I don't understand parents who are flashy with their wealth but send their kids to public school

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here. I was just thinking what I would have done if I won the billion dollar lottery. I remember thinking I would keep them in public school.

Oh hell, no. Your kids haven't been in private so you have no comparison, right? I have one in private on scholarship and it is just complete night and day to my other 2 kids. Amazing. Public is teaching the masses and just bringing up the rear. And by private, I mean decent college prep private. Not parochial school.

If you lived in a better school district you wouldn't see a disparity between the two. There are great publics in this area.

[Anonymous]

I’m a product of a local private school, which is why my daughter attends public.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pp here. I was just thinking what I would have done if I won the billion dollar lottery. I remember thinking I would keep them in public school.

Oh hell, no. Your kids haven't been in private so you have no comparison, right? I have one in private on scholarship and it is just complete night and day to my other 2 kids. Amazing. Public is teaching the masses and just bringing up the rear. And by private, I mean decent college prep private. Not parochial school.

If you lived in a better school district you wouldn't see a disparity between the two. There are great publics in this area.

Where? Ones with teachers who have 12-15 kids per class. Who actually grade and correct homework, essays, and papers. Give ideas on the sides and give comments for improvement. Who know each child by name, know them personally, and are positive mentors in their lives.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pp here. I was just thinking what I would have done if I won the billion dollar lottery. I remember thinking I would keep them in public school.

Oh hell, no. Your kids haven't been in private so you have no comparison, right? I have one in private on scholarship and it is just complete night and day to my other 2 kids. Amazing. Public is teaching the masses and just bringing up the rear. And by private, I mean decent college prep private. Not parochial school.

If you lived in a better school district you wouldn't see a disparity between the two. There are great publics in this area.

I live in the Wootton district - why is it better than say Wheaton?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here. I was just thinking what I would have done if I won the billion dollar lottery. I remember thinking I would keep them in public school.

Oh hell, no. Your kids haven't been in private so you have no comparison, right? I have one in private on scholarship and it is just complete night and day to my other 2 kids. Amazing. Public is teaching the masses and just bringing up the rear. And by private, I mean decent college prep private. Not parochial school.

If you lived in a better school district you wouldn't see a disparity between the two. There are great publics in this area.

Where? Ones with teachers who have 12-15 kids per class. Who actually grade and correct homework, essays, and papers. Give ideas on the sides and give comments for improvement. Who know each child by name, know them personally, and are positive mentors in their lives.

You think public school teachers don’t know the names of the kids in their classes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I clearly did touch a nerve. Predictably I suppose.

I want to clarify that what I find odd is not that there are SOME wealthy families who send their kids to public school, but that there’s a particular obsession at some public schools with being flashy. YSL handbags are like the least expensive designer handbags you can buy - but people buy them in part because they scream “I’m expensive” even to those who know nothing about handbags. And I guess I don’t understand that mentality - wanting to look expensive to strangers - when MOST of those women are not super wealthy. And most wealthy women I know don’t carry an entry-level YSL logo handbag.

Anyway, i don’t really understand what it is I’m getting at, but this thread is helping me realize it’s less about school choice and more about displays of wealth and their meaning that I find confusing, and interesting, particularly in certain subcultures (where half the moms carry the same handbag).

I’m loving the term “entry-level handbag” the OP is so new money it makes my head hurt.

[Anonymous]

OP, you don't know wealthy. Wealthy does not drive minivans. They go to Andover and Deerfield for generations and have millions of dollars. Not 1 or 2 but hundreds in liquid assets. They have house managers, jets, and schools named after them. They are not modest. The girls get nose and (o) jobs at 16 y/o. They use Sisley skincare at 18 y/o. They start preventive Botox at 30. When I was in college they would go to John Barrett in NYC monthly to get $600 highlights and that was 10 years ago.

To your point, I'm a thin blonde in McLean with pretty things. I'm more into Bottega Veneta bags than YSL but I love a good pair of F*** ME shoes and YSL has a bunch of them. I don't dress to impress others or show off, I dress for myself. I'm sensitive to touch and love things that feel good - silk lingerie, cashmere and alpaca sweaters, nice leather lined shoes. I like quality.

H and I went to ivy and top grad schools despite being low life graduates of public schools. Our kids go to public elementary because the program fits their current needs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I clearly did touch a nerve. Predictably I suppose.

I want to clarify that what I find odd is not that there are SOME wealthy families who send their kids to public school, but that there’s a particular obsession at some public schools with being flashy. YSL handbags are like the least expensive designer handbags you can buy - but people buy them in part because they scream “I’m expensive” even to those who know nothing about handbags. And I guess I don’t understand that mentality - wanting to look expensive to strangers - when MOST of those women are not super wealthy. And most wealthy women I know don’t carry an entry-level YSL logo handbag.

Anyway, i don’t really understand what it is I’m getting at, but this thread is helping me realize it’s less about school choice and more about displays of wealth and their meaning that I find confusing, and interesting, particularly in certain subcultures (where half the moms carry the same handbag).

I’m loving the term “entry-level handbag” the OP is so new money it makes my head hurt.

I personally like Chanel. I don’t care what bags other people carry. There are some cute coach or Michael kors bags. I like ysl heels. They are my most comfortable high heels. I don’t wear high heels often but may wear them to a party occasionally. Hope my ysl shoes don’t bother Op the way ysl bags do.

[Anonymous]

To answer your question OP:

They're public school alums that came into a little money. The intrinsic value of a private k-12 education is outside of their scope, over their head. That's all. It's not necessarily bad, they just don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question OP:

They're public school alums that came into a little money. The intrinsic value of a private k-12 education is outside of their scope, over their head. That's all. It's not necessarily bad, they just don't get it.

Or they know better than to send their kids to school with kids raised by people like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a product of a local private school, which is why my daughter attends public.

Me too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here. I was just thinking what I would have done if I won the billion dollar lottery. I remember thinking I would keep them in public school.

Oh hell, no. Your kids haven't been in private so you have no comparison, right? I have one in private on scholarship and it is just complete night and day to my other 2 kids. Amazing. Public is teaching the masses and just bringing up the rear. And by private, I mean decent college prep private. Not parochial school.

You clearly don't have an advanced science or math degree.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pp here. I was just thinking what I would have done if I won the billion dollar lottery. I remember thinking I would keep them in public school.

Oh hell, no. Your kids haven't been in private so you have no comparison, right? I have one in private on scholarship and it is just complete night and day to my other 2 kids. Amazing. Public is teaching the masses and just bringing up the rear. And by private, I mean decent college prep private. Not parochial school.

You clearly don't have an advanced science or math degree.

My kids are still in elementary but fairly certain the middle school kids at Longfellow and cooper are doing just fine in public school. TJ crushes all the private schools around here.

Graduate of magnet public high school and Harvard.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here. I was just thinking what I would have done if I won the billion dollar lottery. I remember thinking I would keep them in public school.

Oh hell, no. Your kids haven't been in private so you have no comparison, right? I have one in private on scholarship and it is just complete night and day to my other 2 kids. Amazing. Public is teaching the masses and just bringing up the rear. And by private, I mean decent college prep private. Not parochial school.

If you lived in a better school district you wouldn't see a disparity between the two. There are great publics in this area.

Where? Ones with teachers who have 12-15 kids per class. Who actually grade and correct homework, essays, and papers. Give ideas on the sides and give comments for improvement. Who know each child by name, know them personally, and are positive mentors in their lives.

You think public school teachers don’t know the names of the kids in their classes?

I know they don’t. My 4th grader’s treacher still calls her 3 different names, depending on the day. In high school, teachers have 120-150 kids they teach and grade a day. A private high school teacher at a decent school may have 50 max a day. You don’t think that effects effort, grading, corrections, mentoring, teachable moments, 1 on 1 help and tutoring, etc...? My kids get “great job” on assignments that are incorrect and misspelled - with zero corrections.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To answer your question OP:

They're public school alums that came into a little money. The intrinsic value of a private k-12 education is outside of their scope, over their head. That's all. It's not necessarily bad, they just don't get it.

Or they know better than to send their kids to school with kids raised by people like you.

I think they just like to spen money on themselves. Education isn’t important