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[quote=Anonymous]outside of politics/the world (which is a huge stressor)

My mom, for whom I am responsible, is in the later stages of dementia. She has no one else (in part because she moved to be near me and in part because she is widowed and my sibling is not capable or interested in doing anything much at all). Caring for her was actually more stressful last year, when I was constantly in/out of the doctors, hospital, fielding 30 calls a day from her. At this more advanced stage, it is just sad and I know it will also be stressful when she is very sick and then, after, when she passes and I will be executor.

My son, who is 15, and has some neurological disabilities (but he is also very bright), does not seem to be growing up/more responsible/sensible and definitely has mental health issues. Yes, he is in therapy, we have been in one form of therapy or coaching or whatever since he was TWO and diagnosed. I really wonder if he will ever be functional on his own. Still manages to lose everything, fail to turn in work, destroy things in the house (mostly not intentionally but you would not believe how he is, like a toddler still. He has broken multiple 'permanent ink' pens on wood floors; broken his sink off, broken tiles, holes in the wall, and then, intentionally, destroyed a few other things). He has gotten in trouble at school for saying things that he thinks are okay but they are not (social communication challenges), etc, AND he and my spouse have a bad relationship.

My work--tons of work and drowning under deadlines, understaffed (lost people, staff freeze, increased programming load) plus lots of international travel this fall and when I travel, spouse and aforementioned son usually manage to spectacularly fail at managing their anger and get into some kind of conflict or crisis.

Spouse's job--on the line (fed, agency under attack) so I feel like I need to keep my job even though I'm drowning.

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things that are okay: 
we are going to be okay, financially, even if spouse loses job. we will manage
my daughter is doing well, better than last year. 
my health, so far so good. could be better, could exercise more, drink less, etc but I'm taking better care of myself than last year. 
my marriage---apart from parenting disagreements/stressors, we are okay. not particularly romantic/passionate, but I think solid enough. 
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