For those who put “No Republican” or “No Trumpers” on your dating profile....

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Anonymous wrote:I’d stay away from anyone who posted their political litmus test on their dating profile. People who are that obsessed with politics, in either side, are tiresome and boring.

Yup. I've long exited the dating pool, but I was in early in the online dating thing and never once gave a thought to whether any potential date was a Democrat or a Republican. And I was literally in politics until my mid-30s.

If you dated before the Trump era, this is irrelevant. I am also long out of the dating pool, never put political stuff on my profile, but absolutely would after Trump.

So would I.

I’m a Dem married to a Republican. When we married 20 years ago he was pretty middle of the road. Fiscal conservative, strong defense, and pretty much stayed out of social issues. He was even pro-choice back then.

Then Fox News went apesh*t over a black President, and DH went right with them. Born in Kenya, all that nonsense. Then Trump came, and life has not been the same in our house. I don’t discuss politics with him but he just can’t keep his mouth shut.

So my advice to my daughter now is do not get serious with someone whose politics are different from your own. If you want to advertise it up front and save time and headaches, go right ahead.

This. My H was middle of the road, even liberal on some issues. Then he went nuts when Trump came around. I couldn’t have a civil discussion with him, he’s get extremely emotional and start attacking my character (“I forgot you’re one of those FEMINISTS”). Would spend all night watching alt right YouTube videos and would legit cry over how hard it is to be a white male. There were many factors that contributed to our divorce, this was one. It was awful, I’d come home and he’d immediately bombard me with whatever political issue he had watched a video on, and even if I just remained politely quiet he’d get angry at me for not agreeing.

A lot of misogyny also developed, he believed I was taking advantage of him for his money, he stopped contributing around the house, and a belief he had access to my body whenever he wanted.

I tell my daughters to never get involved with conservative men, or even moderates. There’s a high risk they will become more extreme as they age. Ideal is a man who is a feminist, does his own internal work, and fights misogyny.

My people! When we were dating and for the first half of our marriage, my husband was a garden variety Republican and we got along fine despite our political differences. He voted for McCain, I voted for Obama, we had occasional debates about political issues but never got nasty about it. But around 2015-16 he really started changing his media consumption, started listening to right wing radio and was constantly angry all the time, and it has only gotten worse ever since. He is usually spoiling for a fight with me over whatever the right wing outrage du jour is, and even though right after Trump was elected, I told him I would not be discussing it anymore, he just can't keep his damn mouth shut. His political views find their way into even the most innocuous conversations. It's annoying, it's a drag, and on some topics, it's downright horrifying. The uptick in misogyny is incredibly upsetting. We've had some ugly fights over misogynistic, homophobic things he has said in front of the kids, and I don't want him infecting our sons with his poor-me-I'm-a-white-male mess. We are very probably getting divorced, though the political aspect is just the last straw, not the primary reason. The Trump years exposed already existing cracks in our relationship.

Anyway, if I'm ever in the dating world again, I won't consider a Trump supporter. Hard pass. So I can appreciate why people are willing to put that on their dating profiles.

I know people like your husband, my sister is married to one. It's been a big problem for them. I don't think he got stupider or more conservative after 2016, he just figured if there were 70 million others like him who liked and voted for Trump, who wanted a person like Trump in charge, then it must be okay for him to also reveal his ignorant buffoonish white man opinions that he had been keeping mostly to himself pre-2016. Trump made it cool to be a fool. It persists, obviously.

“ white man opinions”. Not only is that racist, it’s ignorant, too. Many non-white voted Trump or hold conservative views. Most of my family ( POC) are conservatives and all voted Trump. You sound like a complete uneducated ignorant fool.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d stay away from anyone who posted their political litmus test on their dating profile. People who are that obsessed with politics, in either side, are tiresome and boring.

Yup. I've long exited the dating pool, but I was in early in the online dating thing and never once gave a thought to whether any potential date was a Democrat or a Republican. And I was literally in politics until my mid-30s.

If you dated before the Trump era, this is irrelevant. I am also long out of the dating pool, never put political stuff on my profile, but absolutely would after Trump.

So would I.

I’m a Dem married to a Republican. When we married 20 years ago he was pretty middle of the road. Fiscal conservative, strong defense, and pretty much stayed out of social issues. He was even pro-choice back then.

Then Fox News went apesh*t over a black President, and DH went right with them. Born in Kenya, all that nonsense. Then Trump came, and life has not been the same in our house. I don’t discuss politics with him but he just can’t keep his mouth shut.

So my advice to my daughter now is do not get serious with someone whose politics are different from your own. If you want to advertise it up front and save time and headaches, go right ahead.

This. My H was middle of the road, even liberal on some issues. Then he went nuts when Trump came around. I couldn’t have a civil discussion with him, he’s get extremely emotional and start attacking my character (“I forgot you’re one of those FEMINISTS”). Would spend all night watching alt right YouTube videos and would legit cry over how hard it is to be a white male. There were many factors that contributed to our divorce, this was one. It was awful, I’d come home and he’d immediately bombard me with whatever political issue he had watched a video on, and even if I just remained politely quiet he’d get angry at me for not agreeing.

A lot of misogyny also developed, he believed I was taking advantage of him for his money, he stopped contributing around the house, and a belief he had access to my body whenever he wanted.

I tell my daughters to never get involved with conservative men, or even moderates. There’s a high risk they will become more extreme as they age. Ideal is a man who is a feminist, does his own internal work, and fights misogyny.

My people! When we were dating and for the first half of our marriage, my husband was a garden variety Republican and we got along fine despite our political differences. He voted for McCain, I voted for Obama, we had occasional debates about political issues but never got nasty about it. But around 2015-16 he really started changing his media consumption, started listening to right wing radio and was constantly angry all the time, and it has only gotten worse ever since. He is usually spoiling for a fight with me over whatever the right wing outrage du jour is, and even though right after Trump was elected, I told him I would not be discussing it anymore, he just can't keep his damn mouth shut. His political views find their way into even the most innocuous conversations. It's annoying, it's a drag, and on some topics, it's downright horrifying. The uptick in misogyny is incredibly upsetting. We've had some ugly fights over misogynistic, homophobic things he has said in front of the kids, and I don't want him infecting our sons with his poor-me-I'm-a-white-male mess. We are very probably getting divorced, though the political aspect is just the last straw, not the primary reason. The Trump years exposed already existing cracks in our relationship.

Anyway, if I'm ever in the dating world again, I won't consider a Trump supporter. Hard pass. So I can appreciate why people are willing to put that on their dating profiles.

I know people like your husband, my sister is married to one. It's been a big problem for them. I don't think he got stupider or more conservative after 2016, he just figured if there were 70 million others like him who liked and voted for Trump, who wanted a person like Trump in charge, then it must be okay for him to also reveal his ignorant buffoonish white man opinions that he had been keeping mostly to himself pre-2016. Trump made it cool to be a fool. It persists, obviously.

“ white man opinions”. Not only is that racist, it’s ignorant, too. Many non-white voted Trump or hold conservative views. Most of my family ( POC) are conservatives and all voted Trump. You sound like a complete uneducated ignorant fool.

Archie bunker was an overweight white jerk from queens. Any fool can sign up for that tribe but he was the OG. Trump is just another overbearing, insecure overgrown man child. Nothing remarkable about him.

It's fine to not be interested in men who admire that and fine to say that on a profile. That is the point of a dating profile.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know, but my 24 year old nephew shared that he only dates Republican women because they are more enjoyable to be around. I honestly had no idea he was such an ass.....

Smart young man! The liberal women at work are grossly loud, rude, and in your face and very critical

Then you must be happy that they are putting no Trump on a dating app ab so we don’t have to deal with you.

Yes. This is true. Please clearly indicate that you are nuts so I can avoid you.

(Trump-supporting single man)

Single guy here too, actively dating for the last 15 years. I love when women self-identify like that and I can filter them out. That said, I've had FBs who were Democrat and, although I never discussed politics, if it came up I never let on I wasn't in full sync with her politically just to not ruin the sex.

OK so let's play this out: you date a woman whose politics you were not aware of at the time of dating. You like her a great deal and then you find out she can't stand Trump not only because of his politics but because of his values. What does this mean for you and your relationship with that woman? Not getting these comments from single men. What is the outcome in this situation when you start to discuss value systems that are so different between you both?

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OMG Republican women being a joy to be around.

Well isn't that comical.

Let's see
MTG
Megan McCain
Lauren Boebert
Sarah Palin
Sarah Sanders
Christie Noem
Gov Kay
Melania
Ivanka

Shall I go on? Republican women are horrid. Badly behaved criminals.

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Pre-Trump it would have been a weird and crazy thing to do.

Post-Trump it is a safety tool and entirely rational.

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Anonymous wrote:Pre-Trump it would have been a weird and crazy thing to do.

Post-Trump it is a safety tool and entirely rational.

Exactly. Why do people have to waste their time dating trumpers if that is deal breaker and vice versa. It's often a total turn-off so just put it out there early and do everyone a favor.

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Anonymous wrote:Pre-Trump it would have been a weird and crazy thing to do.

Post-Trump it is a safety tool and entirely rational.

Exactly. Why do people have to waste their time dating trumpers if that is deal breaker and vice versa. It's often a total turn-off so just put it out there early and do everyone a favor.

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It’s an automatic dealbreaker so why waste people’s time?

You can’t charm your way around being a nut job.

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I would not seek a date with anyone who puts a political statement on their profile. To me it just means they lack critical thinking abilities and can’t take on complex discussions. They see the world in black-and-white. They want everyone to agree with them. That world does not exist.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not seek a date with anyone who puts a political statement on their profile. To me it just means they lack critical thinking abilities and can’t take on complex discussions. They see the world in black-and-white. They want everyone to agree with them. That world does not exist.

Then you should appreciate it when someone puts “no Trumpers” in their profile so you know you two aren’t a match before you waste any time.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not seek a date with anyone who puts a political statement on their profile. To me it just means they lack critical thinking abilities and can’t take on complex discussions. They see the world in black-and-white. They want everyone to agree with them. That world does not exist.

Then you should appreciate it when someone puts “no Trumpers” in their profile so you know you two aren’t a match before you waste any time.

These men are so dense. This literally has been explained multiple times and they don’t get it.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not seek a date with anyone who puts a political statement on their profile. To me it just means they lack critical thinking abilities and can’t take on complex discussions. They see the world in black-and-white. They want everyone to agree with them. That world does not exist.

Then you should appreciate it when someone puts “no Trumpers” in their profile so you know you two aren’t a match before you waste any time.

These men are so dense. This literally has been explained multiple times and they don’t get it.

Their end goal isn’t to understand, it’s to shame and intimidate women into lowering heir standards by convincing them no one will date them if they maintain their standards.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not seek a date with anyone who puts a political statement on their profile. To me it just means they lack critical thinking abilities and can’t take on complex discussions. They see the world in black-and-white. They want everyone to agree with them. That world does not exist.

Then you should appreciate it when someone puts “no Trumpers” in their profile so you know you two aren’t a match before you waste any time.

These men are so dense. This literally has been explained multiple times and they don’t get it.

There's an Upton Sinclair line about how it's difficult to get a man to understand a thing when his salary depends on his not understanding it. This is similar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG Republican women being a joy to be around.

Well isn't that comical.

Let's see
MTG
Megan McCain
Lauren Boebert
Sarah Palin
Sarah Sanders
Christie Noem
Gov Kay
Melania
Ivanka

Shall I go on? Republican women are horrid. Badly behaved criminals.

I would have sex with several of them. Serious relationship? Heck no.

I think I am like many men, I don't put no Trumpers in my profile because my genitals are open minded. But I would never seriously date a MAGA

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Anonymous wrote:OMG Republican women being a joy to be around.

Well isn't that comical.

Let's see
MTG
Megan McCain
Lauren Boebert
Sarah Palin
Sarah Sanders
Christie Noem
Gov Kay
Melania
Ivanka

Shall I go on? Republican women are horrid. Badly behaved criminals.

I would have sex with several of them. Serious relationship? Heck no.

I think I am like many men, I don't put no Trumpers in my profile because my genitals are open minded. But I would never seriously date a MAGA

Good point. I might add won’t screw Trump supporter on my profile now. Thanks for the heads up.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG Republican women being a joy to be around.

Well isn't that comical.

Let's see
MTG
Megan McCain
Lauren Boebert
Sarah Palin
Sarah Sanders
Christie Noem
Gov Kay
Melania
Ivanka

Shall I go on? Republican women are horrid. Badly behaved criminals.

I would have sex with several of them. Serious relationship? Heck no.

I think I am like many men, I don't put no Trumpers in my profile because my genitals are open minded. But I would never seriously date a MAGA

Good point. I might add won’t screw Trump supporter on my profile now. Thanks for the heads up.

LOL. I don't think some of the men on here don't get that Trump supporters doesn't just mean a different set of political beliefs but rather that Trump supporters means a different set of values as well. For some, even having sex with someone who believes in Trump values can be a turnoff.

I still don't understand why these Trumper men have a problem with profiles that indicate no Trump. I don't understand why they keep on saying that they wouldn't want to date anyone who posts their political beliefs on their profile because it's not just political beliefs they are stating when they say no Trumper but it's about a type of a person. BTW, what they are saying might have been appropriate before Trump when it was a difference about a differing set of political beliefs (each of my parents sometimes voted for a different party, and so have my husband and I in the past before Trump).