Your son was breaking all the cookies on the counter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the "luck" poster or the K poster, but I think the point is that the "luck" poster was trying to say that there was a lot of work that goes in to training children behind the scenes, no matter how well behaved those children and how "easy" they look or "lucky" those parents look. My DD is like that. I only have one and she's 3. Sometimes she is really terrible. I take her outside. I don't make anyone else listen to her scream. If we are in a store, that means shopping ends. I have had to leave a cart behind and that stinks, but I'm not going to make an entire store listen to my child shriek. I know what hours are best for her. She knows not to touch candy in the aisles and she doesn't run in stores or restaurants. I think that's the point.

See, you just don't know. It isn't your fault. You have no clue. How about leaving the cart at the grocery store 5 days in a row because your child hates grocery shopping all of a sudden, and on the 6th day, being completely out of any real food. You know what hours are best for your child? How about when ALL hours are potentially horrible? It isn't (all) you. All children are horrible sometimes. You don't know what it is like to have a child who tests you at every turn, not just when tired or hungry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not the "luck" poster or the K poster, but I think the point is that the "luck" poster was trying to say that there was a lot of work that goes in to training children behind the scenes, no matter how well behaved those children and how "easy" they look or "lucky" those parents look. My DD is like that. I only have one and she's 3. Sometimes she is really terrible. I take her outside. I don't make anyone else listen to her scream. If we are in a store, that means shopping ends. I have had to leave a cart behind and that stinks, but I'm not going to make an entire store listen to my child shriek. I know what hours are best for her. She knows not to touch candy in the aisles and she doesn't run in stores or restaurants. I think that's the point.

See, you just don't know. It isn't your fault. You have no clue. How about leaving the cart at the grocery store 5 days in a row because your child hates grocery shopping all of a sudden, and on the 6th day, being completely out of any real food. You know what hours are best for your child? How about when ALL hours are potentially horrible? It isn't (all) you. All children are horrible sometimes. You don't know what it is like to have a child who tests you at every turn, not just when tired or hungry.

If your child is horrible all the time there is either a problem with your child or a problem with your parenting. A child with no special needs who has been well parented isn't horrible all the time. There is nothing in OPs post that indicates the child had special needs - he wasn't running around or screaming - he was crumbling cookies because they were there and he wanted to play with them and he hadn't been taught otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do any of you have any idea how ridiculous you all sound? OP scolds another adult in a public place and looks for kudos? People chime in that Starbucks can afford it? How about the irony of the OP feeling that she needs to call out strangers for what she considers bad behavior only to come on here and display even worse manners? Lemme tell you something, if you all feel you arguing about something more important than cookies, you're not. This is just one big silly judgefest and if this is the freaking village, beam me up Scotty-NOW! (Please)

comment of the day. thanks for this.

BTW, I answered OP's question about what I would have done on page 2. I would have softly told mom that her son was breaking up the cookies and then moved on with my life. Several other people told OP they would have either said nothing or they would have gently said something, but pointed out that it's not the saying something that was necessarily wrong, but the way OP said it. She doesn't respond to these messages, but there have been at least a dozen posters pointing out how they would have done it differently. I'm thinking that OP is that troll who is on this thread to practice her English.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do any of you have any idea how ridiculous you all sound? OP scolds another adult in a public place and looks for kudos? People chime in that Starbucks can afford it? How about the irony of the OP feeling that she needs to call out strangers for what she considers bad behavior only to come on here and display even worse manners? Lemme tell you something, if you all feel you arguing about something more important than cookies, you're not. This is just one big silly judgefest and if this is the freaking village, beam me up Scotty-NOW! (Please)

comment of the day. thanks for this.

BTW, I answered OP's question about what I would have done on page 2. I would have softly told mom that her son was breaking up the cookies and then moved on with my life. Several other people told OP they would have either said nothing or they would have gently said something, but pointed out that it's not the saying something that was necessarily wrong, but the way OP said it. She doesn't respond to these messages, but there have been at least a dozen posters pointing out how they would have done it differently. I'm thinking that OP is that troll who is on this thread to practice her English.

OK, ma'am, so here we go THANK YOU for responding my original question.

Happy now?

[Anonymous]

Wow 15:37. I was with you up until your meanness. Even if it is a troll (which I doubt, some people have lives and aren't on here every day) why put in a comment about her "practicing her English"? You are a racist. And I hope you realize that anyone with an accent knows at least 2 languages...do you? And I mean something besides pig-Latin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow 15:37. I was with you up until your meanness. Even if it is a troll (which I doubt, some people have lives and aren't on here every day) why put in a comment about her "practicing her English"? You are a racist. And I hope you realize that anyone with an accent knows at least 2 languages...do you? And I mean something besides pig-Latin.

I think you're confused.

15:37 is the OP.

The person calling OP a troll and assuming OP is here to practice English is another person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me Cookie Monster. Me love cookies. Mommies yell at each other on E Street and on computer. About cookies. E Street sound like scary place. Me stay on Sesame Street.

Love this, PP.

[Anonymous]

I guess that's the way the cookie crumbles. . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do any of you have any idea how ridiculous you all sound? OP scolds another adult in a public place and looks for kudos? People chime in that Starbucks can afford it? How about the irony of the OP feeling that she needs to call out strangers for what she considers bad behavior only to come on here and display even worse manners? Lemme tell you something, if you all feel you arguing about something more important than cookies, you're not. This is just one big silly judgefest and if this is the freaking village, beam me up Scotty-NOW! (Please)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not the "luck" poster or the K poster, but I think the point is that the "luck" poster was trying to say that there was a lot of work that goes in to training children behind the scenes, no matter how well behaved those children and how "easy" they look or "lucky" those parents look. My DD is like that. I only have one and she's 3. Sometimes she is really terrible. I take her outside. I don't make anyone else listen to her scream. If we are in a store, that means shopping ends. I have had to leave a cart behind and that stinks, but I'm not going to make an entire store listen to my child shriek. I know what hours are best for her. She knows not to touch candy in the aisles and she doesn't run in stores or restaurants. I think that's the point.

See, you just don't know. It isn't your fault. You have no clue. How about leaving the cart at the grocery store 5 days in a row because your child hates grocery shopping all of a sudden, and on the 6th day, being completely out of any real food. You know what hours are best for your child? How about when ALL hours are potentially horrible? It isn't (all) you. All children are horrible sometimes. You don't know what it is like to have a child who tests you at every turn, not just when tired or hungry.

I only know one child who acts as you describe and he is highly autistic. It is apparant to even strangers that there is something wrong with this child. If your child is like this, then he/she has a medical condition. In the absence of a medical condition, and your child still acts like this, you only need to look in the mirror to find the problem. A parent who has a child completely out of control, definitly cannot parent properly.

I worked in a daycare center for many years and there was NEVER a child who did not lean to go with the flow...take naps, put away toys, listen to direction, and sit. Of course, for the weaker parents in the group, many of the kids would immedidatly start to act out when mom and dad arrived, which was clearly a parenting problem and not simply a difficult child. I have NO IDEA what was wrong with the K teacher who was posting earlier, but if we managed with preschoolers, I have no idea how she could not get a handle on a few errant 5-6yr olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow 15:37. I was with you up until your meanness. Even if it is a troll (which I doubt, some people have lives and aren't on here every day) why put in a comment about her "practicing her English"? You are a racist. And I hope you realize that anyone with an accent knows at least 2 languages...do you? And I mean something besides pig-Latin.

I'm the person you're addressing. I was specifically calling out "foreign-born, former nanny first time mom." She specifically admitted at some point that she trolled to practice her English. I should have explained with my comments - it wasn't a random Xenophobic call out. Apologies for sounding racist.

BTW, I"m not a racist, and I know English, French, and a little bit of Flemish. Also some Spanish. I was never good at pig latin. It's tempting to throw out the "how many languages do YOU know" card, but in DC you're pretty likely to run into an American (or an ex-pat from somewhere else) who knows quite a few.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

See, you just don't know. It isn't your fault. You have no clue. How about leaving the cart at the grocery store 5 days in a row because your child hates grocery shopping all of a sudden, and on the 6th day, being completely out of any real food. You know what hours are best for your child? How about when ALL hours are potentially horrible? It isn't (all) you. All children are horrible sometimes. You don't know what it is like to have a child who tests you at every turn, not just when tired or hungry.

My nephew was just like this as a toddler/preschooler (kicked out of two daycares, for the smug pp) and he turned out to have sever impulsive/hyperactive ADHD. I don't think it is diagnosed in very young children, and it is not something apparent just from looking at him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also wonder why the op started this thread. Why not let what happenned be in the past and move on. What is the point of this thread?
Does she want us to say she is way more of a parent than someone else?

OP
can you answer this question?

[Anonymous]

I just clicked on, refuse to read all 11 PAGES. But couldn't help laughing my ass off that a thread with that title got 11 pages of comments??!! This just cracks me up...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me Cookie Monster. Me love cookies. Mommies yell at each other on E Street and on computer. About cookies. E Street sound like scary place. Me stay on Sesame Street.

Love this, PP.

C is for cookie it's good enough with me. Cookie starts with the letter C.