What do you think of women dripping in designer items?

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Anonymous wrote:My cousin arrived to Thanksgiving this year fully decked out in designer items that are very recognizable — two Cartier line bracelets, Van-Cleef earrings, a Fergamo belt, a Goyard tote bag, Tiffany necklace. I could go on. And most of these items are new from the last time I saw her (where she was decked out in other jewelry and accessories). This is how she got off the plane. I know she and her husband make more than I do but they also have two kids in private school and she had lost her job not too long ago. It just seems so unnecessary and irresponsible.

Yes, I shouldn’t judge. But it seriously makes me feel like she’s trying to visually show that she’s better than me and my family because I don’t have anything like this stuff. Am I jealous? Yea, a little, so that’s probably driving this but at the same time I can’t imagine going out wearing that much money.

So what do you think if you see a woman with this much designer stuff on?

Who cares we have way more things to think about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I wouldn't be able to know these brands by just looking so I think you are into this and are jealous. But when I see women dripping in jewelry and bags that I think are "Fancy" or expensive. I think they're trying to hard. I have money to buy these things and I don't so it's not jealousy. I just think it's sad they're trying to hard to look "rich" like that. Real money, you won't ever know. Lots of millionaire drive hondas...I don't like the gaudy "look".

And lots drive Bentleys and Maybachs. This "rich people like to look poor" thing you guys continue to drag out is rooted in something you all need to examine more closely.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the quietly wealthy mom of 3DC who rolls up in my new to me Honda Pilot. Jewelry is my 1ct solitaire and plain wedding band, costume gold hoop earrings. Monthly blonde highlights, light drugstore brand makeup but tasteful, pro manicured nails. I’m in head-to-toe REI casual clothes (Kuhl jacket over a Fjall Raven button down and Marmot leggings and Anita bra) with Salomon trail runners. If I have to get dressed up, I’ll ask my Nordstrom personal shopper (I’ve had the same one for years) select something. I can’t be bothered.

You "can't be bothered" but you know how to use the Norstrom stylists and have the time/money to get highlights every freaking month? GMAB.

PP and written tongue in cheek.

Can’t be bothered…to actually drive, park, browse, shop, try on stacks of clothes so therefore personal shopper to the rescue. More time for fun and adventure.

Yeah. We are all convinced you are living a life of fun and adventure. Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.

Agree. These women always look good. They may look basic, but they look well put together. They clearly aren't going for NY street style anyway.

+100.

I think the better question is why women on this site hate women of this sort so deeply.

Because they are insecure about the fact that they don't look as well put together.

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OP, it may seem a lot of money for you, but not necessarily for other people.

I work in tech and I've had many friends who basically FIREd after their companies IPO'ed. 99% of them are still working, some had been laid off before but and guess what, they don't need a salary so they just took some time off before job hunting again

Another friend joined Meta in 2022 when their stock was trash. With market hitting all time high he raked ~1M last year. He was laid off a couple of month ago and it does not ding his finance in the sliiightest sense.

There are people who are more financially successful than you OP, way more successful. Don't be bitter, don't be resentful, it makes you look like a pathetic clown

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Anonymous wrote:Those I know who wear designer all the time grew up without much and are very insecure and need to show off to feel better about themselves.

Those who grew up well off don't need to flaunt it.

That isn't my experience

Really?

Then let’s drill down.

The WASPy old money Rich absolutely do not show labels.

Other ethnicities tend to.

I know trust fund kids who went to Choate. They would never wear showy labels. Everything is very nice and well tailored, but most people can’t pinpoint brands.

Heh WASPs who went to Choate aren't the only type of people who grew up rich, my friend. Get out of your bubble a little!

lol

Just one example, pp.

My bubble of old money rich people admittedly skews white and east coast (mostly northern with a few exceptions).

Young sorority girls go overboard with labels, but it’s typically a phase. Most women know better than to wear multiple showy labels (or anything obvious at all) by the time they reach 30.

So who are these people you see striving to wear multiple obvious luxury brands at the same time? Age, race, ethnicity, geographic region, and most importantly: new money, old money, or living beyond their means?

DCUM posters are too much. If there aren't any buildings named after your grandparents (like, for example, the dorm named after my grandfather), then shut up about this. Your "old money bubble" lol. Laughable. You wouldn't know true "old money" folks if one of them came up to you on their way to the CC, announced it, and bit you on the ass. As most of you blathering on about it on here with regularity wouldn't.

DCmoms with a few rich friends have strange superiority complex that their life style is better than immigrants’ lifestyle or new money lifestyle.

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Anonymous wrote:Well I wouldn't be able to know these brands by just looking so I think you are into this and are jealous. But when I see women dripping in jewelry and bags that I think are "Fancy" or expensive. I think they're trying to hard. I have money to buy these things and I don't so it's not jealousy. I just think it's sad they're trying to hard to look "rich" like that. Real money, you won't ever know. Lots of millionaire drive hondas...I don't like the gaudy "look".

And lots drive Bentleys and Maybachs. This "rich people like to look poor" thing you guys continue to drag out is rooted in something you all need to examine more closely.

I agree with this. I know a lot of extremely rich people and most of them dress expensively and drive nice cars

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Anonymous wrote:Well I wouldn't be able to know these brands by just looking so I think you are into this and are jealous. But when I see women dripping in jewelry and bags that I think are "Fancy" or expensive. I think they're trying to hard. I have money to buy these things and I don't so it's not jealousy. I just think it's sad they're trying to hard to look "rich" like that. Real money, you won't ever know. Lots of millionaire drive hondas...I don't like the gaudy "look".

And lots drive Bentleys and Maybachs. This "rich people like to look poor" thing you guys continue to drag out is rooted in something you all need to examine more closely.

I agree with this. I know a lot of extremely rich people and most of them dress expensively and drive nice cars

+1

Designer clothes, luxury cars, and gasp, Love bracelets (the pave version, of course).

It’s all such a DCUM cope

[Anonymous]

I would think she is in sales or something where brands / etc. are signs of success.

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I don't think much of it. It's their money. I prefer spending my money on my kid's education and if I had any left over, I'd spend it on travel. Different strokes. What you need to think about is how YOU are so affected by what SHE chooses to spend her money on.

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Anonymous wrote:Well I wouldn't be able to know these brands by just looking so I think you are into this and are jealous. But when I see women dripping in jewelry and bags that I think are "Fancy" or expensive. I think they're trying to hard. I have money to buy these things and I don't so it's not jealousy. I just think it's sad they're trying to hard to look "rich" like that. Real money, you won't ever know. Lots of millionaire drive hondas...I don't like the gaudy "look".

And lots drive Bentleys and Maybachs. This "rich people like to look poor" thing you guys continue to drag out is rooted in something you all need to examine more closely.

I agree with this. I know a lot of extremely rich people and most of them dress expensively and drive nice cars

Of course they do! Who wants to wear sh**ty clothes and drive a bad car? You get what you can afford. If someone's got a beater old Mercedes that's been passed down for generations, they probably also have a very expensive car that they use most of the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Well I wouldn't be able to know these brands by just looking so I think you are into this and are jealous. But when I see women dripping in jewelry and bags that I think are "Fancy" or expensive. I think they're trying to hard. I have money to buy these things and I don't so it's not jealousy. I just think it's sad they're trying to hard to look "rich" like that. Real money, you won't ever know. Lots of millionaire drive hondas...I don't like the gaudy "look".

And lots drive Bentleys and Maybachs. This "rich people like to look poor" thing you guys continue to drag out is rooted in something you all need to examine more closely.

I agree with this. I know a lot of extremely rich people and most of them dress expensively and drive nice cars

Of course they do! Who wants to wear sh**ty clothes and drive a bad car? You get what you can afford. If someone's got a beater old Mercedes that's been passed down for generations, they probably also have a very expensive car that they use most of the time.

A lot of old money people don’t have a great cash situation with a lot of wealth wrapped up in property and trusts that they can’t easily sell. There is also often a realisation that it isn’t really their money as they haven’t earned it and I think that also changes behaviour. That explains why they are driving bad cars and only wearing very old jewellery. New money has more fun with wealth

[Anonymous]

Today while roadtripping I saw a family at a cafe where every kid was decked out in Vineyard Vines, and bottle-blonde Mom had a white neverfull on one shoulder and lululemon backpack on the other. All of that mattered a lot less than the fact that one of the toddlers wouldn’t wear his sneakers, so they SET HIS SHOES DOWN ON THE TABLE, decided to move to a different table, took a table decoration with them, and then put the shoes in the decoration to entertain the kid…and then put them back on the surface of the new table. Brand names can’t cancel out this kind of upbringing!

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Anonymous wrote:Today while roadtripping I saw a family at a cafe where every kid was decked out in Vineyard Vines, and bottle-blonde Mom had a white neverfull on one shoulder and lululemon backpack on the other. All of that mattered a lot less than the fact that one of the toddlers wouldn’t wear his sneakers, so they SET HIS SHOES DOWN ON THE TABLE, decided to move to a different table, took a table decoration with them, and then put the shoes in the decoration to entertain the kid…and then put them back on the surface of the new table. Brand names can’t cancel out this kind of upbringing!

Yeah … you are way overreacting. Your burning jealousy is clear in your language (“bottle-blonde”?!?).

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Anonymous wrote:Well I wouldn't be able to know these brands by just looking so I think you are into this and are jealous. But when I see women dripping in jewelry and bags that I think are "Fancy" or expensive. I think they're trying to hard. I have money to buy these things and I don't so it's not jealousy. I just think it's sad they're trying to hard to look "rich" like that. Real money, you won't ever know. Lots of millionaire drive hondas...I don't like the gaudy "look".

And lots drive Bentleys and Maybachs. This "rich people like to look poor" thing you guys continue to drag out is rooted in something you all need to examine more closely.

I agree with this. I know a lot of extremely rich people and most of them dress expensively and drive nice cars

Of course they do! Who wants to wear sh**ty clothes and drive a bad car? You get what you can afford. If someone's got a beater old Mercedes that's been passed down for generations, they probably also have a very expensive car that they use most of the time.

A lot of old money people don’t have a great cash situation with a lot of wealth wrapped up in property and trusts that they can’t easily sell. There is also often a realisation that it isn’t really their money as they haven’t earned it and I think that also changes behaviour. That explains why they are driving bad cars and only wearing very old jewellery. New money has more fun with wealth

A lot of old money wealth is also wrapped up in "family offices" and they can't easily sell it without the rest of the family being involved.