I can't handle the competition at K

[Anonymous]

So you're maligning little children to teachers and other parents by implying that they have social/psychological/autistic issues? What a horrible person you are.
If the only way you can "win" is by eliminating and libelling the competition, you need help.

[Anonymous]

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I fear more for the "shaping" she'll get at home. You ooze your opinions out of your pores. Your kid picks up on all of this. You want someone calling your kid vile names when it is her month to get the award you are certain is coming her way at some point?

I'm entitled to my opinions. I know the girl's family fairly well and her father is a full blown bully. Narcissistic and controlling and competitive bully. Who pushes, threatens, manipulates and controlls people at home and at work. He gets away with it, just doesn't have any friends.

I'm starting to see his traits in his daughter. I don't want DD to be around such personalities. I don't want her to be a hostage of such a person. This dynamic is very troubling to me. I want her to make other friends, but I don't know if she'd be able to because the other girl will fight against it. My daughter is the only friend she's had - her father doesn't allow them to have other friends.

This keeps getting better. OP, your very first post was so hopeful: "So DD started K this year and she ended up in a class with her friend and our good friends' daughter."

And now the little girl is a "psychopath" holding your daughter hostage and the father is a controlling, emotionally abusive bully!

Priceless!

[Anonymous]

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I fear more for the "shaping" she'll get at home. You ooze your opinions out of your pores. Your kid picks up on all of this. You want someone calling your kid vile names when it is her month to get the award you are certain is coming her way at some point?

I'm entitled to my opinions. I know the girl's family fairly well and her father is a full blown bully. Narcissistic and controlling and competitive bully. Who pushes, threatens, manipulates and controlls people at home and at work. He gets away with it, just doesn't have any friends.

I'm starting to see his traits in his daughter. I don't want DD to be around such personalities. I don't want her to be a hostage of such a person. This dynamic is very troubling to me. I want her to make other friends, but I don't know if she'd be able to because the other girl will fight against it. My daughter is the only friend she's had - her father doesn't allow them to have other friends.

The girl in question has social skill issues and needs help. The problem is that school counselors are poorly trained and do not suggest these type of girls for social skill and lunch bunch groups. I ran into this also and by 2nd grade I got smarter and started suggesting to the teacher, principal and school counselor that certain girls needed social skills group and lunch bunch, then I started mentioning it to other parents in passing in general conversation. I am very direct person and frankly they already knew their daughters had issues.

Wait, she's a people pleaser, but has no friends? She has social skills issues yet is polite and a pleaser? YOU mentioned it to the school about your own classmates and they listened because the parents of those kids already knew their girls had issues. You are clearly making every excuse in the book about this situation and are back tracking, backing down, changing stories, etc. First you said it hurt that your child didn't get the award but later said you didn't care about the award. Then the school is mediocre and the counselors are poorly trained. YOU will never be happy and truly, truly, do not let your daughter be friends with this kid, for the sake of this other kid. Poor thing!

[Anonymous]

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I fear more for the "shaping" she'll get at home. You ooze your opinions out of your pores. Your kid picks up on all of this. You want someone calling your kid vile names when it is her month to get the award you are certain is coming her way at some point?

I'm entitled to my opinions. I know the girl's family fairly well and her father is a full blown bully. Narcissistic and controlling and competitive bully. Who pushes, threatens, manipulates and controlls people at home and at work. He gets away with it, just doesn't have any friends.

I'm starting to see his traits in his daughter. I don't want DD to be around such personalities. I don't want her to be a hostage of such a person. This dynamic is very troubling to me. I want her to make other friends, but I don't know if she'd be able to because the other girl will fight against it. My daughter is the only friend she's had - her father doesn't allow them to have other friends.

The girl in question has social skill issues and needs help. The problem is that school counselors are poorly trained and do not suggest these type of girls for social skill and lunch bunch groups. I ran into this also and by 2nd grade I got smarter and started suggesting to the teacher, principal and school counselor that certain girls needed social skills group and lunch bunch, then I started mentioning it to other parents in passing in general conversation. I am very direct person and frankly they already knew their daughters had issues.

I think the person you quoted was not OP but someone offering advice about helping the little psychopath.

Wait, she's a people pleaser, but has no friends? She has social skills issues yet is polite and a pleaser? YOU mentioned it to the school about your own classmates and they listened because the parents of those kids already knew their girls had issues. You are clearly making every excuse in the book about this situation and are back tracking, backing down, changing stories, etc. First you said it hurt that your child didn't get the award but later said you didn't care about the award. Then the school is mediocre and the counselors are poorly trained. YOU will never be happy and truly, truly, do not let your daughter be friends with this kid, for the sake of this other kid. Poor thing!

[Anonymous]

^oops. Quote fail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^oops. Quote fail.

How could that person possibly know that the qirl in question needs help? I wouldn't' take OP's recounting of "facts" as "facts" at all.

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Anonymous wrote:^oops. Quote fail.

How could that person possibly know that the qirl in question needs help? I wouldn't' take OP's recounting of "facts" as "facts" at all.

Oh I agree. It just seemed to me that the person quoted wasn't OP. But maybe it was??

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Right. Wow. OP you are way over the top. If the girl is mistreating your daughter, talk to the teacher. Who cares about awards in kindergarten?? My DS (second grade) is amazing, has never gotten a special award, and we don't care. Moreover, we don't fume and ruminate over who should and shouldn't get awards. We don't assume our son is a victim because he didn't get a medal or award, and we don't encourage him to think that way either.

Sheesh. Why don't you, people, get that it's not about the awards. I'm looking at the big picture.

I'm judging the environment where my child will spend the next 10+ years. This is the place where she spends most of her waking hours. It will shape my DD, her education, her character and her future life. So it is very important. It's important what will be re-enforced, what will be rewarded, what will be held back.

She's not a victim now, but I don't want her to become one down the road.. of an education system that provides mediocre education while promoting obedience and competition while killing individuality. Now I understand why homeschooling is becoming increasingly popular.

I understand some of you are teachers and are getting a little defensive. But you are the ones that make up this mediocrity.

If it is is SO IMPORTANT (and I agree it is) - FIND HER A PRIVATE SCHOOL

[Anonymous]

What makes you think it is killing her individuality?

[Anonymous]

I'm entitled to my opinions. I know the girl's family fairly well and her father is a full blown bully. Narcissistic and controlling and competitive bully. Who pushes, threatens, manipulates and controlls people at home and at work. He gets away with it, just doesn't have any friends.

And he is your "good friend"? What does that say about you?

[Anonymous]

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I'm entitled to my opinions. I know the girl's family fairly well and her father is a full blown bully. Narcissistic and controlling and competitive bully. Who pushes, threatens, manipulates and controlls people at home and at work. He gets away with it, just doesn't have any friends.

And he is your "good friend"? What does that say about you?

And you know what the dad does at work because....?

[Anonymous]

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Basically, what you're doing is supplementing to be more competitive.

No, I'm supplementing because the school is not enough imo.

[Anonymous]

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This keeps getting better. OP, your very first post was so hopeful: "So DD started K this year and she ended up in a class with her friend and our good friends' daughter."

And now the little girl is a "psychopath" holding your daughter hostage and the father is a controlling, emotionally abusive bully!

Priceless!

I didn't call her "psychopath". And no, we're friends with her mother, not really her father. Her mother is a very nice person.

[Anonymous]

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Basically, what you're doing is supplementing to be more competitive.

No, I'm supplementing because the school is not enough imo.

Obviously you hate your school - although you might want to give it more than a few weeks to decide. It would likely be in everyone's best interest if you sought out a more appropriate environment for your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are clearly making every excuse in the book about this situation and are back tracking, backing down, changing stories, etc. First you said it hurt that your child didn't get the award but later said you didn't care about the award. Then the school is mediocre and the counselors are poorly trained.

Yes, it keeps evolving. At first I was upset about the award. But the next day what my DD told got me much more upset at a whole new level. Now I don't care about the award, I want my DD to be out of this unhealthy relationship. I'd willing to sign an contract that she never ever receives an award as long as she stays away from such personalities.

I can't believe the teacher hasn't caught on to that, until DD told me I had no idea. This just shows how clueless teachers are.