Is it tacky to post your wedding registry on Facebook?

[Anonymous]

YES!!!

[Anonymous]

OP how do you know if this post wasn't only visible to YOU? LOL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?

I'm not saying it's smart or the best approach. But why is posting it on FaceBook or, more curiously, including the registries in the invitation considered tacky?

OMG, really?

The only time it's acceptable to put registry info on an invitation is if it's for a shower, because a shower, by definition, is an event where you bring a gift for the person of honor.

When you invite someone to your wedding, it is NOT expected that guests will bring a gift. The point of the event is NOT gift giving. Of course, it's likely that most people who come will bring a gift, because they want to give the couple something to celebrate the event. But it is not okay to ask people to bring gifts. Registries are there for convenience, and if a guest asks about the registry, it's perfectly acceptable to direct him/her to it. But DO NOT put registry info on invitations. Tacky!

And Facebook?? Good lord. No. As the PP pointed out, chances are most people on your FB friends list aren't even invited to the wedding. Talk about a gift grab! Tacky tacky tacky.

Sounds like a very antiquated perception of weddings. I am going through the process now, along with many other friends, and this is completely foreign. This may have been true in the past but is not true of my generation.

I've been married for almost four years, and unless there has been some massive generational shift since then, yes it's still tacky. Very tacky.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?

I'm not saying it's smart or the best approach. But why is posting it on FaceBook or, more curiously, including the registries in the invitation considered tacky?

OMG, really?

The only time it's acceptable to put registry info on an invitation is if it's for a shower, because a shower, by definition, is an event where you bring a gift for the person of honor.

When you invite someone to your wedding, it is NOT expected that guests will bring a gift. The point of the event is NOT gift giving. Of course, it's likely that most people who come will bring a gift, because they want to give the couple something to celebrate the event. But it is not okay to ask people to bring gifts. Registries are there for convenience, and if a guest asks about the registry, it's perfectly acceptable to direct him/her to it. But DO NOT put registry info on invitations. Tacky!

And Facebook?? Good lord. No. As the PP pointed out, chances are most people on your FB friends list aren't even invited to the wedding. Talk about a gift grab! Tacky tacky tacky.

Sounds like a very antiquated perception of weddings. I am going through the process now, along with many other friends, and this is completely foreign. This may have been true in the past but is not true of my generation.

I've been married for almost four years, and unless there has been some massive generational shift since then, yes it's still tacky. Very tacky.

Fair enough. I've gone to or been invited to a half dozen weddings in the past 2 years, with several including registry information in the invitation. I never found it tacky and never heard anyone else express that opinion about those who took this route. I find many more things far more tacky about the whole wedding industry than a bride and groom providing registry information as a convenience for their guests.

[Anonymous]

It's not a convenience so much as it's a statement that guests are required to buy you a gift. While it's certainly the norm (and good manners) to buy a gift for the bride and groom, it's still optional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not a convenience so much as it's a statement that guests are required to buy you a gift. While it's certainly the norm (and good manners) to buy a gift for the bride and groom, it's still optional.

Does the inclusion of information about a hotel block imply that guests are required to stay the night? Does the invitation itself imply that guests are required to attend???

As far as I see it, the more information about the wedding in the invitation, the better. There is so much emphasis on antiquated formalities (not just with weddings, though it is an area of particular frustration) that we get caught up in this nonsense. If you had every intention of buying a gift for the happy couple, why would you be offended at them providing you some information to aid in gift buying? Because they violated an unspoken rule that they may be unaware of or disagree with? I recognize that social customs are real and of value, but the idea that those who might abide to a different set of generally arbitrary rules are somehow fatally flawed just seems nonsensical to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's not a convenience so much as it's a statement that guests are required to buy you a gift. While it's certainly the norm (and good manners) to buy a gift for the bride and groom, it's still optional.

Does the inclusion of information about a hotel block imply that guests are required to stay the night? Does the invitation itself imply that guests are required to attend???

As far as I see it, the more information about the wedding in the invitation, the better. There is so much emphasis on antiquated formalities (not just with weddings, though it is an area of particular frustration) that we get caught up in this nonsense. If you had every intention of buying a gift for the happy couple, why would you be offended at them providing you some information to aid in gift buying? Because they violated an unspoken rule that they may be unaware of or disagree with? I recognize that social customs are real and of value, but the idea that those who might abide to a different set of generally arbitrary rules are somehow fatally flawed just seems nonsensical to me.

Nobody said you were fatally flawed, just that the practice is tacky. I'm 28 and I've been invited to about 15 weddings in the past few years and I've never ever seen registry info included on an invite. I've seen it with a shower invite a couple of times but I'm not wild about that either. As far as convenience, all of my friends know how to find registries online within about 30 seconds.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?

I'm not saying it's smart or the best approach. But why is posting it on FaceBook or, more curiously, including the registries in the invitation considered tacky?

If you have to ask...

[Anonymous]

Yes, that is tacky to post it on FB for all to see. Unless the FB friends is a very tight group (all of whom are invited to the wedding).

[Anonymous]

I could see posting a link to the wedding website on FB, and having registry information on the website, but it's very tacky to post on FB "Hey, we're registered here, here, and here!"

On the fence about if it's included in the invitations. I've seen it done where a small card is included in the envelope saying where the couple is registered. I could see sending out information about the wedding website.

[Anonymous]

Not tacky. Beyond tacky.

And tacky to include it in a shower invite, too. If your registry isn't available from one of the biggies online, people can always ask the host of the party.

[Anonymous]

Oh come on ladies, there's no need to rip your panties over this. What if the friend only made this post visible to ppl invited to the shower?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh come on ladies, there's no need to rip your panties over this. What if the friend only made this post visible to ppl invited to the shower?

Still tacky!

Offering information on How to Buy Me Stuff, rather than waiting until someone asks, is tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?

I'm not saying it's smart or the best approach. But why is posting it on FaceBook or, more curiously, including the registries in the invitation considered tacky?

OMG, really?

The only time it's acceptable to put registry info on an invitation is if it's for a shower, because a shower, by definition, is an event where you bring a gift for the person of honor.

When you invite someone to your wedding, it is NOT expected that guests will bring a gift. The point of the event is NOT gift giving. Of course, it's likely that most people who come will bring a gift, because they want to give the couple something to celebrate the event. But it is not okay to ask people to bring gifts. Registries are there for convenience, and if a guest asks about the registry, it's perfectly acceptable to direct him/her to it. But DO NOT put registry info on invitations. Tacky!

And Facebook?? Good lord. No. As the PP pointed out, chances are most people on your FB friends list aren't even invited to the wedding. Talk about a gift grab! Tacky tacky tacky.

Sounds like a very antiquated perception of weddings. I am going through the process now, along with many other friends, and this is completely foreign. This may have been true in the past but is not true of my generation.

Your generation? You mean your social class. Ick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious??? Why is this tacky?

well for one reason, why would you advertise your registry to a bunch of people who aren't even invited to the wedding?

I'm not saying it's smart or the best approach. But why is posting it on FaceBook or, more curiously, including the registries in the invitation considered tacky?

OMG, really?

The only time it's acceptable to put registry info on an invitation is if it's for a shower, because a shower, by definition, is an event where you bring a gift for the person of honor.

When you invite someone to your wedding, it is NOT expected that guests will bring a gift. The point of the event is NOT gift giving. Of course, it's likely that most people who come will bring a gift, because they want to give the couple something to celebrate the event. But it is not okay to ask people to bring gifts. Registries are there for convenience, and if a guest asks about the registry, it's perfectly acceptable to direct him/her to it. But DO NOT put registry info on invitations. Tacky!

And Facebook?? Good lord. No. As the PP pointed out, chances are most people on your FB friends list aren't even invited to the wedding. Talk about a gift grab! Tacky tacky tacky.

Sounds like a very antiquated perception of weddings. I am going through the process now, along with many other friends, and this is completely foreign. This may have been true in the past but is not true of my generation.

The future bride might have set her privacy settings so ONLY persons invited to the wedding got the registry links. It might be possible even if she did not make a private event. Pre-internet action people used to call to see where/if couples were registered. Would you rather call or google the couple or search registries on a multitude of sites?

I'd rather get the registry url electronically so i could cut and paste or follow the link.