What is the most insulting thing someone has said to you?

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Anonymous wrote:"You're Jewish? Wow, really??" Followed by, in a reassuring tone and an approving pay on the arm, "you don't look Jewish at all." Said by numerous people at my small town, Midwestern college.

Um, ok. I styled my hair to hide the horns today?

FIrst of all most non-jews, no offense but they seriously have no idea what they are talking about when it comes to Jewish-looking. Second of you are jewish then you shouldn't be surprised that people offend you because throughout history our ancestors were told comments on a daily basis that were far more offensive then anything that's in this forum. So be strong brother/sister ! and don't get easily offended and may hashem give you the strength to overcome your troubles. But really thats our tafkid in life...

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"If you had all the money in the world, would you still send your kid to THAT school?".

"THAT school" is our great neighborhood DCPS elementary school.

My answer: "Well, actually I DO have all the money in the world!"

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Someone once said to me, as a pickup line for God's sake, that I looked like the perfect aryan woman :0 WTF?!

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Not said, but I caught my co-working going through my bag yesterday looking for the files she misplaced. I told her that I didn't have them, had never had them. She starting looking around, I left the room, when I came back, she was in my bag! She made an excuse about thinking that I might have accidentally picked them up, but didn't realize it.
The rest of the day was awkward.
I feel violated enough that I am thinking about making a formal complaint.

[Anonymous]

"Don't take this personally, but I just don't like you."

[Anonymous]

My husband insults me quite often. His favorites are telling me that I suck as a mother, I suck at life, I'm so stupid he can't believe that I've made it this far, I'm fat and disgusting and it makes it hard for him to have sex with me, but what bothers me the most is when he talks to me really condescending like. It makes me want to punch him in the fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"You look just like Crazy Eyes from OITNB."

Crazy Eyes is awesome. You should have said in return, "You're not a nice person," just as she did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband insults me quite often. His favorites are telling me that I suck as a mother, I suck at life, I'm so stupid he can't believe that I've made it this far, I'm fat and disgusting and it makes it hard for him to have sex with me, but what bothers me the most is when he talks to me really condescending like. It makes me want to punch him in the fact.

That is abuse, dear. You need some help to get away from that ass.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You guys should know something. People who say awful things have had awful things said TO them, more than once. Let it go.

That doesn't justify awful mean comments. Besides in the moment of an argument or out of anger, I think most people who say mean things in a subtle method do it because it makes them feel better about themselves. I have a few people (mainly in-laws) who constantly make these low-key mean jabs at me. I used to just take it and not say anything, but then the hurtful comments increased and I would stew over it. Now when it occurs I respond immediately and those particular people have learned to stop making those types of comments. Occasionally things do slip out of their mouths because it is the only way they can feel good about themselves; but I comment right back so they know that I am fully aware of their subtle jab and I do not accept it. I am of ethnic decent and unfortunately married into a family from the south.

PP here. So did I. Which is why they don't get a rise out of me.

Yes, I stick up for myself, but sometimes this entails laughing in their face because really, WHO could possibly be so stupid as to say/do the things they say/do?

Look at it from a philosophical perspective. And frankly, they think they are so much better than I without knowing much, if anything, about me? Reeeeaaaalllly? Interesting. Let them prove to everyone how stupid they really are.

[Anonymous]

Had a grad school professor tell me I had a "good though not great" intellect. I was more startled than insulted and was able to laugh about it soon after. I have no false assumptions about my brain and never have: I'm generally smart, well-read, and interested in the world but rocketsciencejobs.com isn't coming after me any time soon. I'm okay with that (which may or may not be a limitation of my good though not great intellect.) =D

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband insults me quite often. His favorites are telling me that I suck as a mother, I suck at life, I'm so stupid he can't believe that I've made it this far, I'm fat and disgusting and it makes it hard for him to have sex with me, but what bothers me the most is when he talks to me really condescending like. It makes me want to punch him in the fact.

That is abuse, dear. You need some help to get away from that ass.

+1. Don't stoop to his level and don't punch him. Leave the jerk.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband insults me quite often. His favorites are telling me that I suck as a mother, I suck at life, I'm so stupid he can't believe that I've made it this far, I'm fat and disgusting and it makes it hard for him to have sex with me, but what bothers me the most is when he talks to me really condescending like. It makes me want to punch him in the fact.

That is abuse, dear. You need some help to get away from that ass.

+1. Don't stoop to his level and don't punch him. Leave the jerk.

Agree that you need to leave this abusive situation ASAP. He is trying to erode your self esteem so you lose all hope and believe him and rely completely on him. Once he's done that and isolated you from your friends and family, don't be surprised if he starts physically abusing you. Leave him and take him for everything you can.

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Anonymous wrote:Had a grad school professor tell me I had a "good though not great" intellect. I was more startled than insulted and was able to laugh about it soon after. I have no false assumptions about my brain and never have: I'm generally smart, well-read, and interested in the world but rocketsciencejobs.com isn't coming after me any time soon. I'm okay with that (which may or may not be a limitation of my good though not great intellect.) =D

This is a good though not great post.

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"Why don't you drop dead?" Muttered about me by my dad, under his breath but purposely loud enough to make sure I heard it. We're not in touch anymore. !!!

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I was 12 weeks pregnant and didn't have a pregnant belly yet, but had that early pregnancy frumpy thing that happens. I shared the pregnancy with an older coworker. Her reply: "Oh, I thought you were just really sad and had been eating a lot". FYI I do not suffer from depression and probably weighed 115 at this point. I was speechless.