Help me with techniques for addressing my MIL’s behavior

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP should find a website where despite referring to her MIL as "ethnic" in a pretty sketchy and derogatory way, all she will get is "you go girl! You are totally right!" responses.

More like don’t let the horrible posters demonizing you for normal responses while yiu are exhausted and nursing … if yiu were really team MIL and not Team #IAmAlwaysRight then you would try and help her to find ways to deal with MIL. In stead you post mean spirited, nasty character assassinations …

You are not right. You are nasty.

So you are fine with how OP called her MIL "ethnic." Well, I guess that makes sense.

Well guess what? We have several ethnicities in our family and I did not take that as an insult but as code for different values at play.

You would rather be right than actually help anyone.

You lack compassion and empathy.

I have a great deal of compassion and empathy for OPs MIL.

x1000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP should find a website where despite referring to her MIL as "ethnic" in a pretty sketchy and derogatory way, all she will get is "you go girl! You are totally right!" responses.

More like don’t let the horrible posters demonizing you for normal responses while yiu are exhausted and nursing … if yiu were really team MIL and not Team #IAmAlwaysRight then you would try and help her to find ways to deal with MIL. In stead you post mean spirited, nasty character assassinations …

You are not right. You are nasty.

So you are fine with how OP called her MIL "ethnic." Well, I guess that makes sense.

Well guess what? We have several ethnicities in our family and I did not take that as an insult but as code for different values at play.

You would rather be right than actually help anyone.

You lack compassion and empathy.

I have a great deal of compassion and empathy for OPs MIL.

x1000

I know this is the crazy person going after OP - you really don’t have empathy and compassion for MIL but just want to be right at all costs no matter how snarky and foolish you sound raving on about racism (poorly Worded comment tOP apologized for) and then critiquing drinking wine while breast feeding … all while railing OP about how mean and judgmental she is .

[Anonymous]

Think about how you will be a MIL one day and want to spend time with your child and their family. Try to be gracious.
And take breaks where your DH is alone with her and you get a breather.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP should find a website where despite referring to her MIL as "ethnic" in a pretty sketchy and derogatory way, all she will get is "you go girl! You are totally right!" responses.

More like don’t let the horrible posters demonizing you for normal responses while yiu are exhausted and nursing … if yiu were really team MIL and not Team #IAmAlwaysRight then you would try and help her to find ways to deal with MIL. In stead you post mean spirited, nasty character assassinations …

You are not right. You are nasty.

So you are fine with how OP called her MIL "ethnic." Well, I guess that makes sense.

Well guess what? We have several ethnicities in our family and I did not take that as an insult but as code for different values at play.

You would rather be right than actually help anyone.

You lack compassion and empathy.

I have a great deal of compassion and empathy for OPs MIL.

x1000

I know this is the crazy person going after OP - you really don’t have empathy and compassion for MIL but just want to be right at all costs no matter how snarky and foolish you sound raving on about racism (poorly Worded comment tOP apologized for) and then critiquing drinking wine while breast feeding … all while railing OP about how mean and judgmental she is .

Those are multiple posters.
But your full throated defense of OP makes YOU look crazy..
People have as much right to critique the original poster as the original poster has to critique her mother-in-law.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP should find a website where despite referring to her MIL as "ethnic" in a pretty sketchy and derogatory way, all she will get is "you go girl! You are totally right!" responses.

More like don’t let the horrible posters demonizing you for normal responses while yiu are exhausted and nursing … if yiu were really team MIL and not Team #IAmAlwaysRight then you would try and help her to find ways to deal with MIL. In stead you post mean spirited, nasty character assassinations …

You are not right. You are nasty.

So you are fine with how OP called her MIL "ethnic." Well, I guess that makes sense.

Well guess what? We have several ethnicities in our family and I did not take that as an insult but as code for different values at play.

You would rather be right than actually help anyone.

You lack compassion and empathy.

I have a great deal of compassion and empathy for OPs MIL.

x1000

I know this is the crazy person going after OP - you really don’t have empathy and compassion for MIL but just want to be right at all costs no matter how snarky and foolish you sound raving on about racism (poorly Worded comment tOP apologized for) and then critiquing drinking wine while breast feeding … all while railing OP about how mean and judgmental she is .

Those are multiple posters.
But your full throated defense of OP makes YOU look crazy..
People have as much right to critique the original poster as the original poster has to critique her mother-in-law.

+1 I am the x1000 poster. I have not posted at all except that. It is crazy that I am being attacked for it! But I stand by my post. I say strongly x1000 that I have a lot of compassion and empathy for OP's MIL. I don't have a scintilla of compassion or empathy for OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP should find a website where despite referring to her MIL as "ethnic" in a pretty sketchy and derogatory way, all she will get is "you go girl! You are totally right!" responses.

More like don’t let the horrible posters demonizing you for normal responses while yiu are exhausted and nursing … if yiu were really team MIL and not Team #IAmAlwaysRight then you would try and help her to find ways to deal with MIL. In stead you post mean spirited, nasty character assassinations …

You are not right. You are nasty.

So you are fine with how OP called her MIL "ethnic." Well, I guess that makes sense.

Well guess what? We have several ethnicities in our family and I did not take that as an insult but as code for different values at play.

You would rather be right than actually help anyone.

You lack compassion and empathy.

I have a great deal of compassion and empathy for OPs MIL.

x1000

I know this is the crazy person going after OP - you really don’t have empathy and compassion for MIL but just want to be right at all costs no matter how snarky and foolish you sound raving on about racism (poorly Worded comment tOP apologized for) and then critiquing drinking wine while breast feeding … all while railing OP about how mean and judgmental she is .

Those are multiple posters.
But your full throated defense of OP makes YOU look crazy..
People have as much right to critique the original poster as the original poster has to critique her mother-in-law.

Multiple defenders of OP while there is one particularly nasty person going after OP … there was a lot of good advice given earlier which OP has already said she will be following while some one keeps posting harsh trolling that is unnecessary.

[Anonymous]

Flamers/ trollers ruin threads for everyone as it creates a hostile atmosphere where cheap jabs are more common than helpful advice/ insightful observations delivered with kindness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Flamers/ trollers ruin threads for everyone as it creates a hostile atmosphere where cheap jabs are more common than helpful advice/ insightful observations delivered with kindness.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP should find a website where despite referring to her MIL as "ethnic" in a pretty sketchy and derogatory way, all she will get is "you go girl! You are totally right!" responses.

More like don’t let the horrible posters demonizing you for normal responses while yiu are exhausted and nursing … if yiu were really team MIL and not Team #IAmAlwaysRight then you would try and help her to find ways to deal with MIL. In stead you post mean spirited, nasty character assassinations …

You are not right. You are nasty.

So you are fine with how OP called her MIL "ethnic." Well, I guess that makes sense.

Well guess what? We have several ethnicities in our family and I did not take that as an insult but as code for different values at play.

You would rather be right than actually help anyone.

You lack compassion and empathy.

I have a great deal of compassion and empathy for OPs MIL.

x1000

I know this is the crazy person going after OP - you really don’t have empathy and compassion for MIL but just want to be right at all costs no matter how snarky and foolish you sound raving on about racism (poorly Worded comment tOP apologized for) and then critiquing drinking wine while breast feeding … all while railing OP about how mean and judgmental she is .

Those are multiple posters.
But your full throated defense of OP makes YOU look crazy..
People have as much right to critique the original poster as the original poster has to critique her mother-in-law.

Multiple defenders of OP while there is one particularly nasty person going after OP … there was a lot of good advice given earlier which OP has already said she will be following while some one keeps posting harsh trolling that is unnecessary.

How does your dumb behind ascertain it is only one poster?
How ?
Are you psychic, did Jeff tell you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Flamers/ trollers ruin threads for everyone as it creates a hostile atmosphere where cheap jabs are more common than helpful advice/ insightful observations delivered with kindness.

+1

+1,000,000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Flamers/ trollers ruin threads for everyone as it creates a hostile atmosphere where cheap jabs are more common than helpful advice/ insightful observations delivered with kindness.

+1

+1,000,000

LOL! How about this advice? OP, stop being a it picky, dissecting every word your MIL says bully.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Flamers/ trollers ruin threads for everyone as it creates a hostile atmosphere where cheap jabs are more common than helpful advice/ insightful observations delivered with kindness.

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LOL! How about this advice? OP, stop being a it picky, dissecting every word your MIL says bully.

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Flamers/ trollers ruin threads for everyone as it creates a hostile atmosphere where cheap jabs are more common than helpful advice/ insightful observations delivered with kindness.

+1

+1,000,000

LOL! How about this advice? OP, stop being a it picky, dissecting every word your MIL says bully.

Troll

Narcissist loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Flamers/ trollers ruin threads for everyone as it creates a hostile atmosphere where cheap jabs are more common than helpful advice/ insightful observations delivered with kindness.

+1

+1,000,000

LOL! How about this advice? OP, stop being a it picky, dissecting every word your MIL says bully.

Troll

Narcissist loser.

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Flamers/ trollers ruin threads for everyone as it creates a hostile atmosphere where cheap jabs are more common than helpful advice/ insightful observations delivered with kindness.

+1

+1,000,000

LOL! How about this advice? OP, stop being a it picky, dissecting every word your MIL says bully.

Troll

Narcissist loser.

Troll

I’ll take troll over narcissistic mom and dil anyway!