I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.

[Anonymous]

OK here is the big revel

I am in sales, so is lover-we both travel a good bit-day trips, maybe an overnight -we do not work for the same company but we cover the same territory
We keep the finances off the books by getting a few extra here and there when getting cash back, using miles to get gift cards for hotels if we need it
I am your neighbor
The one who seems ot have it all together-the one you say would never do this
the kids well adjusted-i hope
the one who is in shape that seems to not work hard at it-eat and drink what i want
I have the latest fashions
my spouse is very attractive
i am as well

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would your spouse be open to exploring how you could get these other needs met? Either him/herself or by exploring other means in a sanctioned manner?

I knew I was like this my entire adult life, I mentioend it early in our relationship but he was not open to it. I resisted for a long time but once I took that step it is hard so hard to run back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would your spouse be open to exploring how you could get these other needs met? Either him/herself or by exploring other means in a sanctioned manner?

I knew I was like this my entire adult life, I mentioend it early in our relationship but he was not open to it. I resisted for a long time but once I took that step it is hard so hard to run back

Like what exactly? Kinky? In what ways? Do you think DH would be angry if he caught you? Is that what you want?

I think I'm having a really hard time understanding the lack of honesty in your relationship. Why stay if you can't be yourself?

[Anonymous]

Like what exactly? Kinky? In what ways? Do you think DH would be angry if he caught you? Is that what you want?

I think I'm having a really hard time understanding the lack of honesty in your relationship. Why stay if you can't be yourself?

Nothing like a sub/dom thing but i would enjoy same room, perhaps light swinging but I know myself and i would have to take it further. Can anyone be themselves? honestly? I think the pp who said the lover treats them right all the time is a great statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:9:53 again. Here's another example. I don't get why you are so cagey - you started the thread. Why start it if you don't want to answer?

I have answered you, I am not sure what rock bottom is. Do you know wha tyour ultimate happiness would be? and if you reach it, do you stop trying to reach higher?

I asked you about rock bottom, I'm not the PP. I asked you what you're afraid to lose the most. You didn't answer. And I'm happy. It's not something you can get more of, you are or you aren't. So, by my definition, if you're seeking more, you obviously aren't happy to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like what exactly? Kinky? In what ways? Do you think DH would be angry if he caught you? Is that what you want?

I think I'm having a really hard time understanding the lack of honesty in your relationship. Why stay if you can't be yourself?

Nothing like a sub/dom thing but i would enjoy same room, perhaps light swinging but I know myself and i would have to take it further. Can anyone be themselves? honestly? I think the pp who said the lover treats them right all the time is a great statement.



Can you be more specific on what the kink actually is? So it's that you are non monogamous? It's hard to get a read because you don't seem to know. You are non monogamous by nature. Was this always the case? Is your lover?

[Anonymous]

Also, you were obviously a woman. A man would be more straight forward in answering questions!

[Anonymous]

Can you be more specific on what the kink actually is? So it's that you are non monogamous? It's hard to get a read because you don't seem to know. You are non monogamous by nature. Was this always the case? Is your lover?

I won't let anyone tie me up or hit me in anyway. I won't let anyone pee on me, i do enjoy candle wax, dirty talk, role playing and toys. lots of toys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like what exactly? Kinky? In what ways? Do you think DH would be angry if he caught you? Is that what you want?

I think I'm having a really hard time understanding the lack of honesty in your relationship. Why stay if you can't be yourself?

Nothing like a sub/dom thing but i would enjoy same room, perhaps light swinging but I know myself and i would have to take it further. Can anyone be themselves? honestly? I think the pp who said the lover treats them right all the time is a great statement.



I have to say yes. It's actually quite exhilarating to be with someone who knows you for who you really are. Putting yourself out there feels risky and dangerous and it gives me a high similar to what I think you're experiencing with your lover. I've consistently been suprised at my husband's ability to accept whoever it is I am in a particular moment over the course of our 11 monogamous years. Guess I'm lucky that I get the whole package without having to hurt anyone. And, whether you believe it or not, you are hurting your family.

No questions left for you.

[Anonymous]

If you are a female, why is there no risk of pregnancy? Are your tubes tied?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are a female, why is there no risk of pregnancy? Are your tubes tied?

yes and he is clipped as well but always use comdoms

[Anonymous]

sounds like you doing it for the thrill. sneaking around on travel, being sneaky with paying for stuff in cash etc etc.

that coupled with whatever type of kinky sex yall get into probably drives you to continue.

is there a part of you that wants to get caught by someone other than your spouse just to see how you "explain" it and see if you can get away with that too?

[Anonymous]

I doubt OP is in sales... She's such a terrible communicator!!!!

I guess that's why DH won't fulfill her. She can barely express herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sounds like you doing it for the thrill. sneaking around on travel, being sneaky with paying for stuff in cash etc etc.

that coupled with whatever type of kinky sex yall get into probably drives you to continue.

is there a part of you that wants to get caught by someone other than your spouse just to see how you "explain" it and see if you can get away with that too?

no, this is the most i have let anyone know about this and plan to keep it that way. but it is a big thrill

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you think your children will react if/when they learn about your cheating on their mother?

Did I say I was the husband?

They will react hwo they want. I can't control their emotions.

Not the PP but, when they find out (because they will) what do you expect from them?

I'm the daughter of a cheating parent and I was very very surprised with my parent's expectations... Just wondering about you.