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Anonymous wrote:Hi all,
This is OP. I was surprised to see so many more replies. Some even sound like it was me who replied.
Some clarifications - this was indeed a hypothetical question; our marriage is falling apart, so I’m researching this question.
This discussion was helpful - thanks for your diverse perspectives and sharing your experiences or what you know.
Kids are in elementary and overseas exposure is an opportunity to pick up at least one foreign language and travel around and expand outlook.
DH makes me feel we are a burden… he does some pickups and drop offs but generally, we are not a source of his happiness and joy. I could not make him happy… to me he is still a bachelor mentality who tries to fit in and look like a father but he can’t… it’s just not his thing… my heart hurts for my kids…
I’m not sure what is going to happen but I will try to talk and get his agreement for more custody on my end - we are yet to have mediator appointment and hammer out in house separation agreement … get his ok in writing maybe that he does not object that I leave with kids in case of a job offer.
You know, after so much verbal abuse and neglect, I do not think staying married is an option. “You better be alone rather than with whoever.”
This person blamed me that I spent too much money on my father’s funeral overseas because I flew out for the funeral. This person has no heart.
I'd be a little smarter if I were you. I planned to divorce after he told me he took a job overseas and we would live there for at least 3 years. Didn't consult me or anything. I pretended to go along with it. After 10 months I left and filed divorce from the U.S. while he was over there. Not a thing he could do.
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