What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?

[Anonymous]

My mother always told me that I would end up marrying someone I worked with, because they would get to know me and see how smart I was. She told my sisters how beautiful they were.

When my now DH called me beautiful (and, no, we didn't work together), I thought he was lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom battled depression her entire adult life and unfortunately when I was 15 committed suicide. My dad was REALLY shocked and thrown into severe grief that he was not equipped to handle. One night we were arguing and he said "This is why you mom killed herself, you are so hard to deal with." Hearing that really was the worst moment of my life. I was 90 percent sure it was his grief talking but it was still a very intense and awful moment. I told my aunt the next days whos extreme dismay reinforced to me that it wasn't true and she showed me the love I needed to feel. In hindsight it was a true blessing because my aunt and uncle demanded my dad get into therapy or we (the kids) would be taken to live with them. It snapped my Dad out of it and he did get therapy and things did get significantly better from that point on. But man, I remember that argument so vividly and the feeling in my stomach when he said those words!

I can see both sides of the situation honestly..your dad's extreme grief and helplessness that he couldn't prevent her passing, and you as a young adult having to bear the brUnt of it all. There isn't any justification to your dads behaviour, but remember he is just human and everyone reaches a breaking point. Pretty sure he regretted that outburst after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was adopted from another country and someone once said, "Go back to your own country...but wait, your real parents didn't want you."

Omg.. That's just horrible. Was this in school? Because kids can be downright nasty, the badly raised ones that is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My thoughts on skimming through this thread: (1) some people have had some really awful things said to them and (2) some people read waaay too much into things and are terribly easily offended. Anyway, this made me think of a situation when I accidentally said something offensive. Really drunk, standing in the bathroom line at my 5-year high school reunion, I struck up a conversation with a girl from my class (not a friend but a small school so everyone knew everyone). She showed me a picture of her new son. At 23, the thought of motherhood was totally foreign to me (I had my first child at 36) but I was genuinely happy for her. So, I meant to rhetorically say, “Wow, do you just love being a mom?!” Instead, it came out as “Do you love him?” Ugh. She was totally offended and I was too drunk to explain myself. My parents don’t live where I went to high school any more so it is unlikely that I will ever see her again and, if I did, I don’t know how I would bring up such an ancient conversation without it sounding really weird. But I do feel bad about it.

Who has a 5 year HS reunion? But I digress..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My thoughts on skimming through this thread: (1) some people have had some really awful things said to them and (2) some people read waaay too much into things and are terribly easily offended. Anyway, this made me think of a situation when I accidentally said something offensive. Really drunk, standing in the bathroom line at my 5-year high school reunion, I struck up a conversation with a girl from my class (not a friend but a small school so everyone knew everyone). She showed me a picture of her new son. At 23, the thought of motherhood was totally foreign to me (I had my first child at 36) but I was genuinely happy for her. So, I meant to rhetorically say, “Wow, do you just love being a mom?!” Instead, it came out as “Do you love him?” Ugh. She was totally offended and I was too drunk to explain myself. My parents don’t live where I went to high school any more so it is unlikely that I will ever see her again and, if I did, I don’t know how I would bring up such an ancient conversation without it sounding really weird. But I do feel bad about it.

I remember my husband once said to a pregnant lady,( who we were talking to) " good luck with your pregnancy" as we were leaving. He meant it well, but the lady just flipped out at him" you are saying good luck with my pregnancy" , really!. Couldn't understand why..I think people are too full of themselves, generally. Having a conversation is like walking on eggshells

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Wow, your bottom doesn't look like a rhinocerous like the last time I saw you!"

Said by my grandmother when I was home from college for a visit. I guess that was a compliment though? It was such a ridiculous statement (I was maybe down 5 pounds, but had never been seriously overweight) and so typical of my grandmother that even at the time I could laugh about it, though I remember it to this day!

Ha! My grandmother was the same way! I remember when we were discussing my upcoming study abroad trip to China, she said, "Well, I don't like the fact that you're going so far away but I have heard that all they eat there is rice, so maybe you'll lose some weight." I think she was just trying to come up with something positive because in her mind who would want to go live in China!? I laughed it off at the time and still chuckle about it (and for the record, I was not overweight, I just didn't have the bone structure of a tiny bird the way my Grandmom did).

[Anonymous]

I think the best reaction to someone who says something insulting is, "Oh my! Did you really just say that out loud? Wow! That really hurts my feelings".

I've been insulted and I know it's hard to do on the spot, but practice it.

[Anonymous]

You guys should know something. People who say awful things have had awful things said TO them, more than once. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My thoughts on skimming through this thread: (1) some people have had some really awful things said to them and (2) some people read waaay too much into things and are terribly easily offended. Anyway, this made me think of a situation when I accidentally said something offensive. Really drunk, standing in the bathroom line at my 5-year high school reunion, I struck up a conversation with a girl from my class (not a friend but a small school so everyone knew everyone). She showed me a picture of her new son. At 23, the thought of motherhood was totally foreign to me (I had my first child at 36) but I was genuinely happy for her. So, I meant to rhetorically say, “Wow, do you just love being a mom?!” Instead, it came out as “Do you love him?” Ugh. She was totally offended and I was too drunk to explain myself. My parents don’t live where I went to high school any more so it is unlikely that I will ever see her again and, if I did, I don’t know how I would bring up such an ancient conversation without it sounding really weird. But I do feel bad about it.

Who has a 5 year HS reunion? But I digress..

Oh, I know! It wasn't long enough that anyone had even really changed much. Funny thing is that it is the only one I ever went to.

[Anonymous]

You killed our child. I dream about our baby. I know it was a girl.

--college BF during breakup, after we mutually agreed on abortion.

[Anonymous]

"I feel sorry for DS because he has to grow up with you and you're so crazy and unstable. You're going to screw him up." - XH (who disappeared for good 18mo after the divorce was final and is currently $20K in child support arrears) This one just made me laugh, but it IS insulting.

"You'll never graduate from HS, much less go to college" - 11th grade Honors English teacher. I graduated in 3 years with honors and a full year of college credits, I sent her a copy of my Dean's List letter when I got to college. Nasty bitch.

"I can't believe DH wants to be with you. Are you sure he's not going to leave? You're not easy to be with, you have a lot of baggage and you're not exactly a catch." - Both parents and both siblings, pretty much constantly since I met DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My thoughts on skimming through this thread: (1) some people have had some really awful things said to them and (2) some people read waaay too much into things and are terribly easily offended. Anyway, this made me think of a situation when I accidentally said something offensive. Really drunk, standing in the bathroom line at my 5-year high school reunion, I struck up a conversation with a girl from my class (not a friend but a small school so everyone knew everyone). She showed me a picture of her new son. At 23, the thought of motherhood was totally foreign to me (I had my first child at 36) but I was genuinely happy for her. So, I meant to rhetorically say, “Wow, do you just love being a mom?!” Instead, it came out as “Do you love him?” Ugh. She was totally offended and I was too drunk to explain myself. My parents don’t live where I went to high school any more so it is unlikely that I will ever see her again and, if I did, I don’t know how I would bring up such an ancient conversation without it sounding really weird. But I do feel bad about it.

Who has a 5 year HS reunion? But I digress..

Oh, I know! It wasn't long enough that anyone had even really changed much. Funny thing is that it is the only one I ever went to.

I haven't been to any of mine, either. I prefer to remember them all as the young, beautiful people that we all were....

[Anonymous]

"You think you're so smart, going to college. You'll be right back here on the street with us." -ex-boyfriend who, it turns out, was a huge junkie.

This statement has been fuel for a lot of amazing things I've gone on to do.

[Anonymous]

- "Can you believe how stupid she is?" From my drunk mother to my dad

- "it feels like a chore to come see you." From a college boyfriend

- "you sure can be mean" and then bringing up things I said/did in high school 20 years ago, from my dad and sister

- "you are opinionated" from my mother in law

- "you don't have any friends" from another college boyfriend

- "X is a stupid slut" written about me on a desk in my high school

- girl violently scratched out my yearbook photo in every yearbook she signed in 8th grade

- being falsely accused of stealing by a roommate

- being falsely accused of cheating by a teacher


I have also been told my whole life that I am over sensitive, but to me these comments are all pretty insulting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were sitting in a restaurant one night and these two drunk losers were sitting at the table next to us. Midway through the meal one guy leaned over and tapped me on the shoulder and said, "you're about, what, 135?" And then they both laughed hysterically. I was a size 8-10 at the time, which I thought was just fine, but this really gutted me. So humiliating.

what jerks.

I don't get it. 135 is fat? Seriously, are you sure they were insulting you? Maybe thought they were cute by guessing your weight?