Fifty isn't old

[Anonymous]

A lot is genes including skin.
I was still facially beautiful at 50. No wrinkles, sags, dark circles. People thought I was about 43.
I didn't start looking "older" until well after menopause, when I was mid 60s.

[Anonymous]

50 is ancient for women. Stop kidding yourselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is only ONE celebrity that looks better in her fifties than she did in her twenties and that celebrity is Jennifer Lopez.
Bar none - - no exceptions.

And before people tell me that celebrities are rich & can afford cosmetic surgery, Botox, fillers, personal trainers, stylists, etc…..
Then why don’t ALL celebrities look as good as J Lo when they hit 56?

I mean look at Madonna, she used to be so beautiful when she was younger.
And she hasn’t been pretty for decades.
Mariah Carey looks bloated most of the time ➕ Gwen Stefani’s face looks like an ad for extreme plastic surgery.

People can be attractive and fit after the age of fifty > but they need good genetics to pull it off.

However, even wealthy people with the best genes are still old at 50, regardless of their appearance. If they already have grandkids, they're in a lifestage that no one without grandkids wants to be a part of. Because that's just old. And people don't want to be old before their time.

I'm 52 with a middle schooler. I cannot relate to same-age people who are in grandparent mode. This is completely separate from appearances – I am sure I look plenty old and I don't do botox/fillers/surgery. But the grandkid thing is a large barrier if we are the same age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In current economy, divorced men over 50 should be focused on paying college costs and building retirement funds, they don't need unnecessary aggravation in life.

This 100%. I am 47 divorced and precisely focused on thoss things. Ex wife is dating and living her life. Of course she can because she gets a very nice check from me every month. Her new boyfriend has to be under 30, he looks very young. Anyways if you are divorced and shouldering massive financial obligations you will be insane as a man to get into dating. I don't care if she has her own money as they are quick to remind us. I mean if they have their own money fantastic great. The issue is whether they have their own money or not some days you will have to cover dates etc. Any $1 I spend on dating is another dollar I am taking away from my twins and no thanks, I rather save every last dollar I have for them. It's cheaper to bring home a random girl from the bar. No commitment no money waisted. We both meet our sexual needs and call it the day.

[Anonymous]

What are people talking about grandparent lifestyle no one wants to be part of? Grandparents are the happiest people around and they chose just as much of their grandkids and kids are they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In current economy, divorced men over 50 should be focused on paying college costs and building retirement funds, they don't need unnecessary aggravation in life.

This 100%. I am 47 divorced and precisely focused on thoss things. Ex wife is dating and living her life. Of course she can because she gets a very nice check from me every month. Her new boyfriend has to be under 30, he looks very young. Anyways if you are divorced and shouldering massive financial obligations you will be insane as a man to get into dating. I don't care if she has her own money as they are quick to remind us. I mean if they have their own money fantastic great. The issue is whether they have their own money or not some days you will have to cover dates etc. Any $1 I spend on dating is another dollar I am taking away from my twins and no thanks, I rather save every last dollar I have for them. It's cheaper to bring home a random girl from the bar. No commitment no money waisted. We both meet our sexual needs and call it the day.

Do you have much luck bringing random women home from the bar? I mean, if you are gay, yes, I think you'd have a lot of luck because men are up for one-night stands. Women, however, generally don't want one-night stands with 47-year-old men, unless the one-night stands are transactional, in which case, you are still taking away money from your kids to fulfill your own sexual needs, as you just vowed you wouldn't do. You even said above that your ex isn't interested in men your age, so why do you think other women are?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are people talking about grandparent lifestyle no one wants to be part of? Grandparents are the happiest people around and they chose just as much of their grandkids and kids are they want.

Fine, but grandparents seem sooooo old to nongrandparents. It just does. It's a barrier that people don't want to cross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In current economy, divorced men over 50 should be focused on paying college costs and building retirement funds, they don't need unnecessary aggravation in life.

This 100%. I am 47 divorced and precisely focused on thoss things. Ex wife is dating and living her life. Of course she can because she gets a very nice check from me every month. Her new boyfriend has to be under 30, he looks very young. Anyways if you are divorced and shouldering massive financial obligations you will be insane as a man to get into dating. I don't care if she has her own money as they are quick to remind us. I mean if they have their own money fantastic great. The issue is whether they have their own money or not some days you will have to cover dates etc. Any $1 I spend on dating is another dollar I am taking away from my twins and no thanks, I rather save every last dollar I have for them. It's cheaper to bring home a random girl from the bar. No commitment no money waisted. We both meet our sexual needs and call it the day.

Men are quick to point out bitter women posters. So let me point out bitter men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In current economy, divorced men over 50 should be focused on paying college costs and building retirement funds, they don't need unnecessary aggravation in life.

This 100%. I am 47 divorced and precisely focused on thoss things. Ex wife is dating and living her life. Of course she can because she gets a very nice check from me every month. Her new boyfriend has to be under 30, he looks very young. Anyways if you are divorced and shouldering massive financial obligations you will be insane as a man to get into dating. I don't care if she has her own money as they are quick to remind us. I mean if they have their own money fantastic great. The issue is whether they have their own money or not some days you will have to cover dates etc. Any $1 I spend on dating is another dollar I am taking away from my twins and no thanks, I rather save every last dollar I have for them. It's cheaper to bring home a random girl from the bar. No commitment no money waisted. We both meet our sexual needs and call it the day.

Men are quick to point out bitter women posters. So let me point out bitter men.

Ya, and bitter men who are 47 years old or older and screaming "I only want one night stands" have to pay to play.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is only ONE celebrity that looks better in her fifties than she did in her twenties and that celebrity is Jennifer Lopez.
Bar none - - no exceptions.

And before people tell me that celebrities are rich & can afford cosmetic surgery, Botox, fillers, personal trainers, stylists, etc…..
Then why don’t ALL celebrities look as good as J Lo when they hit 56?

I mean look at Madonna, she used to be so beautiful when she was younger.
And she hasn’t been pretty for decades.
Mariah Carey looks bloated most of the time ➕ Gwen Stefani’s face looks like an ad for extreme plastic surgery.

People can be attractive and fit after the age of fifty > but they need good genetics to pull it off.

However, even wealthy people with the best genes are still old at 50, regardless of their appearance. If they already have grandkids, they're in a lifestage that no one without grandkids wants to be a part of. Because that's just old. And people don't want to be old before their time.

I'm 52 with a middle schooler. I cannot relate to same-age people who are in grandparent mode. This is completely separate from appearances – I am sure I look plenty old and I don't do botox/fillers/surgery. But the grandkid thing is a large barrier if we are the same age.

to be clear you are the outlier, not the 52 year old grandparent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are people talking about grandparent lifestyle no one wants to be part of? Grandparents are the happiest people around and they chose just as much of their grandkids and kids are they want.

Fine, but grandparents seem sooooo old to nongrandparents. It just does. It's a barrier that people don't want to cross.

52 is 52.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are people talking about grandparent lifestyle no one wants to be part of? Grandparents are the happiest people around and they chose just as much of their grandkids and kids are they want.

Fine, but grandparents seem sooooo old to nongrandparents. It just does. It's a barrier that people don't want to cross.

52 is 52.

Not really. A 52-year-old with a middle schooler would be undatable to other 52-year-olds without young kids at home who are enjoying an empty nest lifestyle. Also, a 52-year-old who never had kids might be able to date young women; whereas, a 52 year old with grandkids would absolutely turn off younger women - they'd start comparing him to their own grandparents and instantly deem him unfu******.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are people talking about grandparent lifestyle no one wants to be part of? Grandparents are the happiest people around and they chose just as much of their grandkids and kids are they want.

Fine, but grandparents seem sooooo old to nongrandparents. It just does. It's a barrier that people don't want to cross.

No, to just you and your mind set. I am 50 with HS kids. No they don’t seem old based on grandparent status. I mean a grandparent can be old or have an old mindset but they are synonymous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are people talking about grandparent lifestyle no one wants to be part of? Grandparents are the happiest people around and they chose just as much of their grandkids and kids are they want.

Fine, but grandparents seem sooooo old to nongrandparents. It just does. It's a barrier that people don't want to cross.

No, to just you and your mind set. I am 50 with HS kids. No they don’t seem old based on grandparent status. I mean a grandparent can be old or have an old mindset but they are synonymous.

Maybe take a survey. I bet most people who don't have grandkids feel the same as I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is only ONE celebrity that looks better in her fifties than she did in her twenties and that celebrity is Jennifer Lopez.
Bar none - - no exceptions.

And before people tell me that celebrities are rich & can afford cosmetic surgery, Botox, fillers, personal trainers, stylists, etc…..
Then why don’t ALL celebrities look as good as J Lo when they hit 56?

I mean look at Madonna, she used to be so beautiful when she was younger.
And she hasn’t been pretty for decades.
Mariah Carey looks bloated most of the time ➕ Gwen Stefani’s face looks like an ad for extreme plastic surgery.

People can be attractive and fit after the age of fifty > but they need good genetics to pull it off.

However, even wealthy people with the best genes are still old at 50, regardless of their appearance. If they already have grandkids, they're in a lifestage that no one without grandkids wants to be a part of. Because that's just old. And people don't want to be old before their time.

I'm 52 with a middle schooler. I cannot relate to same-age people who are in grandparent mode. This is completely separate from appearances – I am sure I look plenty old and I don't do botox/fillers/surgery. But the grandkid thing is a large barrier if we are the same age.

to be clear you are the outlier, not the 52 year old grandparent

lol sure. In rural Tennessee.