S/O: How are you preparing your SONS to be respectful and safe, and to protect themselves?

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Anonymous wrote:I tried everything I could -no video games, no violent movies or tv, no toy guns or swords or any violent type play at all. Encouraged empathy and peaceful problem solving and anger management (I’m a behavioral scientist).
Society influences won and he is violent and has assaulted women.
However, if I hadn’t raised him as I did, I know he’d be 100 x worse.
I’ve long admired how boys are raised in other cultures, I think our culture in the USA is dangerous.
We excuse and allow bad behavior and mistreatment of women.
This is not keeping boys safe, this is pushing them to be violent.

I want to thank you for posting. You are getting some nasty comments, but there are SO MANY men who assault women. Probably quite a few of the posters on this thread. They don't want to admit it, or want to blame the woman, but it comes down to the men. They can be raised by great parents, and still end up raping or assaulting someone. It serves no one to brush it under the rug. I'm sorry your son is a predator, it cant be easy to live with that.

Disagree with premise. There are not “SO MANY” men who assault women.

There are far more men who assault women (and men) than there are women. 80% of violent crimes are committed by men. For sexual crimes? 94%. I'm not sure what you are disagreeing with.

The majority of violent crimes are committed by persistent, repeat offenders. So no, there are NOT “so many” men out there assaulting women (and men).

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3969807/

Bro, that's sweden. Not USA.

Bro you don’t think human beings in Sweden are the same as human beings in the USA?

The results are broadly applicable. Use your brain, please.

Their culture is massively different. I don't think it's comparable to US crimes, no. If you have an article or study on US men I'd be happy to read it.

In Sweden, feminism is woven into the lesson plans in national schools. Sweden has removed offensive / toxic-masculine features such as urinals in restroom (no man “needs” to stand to urinate).

Basically, boys in Sweden are raised to be feminists from birth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone's son been accused of assault after hooking up? It certainly seems like a risk.

My D1 DS was accused of sexual assault after a casual hook up in his freshman year. The woman wanted to be his gf after that single casual hook up, but he didn't want to. She reported him to campus police, and my DS was removed from the team. Fortunately, the woman's roomate came forward to confirm it was consensual, and the investigation was closed. In the end, it cost us a lot of money in lawyer's fees, and DS had to transfer to another school. Nothing happened to the woman.

Why didn't you sue the woman for slander?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents of boys:

How are you raising your SONS to be respectful, decent, honorable, kind, and protective of others and of themselves?

I am so tired of “how are we preparing girls.” I want to hear more from parents of boys how you are being part of the solution, how you are being proactive, how you are making positive change in this world where boys and men are usually the aggressors, the unsafe people, the predators, the perpetrators. I want to know what you are teaching your SONS.

Channel John Wayne and others of his time.
As far as staying safe, the boys and girls all pack weapons.

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Anonymous wrote:I teach my sons to run far far away from promiscuous girls. I show them all the examples around us wherever I can of men’s lives who were ruined by the choice the engage in one night stands, “friends with benefits”, and any other cheap premarital sex. Those men often end up with battling assault allegations, child support payments, STDs, heart hardening heartbreak, violent ex-lovers, etc. This is a major way that they can protect themselves. We teach and emphasize marriage instead and the success stories of those that choose reverent, conservative, and modest spouses. We also teach them to be reverent, conservative, and modest so as to attract the same energy.

As far as protecting others, well I don’t really think that is their job. Parents need to be teaching girls how to respect and protect themselves. Hence the reason for the other thread.

What monsters you are raising, just like Mommy Dearest. Yikes.

Yeah she sounds crazy! I sincerely hope that any and all women stay away from her sons. They might not be bad but who would want to build a relationship into that family.

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone's son been accused of assault after hooking up? It certainly seems like a risk.

My D1 DS was accused of sexual assault after a casual hook up in his freshman year. The woman wanted to be his gf after that single casual hook up, but he didn't want to. She reported him to campus police, and my DS was removed from the team. Fortunately, the woman's roomate came forward to confirm it was consensual, and the investigation was closed. In the end, it cost us a lot of money in lawyer's fees, and DS had to transfer to another school. Nothing happened to the woman.

I’m sorry that happened but the process worked for you. And stats have routinely shown that there is no indication those claims are made at a higher rate than any other crime. The fact is, also, it is more likely that a guy will NOT face punishment for a sexual assault that did happen than your son being falsely accused. Women are routinely discounted. This is evident by the rape kit backlog across this country.