All my SAHM friends who got divorced and their H got a hot new wife took their kids money and said it was 1/2 theirs. |
It’s not uncommon for mental illness to hit midlife. |
Yes, I know plenty of people it happened to. My friend's dad gambled away her college fund. My roommate's dad left them and spent most of her college money on his new wife. Also, plenty of people (including many I know) use their kids' names to take out credit for stupid things. |
+1. DD has a friend whose parents borrowed under name. |
Its a fake post Don’t waste your time... only people jumping party this year are Republicans ... and a few independents. |
PP here. Yep, you're probably right. Desperate Cons are trying to make reparations a wedge issue. |
OP here. I am really not endlessly posting about this. I saw this article in The Atlantic, it made me think of the poor Appalachian teenagers/foster kids that I work with, and I wondered what people thought of it. I don’t really see anywhere that this is being seriously discussed as policy. I also didn’t connect it with reparations, although I can see how you got there. I have found some parts of this discussion very interesting, and I appreciate it, but there is no reason it should change the way you vote. |
I just wish one supporter of one-time cash handouts would explain why this is better than spending the same money to effect long-term change in all the systemic barriers that keep black kids in bad schools with hopeless job prospects.
I know I sound like a broken record because I've asked this several times. |
I’m not the poster you’re insulting, but this type of rhetoric and the increasing intolerance for differing views also makes me lean right (and I have not I only voted D but put significant money where my mouth is over the years). I hate Trump but don’t feel like I belong in the Democratic Party these days either. These types of ideas and the liberal elitism of statements like “if you don’t think like me, you’re mentally ill,” is how Trump got elected in the first place. Keep it up and you’ll ensure he’ll be re-elected! |
HOPE also extends to vocational school/technical school (not just four year schools) which play a huge role in reducing poverty. |
I have answered this, as have a social worker and a teacher earlier in this thread. I’m a psychiatrist, not an economist, so my thoughts are colored in that direction. But what I see when I talk to kids about their hopes and dreams is that they are extremely limited. I think that if kids grew up knowing that they had $$ to spend to improve their lives, they would start thinking about how to use it and see more possibilities for themselves. I don’t know how much you know about structural scaffolding in education. The idea is that you start with the basics of a concept, then you continue to build on that information. This is a formal concept that takes advantage of the way our minds naturally work. Once we have scaffolding, then we will start to hook new information to it and build a more fully formed understanding. For example, when you get pregnant, you start learning about pregnancy, and you start noticing that there is information about pregnancy all around you. It was always there, but it just slid away from you before. Or when you first start reading Ancient Greek tragedies in school, you suddenly start noticing references to them. Again, the references were always there. You just didn’t pick up on it before. I think for many kids that growing up with this money would provide a kind of scaffolding. Information about ACT exams, college applications, home ownership, small business ownership, etc. wouldn’t just slide away. It would have a place to stick. Now, are there a number of kids who are never going to get there? Yes. Are there some bad parents out there who will try to steal the money? Yes. Are there kids out there who were born looking for ways to succeed and don’t need it? Of course. But for a lot of kids, I can see how this would be very helpful in a way that throwing money at the schools or neighborhood programs would not. I mean, imagine what kind of discussions teenagers might have about what they are going to do after high school if everyone there has $60k in a bank account. It might look an awful lot more like the discussions middle class kids have. |
Thanks for this. I guess my point is, I don't see how this would be more useful than using the same money to reform early, elementary, and secondary education. And then offering college tuition support in the form of grants administered by the colleges, instead of as a handout to a kid. That way, people couldn't blow it or have their parents steal it. I also feel like, if schools don't prepare kids to succeed in college, then what are we doing but setting kids up for failure. I suppose that telling a kid "here's $50K, but you can only use it for college" is different from, and might be more motivational than, "if you go to college, you'll get some part of tuition for free." It's the difference between knowing you own your 401(k) and the promise that you might get Social Security. But again, $50K will get you two years at UMD, and not even a full year at Columbia. So now we're saying, we'll give you half the tuition, and you might get a scholarship, but you might have to borrow the rest. |
Pp here. A lot of poor kids don’t really grow up thinking about college, and it can seem kind of unreachable. They often don’t hear about scholarships until their senior year, and at that point it just seems so out of reach. I think offering a college scholarship is kind of like telling you “I will pay all of your living expenses for the next year if you use that year to write a novel,” when you have never written a novel or known anyone who has written one. Of course people do it all of the time, but would you? Do you see how intimidating that is? |
Dumb a** I never said I was pro-cash handouts. I am Just anti-a** hole therefore my response to the racist tripe. |
Also, if the high school does nothing to prepare them for college (or vocational training) from an academic standpoint and you give them 50k to spend on college, they probably won't get far in college or will end up pursuing some passion certificate from a diploma mill. |