Is it tacky to post your wedding registry on Facebook?

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine posted links to her two registries today. I couldn't help but think how tacky is that? Am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

Of course you're not wrong, that's one of the tackiest things I've ever heard!

[Anonymous]

SO tacky.

[Anonymous]

VERY tacky. I was invited to a wedding last year (two biglaw attorneys marrying) and they included their registries with the invitation. Incredibly tacky. I was very surprised.

[Anonymous]

Tacky indeed. Generally, you only mention the wedding registry after people ask. I know it's easier to include with the invitations since pretty much everyone will ask but it's just not polite.

[Anonymous]

Thank you. Glad I am not crazy! - From the OP

[Anonymous]

Yes, very.

[Anonymous]

Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?

I'm not saying it's smart or the best approach. But why is posting it on FaceBook or, more curiously, including the registries in the invitation considered tacky?

[Anonymous]

Beyond tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?

I'm not saying it's smart or the best approach. But why is posting it on FaceBook or, more curiously, including the registries in the invitation considered tacky?

If you have to ask...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?

I'm not saying it's smart or the best approach. But why is posting it on FaceBook or, more curiously, including the registries in the invitation considered tacky?

OMG, really?

The only time it's acceptable to put registry info on an invitation is if it's for a shower, because a shower, by definition, is an event where you bring a gift for the person of honor.

When you invite someone to your wedding, it is NOT expected that guests will bring a gift. The point of the event is NOT gift giving. Of course, it's likely that most people who come will bring a gift, because they want to give the couple something to celebrate the event. But it is not okay to ask people to bring gifts. Registries are there for convenience, and if a guest asks about the registry, it's perfectly acceptable to direct him/her to it. But DO NOT put registry info on invitations. Tacky!

And Facebook?? Good lord. No. As the PP pointed out, chances are most people on your FB friends list aren't even invited to the wedding. Talk about a gift grab! Tacky tacky tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?

I'm not saying it's smart or the best approach. But why is posting it on FaceBook or, more curiously, including the registries in the invitation considered tacky?

OMG, really?

The only time it's acceptable to put registry info on an invitation is if it's for a shower, because a shower, by definition, is an event where you bring a gift for the person of honor.

When you invite someone to your wedding, it is NOT expected that guests will bring a gift. The point of the event is NOT gift giving. Of course, it's likely that most people who come will bring a gift, because they want to give the couple something to celebrate the event. But it is not okay to ask people to bring gifts. Registries are there for convenience, and if a guest asks about the registry, it's perfectly acceptable to direct him/her to it. But DO NOT put registry info on invitations. Tacky!

And Facebook?? Good lord. No. As the PP pointed out, chances are most people on your FB friends list aren't even invited to the wedding. Talk about a gift grab! Tacky tacky tacky.

Sounds like a very antiquated perception of weddings. I am going through the process now, along with many other friends, and this is completely foreign. This may have been true in the past but is not true of my generation.

[Anonymous]

Tacky to post your registry of FB - yes, yes, yes. In fact , I think wedding registries themselves are tacky...