Anyone wish their wives did more to not look so worn down

[Anonymous]

Just wondering if any guys wish their wives were more adventourous, hit the gym, silly, fun, and spirted like when you were dating? Is this the same woman you envisioned marrying? This is a take off the "do you wish your hubby made more money thread"

[Anonymous]

I'm a wife. I wish I didn't look so worn down. I wish I hit the gym more, but I never have time. I wish DH would say, honey, I've totally got this (with the kids) why don't you go? But he's always says "ugh, ok." and gives me this look like i'm inconveniencing him. its passive aggressive.

[Anonymous]

I'm a wife too... and I could have written exactly what 08:59 says. If every time I tried to plan something, DH didn't roll his eyes or act like I was placing a huge burden on him by leaving the kids with him, I would be MUCH more inclined to hit the gym and certainly be in a much better mood to have fun.

[Anonymous]

Hilarious, OP! As soon as my husband steps up on managing 50% of household and child related duties, along with half of the night time nursing and kid wakeups, I will be right back to my gym going silly fun loving well rested self. Oh, I should probably ask him to pitch in to cover the additional hours I work at my office, too. So sure, once we're on even ground for free time, I'll step up and be more vibrant. Funny enough though, I suspect that if he did share 50% of the workload, he'd be simply exhausted and wouldn't notice how fun and cute I was.

[Anonymous]

nice one 9:06.

[Anonymous]

Once he starts being fun, silly and flirty in bed, I might consider it. Until then it's get in, get out, lemme sleep.

[Anonymous]

That's weird - I thought this thread was directed toward men...

For all of the women who blame their men for this issue (and there are many more to come in this thread, I'm sure), maybe you should put your money where your mouth is and do something very simple: "Honey, I really want to look and feel better, especially for you, and to improve our sex life. Would you be willing to take care of the kids on [schedule] so that I can work out?"

If he says no, you can go back to blaming it on him.

[Anonymous]

Why is it always push back on the DH? I'm a wife - I'm all these things, it's a partnership. Maybe your DH will help you, if you help him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's weird - I thought this thread was directed toward men...

For all of the women who blame their men for this issue (and there are many more to come in this thread, I'm sure), maybe you should put your money where your mouth is and do something very simple: "Honey, I really want to look and feel better, especially for you, and to improve our sex life. Would you be willing to take care of the kids on [schedule] so that I can work out?"

If he says no, you can go back to blaming it on him.

Hah. Tried asking DH if we could split workout nights. Currently, he works out every night while I watch LO and make dinner. This was okay while I was on maternity leave and could work out during the week, but now that I'm back at work, splitting evening workout time seemed to be more fair. He wasn't willing to share, and asked why I couldn't just wake up earlier to fit my workout in. Umm, I already wake up at 5:30 to walk the dog, get LO dressed, fed, ready for daycare, AND do dropoff/pickup so that he can sleep in until 8! Oh, and I work longer hours.

Good thing I'm naturally thin b/c I haven't had a good workout in months.

[Anonymous]

lol. I first saw the title and thought of the zinger from a couple weeks ago on why do moms look so bad. Don't think we need to rehash it.
But seriously, I agree with what others have posted. I look worn down because I am worn down. I am worn down because I do 90% of the work at home. And when I do try and schedule me time, I get "you're going to miss family time" and the puppy dog look and guilt trip. Not very relaxing now, thank you very much. And I just love the texts about either 1. just how much fun your having without me, wish I was there, or 2. children are crying and whining, wish I was there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it always push back on the DH? I'm a wife - I'm all these things, it's a partnership. Maybe your DH will help you, if you help him.

Help him how, exactly?

[Anonymous]

Wow, what a bunch of angry women..... Invest in divorce counselors now -- sounds like there will be a run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if any guys wish their wives were more adventourous, hit the gym, silly, fun, and spirted like when you were dating? Is this the same woman you envisioned marrying? This is a take off the "do you wish your hubby made more money thread"

I think my husband would say I am pretty adventurous, silly, fun, and spirited. Certainly not every day. And I'm not the same woman he married almost 25 years ago. He married a 21 year old, carefree college senior. We are both almost 45 years old. Our oldest child will graduate from college this year. We've been married for almost 25 years and have five children. Both of us have grown up and changed. I'm pretty sure that he is glad I have grown and matured over the years.

Having said that, I haven't let myself go. I am the same weight today that I was when I graduated from college. 115 pounds. I still work out. I still run. I still take care of myself. And I have very little sympathy for women who "let themselves go", then complain when their husbands seek the company of women who haven't. I love my husband enough to want look and feel as good as I possible can as I age. And he feels the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hah. Tried asking DH if we could split workout nights. Currently, he works out every night while I watch LO and make dinner. This was okay while I was on maternity leave and could work out during the week, but now that I'm back at work, splitting evening workout time seemed to be more fair. He wasn't willing to share, and asked why I couldn't just wake up earlier to fit my workout in. Umm, I already wake up at 5:30 to walk the dog, get LO dressed, fed, ready for daycare, AND do dropoff/pickup so that he can sleep in until 8! Oh, and I work longer hours.

Alright - you have earned the right to blame it on him. Of course, my next question is why you put up with that inequity, assuming it bothers you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if any guys wish their wives were more adventourous, hit the gym, silly, fun, and spirted like when you were dating? Is this the same woman you envisioned marrying? This is a take off the "do you wish your hubby made more money thread"

I think my husband would say I am pretty adventurous, silly, fun, and spirited. Certainly not every day. And I'm not the same woman he married almost 25 years ago. He married a 21 year old, carefree college senior. We are both almost 45 years old. Our oldest child will graduate from college this year. We've been married for almost 25 years and have five children. Both of us have grown up and changed. I'm pretty sure that he is glad I have grown and matured over the years.

Having said that, I haven't let myself go. I am the same weight today that I was when I graduated from college. 115 pounds. I still work out. I still run. I still take care of myself. And I have very little sympathy for women who "let themselves go", then complain when their husbands seek the company of women who haven't. I love my husband enough to want look and feel as good as I possible can as I age. And he feels the same way.

Are you raising your kids to be as smug and self-righteous as you? There is nothing adventurous, silly, fun nor spirited about you. Bitch.