I can't handle the competition at K

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you are the one who is competitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It just shows me that the school is stupid and I can't count on the them to be fair, with my child or others and to stimulate their development. My daughter will always be overlooked, but any psychopath will get a lot of awards.

OP, do you hear yourself?

Right. Wow. OP you are way over the top. If the girl is mistreating your daughter, talk to the teacher. Who cares about awards in kindergarten?? My DS (second grade) is amazing, has never gotten a special award, and we don't care. Moreover, we don't fume and ruminate over who should and shouldn't get awards. We don't assume our son is a victim because he didn't get a medal or award, and we don't encourage him to think that way either.

[Anonymous]

Is OP still flipping out about this? Somebody should get her the name of a therapist and tell her that drugs can help with what's ailing her. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

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Right. Wow. OP you are way over the top. If the girl is mistreating your daughter, talk to the teacher. Who cares about awards in kindergarten?? My DS (second grade) is amazing, has never gotten a special award, and we don't care. Moreover, we don't fume and ruminate over who should and shouldn't get awards. We don't assume our son is a victim because he didn't get a medal or award, and we don't encourage him to think that way either.

Sheesh. Why don't you, people, get that it's not about the awards. I'm looking at the big picture.

I'm judging the environment where my child will spend the next 10+ years. This is the place where she spends most of her waking hours. It will shape my DD, her education, her character and her future life. So it is very important. It's important what will be re-enforced, what will be rewarded, what will be held back.

She's not a victim now, but I don't want her to become one down the road.. of an education system that provides mediocre education while promoting obedience and competition while killing individuality. Now I understand why homeschooling is becoming increasingly popular.

I understand some of you are teachers and are getting a little defensive. But you are the ones that make up this mediocrity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Right. Wow. OP you are way over the top. If the girl is mistreating your daughter, talk to the teacher. Who cares about awards in kindergarten?? My DS (second grade) is amazing, has never gotten a special award, and we don't care. Moreover, we don't fume and ruminate over who should and shouldn't get awards. We don't assume our son is a victim because he didn't get a medal or award, and we don't encourage him to think that way either.

Sheesh. Why don't you, people, get that it's not about the awards. I'm looking at the big picture.

I'm judging the environment where my child will spend the next 10+ years. This is the place where she spends most of her waking hours. It will shape my DD, her education, her character and her future life. So it is very important. It's important what will be re-enforced, what will be rewarded, what will be held back.

She's not a victim now, but I don't want her to become one down the road.. of an education system that provides mediocre education while promoting obedience and competition while killing individuality. Now I understand why homeschooling is becoming increasingly popular.

I understand some of you are teachers and are getting a little defensive. But you are the ones that make up this mediocrity.

I fear more for the "shaping" she'll get at home. You ooze your opinions out of your pores. Your kid picks up on all of this. You want someone calling your kid vile names when it is her month to get the award you are certain is coming her way at some point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Right. Wow. OP you are way over the top. If the girl is mistreating your daughter, talk to the teacher. Who cares about awards in kindergarten?? My DS (second grade) is amazing, has never gotten a special award, and we don't care. Moreover, we don't fume and ruminate over who should and shouldn't get awards. We don't assume our son is a victim because he didn't get a medal or award, and we don't encourage him to think that way either.

Sheesh. Why don't you, people, get that it's not about the awards. I'm looking at the big picture.

I'm judging the environment where my child will spend the next 10+ years. This is the place where she spends most of her waking hours. It will shape my DD, her education, her character and her future life. So it is very important. It's important what will be re-enforced, what will be rewarded, what will be held back.

She's not a victim now, but I don't want her to become one down the road.. of an education system that provides mediocre education while promoting obedience and competition while killing individuality. Now I understand why homeschooling is becoming increasingly popular.

I understand some of you are teachers and are getting a little defensive. But you are the ones that make up this mediocrity.

So take her out of it. Homeschool. Problem solved! End of thread!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Right. Wow. OP you are way over the top. If the girl is mistreating your daughter, talk to the teacher. Who cares about awards in kindergarten?? My DS (second grade) is amazing, has never gotten a special award, and we don't care. Moreover, we don't fume and ruminate over who should and shouldn't get awards. We don't assume our son is a victim because he didn't get a medal or award, and we don't encourage him to think that way either.

Sheesh. Why don't you, people, get that it's not about the awards. I'm looking at the big picture.

I'm judging the environment where my child will spend the next 10+ years. This is the place where she spends most of her waking hours. It will shape my DD, her education, her character and her future life. So it is very important. It's important what will be re-enforced, what will be rewarded, what will be held back.

She's not a victim now, but I don't want her to become one down the road.. of an education system that provides mediocre education while promoting obedience and competition while killing individuality. Now I understand why homeschooling is becoming increasingly popular.

I understand some of you are teachers and are getting a little defensive. But you are the ones that make up this mediocrity.

On what are you relying on claiming her education is mediocre?

[Anonymous]

As a long time ago K teacher, I hate this constant "award" thing. However, respectful behavior is essential in a classroom: respect for the teacher and for all the other children.

[Anonymous]

cont. Please note that I said "respect"--that doesn't mean "robotic". Basically, kids should follow the "Golden Rule."

[Anonymous]

OP, why are you sending your child to a school that you feel is completely mediocre and doomed to warp her? If you were a good parent, you would find another school ASAP,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I fear more for the "shaping" she'll get at home. You ooze your opinions out of your pores. Your kid picks up on all of this. You want someone calling your kid vile names when it is her month to get the award you are certain is coming her way at some point?

I'm entitled to my opinions. I know the girl's family fairly well and her father is a full blown bully. Narcissistic and controlling and competitive bully. Who pushes, threatens, manipulates and controlls people at home and at work. He gets away with it, just doesn't have any friends.

I'm starting to see his traits in his daughter. I don't want DD to be around such personalities. I don't want her to be a hostage of such a person. This dynamic is very troubling to me. I want her to make other friends, but I don't know if she'd be able to because the other girl will fight against it. My daughter is the only friend she's had - her father doesn't allow them to have other friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:cont. Please note that I said "respect"--that doesn't mean "robotic". Basically, kids should follow the "Golden Rule."

Now I'm confused. Are obedient kids robots, or sheep? Or robotic sheep? (Do androids dream of electric sheep?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So DD started K this year and she ended up in a class with her friend and our good friends' daughter. The other girl is pretty bright, she's also very competitive and has a people-pleaser personality. So she tries extra hard. She became teacher's pet. The teacher is an older country woman who likes the proper manners and "nice" girls.

My DD isn't competitive at all. My DD is a little quirky and shy, and although grasps things quickly, she's not as verbal.

I've just read that the other girl got into the special honors club already and ouch, that hurts that my DD didn't. Despite the fact that I supplement an hour a day with her at home and she's making good progress.

OP, This is your first post. I wonder why you are good friends with the parents if the father is indeed the devil. Get your stories straight. More importantly, get your thinking clear. It is not that hard to separate your daughter from an undesirable friend if you don't like the parents either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
I fear more for the "shaping" she'll get at home. You ooze your opinions out of your pores. Your kid picks up on all of this. You want someone calling your kid vile names when it is her month to get the award you are certain is coming her way at some point?

I'm entitled to my opinions. I know the girl's family fairly well and her father is a full blown bully. Narcissistic and controlling and competitive bully. Who pushes, threatens, manipulates and controlls people at home and at work. He gets away with it, just doesn't have any friends.

I'm starting to see his traits in his daughter. I don't want DD to be around such personalities. I don't want her to be a hostage of such a person. This dynamic is very troubling to me. I want her to make other friends, but I don't know if she'd be able to because the other girl will fight against it. My daughter is the only friend she's had - her father doesn't allow them to have other friends.

The girl in question has social skill issues and needs help. The problem is that school counselors are poorly trained and do not suggest these type of girls for social skill and lunch bunch groups. I ran into this also and by 2nd grade I got smarter and started suggesting to the teacher, principal and school counselor that certain girls needed social skills group and lunch bunch, then I started mentioning it to other parents in passing in general conversation. I am very direct person and frankly they already knew their daughters had issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious. Why are you supplementing an hour a day? Trying to trick the school into thinking she is gifted?

No, no, no. I could could care less about trying to impress the school. I'm supplementing because am not sure the she is doing enough in class. Reading, math reasoning, math.

She is not gifted, she is average. But she catches on to concepts very very quickly. So it's pretty easy. What's hard is making her work a little because she only wants to play and do the fun stuff, nothing that requires effort. So I'm teaching her to make a little effort every day.

Basically, what you're doing is supplementing to be more competitive.