How do "cool kids" become "cool"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is none of this who is cool and who is not cool in ES. There are small cliques that exist because their parents put them in activities together. Those parents thinking their kids are the cool kids are imagining things.

Unfortunately, this is a thing. It was evident by 3rd grade in girls at my kids’ school. Very glad my kid is happy with her fellow nerdy friends but not “cool.”

Ha. Seriously, who wants their girls to be the hoes in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is none of this who is cool and who is not cool in ES. There are small cliques that exist because their parents put them in activities together. Those parents thinking their kids are the cool kids are imagining things.

Unfortunately, this is a thing. It was evident by 3rd grade in girls at my kids’ school. Very glad my kid is happy with her fellow nerdy friends but not “cool.”

Yeah, I heard the moms of the cool boys at back to school night lamenting that their four boys were never in the same class. Because they are terrors!! And that is multiplied when they are together!
The cool boys are ultra-athletic and their parents are friends, and wealthy. That's what they have in common. The other boys all know who the cool boys are. My nerdy son and his nerdy friend talk about how X is "popular."
My son also happens to be very handsome but this doesn't affect his popularity with the boys a bit. However he told me that girls ask him "why are you friends with (nerdy friend)" and I see them pay a lot of attention to him. He's oblivious since he's only 10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is none of this who is cool and who is not cool in ES. There are small cliques that exist because their parents put them in activities together. Those parents thinking their kids are the cool kids are imagining things.

Unfortunately, this is a thing. It was evident by 3rd grade in girls at my kids’ school. Very glad my kid is happy with her fellow nerdy friends but not “cool.”

Yeah, I heard the moms of the cool boys at back to school night lamenting that their four boys were never in the same class. Because they are terrors!! And that is multiplied when they are together!
The cool boys are ultra-athletic and their parents are friends, and wealthy. That's what they have in common. The other boys all know who the cool boys are. My nerdy son and his nerdy friend talk about how X is "popular."
My son also happens to be very handsome but this doesn't affect his popularity with the boys a bit. However he told me that girls ask him "why are you friends with (nerdy friend)" and I see them pay a lot of attention to him. He's oblivious since he's only 10.

Ewww gross

[Anonymous]

Popular people are confident, content, smart, and chat easily with a variety of social groups. They are a good playmate at every age - meaning, people want to talk to them, date them, work with them, socialize with them. Make your child likeable to other children and they will be very successful in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Popular kids are absolutely a thing in elementary -- emerging in 4th, definitely a thing in 5th.

For girls, looks -- particularly actually caring that you look nice (hair done, "cool" clothes) -- is part of it. But at this age it is more that they are also socially mature -- by that I mean they have good EQ. They are confident and poised. They are out going and social -- they prioritize making and spending time with their friends, and they are good at making friends. They know how to have a conversation. They are not awkward or shy. They are fun, but they are no longer too silly or wacky or babyish in how they interact. They grew out of all the annoying social habits that kids have -- they are not too rigid or know-it-allish. Socially mature and out-going kids who want to interact with other socially mature and out-going kids, and they also care about looking nice too.

That would make me so sad as a parent. What’s the rush to grow up? Let the kids be kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is none of this who is cool and who is not cool in ES. There are small cliques that exist because their parents put them in activities together. Those parents thinking their kids are the cool kids are imagining things.

Unfortunately, this is a thing. It was evident by 3rd grade in girls at my kids’ school. Very glad my kid is happy with her fellow nerdy friends but not “cool.”

Yeah, I heard the moms of the cool boys at back to school night lamenting that their four boys were never in the same class. Because they are terrors!! And that is multiplied when they are together!
The cool boys are ultra-athletic and their parents are friends, and wealthy. That's what they have in common. The other boys all know who the cool boys are. My nerdy son and his nerdy friend talk about how X is "popular."
My son also happens to be very handsome but this doesn't affect his popularity with the boys a bit. However he told me that girls ask him "why are you friends with (nerdy friend)" and I see them pay a lot of attention to him. He's oblivious since he's only 10.

You sound pathetic

[Anonymous]

Looks and athleticism and height

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is none of this who is cool and who is not cool in ES. There are small cliques that exist because their parents put them in activities together. Those parents thinking their kids are the cool kids are imagining things.

Unfortunately, this is a thing. It was evident by 3rd grade in girls at my kids’ school. Very glad my kid is happy with her fellow nerdy friends but not “cool.”

Yeah, I heard the moms of the cool boys at back to school night lamenting that their four boys were never in the same class. Because they are terrors!! And that is multiplied when they are together!
The cool boys are ultra-athletic and their parents are friends, and wealthy. That's what they have in common. The other boys all know who the cool boys are. My nerdy son and his nerdy friend talk about how X is "popular."
My son also happens to be very handsome but this doesn't affect his popularity with the boys a bit. However he told me that girls ask him "why are you friends with (nerdy friend)" and I see them pay a lot of attention to him. He's oblivious since he's only 10.

You sound pathetic

You sound like a bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looks and athleticism and height

Agree but for boys

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Looks and athleticism and height

Agree but for boys

Also money.

[Anonymous]

Two brands of “popular”. First brand are kids who other kids want to be around because they are athletic, funny at the expense of others, do things that are considered forbidden or daring, have material things. Second brand are kids who make other kids feel good. They are nice, kind, funny without making anyone their scapegoat, help friends in need, and are liked by kids in other friend groups. They make other kids feel liked and special.

The two brands have overlap, but it’s important for your kid to recognize why someone is popular.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is none of this who is cool and who is not cool in ES. There are small cliques that exist because their parents put them in activities together. Those parents thinking their kids are the cool kids are imagining things.

Unfortunately, this is a thing. It was evident by 3rd grade in girls at my kids’ school. Very glad my kid is happy with her fellow nerdy friends but not “cool.”

Ha. Seriously, who wants their girls to be the hoes in high school.

+1 (DP)

[Anonymous]

Molly

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Popular people are confident, content, smart, and chat easily with a variety of social groups. They are a good playmate at every age - meaning, people want to talk to them, date them, work with them, socialize with them. Make your child likeable to other children and they will be very successful in life.

I like my kids to be friends with everyone- sporty, nerdy, off beat etc. That’s my own life strategy. I don’t like to box myself in with own group.