger, resilient, high school community. Maybe you should learn from them.
Please, have respect. Do not make up rumors. Do not point fingers. Do not use this tragedy as evidence to support your many arguments.
Most of you, like myself, do not know these boys. You do not know what they stood for. You do not know what they looked like. You do not know the things that they battled on a daily basis. I would bet that some of you do not even know their first names.
Please stop making teenagers like myself embarrassed that there are adults in my community that do not know how to compose themselves online.
There are two families, dozens of friends, and hundreds of classmates that are mourning the loss of two young boys. Please, be sympathetic to that.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. I cannot believe that some of you are actually parents. If you were, you would realize that speculating about the tragic deaths of two
boys that you do not even though is HIGHLY innapropriate, disrespectful, and insensitive. If you wish to share your opinion on suicide in high schol or the nature of the Langley community, do it elsewhere. Do not include the cases of these two boys that you do not even know.

Where do you think we are, somewhere OTHER than an anonymous public message board? I'm not saying that gives people license to be offensive or insensitive but adults can talk about all manner of things, including suicide. We don't need to stick to prayers for the Langley community, we can have a discussion that may include speculation.

I know I'm coming off as insensitive but it's getting tiring that people keep trying to censor this thread unless it begins and ends with tears and R.I.P.

You are coming off as logical - truly! You are 100% correct. There are many, though, who see this as an attempt to malign the boys and the families, which it is not.

For some people, feeling is akin to doing something. For others, simply feeling is not enough.

[Anonymous]

One change that would help reduce the stress. Limit all kids to only 2 AP classes.

These are only kids. Be responsible adults and put an upper limit on the workload. Lots of other tangible improvements that can be done but this simple limit seems to me to be core problem at Langley.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why say something like that. Do you know something no one else knows? If not don't make a comment like that.

+1

Stop the speculating.

Why say something like what?