HoCo dresses- Could they be any shorter

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Anonymous wrote:Can people just stop comparing 15 yr old girls to prostitutes and calling them whores. It’s insane. They are children figuring things out. We all went through years of figuring out who we are, what we like, how to function in society. Good god, extend some grace and why are women always one another’s worst enemies. Words matter, they impact children, be kind.

That’s what moms are for. Not only are some of you completely abdicating your responsibility, but it would seem living vicariously through your daughters! (Seriously, stop talking about your 15 year old’s “rockin’ bod” you weirdo creeps.)

If you don’t want people to think your daughter looks like a streetwalker, stop letting her leave the house dressed like one! This isn’t complicated.

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Seriously! My daughter wouldn’t wear this bc she has self respect and decency, and if she wanted to wear it, there is no way I would let her.

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Anonymous wrote:I am shocked that so many would let their girls go to a dance dressed like that. There is no way I would let my teen go like that. And I don’t think she would want to either - she has some morals!

It is not about morals. It is about current fashion. Does your teen wear a bikini to the beach/pool?

There are different styles of bikini, just as there are different styles of dresses. Some look nice/classy/attractive, others look like the person wearing them is desperate for sexual attention.

+1 I don't let my DD wear a thong to the beach/pool, just as I don't let my DD wear a dress that makes her look like a street walker.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't really care about tightness or length but the fabric in most of these dresses is so cheap-looking. That makes the look appear cheap more than anything else imo.

Were you one of those mothers who didn’t really like it when her preschoolers wanted to wear sparkles and cheap neon?

DP but the position of "let kids wear cheaply produced synthetic fibers!" is a weird one. Like I let my kid wear what she wants for the most part but the other day I was folding clothes and she has some message tees she got online from some cheapo retailer with her birthday money and I was like "oooh that's why she has a rash on her armpits." I pointed this out to her and she had no idea that bad fabric could irritate your skin like that. She told me later that those tees also transfer dye to her skin even after several washes and the hems have already unraveled. A good lesson in being willing to spend more to get fewer items in order to avoid cheap fabric.

It's okay for parents to not want their kids to wear cheap fabric. It's also environmentally awful. I'm happy to encourage my kid to make better choices!

Oh so that’s why you don’t want your kids to wear these homecoming dresses - the environment and rashes? Huh. I swear one could walk away with a different conclusion from these 11 pages.

These are clothes kids wear one or twice. Kids outgrow their sparkly unicorn clothes. I don’t understand spending a lot of money on them or getting overly worried that the hem might unravel after several washes. These are quite the opposite of say black work pants for an adult.

My point was not about the fabric itself but about adult woman finding those little nitty ways to criticize girls.

Believe it or not this is not a thread of one person espousing 14 different reasons for disliking these dresses.

I have always opposed my kid buying "disposable" clothes that she will only wear once or twice. It's not about "little nitty ways to criticize girls" it's about having a set of values that is in opposition to buying cheap synthetic clothes made at sweatshops and then throwing them away after wearing them twice. I don't buy my kid anything she won't be able to wear for years and that has decent quality because I care about the enviroment and also don't like pissing money away on disposable crap. We also don't use disposable plates or plastic water bottles.

You aren't defending teenage girls. You're advocating for more landfills loaded with polyester crap from Shein and Forever 21. Good work -- the billionaires who own those companies are grateful for your service.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't really care about tightness or length but the fabric in most of these dresses is so cheap-looking. That makes the look appear cheap more than anything else imo.

Were you one of those mothers who didn’t really like it when her preschoolers wanted to wear sparkles and cheap neon?

DP but the position of "let kids wear cheaply produced synthetic fibers!" is a weird one. Like I let my kid wear what she wants for the most part but the other day I was folding clothes and she has some message tees she got online from some cheapo retailer with her birthday money and I was like "oooh that's why she has a rash on her armpits." I pointed this out to her and she had no idea that bad fabric could irritate your skin like that. She told me later that those tees also transfer dye to her skin even after several washes and the hems have already unraveled. A good lesson in being willing to spend more to get fewer items in order to avoid cheap fabric.

It's okay for parents to not want their kids to wear cheap fabric. It's also environmentally awful. I'm happy to encourage my kid to make better choices!

Oh so that’s why you don’t want your kids to wear these homecoming dresses - the environment and rashes? Huh. I swear one could walk away with a different conclusion from these 11 pages.

These are clothes kids wear one or twice. Kids outgrow their sparkly unicorn clothes. I don’t understand spending a lot of money on them or getting overly worried that the hem might unravel after several washes. These are quite the opposite of say black work pants for an adult.

My point was not about the fabric itself but about adult woman finding those little nitty ways to criticize girls.

Believe it or not this is not a thread of one person espousing 14 different reasons for disliking these dresses.

I have always opposed my kid buying "disposable" clothes that she will only wear once or twice. It's not about "little nitty ways to criticize girls" it's about having a set of values that is in opposition to buying cheap synthetic clothes made at sweatshops and then throwing them away after wearing them twice. I don't buy my kid anything she won't be able to wear for years and that has decent quality because I care about the enviroment and also don't like pissing money away on disposable crap. We also don't use disposable plates or plastic water bottles.

You aren't defending teenage girls. You're advocating for more landfills loaded with polyester crap from Shein and Forever 21. Good work -- the billionaires who own those companies are grateful for your service.

What teenager wears a homecoming dress more than once or twice? Tell us how much money was spent on your daughter’s homecoming dress, the material it was made out of it, and where you bought it/brand?

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Anonymous wrote:I am shocked that so many would let their girls go to a dance dressed like that. There is no way I would let my teen go like that. And I don’t think she would want to either - she has some morals!

It is not about morals. It is about current fashion. Does your teen wear a bikini to the beach/pool?

There are different styles of bikini, just as there are different styles of dresses. Some look nice/classy/attractive, others look like the person wearing them is desperate for sexual attention.

+1 I don't let my DD wear a thong to the beach/pool, just as I don't let my DD wear a dress that makes her look like a street walker.

But you do "let" your teenage daughter wear a bikini at the beach? Which shows off waaaaay more skin than one of these dresses? Hmmm...

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Anonymous wrote:I care more than my daughter is a good kid. People that are concerned about the short dresses have their own issues they’re dealing with. Something about it makes these ladies feel uncomfortable inside. Maybe they didn’t have the confidence at that age or they truly believe men can’t control themselves when they see skin.

+1. It seems like 95% of these posters do not have a teenager daughter but they sure have a lot of opinions on teenage girls.

+1. Really gross to see these comments in 2024.

I have a teen DD who went to HoCo. I would not let her weary a trashy dress. They look like prostitutes. Her friends came over our house all dressed up, and omg.. they looked like they were spilling out of their dresses, constantly pulling the skirt down, but the bodice up. FYI if you constantly have to fidget with your dress, it's probably not appropriate.

^^^someone has clearly never seen a prostitute in real life. I assure you, they aren't wearing a shiny, brand new dress and heels.

I have also seen them irl. Some of the prostitutes do indeed wear similar dresses.

No . . . they don't.

Hm.. maybe you were in the poorer parts of the area. I saw them in CA, and they do indeed wear skimpy clothes to attract johns.

No one cares if they are new. We're talking about styles, not how much you paid for the dress. Even so, I've seen the same dress sold for $10 at a discount store that you would find in a department store for $70.

Now you’re just trying to have the last word and making sh— up.

But so what? These girls are not prostitutes. Nor do they look like one. And ppl like you criticizing them as such really shows your own hang ups and misogyny. And nothing more.

How grotesque are you to call 14-18 year olds at homecoming street walkers bc of their dresses? Lots of you seem to revel in it.

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Anonymous wrote:I am shocked that so many would let their girls go to a dance dressed like that. There is no way I would let my teen go like that. And I don’t think she would want to either - she has some morals!

It is not about morals. It is about current fashion. Does your teen wear a bikini to the beach/pool?

There are different styles of bikini, just as there are different styles of dresses. Some look nice/classy/attractive, others look like the person wearing them is desperate for sexual attention.

+1 I don't let my DD wear a thong to the beach/pool, just as I don't let my DD wear a dress that makes her look like a street walker.

But you do "let" your teenage daughter wear a bikini at the beach? Which shows off waaaaay more skin than one of these dresses? Hmmm...

hm... there's a time and place to wear certain things. Would you let your kid wear a bikini to school or homecoming? Why not? Hmm...

And the bikini she wears is more than just tiny scrap of material, like those tiny triangles some girls wear.

We are not talking about 24 year olds. We are talking about 14 to 17 yr olds. If your DD is 18, they can wear what they want, but I would hope that my DD has enough self respect to not let it all hang out.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a 52-year-old mother to two college-aged sons. It is weird to me that so many people are triggered by these dresses. I don't have any issue with them -- they cover up way more than the bikinis that were on display throughout the summer. Have you guys been on college campuses recently and seen what girls are wearing to their classes? It looks really uncomfortable to me, but whatever. The amount of skin truly doesn't bother me (and it is certainly appreciated by my sons). Don't we all like to look at pretty things? (Or silently judge those who don't pull it off?)

DH went to a visit a friend who has a teen daughter. She is quite busty and was wearing a tube top. When he came by, she was constantly lifting up her tube top, and it was clear she was not comfortable wearing it. He kept thinking, "why are you wearing that ? You look so uncomfortable". And before you call him a perv, no, he thought she was ridiculous. He has no problem with nudity in general, but clearly she was not comfortable wearing that.

But why do you guys care if she was uncomfortable? Women have been uncomfortable in the name of fashion for centuries -- stilettos, corsets, headdresses, etc. (And why in the world would I call him a perv? That seems a strange reaction as well.)

When someone is constantly grabbing at a tube top and adjusting their breasts, it is poor manners and distracting. Don’t wear underwear that you feel compelled to pick out of crack in public either. Same thing

I'm sure your one of those who is always adjusting your frumpy tops due to your muffin tops. Get over it.

An interesting turn this thread has taken is the people who claim to be defending these young women to wear what they want in peace by making aggressively misogynistic and body-shaming comments about older women.

There's a PhD thesis in these comments.

I’m 51 and defending them. I don’t care what you wear. I do care you are equating athletes, honor roll students, good kids, to hookers bc they wear a short dress. I have a big problem with that, actually.

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Anonymous wrote:I care more than my daughter is a good kid. People that are concerned about the short dresses have their own issues they’re dealing with. Something about it makes these ladies feel uncomfortable inside. Maybe they didn’t have the confidence at that age or they truly believe men can’t control themselves when they see skin.

+1. It seems like 95% of these posters do not have a teenager daughter but they sure have a lot of opinions on teenage girls.

+1. Really gross to see these comments in 2024.

I have a teen DD who went to HoCo. I would not let her weary a trashy dress. They look like prostitutes. Her friends came over our house all dressed up, and omg.. they looked like they were spilling out of their dresses, constantly pulling the skirt down, but the bodice up. FYI if you constantly have to fidget with your dress, it's probably not appropriate.

^^^someone has clearly never seen a prostitute in real life. I assure you, they aren't wearing a shiny, brand new dress and heels.

I have also seen them irl. Some of the prostitutes do indeed wear similar dresses.

No . . . they don't.

Hm.. maybe you were in the poorer parts of the area. I saw them in CA, and they do indeed wear skimpy clothes to attract johns.

No one cares if they are new. We're talking about styles, not how much you paid for the dress. Even so, I've seen the same dress sold for $10 at a discount store that you would find in a department store for $70.

Now you’re just trying to have the last word and making sh— up.

But so what? These girls are not prostitutes. Nor do they look like one. And ppl like you criticizing them as such really shows your own hang ups and misogyny. And nothing more.

How grotesque are you to call 14-18 year olds at homecoming street walkers bc of their dresses? Lots of you seem to revel in it.

LOL I want the last word, but here you are, posting a reply.

They aren't prostitutes, I agree, but they sure dress like one. Pluck them out of the gym, and put them on some seedy street corner, and you won't be able to tell the difference.

Wearing those types of dresses is not empowering. Far from it.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a 52-year-old mother to two college-aged sons. It is weird to me that so many people are triggered by these dresses. I don't have any issue with them -- they cover up way more than the bikinis that were on display throughout the summer. Have you guys been on college campuses recently and seen what girls are wearing to their classes? It looks really uncomfortable to me, but whatever. The amount of skin truly doesn't bother me (and it is certainly appreciated by my sons). Don't we all like to look at pretty things? (Or silently judge those who don't pull it off?)

DH went to a visit a friend who has a teen daughter. She is quite busty and was wearing a tube top. When he came by, she was constantly lifting up her tube top, and it was clear she was not comfortable wearing it. He kept thinking, "why are you wearing that ? You look so uncomfortable". And before you call him a perv, no, he thought she was ridiculous. He has no problem with nudity in general, but clearly she was not comfortable wearing that.

But why do you guys care if she was uncomfortable? Women have been uncomfortable in the name of fashion for centuries -- stilettos, corsets, headdresses, etc. (And why in the world would I call him a perv? That seems a strange reaction as well.)

When someone is constantly grabbing at a tube top and adjusting their breasts, it is poor manners and distracting. Don’t wear underwear that you feel compelled to pick out of crack in public either. Same thing

I'm sure your one of those who is always adjusting your frumpy tops due to your muffin tops. Get over it.

An interesting turn this thread has taken is the people who claim to be defending these young women to wear what they want in peace by making aggressively misogynistic and body-shaming comments about older women.

There's a PhD thesis in these comments.

I’m 51 and defending them. I don’t care what you wear. I do care you are equating athletes, honor roll students, good kids, to hookers bc they wear a short dress. I have a big problem with that, actually.

They dress like one.

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Anonymous wrote:I am shocked that so many would let their girls go to a dance dressed like that. There is no way I would let my teen go like that. And I don’t think she would want to either - she has some morals!

It is not about morals. It is about current fashion. Does your teen wear a bikini to the beach/pool?

There are different styles of bikini, just as there are different styles of dresses. Some look nice/classy/attractive, others look like the person wearing them is desperate for sexual attention.

+1 I don't let my DD wear a thong to the beach/pool, just as I don't let my DD wear a dress that makes her look like a street walker.

But you do "let" your teenage daughter wear a bikini at the beach? Which shows off waaaaay more skin than one of these dresses? Hmmm...

hm... there's a time and place to wear certain things. Would you let your kid wear a bikini to school or homecoming? Why not? Hmm...

And the bikini she wears is more than just tiny scrap of material, like those tiny triangles some girls wear.

We are not talking about 24 year olds. We are talking about 14 to 17 yr olds. If your DD is 18, they can wear what they want, but I would hope that my DD has enough self respect to not let it all hang out.

Even the most conservative bikini shows more than these dresses.

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Anonymous wrote:I am shocked that so many would let their girls go to a dance dressed like that. There is no way I would let my teen go like that. And I don’t think she would want to either - she has some morals!

It is not about morals. It is about current fashion. Does your teen wear a bikini to the beach/pool?

There are different styles of bikini, just as there are different styles of dresses. Some look nice/classy/attractive, others look like the person wearing them is desperate for sexual attention.

+1 I don't let my DD wear a thong to the beach/pool, just as I don't let my DD wear a dress that makes her look like a street walker.

But you do "let" your teenage daughter wear a bikini at the beach? Which shows off waaaaay more skin than one of these dresses? Hmmm...

hm... there's a time and place to wear certain things. Would you let your kid wear a bikini to school or homecoming? Why not? Hmm...

And the bikini she wears is more than just tiny scrap of material, like those tiny triangles some girls wear.

We are not talking about 24 year olds. We are talking about 14 to 17 yr olds. If your DD is 18, they can wear what they want, but I would hope that my DD has enough self respect to not let it all hang out.

Even the most conservative bikini shows more than these dresses.

Indeed, and she would not be wearing that bikini to HoCo. Some of those dresses are not that far off from some bathing suits.

If you think showing that kind of skin is not a problem, then I assume you would be ok with her wearing a tube top and a thong to school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really care about tightness or length but the fabric in most of these dresses is so cheap-looking. That makes the look appear cheap more than anything else imo.

Yeah, fast fashion. Not a fan.

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Anonymous wrote:I am shocked that so many would let their girls go to a dance dressed like that. There is no way I would let my teen go like that. And I don’t think she would want to either - she has some morals!

It is not about morals. It is about current fashion. Does your teen wear a bikini to the beach/pool?

There are different styles of bikini, just as there are different styles of dresses. Some look nice/classy/attractive, others look like the person wearing them is desperate for sexual attention.

+1 I don't let my DD wear a thong to the beach/pool, just as I don't let my DD wear a dress that makes her look like a street walker.

But you do "let" your teenage daughter wear a bikini at the beach? Which shows off waaaaay more skin than one of these dresses? Hmmm...

hm... there's a time and place to wear certain things. Would you let your kid wear a bikini to school or homecoming? Why not? Hmm...

And the bikini she wears is more than just tiny scrap of material, like those tiny triangles some girls wear.

We are not talking about 24 year olds. We are talking about 14 to 17 yr olds. If your DD is 18, they can wear what they want, but I would hope that my DD has enough self respect to not let it all hang out.

Even the most conservative bikini shows more than these dresses.

Indeed, and she would not be wearing that bikini to HoCo. Some of those dresses are not that far off from some bathing suits.

If you think showing that kind of skin is not a problem, then I assume you would be ok with her wearing a tube top and a thong to school?

Do you even have teenagers? No parent of an actual teen is making up and answering hypotheticals. We are dealing with the situation at hand.

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Do it now because you may never look this good again. I wish I would have shown a little more T&A back in the day!