DH choked me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh hell no. I’m so sorry OP, I can only imagine how terrifying that must have been, and still is. It would be a long while before we had sex again. And choking would be off the table forever. I don’t know how you put up with that in the first place, the thought of someone’s hands around my neck gives me chills. That would be a total turn off if a man asked to do that to me.

Agree. I didn't know that it was even a thing.

It's always been a thing. It's even mentioned in tons of movies or tv programs.

[Anonymous]

This is supposedly how Jennifer Levin died in the 1980s (the Preppy Murder if you recall).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have started exploring healthy BDSM and I LOVE being choked...BUT communication starts outside the bedroom with this. And safewords (or actions for this - mine is a thumbs up) is critical. It's natural to explore these activities and can be amazing - I'm having the best sex ever in my life and can't wear a bikini outside anymore because of the bruises.

Reddit's BDSM forums are better places to look for advice than DCUM.

Please seek therapy. No one should "love" being choked. That is truly sick. People who want to choke = psychos. People who enjoy being choked = damaged. There is no rationalizing this disturbing behavior. FFS your post is so disturbing.

Says who? Sounds like your personal opinion but not everybody should or does think the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH likes to choke in the bedroom. It’s not my thing, but I’ve indulged him. Last night he choked me too hard and I said to stop and he didn’t stop right away.

This made me terrified and I feel really uncomfortable. I told him right after the fact that this was not ok and he apologized. But I still do not feel comfortable around him. What should I do?

Should have shut it down right then. Time for a come to Jesus talk and that IS his only warning, or you're gone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have started exploring healthy BDSM and I LOVE being choked...BUT communication starts outside the bedroom with this. And safewords (or actions for this - mine is a thumbs up) is critical. It's natural to explore these activities and can be amazing - I'm having the best sex ever in my life and can't wear a bikini outside anymore because of the bruises.

Reddit's BDSM forums are better places to look for advice than DCUM.

Please seek therapy. No one should "love" being choked. That is truly sick. People who want to choke = psychos. People who enjoy being choked = damaged. There is no rationalizing this disturbing behavior. FFS your post is so disturbing.

Says who? Sounds like your personal opinion but not everybody should or does think the same.

Says anyone with a speck of decency. Strangulation leads to death. It the act of trying to kill someone. Having any sexual pleasure attached to an act that any non-insane person would equate with attempted murder is depraved. It is next level.

Would you say holding a loaded gun to someone's head during sex was also okay?

FFS people defending this practice are demented.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have started exploring healthy BDSM and I LOVE being choked...BUT communication starts outside the bedroom with this. And safewords (or actions for this - mine is a thumbs up) is critical. It's natural to explore these activities and can be amazing - I'm having the best sex ever in my life and can't wear a bikini outside anymore because of the bruises.

Reddit's BDSM forums are better places to look for advice than DCUM.

Please seek therapy. No one should "love" being choked. That is truly sick. People who want to choke = psychos. People who enjoy being choked = damaged. There is no rationalizing this disturbing behavior. FFS your post is so disturbing.

Says who? Sounds like your personal opinion but not everybody should or does think the same.

Says anyone with a speck of decency. Strangulation leads to death. It the act of trying to kill someone. Having any sexual pleasure attached to an act that any non-insane person would equate with attempted murder is depraved. It is next level.

Would you say holding a loaded gun to someone's head during sex was also okay?

FFS people defending this practice are demented.

DP, but that's a kink also. Knifeplay is huge it seems. I'd wager money even celebs like Angelina Jolie held a knife to Pitt or made him do that to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have started exploring healthy BDSM and I LOVE being choked...BUT communication starts outside the bedroom with this. And safewords (or actions for this - mine is a thumbs up) is critical. It's natural to explore these activities and can be amazing - I'm having the best sex ever in my life and can't wear a bikini outside anymore because of the bruises.

Reddit's BDSM forums are better places to look for advice than DCUM.

Please seek therapy. No one should "love" being choked. That is truly sick. People who want to choke = psychos. People who enjoy being choked = damaged. There is no rationalizing this disturbing behavior. FFS your post is so disturbing.

Says who? Sounds like your personal opinion but not everybody should or does think the same.

Says anyone with a speck of decency. Strangulation leads to death. It the act of trying to kill someone. Having any sexual pleasure attached to an act that any non-insane person would equate with attempted murder is depraved. It is next level.

Would you say holding a loaded gun to someone's head during sex was also okay?

FFS people defending this practice are demented.

DP, but that's a kink also. Knifeplay is huge it seems. I'd wager money even celebs like Angelina Jolie held a knife to Pitt or made him do that to her.

Nicking someone with a knife is a LOT less dangerous than choking.

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t mean it’s not sick thing done by a couple who are respectively dangerous and damaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have started exploring healthy BDSM and I LOVE being choked...BUT communication starts outside the bedroom with this. And safewords (or actions for this - mine is a thumbs up) is critical. It's natural to explore these activities and can be amazing - I'm having the best sex ever in my life and can't wear a bikini outside anymore because of the bruises.

Reddit's BDSM forums are better places to look for advice than DCUM.

Please seek therapy. No one should "love" being choked. That is truly sick. People who want to choke = psychos. People who enjoy being choked = damaged. There is no rationalizing this disturbing behavior. FFS your post is so disturbing.

Says who? Sounds like your personal opinion but not everybody should or does think the same.

Says anyone with a speck of decency. Strangulation leads to death. It the act of trying to kill someone. Having any sexual pleasure attached to an act that any non-insane person would equate with attempted murder is depraved. It is next level.

Would you say holding a loaded gun to someone's head during sex was also okay?

FFS people defending this practice are demented.

DP, but that's a kink also. Knifeplay is huge it seems. I'd wager money even celebs like Angelina Jolie held a knife to Pitt or made him do that to her.

If a woman who was so physically affectionate with her brother that it raised eyebrows; wore a necklace that contained a vial of her lover’s blood; and had one of the most protracted divorces in history does it, it must be totally mainstream.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have started exploring healthy BDSM and I LOVE being choked...BUT communication starts outside the bedroom with this. And safewords (or actions for this - mine is a thumbs up) is critical. It's natural to explore these activities and can be amazing - I'm having the best sex ever in my life and can't wear a bikini outside anymore because of the bruises.

Reddit's BDSM forums are better places to look for advice than DCUM.

Please seek therapy. No one should "love" being choked. That is truly sick. People who want to choke = psychos. People who enjoy being choked = damaged. There is no rationalizing this disturbing behavior. FFS your post is so disturbing.

Says who? Sounds like your personal opinion but not everybody should or does think the same.

But op expressly said she doesn't like being choked. And her husband does it anyway, and then proceeded to do it so hard that she became terrified.

That's not a healthy kink. That's abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have started exploring healthy BDSM and I LOVE being choked...BUT communication starts outside the bedroom with this. And safewords (or actions for this - mine is a thumbs up) is critical. It's natural to explore these activities and can be amazing - I'm having the best sex ever in my life and can't wear a bikini outside anymore because of the bruises.

Reddit's BDSM forums are better places to look for advice than DCUM.

Please seek therapy. No one should "love" being choked. That is truly sick. People who want to choke = psychos. People who enjoy being choked = damaged. There is no rationalizing this disturbing behavior. FFS your post is so disturbing.

Says who? Sounds like your personal opinion but not everybody should or does think the same.

Says anyone with a speck of decency. Strangulation leads to death. It the act of trying to kill someone. Having any sexual pleasure attached to an act that any non-insane person would equate with attempted murder is depraved. It is next level.

Would you say holding a loaded gun to someone's head during sex was also okay?

FFS people defending this practice are demented.

DP, but that's a kink also. Knifeplay is huge it seems. I'd wager money even celebs like Angelina Jolie held a knife to Pitt or made him do that to her.

Nicking someone with a knife is a LOT less dangerous than choking.

Nicking someone on the neck?

[Anonymous]

I recall a study that women whose partners abused them by strangulation had years of brain injury and other issues afterwards.

https://biausa.org/public-affairs/media/strangulation-domestic-violence-and-brain-injury-an-introduction-to-a-complex-topic

https://www.kemh.health.wa.gov.au/~/media/HSPs/NMHS/Hospitals/WNHS/Documents/Patients-resources/SARC---Non-fatal-strangulation.pdf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH likes to choke in the bedroom. It’s not my thing, but I’ve indulged him. Last night he choked me too hard and I said to stop and he didn’t stop right away.

This made me terrified and I feel really uncomfortable. I told him right after the fact that this was not ok and he apologized. But I still do not feel comfortable around him. What should I do?

I think this is a troll post. Who on earth will allow to be choked a bit. You have to be sick to let that happen in the XXI century.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH likes to choke in the bedroom. It’s not my thing, but I’ve indulged him. Last night he choked me too hard and I said to stop and he didn’t stop right away.

This made me terrified and I feel really uncomfortable. I told him right after the fact that this was not ok and he apologized. But I still do not feel comfortable around him. What should I do?

I think this is a troll post. Who on earth will allow to be choked a bit. You have to be sick to let that happen in the XXI century.

Yes, you are trolling. It's a common kink. Nobody believes you don't know about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have started exploring healthy BDSM and I LOVE being choked...BUT communication starts outside the bedroom with this. And safewords (or actions for this - mine is a thumbs up) is critical. It's natural to explore these activities and can be amazing - I'm having the best sex ever in my life and can't wear a bikini outside anymore because of the bruises.

Reddit's BDSM forums are better places to look for advice than DCUM.

Please seek therapy. No one should "love" being choked. That is truly sick. People who want to choke = psychos. People who enjoy being choked = damaged. There is no rationalizing this disturbing behavior. FFS your post is so disturbing.

Says who? Sounds like your personal opinion but not everybody should or does think the same.

Says anyone with a speck of decency. Strangulation leads to death. It the act of trying to kill someone. Having any sexual pleasure attached to an act that any non-insane person would equate with attempted murder is depraved. It is next level.

Would you say holding a loaded gun to someone's head during sex was also okay?

FFS people defending this practice are demented.

DP, but that's a kink also. Knifeplay is huge it seems. I'd wager money even celebs like Angelina Jolie held a knife to Pitt or made him do that to her.

Nicking someone with a knife is a LOT less dangerous than choking.

Fair point. Though only if the knife is rather dull. A sharp one is like a razor, and very little pressure is needed to cut deep, and the jugular is not that deep. That risk is the reward for some women and men who like the danger.