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I know not every parent believes in "Physically Disciplining" your child
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dedicateddad
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| But for those of you who were brought up in my time your parents would whoop your ass if you stepped out of line....it wasn't a beating per se, at least not in the sense that they were leaving bruises on me but getting the belt...getting spankings etc....pretty common stu8ff. But once I hit 12 or 13 I stopped getting disciplined that way...probably because I was getting strong enough to fight back with some degree of effectiveness...at what age do you think you should stop "beating" your children? |
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| How do you feel about the way your were disciplined? |
dedicateddad
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| I feel like I was raised well and the people in my life really cared enough about me to knock sense and respect into me so that I wasn't like these kids I see nowadays talking back to their parents and acting up in public....I want to beat their children for them but of course that wouldn't fly...I really wish things were more like my own fathers time when your neighbors parents would whoop your ass, take you to your house and tell you why they beat your ass and then your family would beat your ass...no wonder our parents knew how to act better...THE FEAR! Nowadays kids have flipped everything around and parents are scared of the kids...Unacceptable. I actually wish that they had hit me until I did hit back |
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I stopped getting spanked at about 10, but not because I was big enough to fight back, probably because I was starting to look like too much like an adult, and hitting an adult, especially a woman, is assault or domestic abuse. Those things go deep; I'm sure my dad never thought this to himself.
BTW, for me, spanking was about humiliation - my dad even did it bare bottom when I was younger. I don't think of it as something that came from love but from power and control. My dad was a good dad, but the spanking thing was one of his missteps and not good for me. |
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You are crazy. Sounds like they knocked the sense out of you rather than knocking some in you. |
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| I strongly believe spanking is wrong. It is violence. We teach our kids to "use their words" to get their message across and I think you have failed as a parent if you can't think of any other way to discipline your child besides spanking. My kids are very well behaved and I don't put up with any crap and they know they are not allowed to be disrepectful but that's because we've talked about it for years and we've drilled it into them and if one of them does anything physical to the other we say, "use your words" tell your brother what your thinking. It has worked well. I don't know anyone who spanks and all my friends have good kids. |
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You can accomplish any number of goals, if you are in charge/more powerful by using fear. That doesn't make it an effective parenting tool. Or relationship-builder. |
dedicateddad
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| People think back to the 50's as a time when everything was better. A simpler time when you could walk the streets at night with no fear, even in the district. Now it's the 2010's and for the last 30 years the things I notice that are different is that nobody is safe anywhere, kids are acting like savages all over the place, the school system is worthless because there is no respect for the administrators in the classroom and even the kids that want to get an education struggle to do so because of the crazy environment....and coincidentally nobody whoops their kids asses anymore. And I can't think about how many people I hear talking about how they don't understand why nobody has any respect anymore and why the kids are so far out of line as they send their stupid kid to another "time out". I took my own time out after I caught an ass whoopin because I didn't want to do anything else and I knew for sure that I wouldn't make the mistake of steppin outta line like that again. And I also want to address that my family used many methods of discipline when it was needed...including violence, guilt trippy discussions about "being disappointed" and forbidding me from doing things but the one that actually made me think about my actions and ACTUALLY ACT RIGHT was definitely the ass whoopins. 100% every time. |
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"People think back to the 50's as a time when everything was better."
Everything? Please take a writing course. |
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I like how when you disagree with someone's opinion you say "Please take a writing course". Were you also on the this thread...http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/163160.page at 8:44? If not you and this poster should become friends! |
dedicateddad
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| OK maybe not everything....Segregation was not very cool....there was less access to information...but for the most part people would consider that era to be a much better time. I'm sorry I didn't know that I couldn't take a little license and use blanket terms here without some arrogant a-hole nitpicking everything. I'll take a writing course as soon as you learn that being a dick on the internet is weak and doing it anonymously is even weaker. I'm not on here to start fights and criticize peoples writing. I'm here to have discussion with other parents of teenaged kids so that I can share my perspective and listen to that of others. I guess I'm also here so that I can listen to idiots complain about bullshit. And by idiots....I am not counting those who disagree with my parenting style or opinions...just the ones who have nothing to contribute like the anonymous pussy who thinks I could benefit from a writing course. |
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"And by idiots....I am not counting those who disagree with my parenting style or opinions...just the ones who have nothing to contribute like the anonymous pussy who thinks I could benefit from a writing course."
Meow. You've provided ample evidence that you would benefit from a writing course and now you've demonstrated that you need to take American History 101. Meow. |
dedicateddad
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I'm not sure what was wrong stylistically or grammatically with my previous post and although I could be wrong about some of my historical "evidence" I presented...I thought segregation was alive and well then...if I am wrong and it was already done then I retract that portion of my statement.
If the only reason you are saying that I need to take a writing course is because I called somebody a pussy on the internet, then I am not interested. |
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"If the only reason you are saying that I need to take a writing course is because I called somebody a pussy on the internet, then I am not interested. "
I'm the one you called a pussy. Meow was a CLUE, Sherlock. |
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| OP -- you don't speak English as a first language...are you a nanny with too much time on your hands? Or, are you beating your charges with one hand and typing with the other? |