Bode and Morgan Miller's Kids - bad luck

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Anonymous wrote:Accidental drowning is like the leading cause of death in kids under 2. I have literally nothing positive to say about the parents here, I honestly don't know much about them, but what I do know is that this type of accident can happen to anyone. It is like hot car deaths, where people like to pontificate about how it couldn't happen to them but the reality is that it can and it happens to good parents and bad parents all alike.

Anyone who is saying they literally ALWAYS had eyes on their child is fooling themselves. Most of us are fortunate in that those moments where kids slipped away didn't end in tragedy.

No it can’t. People who keep eyes on their kids at all times at other people’s houses, especially with pools, don’t have this happen to them. People like to say it can happen to anyone to make them feel better but it’s not true. In those cases mistakes were made. If you’re watching your child appropriately it can’t happen that they drown in a pool.

No one is saying mistakes didn't happen. But it CAN happen to anyone because no one is perfect. No one is infallible and everyone has near misses in their life. I have never had something like this happen and live in abject fear of it happening because I know it COULD happen.

It can certainly happen! I’m fact, it almost did years ago at my daughters Girl Scout party event. Troop leader House had a pool and invited all the girls and their families to an end of year summer party. Even hired 2 lifeguards (teenagers) to be there. Middle of day, parents chatting it up, kids in and out of pool and younger sibling there too. Everyone sort of mildly distracted m. Maybe life guards being there lowered the guard but one little sibling about 4, fell in deep in and NO ONE noticed! Another mom finally saw this and started a steaming, LIFEGUARD!! The two teens weren’t even looking! The dad jumped in and got her and though she was shaken up and coughing up water, she was okay. It happened so fast and also so silently. No one noticed anything and the parents were all there.

You’ve just proven my point. They weren’t watching the kid properly. When you watch your non swimmer properly, this doesn’t happen.

I don’t know, I feel like you’re very quick to judge. Not every parent is holding their children’s hands every single minute of the pool party or shadowing their every move. You could turn to our food on a plate or grab a juice box out of the cooler or think your DH is watching her. Accidents happen.

No, see, "thinking your husband is watching" is exactly why this would never happen to some people. SOME people would never delegate that duty. This kind of personality is often derided as "neurotic" or "no chill" and their sister makes fun of them and urges her to "loosen up sometimes, jeez."

But there are definitely some people who would keep a 19-month old in their direct line of sight AND an arm's length away -- for hours if necessary.

See also, crowded children's museums. Great Wolf Lodge. The airport. SOME people actually "never look away." This is in fact humanly possible. Exhausting ... but possible, yes.

So, just a hypothetical: What happens when your eyes are on your 19mo, then your 5yo shows up with blood and teeth missing because she fell out of the hammock while her other parent was using the bathroom?

Your eyes stay on the 19mo, of course.

Right?

I promise this could happen more easily than you think it can, but I hope nonetheless that it’s a lesson you never learn.

#1 my 5 year old wouldn’t be unsupervised at a pool party either and wouldn’t even be allowed to use a hammock unsupervised as I have seen how dangerous they are. If my husband had to use the bathroom and couldn’t watch the 5 year old, and the kids were playing on a hammock, he would be bringing the 5 year old to me to watch while he went to the bathroom.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree drowning can happen easily - ie riptide, kid gets a muscle cramp, boat flips over and hits head. But I never left my toddler unattended at any gathering at a house with a pool.

Never say never PP
We attended a neighbor pool party with two kids under six. Our toddler was in the pool, with arms reach, lucky my husband saw what was about to happen. I was clueless even though I was close by and a "hilicaptor" parent! We were lucky that day.
My poor baby, he was shaking :(.

No pool party with toddler for us!

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Anonymous wrote:The Millers are cursed because of how they treated Sara McKenna and Sam.

Explain?

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Anonymous wrote:I agree drowning can happen easily - ie riptide, kid gets a muscle cramp, boat flips over and hits head. But I never left my toddler unattended at any gathering at a house with a pool.

Never say never PP
We attended a neighbor pool party with two kids under six. Our toddler was in the pool, with arms reach, lucky my husband saw what was about to happen. I was clueless even though I was close by and a "hilicaptor" parent! We were lucky that day.
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My poor baby, he was shaking :(.

No pool party with toddler for us!

I don’t understand what happened. Was he wearing one of those floatie things and not held? Big mistake if that’s the case. We never had our kids in the floaties in the pools - they give a false sense of security. We were in the pool with them and holding them, one on one at all times.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree drowning can happen easily - ie riptide, kid gets a muscle cramp, boat flips over and hits head. But I never left my toddler unattended at any gathering at a house with a pool.

Never say never PP
We attended a neighbor pool party with two kids under six. Our toddler was in the pool, with arms reach, lucky my husband saw what was about to happen. I was clueless even though I was close by and a "hilicaptor" parent! We were lucky that day.
My poor baby, he was shaking .

No pool party with toddler for us!

Please explain more. You were close by but not actually in the pool with your toddler? That’s odd.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree drowning can happen easily - ie riptide, kid gets a muscle cramp, boat flips over and hits head. But I never left my toddler unattended at any gathering at a house with a pool.

Never say never PP
We attended a neighbor pool party with two kids under six. Our toddler was in the pool, with arms reach, lucky my husband saw what was about to happen. I was clueless even though I was close by and a "hilicaptor" parent! We were lucky that day.
My poor baby, he was shaking :(.

This doesn’t sound like the same situation as the Millers at all. Their child disappeared and escaped through a door to the pool where no one even was. That would never happen with me.

No pool party with toddler for us!

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Anonymous wrote:I agree drowning can happen easily - ie riptide, kid gets a muscle cramp, boat flips over and hits head. But I never left my toddler unattended at any gathering at a house with a pool.

Never say never PP
We attended a neighbor pool party with two kids under six. Our toddler was in the pool, with arms reach, lucky my husband saw what was about to happen. I was clueless even though I was close by and a "hilicaptor" parent! We were lucky that day.
My poor baby, he was shaking :(.

No pool party with toddler for us!

This doesn’t sound like the same situation as the Millers at all. Their child disappeared and escaped through a door to the pool where no one even was. That would never happen with me.

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Ughhhhh just read about Sara and Sam. Yeah they’re cursed. How awful.

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Anonymous wrote:Ughhhhh just read about Sara and Sam. Yeah they’re cursed. How awful.

Horrible people. Sucks they have so many kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Ughhhhh just read about Sara and Sam. Yeah they’re cursed. How awful.

Who is cursing them? Stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:I think they're just really bad parents. I forgot about this one just a year or two after their toddler drowned because they weren't paying attention to her.

https://www.etonline.com/bode-miller-and-wife-morgans-son-has-seizure-is-rushed-to-same-hospital-where-their-daughter-died

How is a child having a seizure the parent’s fault? I agree with you they aren’t good people, but this isn’t a good example.

They had a perfectly healthy daughter who died because she was unsupervised at a pool party and drowned. If she had a seizure while being resuscitated is not the point.

If they had paid for a babysitter that day or simply watched their kid, she would be alive.

It wasn’t even a pool party. It was a visit to a family - a playdate. How hard os it to watch your toddler??

I haven't liked them since the Sarh Mckenna thing either. However, it takes only 20 seconds for a 2-year old to drown. I watched my babies like a hawk around water, but when that happened, it felt like it could have been us and I mourned with them. I am sure she's not the only parent who's looked away for ~ 20 seconds. It was horrible.

They didn't look away, they were nowhere near the kid.

The toddler literally left the house. How does that happen on a playdate in someone else’s home?

You’re making it seem like the kid opened the door and walked 3 blocks away and fell in a pool. Morgan was in the kitchen and the child had been in the attached family/living room (I think articles said it was an open layout). The child opened a french door from the family room/living room and the pool was right there attached to the patio.

No idea where Bode was, but Morgan was provably less than 20’ from her daughter and didn’t see her open the door. I’m sure they didn’t except the backdoor to be unlocked but even if it was, they still didn’t expect their child to fall into a pool and drown.

How do you know this for sure?

If you go to a house with a pool, first you check yourself to make sure doors are locked and can’t be opened by kids before they are out of your sight. You sit near them on the play date, you don’t stay in the kitchen gabbing while your 19 month old wanders off in someone’s home unattended. I learned basic pool safety with kids when I was a teenager and babysat for a family that had a pool. The mom was neurotic about pool safety. One thing she did was always lock the back door that opened to the pool. It was a lock that was at the top of the door that only an adult could open. She always also made sure the pool gate was shut and latched. She would double check it as soon as kids arrived at her house.

Also, kids that young should never be out of your sight.

Agree, Morgan was sipping tea with her neighbor and did not have eyes on her the whole time. And it was probably several minutes, maybe 4 min, not 20 seconds that she did not have eyes on the toddler.

She was at a tea party?

Visiting next door neighbor. Having tea in kitchen. Not a party. Not an evening gathering. Just a playdate, had been there many times.

It was 630 in the evening when she drowned. Not sure why you keep trying to downplay this as a playdate. It’s never been reported as playdate. There was no wild party as was initially reported, but multiple people were at the neighbors house. https://people.com/parents/bode-miller-daughter-drowning-death-details/

Your links says only a couple of people were there.

"Contrary to rumors of a larger gathering, Concialdi says only “a couple of people” were at the neighbor’s house when Emeline wandered away, and “nobody was in the backyard” during the incident."

Is that supposed to be better? That makes it worse. There were only a few people so it wasn't chaotic. They should have known where she was at all times.

Exactly, it was not a chaotic situation. It was not a pool party. It was not a party. It was two moms having tea, older boys playing together in the house, toddler wandering around the house by herself. She didn’t have eyes on the toddler. It was only when she couldn’t hear her toddler anymore, that she checked. Toddler had gone out the back door and walked into the pool. Several minutes went by.

Sorry, all you people saying it could happen to anyone - no. This wouldn’t happen to me. And it wouldn’t happen to me that my kids get carbon monoxide poisoning outside because they’re by themselves watching a large vehicle. And it wouldn’t happen to me that I am involved in a lawsuit to get custody of an unborn child or another child for whom I’m not even the biological mother.

They have poor judgement.

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Anonymous wrote:I think they're just really bad parents. I forgot about this one just a year or two after their toddler drowned because they weren't paying attention to her.

https://www.etonline.com/bode-miller-and-wife-morgans-son-has-seizure-is-rushed-to-same-hospital-where-their-daughter-died

How is a child having a seizure the parent’s fault? I agree with you they aren’t good people, but this isn’t a good example.

They had a perfectly healthy daughter who died because she was unsupervised at a pool party and drowned. If she had a seizure while being resuscitated is not the point.

If they had paid for a babysitter that day or simply watched their kid, she would be alive.

It wasn’t even a pool party. It was a visit to a family - a playdate. How hard os it to watch your toddler??

I haven't liked them since the Sarh Mckenna thing either. However, it takes only 20 seconds for a 2-year old to drown. I watched my babies like a hawk around water, but when that happened, it felt like it could have been us and I mourned with them. I am sure she's not the only parent who's looked away for ~ 20 seconds. It was horrible.

They didn't look away, they were nowhere near the kid.

The toddler literally left the house. How does that happen on a playdate in someone else’s home?

You’re making it seem like the kid opened the door and walked 3 blocks away and fell in a pool. Morgan was in the kitchen and the child had been in the attached family/living room (I think articles said it was an open layout). The child opened a french door from the family room/living room and the pool was right there attached to the patio.

No idea where Bode was, but Morgan was provably less than 20’ from her daughter and didn’t see her open the door. I’m sure they didn’t except the backdoor to be unlocked but even if it was, they still didn’t expect their child to fall into a pool and drown.

How do you know this for sure?

If you go to a house with a pool, first you check yourself to make sure doors are locked and can’t be opened by kids before they are out of your sight. You sit near them on the play date, you don’t stay in the kitchen gabbing while your 19 month old wanders off in someone’s home unattended. I learned basic pool safety with kids when I was a teenager and babysat for a family that had a pool. The mom was neurotic about pool safety. One thing she did was always lock the back door that opened to the pool. It was a lock that was at the top of the door that only an adult could open. She always also made sure the pool gate was shut and latched. She would double check it as soon as kids arrived at her house.

Also, kids that young should never be out of your sight.

Agree, Morgan was sipping tea with her neighbor and did not have eyes on her the whole time. And it was probably several minutes, maybe 4 min, not 20 seconds that she did not have eyes on the toddler.

She was at a tea party?

Visiting next door neighbor. Having tea in kitchen. Not a party. Not an evening gathering. Just a playdate, had been there many times.

It was 630 in the evening when she drowned. Not sure why you keep trying to downplay this as a playdate. It’s never been reported as playdate. There was no wild party as was initially reported, but multiple people were at the neighbors house. https://people.com/parents/bode-miller-daughter-drowning-death-details/

Your links says only a couple of people were there.

"Contrary to rumors of a larger gathering, Concialdi says only “a couple of people” were at the neighbor’s house when Emeline wandered away, and “nobody was in the backyard” during the incident."

Is that supposed to be better? That makes it worse. There were only a few people so it wasn't chaotic. They should have known where she was at all times.

Exactly, it was not a chaotic situation. It was not a pool party. It was not a party.It was two moms having tea, older boys playing together in the house, toddler wandering around the house by herself. She didn’t have eyes on the toddler. It was only when she couldn’t hear her toddler anymore, that she checked. Toddler had gone out the back door and walked into the pool. Several minutes went by.

Sorry, all you people saying it could happen to anyone - no. This wouldn’t happen to me. And it wouldn’t happen to me that my kids get carbon monoxide poisoning outside because they’re by themselves watching a large vehicle. And it wouldn’t happen to me that I am involved in a lawsuit to get custody of an unborn child or another child for whom I’m not even the biological mother.

They have poor judgement.

You keep saying this as if it’s true.

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Anonymous wrote:I think they're just really bad parents. I forgot about this one just a year or two after their toddler drowned because they weren't paying attention to her.

https://www.etonline.com/bode-miller-and-wife-morgans-son-has-seizure-is-rushed-to-same-hospital-where-their-daughter-died

How is a child having a seizure the parent’s fault? I agree with you they aren’t good people, but this isn’t a good example.

They had a perfectly healthy daughter who died because she was unsupervised at a pool party and drowned. If she had a seizure while being resuscitated is not the point.

If they had paid for a babysitter that day or simply watched their kid, she would be alive.

It wasn’t even a pool party. It was a visit to a family - a playdate. How hard os it to watch your toddler??

I haven't liked them since the Sarh Mckenna thing either. However, it takes only 20 seconds for a 2-year old to drown. I watched my babies like a hawk around water, but when that happened, it felt like it could have been us and I mourned with them. I am sure she's not the only parent who's looked away for ~ 20 seconds. It was horrible.

They didn't look away, they were nowhere near the kid.

The toddler literally left the house. How does that happen on a playdate in someone else’s home?

You’re making it seem like the kid opened the door and walked 3 blocks away and fell in a pool. Morgan was in the kitchen and the child had been in the attached family/living room (I think articles said it was an open layout). The child opened a french door from the family room/living room and the pool was right there attached to the patio.

No idea where Bode was, but Morgan was provably less than 20’ from her daughter and didn’t see her open the door. I’m sure they didn’t except the backdoor to be unlocked but even if it was, they still didn’t expect their child to fall into a pool and drown.

How do you know this for sure?

If you go to a house with a pool, first you check yourself to make sure doors are locked and can’t be opened by kids before they are out of your sight. You sit near them on the play date, you don’t stay in the kitchen gabbing while your 19 month old wanders off in someone’s home unattended. I learned basic pool safety with kids when I was a teenager and babysat for a family that had a pool. The mom was neurotic about pool safety. One thing she did was always lock the back door that opened to the pool. It was a lock that was at the top of the door that only an adult could open. She always also made sure the pool gate was shut and latched. She would double check it as soon as kids arrived at her house.

Also, kids that young should never be out of your sight.

Agree, Morgan was sipping tea with her neighbor and did not have eyes on her the whole time. And it was probably several minutes, maybe 4 min, not 20 seconds that she did not have eyes on the toddler.

She was at a tea party?

Visiting next door neighbor. Having tea in kitchen. Not a party. Not an evening gathering. Just a playdate, had been there many times.

It was 630 in the evening when she drowned. Not sure why you keep trying to downplay this as a playdate. It’s never been reported as playdate. There was no wild party as was initially reported, but multiple people were at the neighbors house. https://people.com/parents/bode-miller-daughter-drowning-death-details/

Your links says only a couple of people were there.

"Contrary to rumors of a larger gathering, Concialdi says only “a couple of people” were at the neighbor’s house when Emeline wandered away, and “nobody was in the backyard” during the incident."

Is that supposed to be better? That makes it worse. There were only a few people so it wasn't chaotic. They should have known where she was at all times.

Exactly, it was not a chaotic situation. It was not a pool party. It was not a party. It was two moms having tea, older boys playing together in the house, toddler wandering around the house by herself. She didn’t have eyes on the toddler. It was only when she couldn’t hear her toddler anymore, that she checked. Toddler had gone out the back door and walked into the pool. Several minutes went by.

Sorry, all you people saying it could happen to anyone - no. This wouldn’t happen to me. And it wouldn’t happen to me that my kids get carbon monoxide poisoning outside because they’re by themselves watching a large vehicle. And it wouldn’t happen to me that I am involved in a lawsuit to get custody of an unborn child or another child for whom I’m not even the biological mother.

They have poor judgement.

Two things can be true at the same time. These particular people may have poor judgment, and it can happen to anyone.

I honestly find the attitude of the “never me” posters dangerous.

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Anonymous wrote:I think they're just really bad parents. I forgot about this one just a year or two after their toddler drowned because they weren't paying attention to her.

https://www.etonline.com/bode-miller-and-wife-morgans-son-has-seizure-is-rushed-to-same-hospital-where-their-daughter-died

How is a child having a seizure the parent’s fault? I agree with you they aren’t good people, but this isn’t a good example.

They had a perfectly healthy daughter who died because she was unsupervised at a pool party and drowned. If she had a seizure while being resuscitated is not the point.

If they had paid for a babysitter that day or simply watched their kid, she would be alive.

It wasn’t even a pool party. It was a visit to a family - a playdate. How hard os it to watch your toddler??

I haven't liked them since the Sarh Mckenna thing either. However, it takes only 20 seconds for a 2-year old to drown. I watched my babies like a hawk around water, but when that happened, it felt like it could have been us and I mourned with them. I am sure she's not the only parent who's looked away for ~ 20 seconds. It was horrible.

They didn't look away, they were nowhere near the kid.

The toddler literally left the house. How does that happen on a playdate in someone else’s home?

You’re making it seem like the kid opened the door and walked 3 blocks away and fell in a pool. Morgan was in the kitchen and the child had been in the attached family/living room (I think articles said it was an open layout). The child opened a french door from the family room/living room and the pool was right there attached to the patio.

No idea where Bode was, but Morgan was provably less than 20’ from her daughter and didn’t see her open the door. I’m sure they didn’t except the backdoor to be unlocked but even if it was, they still didn’t expect their child to fall into a pool and drown.

How do you know this for sure?

If you go to a house with a pool, first you check yourself to make sure doors are locked and can’t be opened by kids before they are out of your sight. You sit near them on the play date, you don’t stay in the kitchen gabbing while your 19 month old wanders off in someone’s home unattended. I learned basic pool safety with kids when I was a teenager and babysat for a family that had a pool. The mom was neurotic about pool safety. One thing she did was always lock the back door that opened to the pool. It was a lock that was at the top of the door that only an adult could open. She always also made sure the pool gate was shut and latched. She would double check it as soon as kids arrived at her house.

Also, kids that young should never be out of your sight.

Agree, Morgan was sipping tea with her neighbor and did not have eyes on her the whole time. And it was probably several minutes, maybe 4 min, not 20 seconds that she did not have eyes on the toddler.

She was at a tea party?

Visiting next door neighbor. Having tea in kitchen. Not a party. Not an evening gathering. Just a playdate, had been there many times.

It was 630 in the evening when she drowned. Not sure why you keep trying to downplay this as a playdate. It’s never been reported as playdate. There was no wild party as was initially reported, but multiple people were at the neighbors house. https://people.com/parents/bode-miller-daughter-drowning-death-details/

Your links says only a couple of people were there.

"Contrary to rumors of a larger gathering, Concialdi says only “a couple of people” were at the neighbor’s house when Emeline wandered away, and “nobody was in the backyard” during the incident."

Is that supposed to be better? That makes it worse. There were only a few people so it wasn't chaotic. They should have known where she was at all times.

Exactly, it was not a chaotic situation. It was not a pool party. It was not a party. It was two moms having tea, older boys playing together in the house, toddler wandering around the house by herself. She didn’t have eyes on the toddler. It was only when she couldn’t hear her toddler anymore, that she checked. Toddler had gone out the back door and walked into the pool. Several minutes went by.

Sorry, all you people saying it could happen to anyone - no. This wouldn’t happen to me. And it wouldn’t happen to me that my kids get carbon monoxide poisoning outside because they’re by themselves watching a large vehicle. And it wouldn’t happen to me that I am involved in a lawsuit to get custody of an unborn child or another child for whom I’m not even the biological mother.

They have poor judgement.

Two things can be true at the same time. These particular people may have poor judgment, and it can happen to anyone.

I honestly find the attitude of the “never me” posters dangerous.

I find the “it can happen to anyone” mentality dangerous.

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Anonymous wrote:I think they're just really bad parents. I forgot about this one just a year or two after their toddler drowned because they weren't paying attention to her.

https://www.etonline.com/bode-miller-and-wife-morgans-son-has-seizure-is-rushed-to-same-hospital-where-their-daughter-died

How is a child having a seizure the parent’s fault? I agree with you they aren’t good people, but this isn’t a good example.

They had a perfectly healthy daughter who died because she was unsupervised at a pool party and drowned. If she had a seizure while being resuscitated is not the point.

If they had paid for a babysitter that day or simply watched their kid, she would be alive.

It wasn’t even a pool party. It was a visit to a family - a playdate. How hard os it to watch your toddler??

I haven't liked them since the Sarh Mckenna thing either. However, it takes only 20 seconds for a 2-year old to drown. I watched my babies like a hawk around water, but when that happened, it felt like it could have been us and I mourned with them. I am sure she's not the only parent who's looked away for ~ 20 seconds. It was horrible.

They didn't look away, they were nowhere near the kid.

The toddler literally left the house. How does that happen on a playdate in someone else’s home?

You’re making it seem like the kid opened the door and walked 3 blocks away and fell in a pool. Morgan was in the kitchen and the child had been in the attached family/living room (I think articles said it was an open layout). The child opened a french door from the family room/living room and the pool was right there attached to the patio.

No idea where Bode was, but Morgan was provably less than 20’ from her daughter and didn’t see her open the door. I’m sure they didn’t except the backdoor to be unlocked but even if it was, they still didn’t expect their child to fall into a pool and drown.

How do you know this for sure?

If you go to a house with a pool, first you check yourself to make sure doors are locked and can’t be opened by kids before they are out of your sight. You sit near them on the play date, you don’t stay in the kitchen gabbing while your 19 month old wanders off in someone’s home unattended. I learned basic pool safety with kids when I was a teenager and babysat for a family that had a pool. The mom was neurotic about pool safety. One thing she did was always lock the back door that opened to the pool. It was a lock that was at the top of the door that only an adult could open. She always also made sure the pool gate was shut and latched. She would double check it as soon as kids arrived at her house.

Also, kids that young should never be out of your sight.

Agree, Morgan was sipping tea with her neighbor and did not have eyes on her the whole time. And it was probably several minutes, maybe 4 min, not 20 seconds that she did not have eyes on the toddler.

She was at a tea party?

Visiting next door neighbor. Having tea in kitchen. Not a party. Not an evening gathering. Just a playdate, had been there many times.

It was 630 in the evening when she drowned. Not sure why you keep trying to downplay this as a playdate. It’s never been reported as playdate. There was no wild party as was initially reported, but multiple people were at the neighbors house. https://people.com/parents/bode-miller-daughter-drowning-death-details/

Your links says only a couple of people were there.

"Contrary to rumors of a larger gathering, Concialdi says only “a couple of people” were at the neighbor’s house when Emeline wandered away, and “nobody was in the backyard” during the incident."

Is that supposed to be better? That makes it worse. There were only a few people so it wasn't chaotic. They should have known where she was at all times.

Exactly, it was not a chaotic situation. It was not a pool party. It was not a party.It was two moms having tea, older boys playing together in the house, toddler wandering around the house by herself. She didn’t have eyes on the toddler. It was only when she couldn’t hear her toddler anymore, that she checked. Toddler had gone out the back door and walked into the pool. Several minutes went by.

Sorry, all you people saying it could happen to anyone - no. This wouldn’t happen to me. And it wouldn’t happen to me that my kids get carbon monoxide poisoning outside because they’re by themselves watching a large vehicle. And it wouldn’t happen to me that I am involved in a lawsuit to get custody of an unborn child or another child for whom I’m not even the biological mother.

They have poor judgement.

You keep saying this as if it’s true.

Ok so maybe they weren’t having tea. That’s not the point. It was not a gathering or party of any kind. It was a get together with the neighbors, a playdate basically. Bode was not there. Why are you so focused on tea?!