Not redshirting our May birthday boy?

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If he is September and your cut-off is in September, he is still in his calendar year with other kids who started at 4 and 5.
It doesn't sound like redshirting is an issue at all in your district so he is just young for his grade. It doesn't sound like 7 year olds in your Kinder classes were an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't read all these responses - but just saw this thread and wanted to comment. I have a May birthday boy and he is a rising senior in high school in MCPS.

He is perfect and is completely fine as a rising senior. He is a good student, has friends, is definitely mature for his age and grade and is ready for college.

I would absolutely send a May birthday - he has other May friends - we never even considered holding him back - he is studious and totally appropriate for his grade.

The only thing I notice is that most of his friends that have summer birthdays are a whole year ahead - they will be 18 this summer (mine will not be 18 until May of his senior year, obviously) - at least the summer boys were all held back.

It really doesn't matter now except that some have had their driver's licences for longer.

How is May even a discussion?

Our cut off is Sep 1. So if summer is acceptable June 1- August 31 for redshirting, is there that much difference between a kid like my son born May 30 to a kid born June 1. It’s a few days away. For what it’s worth we aren’t red shirting but I know for a fact that every summer birthday is holding back because I know who isn’t moving on with him to K next year. The parents have already declared the year they will start because we start Kinder readiness activities in September for the following year. Maybe it’s a regional thing but it’s just what people do. Many spring birthdays will be redshirted as well, from February. It’s the worst for May kids because that is a grey area and they usually will be the youngest, save for the small handful of summer kids who go on time. Someone has to be the youngest and we will just make sure our son gets a little extra help to keep up. The concern is always that the older kids are perceived as gifted and more athletically inclined and they get extra attention which follows them through the years, when really they are just older. Our district is very competitive to begin with so we will just have to come to terms that he will have to work that much harder to keep up.

June 1 is also ridiculous. Does that make you feel any better then - May and June 1 can be the same. Also - what region is this regional to?

We are in Nashville in Franklin. 27% of kids are redshirted in total. This is what someone else said about the specific district:
The data from my school (in Franklin) is that 27% of the kids could be a grade higher based on age.

Redshirting is a huge problem and one they really need to address. I did the K tour with my youngest last months and there were GIRLs born in March/April who were being red-shirted. I can't think of any reason for any child to be starting K at 6.5.

Read more: http://www.city-data.com/forum/nashville/1816952-brentwood-redshirting.html#ixzz5tJtWhtEy

What difference does it make with gender? No one should be held back, especially kids with special needs and delays. Some kids like mine are basically forced to stay back if they have a September birthday which is horrible. Mine would have started at 6 but I was not agreeing to that.

I'm just quoting someone else in the same district as me. It's just facts that 27% of kids are being redshirted in our district.
You're not making any sense. First you said your kid started at 4 and then you said they would be forced to start at 6. 5 is the age kids should generally be starting Kinder.

What is your children's bday and what is the cut off date? It sounds like they went on time according to the schedule and were just young for their grade.

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Sep birthday. Cutoff was Sep 1st. DC went on time. Other than being the tallest, DC seems fine even if oldest in class. I think it bothers me more that DC is almost a year older than some classmates who turned 6 only in May and June and will turning 6 in July. I regret that DC lost a whole year because of the cutoff.

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Anonymous wrote:Sep birthday. Cutoff was Sep 1st. DC went on time. Other than being the tallest, DC seems fine even if oldest in class. I think it bothers me more that DC is almost a year older than some classmates who turned 6 only in May and June and will turning 6 in July. I regret that DC lost a whole year because of the cutoff.

September is a great birthday in our district. It falls in the middle since so many people redshirt.
Anyone who redshirted from Feb - August would be 7-1 month older than your son so he would fall in about the middle range but if you are in a district where it is uncommon to reshirt he would be the oldest. I don't see it as being a negative. He didn't lose a year because he went on time.

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Anonymous wrote:We did not redshirt our June boy and ate not redshirting our early September girl (cut off is 9/30).

Hi- I have a June boy. Are you happy with your decision?

Just so you know, your child won’t be able to play soccer with his class. He will have to play with the grade he’s supposed to be in.

Travel soccer, yes, but Rec soccer (which sucks anyway), they can play with their grade.

No they cannot. My sons best friends are December 2011 kids, he is June 2012. Reston Herndon refused to put them on the same team even though they were the same age and in the same class.

I'm not the PP who you're responding to, but I think this must vary by league. We live in Arlington and rec teams are by grade. I have a 2012 birthday kid who plays on a rec team with 2011 birthdays because they are in his grade (not sure why it "sucks"). Travel/try-out teams are by birth year, so he will not be on a team with the 2011s if we do that.

I think in general this shows that there are a lot of really hyper-local things that may crop up with sports, school, etc.

MSI soccer is by birth date on a school year calendar. So it’s Aug 1 - July 31 or Sept 1 - Aug 31. I forget which. In any event, Dec 2011 and spring 2012 play together, but if you redshirt to the extreme your kid will not play with his grade in ES. I think at some point in MS they may switch to birth year and split the grades up. Kids who are serious about sports in this region are playing club/travel sports. They may or may not also play for their HS team when they get there.

How many kids play soccer after 8?

IME about half the ones who played before 8. Maybe 2/3.

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Anonymous wrote:We did not redshirt our June boy and ate not redshirting our early September girl (cut off is 9/30).

Hi- I have a June boy. Are you happy with your decision?

Just so you know, your child won’t be able to play soccer with his class. He will have to play with the grade he’s supposed to be in.

Travel soccer, yes, but Rec soccer (which sucks anyway), they can play with their grade.

No they cannot. My sons best friends are December 2011 kids, he is June 2012. Reston Herndon refused to put them on the same team even though they were the same age and in the same class.

I'm not the PP who you're responding to, but I think this must vary by league. We live in Arlington and rec teams are by grade. I have a 2012 birthday kid who plays on a rec team with 2011 birthdays because they are in his grade (not sure why it "sucks"). Travel/try-out teams are by birth year, so he will not be on a team with the 2011s if we do that.

I think in general this shows that there are a lot of really hyper-local things that may crop up with sports, school, etc.

MSI soccer is by birth date on a school year calendar. So it’s Aug 1 - July 31 or Sept 1 - Aug 31. I forget which. In any event, Dec 2011 and spring 2012 play together, but if you redshirt to the extreme your kid will not play with his grade in ES. I think at some point in MS they may switch to birth year and split the grades up. Kids who are serious about sports in this region are playing club/travel sports. They may or may not also play for their HS team when they get there.

How many kids play soccer after 8?

IME about half the ones who played before 8. Maybe 2/3.

Not the ones I know. I know only a handful. Some do it because they like it and others it was the parent choice. Absolutely not 2/3.

[Anonymous]

August birthday boy. On time. The only problem is planning summer birthday parties, some years we had a hit, this year, no one is around. Not even one!!

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sent my september on time. may won't be close to the youngest. this post is probably a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:August birthday boy. On time. The only problem is planning summer birthday parties, some years we had a hit, this year, no one is around. Not even one!!

We have an early Sept. bday sent on time, doing great in an immersion elementary school (and the earlier the better for second language acquisition). We solved the bday problem by having her party in late Sept. or even October. Kid doesn’t care, so long as she has one, so it works out.

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Anonymous wrote:August birthday boy. On time. The only problem is planning summer birthday parties, some years we had a hit, this year, no one is around. Not even one!!

We have an early Sept. bday sent on time, doing great in an immersion elementary school (and the earlier the better for second language acquisition). We solved the bday problem by having her party in late Sept. or even October. Kid doesn’t care, so long as she has one, so it works out.

We have a September kid and also wait on parties till later.

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Anonymous wrote:We are in a wealthy public school district where the majority of parents who have February to August birthdays are choosing to redshirt their boys so they will be 6 when starting Kinder. My son’s teacher has not indicated he should be held back however I have a number of friends who work in elementary education who said they would without a doubt hold a late May birthday back.

Through preschool, our tight knit community and several activities over the last few years, my son knows a large number of kids that will be in his grade if he goes on time as planned. At least a dozen or so he is very comfortable with and sees and plays with regularly.

I am inclined to send him on time (incoming 2020 Kinder) when we will be 5 years old and 3 months and not hold him back, however a part of me is hesitant because he will be the absolute youngest in the grade and there will be children a full 1.5 years older than him. Am I making a mistake here? Any advice.

Feb through Augst holdbacks for a Sept 1 cutoff?? That's pathetic.
If the parents cared so much they should have made sure their kids had Jan (travel sports are calendar year) or Fall births.
So sick of this. Wish schools would make FIRM 12-15 month intake years.

[Anonymous]

I think it just goes to show how many regional variations there are. Around here, it’s rare to redshirt the Spring birthdays in public school (I know private is a little different and they tend to have earlier “unofficial cutoffs.”) But sometimes I see articles about redshirting and people always comment about holding back their spring birthday kids. Not sure what I’d do in OP’s situation, probably would send my kid assuming that there would be some others who would also send on time, but I’d be questioning it too.

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Anonymous wrote:August birthday boy. On time. The only problem is planning summer birthday parties, some years we had a hit, this year, no one is around. Not even one!!

We have a late June b-day (sent on time and thriving btw) and we do do birthdays before school ends (2 weeks early) since most people are on vacation the last two weeks of June.

[Anonymous]

We're in McLean, land of redshirting in this area and my DD has a late May birthday. We went to several boy's 6th birthdays in May and June.

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Anonymous wrote:We're in McLean, land of redshirting in this area and my DD has a late May birthday. We went to several boy's 6th birthdays in May and June.

What grade is your dd?