I think I’m going to have to contact my husband’s affair partner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man these threads fire up the OW/APs out there.

Yes they do, the only thing better is reading their posts over Xmas when they are so sad and bitter their soul mate is with his wife and not answering her texts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did it and it was great!

She was shaking in her shoes. To her I was just and idea and a lie. When she saw exactly who I was she felt small and pathetic.

Everyone needs to be held accountable for their action, everyone.

Go for it!

How do you know she felt small and pathetic? Maybe she was scared in the moment, then brushed it off and laughed at you.

Because she cried like a little b* to my now xH and wrote me a long pathetic letter begging me to be her friend.

Or maybe she is just a psycho playing with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man these threads fire up the OW/APs out there.

Yes they do, the only thing better is reading their posts over Xmas when they are so sad and bitter their soul mate is with his wife and not answering her texts.

Poor wives spending Christmas with community penises. 🤮

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Cheating husbands always utter those classic lines that their affair partners "were just sex" or "meant nothing," as if that should make it all easier to swallow. It's rather pitiful for a betrayed wife to cling to a man who eagerly risked his marriage, his family and his home life for "nothing." Being a selfish, self-serving sociopath is bad enough, but who wants to stay married to such a person anyway? You can't do any better?

WITH A MARRIED woman most of the time, but somehow she gets let off the hook on this board. She's not selfish or a sociopath, right?

Men don't think they are hurting their wives because they compartmentalize and think they won't hurt their wives. Are they still having regular sex at home and doing all the family things and planning date nights? Yes- most of the time.

I guess you will be able to tell if it was just sex if he dumps you and then never contacts you again. Ever.

This is not true. There is no “most” men still having sex at home. I would say it is the opposite—most are cheating because they are not having sex at home. Or it is half of each not I doubt it. Because most people are not sex addicts. Sorry it seems like you are the minority who was having marital sex and was blindsided by the the affair.

[Anonymous]

^you'd be wrong. The type of men in affairs are usually highly sexed risk takers to begin with. They have high libidos. Some have sex addictions. You completely have no idea what testosterone is like in males.

I can’t tell you how many APs I know were completely shocked when they found out the wife was pregnant. Immaculate conception?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^you'd be wrong. The type of men in affairs are usually highly sexed risk takers to begin with. They have high libidos. Some have sex addictions. You completely have no idea what testosterone is like in males.

I can’t tell you how many APs I know were completely shocked when they found out the wife was pregnant. Immaculate conception?

Umm how many APs do you know? I literally do not know a single woman who would admit that she had an affair, if I do know any APs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^you'd be wrong. The type of men in affairs are usually highly sexed risk takers to begin with. They have high libidos. Some have sex addictions. You completely have no idea what testosterone is like in males.

I can’t tell you how many APs I know were completely shocked when they found out the wife was pregnant. Immaculate conception?

Umm how many APs do you know? I literally do not know a single woman who would admit that she had an affair, if I do know any APs.

Normal people won’t advertise they are trash doing immoral things and have bad character. Agree.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man these threads fire up the OW/APs out there.

Yes they do, the only thing better is reading their posts over Xmas when they are so sad and bitter their soul mate is with his wife and not answering her texts.

Poor wives spending Christmas with community penises. 🤮

Because of doormats like yourself. WTH?

[Anonymous]

Anyone involved with a married person should be really ashamed of themselves.

[Anonymous]

OP - what are your current feelings towards your husband? Any anger? Are you physically intimate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did it and it was great!

She was shaking in her shoes. To her I was just and idea and a lie. When she saw exactly who I was she felt small and pathetic.

Everyone needs to be held accountable for their action, everyone.

Go for it!

How do you know she felt small and pathetic? Maybe she was scared in the moment, then brushed it off and laughed at you.

Because she cried like a little b* to my now xH and wrote me a long pathetic letter begging me to be her friend.

Or maybe she is just a psycho playing with you.

Oh she’s a psycho but most OW are.

I had my say and moved on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man these threads fire up the OW/APs out there.

Yes they do, the only thing better is reading their posts over Xmas when they are so sad and bitter their soul mate is with his wife and not answering her texts.

Poor wives spending Christmas with community penises. 🤮

Agree but most don’t know about it. But you’re happy with your community P. 🤮

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man these threads fire up the OW/APs out there.

Yes they do, the only thing better is reading their posts over Xmas when they are so sad and bitter their soul mate is with his wife and not answering her texts.

Poor wives spending Christmas with community penises. 🤮

Agree but most don’t know about it. But you’re happy with your community P. 🤮

Nope. My DH does not cheat. I married a man with integrity.

And if he ever lost that integrity, and I chose to stay, I won't be claiming victory over keeping a community penis. Spending Christmas with someone like that would be sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man these threads fire up the OW/APs out there.

Yes they do, the only thing better is reading their posts over Xmas when they are so sad and bitter their soul mate is with his wife and not answering her texts.

It’s just as likely that the OW is spending the holidays with a new single boyfriend who doesn’t cheat on her.

There are far more sad and bitter posts from betrayed wives than OWs here. And I say this as someone neutral who has never been either.

Look, having an affair with a married man is an awful thing to do. And I feel terrible for women who are betrayed by their husbands. I think they should leave their husbands because based on how smug they are that they “won” the competition for a worthless man, they are damaged beyond repair.

The fact is that even if the OW is discarded by your husband, she’s free. While you are married to a man you’ll never trust. There are no winners in these situations, except maybe the lousy husbands who know that they can cheat and be forgiven.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This will be bad karma for you.

Focus on what you want in your life. Let her live her life. You trying to mess with her in any way just means that you feel weak inside and hurt. You need to deal with those feelings in a healthy way. Confronting her doesn’t take away those feelings. It’s an illusion. It actually feeds your hurt and is a way of keeping you tied to this whole mess instead of becoming free of it.

I get that you’ve been traumatized and feel that something outside of your choice happened to you. I think that now you have choices, and if you choose to keep being controlled by this and letting it have power over you, you’re going to end up in a victim position and that will not lead you to a better life.

Karma doesn’t exist. It’s something people tell themselves to believe that people by whom they feel wronged will “get theirs.” Nope. Sorry.

not OP