DD dislikes Half sister

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of OP dad is in the wrong for keeping the marriage secret. The baby....it would depend on the losses, and whether he pregnancy was high risk..but they did not have a high risk wedding. That was deliberate cruelty.

Dad and DD have zero relationship outside of money. There was zero need to discuss it. She isn't interested in his life, only his money. She has never once visited his home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread really took a turn. Poor DD. No wonder she feels cut out of Dad's life.

Trying to wrap my head around OP's finances. All child support money goes toward DD's "portions" of the housing and food costs, and Dad is supposed to pay for all tuition, clothes, and gym separately, plus allowance and more than half of whatever else she wants? So...what does OP pay for for DD? Anything? I didnt think the custodial parent was supposed to get 100% of the cost of raising a kid covered by the non-custodial parent.

Also, if OP doesn't have money for clothes, coats, or flights that should be priorities, how does she have such expensive taste? I was raised MC and can't imagine asking my parents for a $300 coat, and we never had any expectation of parents buying cars, and those are thr standards my kids are growing up with. But we do save and plan sometimes a year ahead to travel to see family and close friends, which i think is the closest analogy to visiting an actual parent.

It makes zero sense as OP and her husband are basically using this one child as an income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of OP dad is in the wrong for keeping the marriage secret. The baby....it would depend on the losses, and whether he pregnancy was high risk..but they did not have a high risk wedding. That was deliberate cruelty.

Daughter would be allowed to attend the wedding as the only visits allowed are supervised via mom in mom's home/local area. So, what difference would it make.

[Anonymous]

Driving school on Bethesda is mandatory, and I think it is $3,000.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Driving school on Bethesda is mandatory, and I think it is $3,000.

Its not $3K and OP or her daughter can get a job and pay for it.

OP is lying.

Here, let me help you get that cheaper:

https://www.gregsdrivingschool.net/drivers-ed.html

How much does the class cost?

Tuition for the course varies slightly by location, but it is generally between $350 and $400. This includes the two-week class plus the 3 driving lessons.
You can click here to find out the tuition at your location.

OP DD gets $100 in allowance a month. If its important to her she can save for 4 months. OR, OP can pay for it too out of her own money and child support.

Or, here, Montgomery College is about the same price:

https://www2.montgomeryschoolsmd.org/siteassets/schools/high-schools/a-j/kennedyhs/uploadedfiles/homepage/de-mcps-fall202019-spring20202020mcps20flyer.pdf

[Anonymous]

OP here some really toxic and nasty responses. You are attacking a child and asking she get a job!!!
Do you not buy your kids things??? When her dad has taken her shopping it's never been more than a 1000 dollars. She goes to H&M, Hollister, Aerie, American Eagle, Abercrombie - each store can cost like 200 dollars easily. And this only happens 3 times a year. So it's not a lot.
And as for the 300 dollar coat well she saw it and liked it. I couldn't afford it and so told her to ask her dad. Don't act like none of you don't ever defer to dad!!

[Anonymous]

OP you sound very affected lol

thousand dollar shopping sprees is nothing to sneeze at even if it’s “only” three times a year. Don’t you buy her clothing as well? Does she burn her clothing from previous seasons or years?

You’re raising a brat because you clearly want to stick it financially to your ex. Sad.

A 16 year old having a part-time job is not unheard of especially if it’s for wants like pocket money to shop or get a learner’s permit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here some really toxic and nasty responses. You are attacking a child and asking she get a job!!!
Do you not buy your kids things??? When her dad has taken her shopping it's never been more than a 1000 dollars. She goes to H&M, Hollister, Aerie, American Eagle, Abercrombie - each store can cost like 200 dollars easily. And this only happens 3 times a year. So it's not a lot.
And as for the 300 dollar coat well she saw it and liked it. I couldn't afford it and so told her to ask her dad. Don't act like none of you don't ever defer to dad!!

OP, what are you spending the child support money on? If you are getting child support and Dad pays ALL the expenses it sounds like this child is an income check.

And, no, I've never deferred to Dad, even when it comes to step kids. If they need it and they are in my home I buy it.

You are completely unreasonable to demand $3000 a year in shopping PLUS, everything else on top of child support. You need to grow up, get a job and support YOUR daughter. And, Dad has every right to say no and not to do it just because YOU demand it. Your kid can get a $40-50 coat and be just as warm.

We have kids visit every summer and I take them shopping. I get them a full wardrobe for back to school and don't spend anything like you are saying. We shop sale and clearances and are careful with what we spend. I truly hope you are not for real.

Your daughter will be a really messed up adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound very affected lol

thousand dollar shopping sprees is nothing to sneeze at even if it’s “only” three times a year. Don’t you buy her clothing as well? Does she burn her clothing from previous seasons or years?

You’re raising a brat because you clearly want to stick it financially to your ex. Sad.

A 16 year old having a part-time job is not unheard of especially if it’s for wants like pocket money to shop or get a learner’s permit.

OP uses this child for income. She spends no money on the child and uses the child support money on her other kids/herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here some really toxic and nasty responses. You are attacking a child and asking she get a job!!!
Do you not buy your kids things??? When her dad has taken her shopping it's never been more than a 1000 dollars. She goes to H&M, Hollister, Aerie, American Eagle, Abercrombie - each store can cost like 200 dollars easily. And this only happens 3 times a year. So it's not a lot.
And as for the 300 dollar coat well she saw it and liked it. I couldn't afford it and so told her to ask her dad. Don't act like none of you don't ever defer to dad!!

Since Dad is no longer flying out and you will not let daughter fly out and spend time with her Dad, sounds like its time to start using the child support money and your own personal money to take your child on lavish shopping sprees. That ship sailed. Glad Dad wised up.

[Anonymous]

OP I feel like maybe you are the reason they chose not tell about their pregnancy. You are the one who has turned dad into a ATM.
I think he caught onto your tricks. In all fairness if I had been in that situation I think I wouldn't tell you about the baby either

[Anonymous]

Dad will never meet the baby or stepmom so neither of them are relevant.

[Anonymous]

Op, are you an immigrant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dad will never meet the baby or stepmom so neither of them are relevant.

Confused by this- I thought dad lives with baby and step mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, are you an immigrant?

Wait whaat??? And what does nationality have to do with OP being greedy?